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maoam · 1 year

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I would like to get something off my chest and you seem like one of the only mature people out of this fandom that can handle hearing it. I love sns to death, they’re my favorite ship and most likely always will be. But Jesus Christ, this debate with “top” and “bottom” is getting on my nerves. Like why the heck does it even matter??? I just don’t get it at all??? Why do people care about their sex life so much??? It’s so ooc, it’s disgusting. I’d say the people that are SUPER deep into that stuff are no better then the crazed sasuaku fans who only care about the sex as well. Like Christ people, they don’t freak each other in every alley way, every parking-lot, every doorway, every public restroom, or every crack on the sidewalk. I can’t go anywhere without being hit with Sasuke getting his back end tore out, or Naruto getting his back end ripped out like PLEASE give me a break. I would love to see a normal picture of them, on the beach, eating freaking ice cream, playing chess, maybe a light kiss, THATS ALL IM ASKING FOR. I’m so sick and tired of the dumb debates— “Omg, Sasukes such a twink!!!” Or same vice versa. It’s just all mind boggling and annoying.

Like please. Grow up. Sex is not the only thing in this world. It is so ooc and gross to fetishize them. It’s not them, they probably don’t even give a flying crap tard about sex in canon. Maybe once or twice a month, but even that’s a lot for that. Like please, appreciate them for what they are. Go find other characters that can actually match your fantasies. But then again, I’m just overacting, venting, I apologize. It isn’t anything I should get worked up about, it’s not even that serious. I’m sorry you had to see this, but please, share your thoughts.

Top/Bottom fixation exists most of the time because shippers are mostly women and they project heterosexual dynamic into a gay couple. It used to be Seme/Uke, now it's Top/Bottom but it's basically the same thing most of the time.

This wouldn't even be that bad if people didn't change characters personalities based on who they see as Top and who they see as Bottom. Which is why the IG baddie infantilized Naruto in fandom content exists. It's not about him being bottom, it's him being completely ooc. Kishimoto's Naruto is not like that. At all. Actually pretty much the opposite, rough around the edges, punkish, messy, rude, not girly by any chance. Yet people go to ridiculous lengths to "prove" Naruto is actually girly and feminine, even to say he created oiroke no jutsu as a kid because he wanted men (reminder, all the men he used the jutsu towards were his mentors, including his father figures lol) to desire him. They try to insist Naruto and Sasuke are actually two moons and not sun and moon because the idea of Naruto being a sun/yang (which is the masculine side) bothers them. They use some crack filler as proof Naruto would love to wear makeup and be Sasuke's thot girlfriend or whatever. All this mental gymnastics because they don't like how Kishimoto wrote Naruto. And it does happen to a lesser extent with Sasuke too. He's not frail either. Also a lot of shippers just slap the same dynamic and characterizations onto every m/m ship they like. It’s boring and doesn’t do justice to the characters.

I’m also tired of the constant jokes about Naruto’s hole and the constant obsession on the possible size of Sasuke’s dick. These women are straight (or maybe bi) and don’t even get that big dick doesn’t have the same advantage in gay sex as in hetero sex because surprise surprise butthole doesn’t work like a vagina, it is not as flexible. But like I said they operate from the perspective of a het relationship, because that’s what they relate to.

#anon #sns #narusasu #sasunaru

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dannyboyzone · 3 years

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Why these Lookism Bad Guys are liked, a rant by me

Alright, so I have came across a post talking about how Johan is hated on despite being a "bad person", and trashing other characters for absolutely no reason other than guilt tripping people. I personally think the post is immature, but due to my own personality and mental state, it has still got me kind of pressed, because it all sounds ridiculous. This post will be about some people in Lookism that are viewed as a bad people and or are hated on, and why I think they are liked. I won't speak for everybody liking these characters, and it will include some characters that I hate. This post is just to give a general idea for people who are really ignorant about why some characters might receive love. You might have come across that post, and if not, I am talking about this one below. - Well, only a small part of it, that threw me off. -

I didn't include the person's username out of respect and also so they don't feel attacked or anything of the sort.

Before starting this off, there are a few things I would like to say. If I sound petty, I truly don't care. I never saw anybody hating on Johan, at max maybe give criticism, I also don't hate Johan or try to disvalidate anyone's feelings, just get some things straight. Liking someone's looks does not immediately mean you are attracted to them, neither does liking the person's look you are attracted to mean you are toxic. It means you are loving. If you like someone's personality, you will find them beautiful consciously or subconsciously. If someone finds a character handsome, it is not a crime, people have types and preferences, and if they do it's none of your business. Hating good looking people doesn't make you woke, neither hating on people who are attracted to good looking people. What are you, Crystal Choi? And yes, people will be attracted to looks, it's a normal human act. People will notice if they find someone more attractive or unattractive which is not a bad thing. What is a bad thing when they start treating people different because of it. I assure you, most of the lookism fandom that I have came across doesn't do that.

This post will not include Seong Yohan because I never saw him get hated and I don't think nobody knows where he is coming from.

Samuel Seo

Yeah, so what seemed to be a surprise for me is that not a lot of people like Samuel, or at least understand why the people liking him would. Now, I personally feel no romantic attachment towards him. - Which is yes, normal, even if he is fictional. It's called fictophilia and I better see no judgement about it. - However, I do love Samuel a lot, and would love to care for him and grow a strong bond. To me, Samuel is not a monster. At all, believe me, Samuel isn't liked only for his looks. For me, personally, I love him so much because I can relate to him. I absolutely hated him at first, but grew to love him because he is human. He is complex, has a hard life and isn't perfect. That's exactly why I love him, and someone else I really adore does too. Yes sure, as you grow to like someone's personality, you find them handsome and or pretty. It's so much easier to say someone is pretty than to say, 'Hey, I love this person because they helped me go through so much.' Not everyone has the same love language, not everyone is comfortable with blunt affection. Besides, Samuel can and will achieve anything he wants. He has SO much sides to himself, not just 'good looking violent guy with big tits'. That's not Samuel at all. Besides, if PTJ oversexualises him, it's hard to not notice his body.

Yes sure, Samuel hits women, but I personally, don't f%cking care. Your vagina doesn't define if you deserve violence or not, your behaviour and the person's you face personality does. I am personally someone that doesn't mind violence as long as the person deserved it, because some scumbags in this world do. If they happen to be a woman, that's not on me, they shouldn't have done whatever they did. If you are not a violent person, I am not even sorry to tell you this, but you are probably sexist. It's not like all women are fragile and unable to get hit. Besides, if his violence is the problem, why is it fine that he hits men? Because men can handle it? According to statistics women have a higher pain tolerance. By your logic, you should call him out for hitting anyone in his way. Stop acting like hitting women is a necessarily bad thing, start saying that hitting innocent people is a bad thing.

If you must hate on him, maybe use the fact that he killed his abusive and neglective parents. Don't give a hard time to others for liking him though.

Ahn JongGun

Does Gun seem like a bad guy? Absolutely, he has done some horrible things. Then why do we like him? Because he seems to have a smaller character development coming, he has so many things to him and he is an absolutely incredible and complex character. I am very curious of his background and what caused him to be so violent and yet so calm. I like him because he allows himself to be human. From his religion, to his knowledge of material arts, to his adoration towards Vasco's material arts teacher - I forgot his name, so excuse me for that -, to his attention to details, to his fashion sense, it all makes him human. It's nice to see someone be a human, instead of just 'hot guy' or 'villain'. He is a nice character that brings many depth to the story. I could list a hundred of reasons why I love him, and no, none of it is his "weird" fashion sense. I do find him incredibly stylish, I just think some people in this fandom don't understand fashion. - Oops, I guess. - My main reason to liking him is that he is most likely either bisexual or pansexual. That he has a crush on Daniel. I might seem like I have a weird fetish or something, or that I am a crazy "fangirl". That's not the case though. I am a part of the LGBTQ+ community, and while not huge, I adore the hell out of the representation. It's nice to see such a smart, elegant and powerful guy be the representation. Because he is a character that's not there simply to be gay and full of stereotypes. Like, no hard feelings if you fit into stereotypes, but as a person who doesn't fit into them, it's a refreshing thing to see someone that's allowed to have many sides to himself other than just 'the gay friend'. Of course I am sure there are a lot of people who have many other reasons to love him, like his endless knowledge of material arts. There is so many reasons to be interested in his character, and just because you can't see it that doesn't mean others are blind to it too.

Yeah, he might have slept with countless women, but the main reason you can't count it is because he never stated the amount of women he slept with, neither did anyone else. Sure, he did say that Daniel is better than any women he ever slept with, but for all you know that could have been 3. Even if, it doesn't matter. He could have slept with 3, or 70 women. It doesn't matter, because not everyone's sexual life will reflect your own. And other people's sexual life is none of your business. Sure, you can say it's only fiction, and that I am overreacting, but when it comes to such small or personal details, people tend to put their own personal view into it. It's really not fine to shame others for their sexual life. As long as he uses protection, and didn't make anyone pregnant and doesn't play with the feelings of anyone, who gives a f%ck.

Some people tend to lash out sexually if they experience trauma or stress, and no, I don't mean they go and r%pe people, I mean that they go and have sex with different people who give consent. Even if he doesn't do it because of that, why does it bother you so much? Sex isn't a disgusting act. Some people like it, some people don't. Whatever their decision is, as long as no one is hurt, you should respect their decision.

Kim JoonGoo

Alright, this got me f%cked up. Goo is such a good character, and no way he would ever cheat on his S/O. He has morals and a lot of good sense in himself. Sure, he might have said that Samuel will be his secret friend, which led OP to believing Goo would cheat, but that's... a terrible reason, in my opinion. Gun knows that Samuel works for Goo, and Goo owns up it too. Besides that, nothing, absolutely nothing would lead to the fact that Goo would cheat. Because he wouldn't.

Now, why do I like Goo, and why some other's might like him too. He is such a well put together character, unpredictable yet so simple. He damages people to a point they have to retire, doesn't get scared of murderer, is a money maniac and hates his boss. You would think, he is dirty and fits the "gangster" stereotypes. That's not the case at all. He is more hygienic than most of the characters of lookism, if not the most hygienic one. He hates drinking and smoking, doesn't have tattoos - not that there is anything wrong with that - and is incredibly patient.

He might be a money maniac sure, but his ability to control money so well the way he does just shows how high his IQ is. I find that amusing, since it's something hard to do. What I completely love to the moon and back about Goo is his creativity.

When he gets into fights, he is patient and maybe let's himself get hit a few times. That's a good thing because he has time to learn about what he is facing. I think that's neat, because not a lot of people think about that during fights, and he taught me to do that. Also, the way he harms people is very creative too, no matter how harsh that sounds. He stabs people with chopsticks, kicks people with a glass piece stuck in his shoe and harms people with a katana. It's all so unpredictable yet fits him so well. I really love the way he fights and handles situations because it tells so much about him. Also, he is so fun, who would do karaoke after beating a bunch of guys unconscious? Only your one and only Kim JoonGoo. He is such a fun person to study and to read about.

So, no, I will not put up with the bullsh%t that he would cheat on his s/o, because he is a very respectful and none judgemental person. Just because his fights look violent to you, and his friendship with Gun unstable, that doesn't mean he is a bad person. It just means he is different from you, and yeah, he does f%cked up things, I won't deny that. That's exactly what makes him an interesting character.

Xiaolong

Now, I personally don't like Xiaolong that much, so this will not come from heart, but a place of logic. For a disclaimer, I am not caught up on the latest chapters, because I want to binge read it.

Now, even though I do not like Xiaolung, I can see why other people would.

He is a responsible person, who takes good care of himself even though he has to look after Vivi 24/7. He is not only good in his job, but takes it very seriously too. He isn't afraid to take action to make sure his job is going smoothly, and that everything is on it's place. He would do anything to protect Vivi, which can be appealing to some.

And from what I saw from spoilers, he is very strong. No, admiring his strength does not make the person toxic or fragile. It means they find the place in their heart to appreciate the type of struggle and hard work he puts into it. He has an unique way of fighting, which I could only see a small portion of. However it's clear that he must be impressive. I completely understand if people find that neat.

Also, Xiaolong seems like such a f%cking loyal person. That's so incredibly important. A lot of people can find that appealing, for various reasons. I am aware there are poly people, or anything similar to that, but loyalty is so important for some people and can form a very deep sense of love.

Yeah, he might take care of Vivi when she is drugged and let her get away with drugs but consider this that's his job. He is payed to do that and swore to do his best in it, as it's very important to him.

Outro;

Yeah, I don't care, like who ever you want to and defend them, but if you drag down other characters and guilt trip people because of liking specific characters, you are not going to be "woke" or special. And I will find you, and e a t you. - For legal reasons, that's a joke. -

That is not the only post that I saw shame those characters and people who like them, but is the one that made me messed up.

This fandom absolutely loves shaming people if they love the character design and looks of their favourite character. Let me tell you something though; You are missing the point of the whole manhwa you are reading.

Finding people attractive and beautiful is completely normal. Treating them differently because of that is not. As far as I am concerned, I never saw any lookism fans hate on characters they find less attractive. - Rather on the attractive ones. -

People have a type and that applies to looks and personality. Literally everyone does, even if it's unconsciously.

If you want your favorite character to get more love, don't make other people's comfort characters look bad on purpose, because in their eyes they aren't simply the bad qualities you see in them. And if you highlight them at least make sure they are true or at least reasonable bad qualities.

Well yeah, that was my little rant. And I didn't even mention the psychological aspects of why each character is like, or in other words what people they might attract. Or, the difference kind of personal life experiences people had to go through to appreciate each kind of little detail about the characters.

Yeah, this is the end of my little rant. If this post will get actual mature answers and discussions, I will make a similar one for Vinjin, Logan, Olly and Jiho. Yeah, I hate all of them, but other people might not.

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sweet-xoxo-thatcares · 3 years

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Pan? Polysexual sounds better now

Back to guys, gay girls, nonbinaries, pan, bi, gender-fluid, and queer people.

I might have to take a recap on matches who are trans for right now,

I still have a lot to learn about what my true identity is for right now.

Because I really can't stick to just one label...

Aye, that's just me. And dating apps are starting to feel like a job, there's too many people matching with me and trying to remember names is getting a lot to handle when you're on 3 different apps and about 20 conversations going at the same time. And still 99 people waiting on you to swipe right on them, on each one. And plus I'm not as picky about looks as I was before, so I'm mostly reading just bios, analyzing photos to see what could be their interests in, and making sure I'm not being too passive on red flags when people talk to you.

I will admit, I still swipe right on them if they're trans and I'm attracted to them. I just know me, I'd rather date someone who was fully transitioned or somebody who is still on the nonbinary, before part. Only because I know me.

I had to watch someone I had already grown into getting to know and getting attached to, and then when I finally got comfortable with them for over a yr, they changed that drastically during those 3months we were separate and I had no idea about it.....I'm not sure if I could watch it happen before my eyes. Cause then I would have to miss the way they were before, because of my attraction to their naturally mixed feminine/masculine looking features and actions. So, ideally I wouldn't have changed anything about them.

I don't wanna grow attached to a voice or a face or a body that will no longer be there tomorrow. I know that person before is still in there, but it's different when you're romantically attracted to them, been intimate with them vs when you're just a friend. My experience shocked and scared my paranoia and fear of change. I remember crying when my dad started growing white and grey hairs in his beard. Cause I never want my dad to change, cause I've grown up with him being this strong man that always was there for me, held me, made me feel safe, calmed me down when I had my moments, and tucked me in when I wanted to feel comfortable. He showed me that he always loved me, always cared about me, and that he was never gonna leave me. As if he's never gonna die during my time on this earth. Seeing his greyishly, white hairs, I thought death and that my daddy will soon no longer be the fun, happy, strong dad that I've always been with as his princess. And that's kind of what vibe this particular person was to me, even though they weren't as smart, strong, or always there for me....cause most of the time my nights alone cause they couldn't or didn't know I needed them to be there fo r me like that to feel loved or just to feel wanted. Cause I couldn't speak up.

But now, that they has turned into a he. I feel like its brutally denying me to chance to not only say goodbye to them as they, but I would have to get reacquainted to HE, with a totally different name, maybe different personality, maybe different sexuality, and I won't know if I like the new evolved version of this person. The fear of the unknown is high for me. Especially when there's a 40% rate of fems that decided to change their sexual orientation after taking testosterone. I 'm possessive about my partners and I would hate to know that after seeing this person physically change and go through so much emotional/mental changes that one day they decide "Hey, I think I like men now, I wanna give this a shot. Could we make this work?"

I would tell Him, to go right ahead and go on a date with that coworker or guy on Tinder/Grinder. But I'm not gonna be here when you come home. Because to me that's some bullshit. And I've known this person well enough to know, that they don't mind using other people to meet their sexual needs that I can't possibly give them due to my actual gender and my body as such. I wouldn't want to share my partner, nor watch them get fucked by another man...because I'm not a man, im a woman...theres a huuuuuugggeeee difference.

And if it ever came to that point 3 yrs later and He became someone I didn't know anymore, because of the hormones changing how they feel as a man, dysphoria gone....I get it, you've hated yourself for years and now you're happy in the dream body you always asked for. But, I would be scared to lose you, to whoever else you decide to open up to in your selections. Cause you're that type to leave to please you and not make it work. I don't want somebody who changes their mind all the time about who they wanna be, who else do they wanna smash, and who else they can flirt with. That's cheater mentality.

And I'm sorry trans community that I'm basing my recent experience with someone as the example for the rest of you. Because I know there are some ftm's who've already changed and stayed with their partners. I just don't know if I could trust this process, knowing the effects, the research on whether or not they become completely detached to women or become bisexual... I can't.

And I'm thankful for the ftm's that have been posting youtube videos and tiktoks for viewers like me who are curious about the possible cons, and physical or emotional changes they've overcome. I was shocked the first time I ever watched a bandaged ftm, who finally unrevealed their scars from top surgery. I've always been preparing myself for this. Because I knew one day, that this cute, fluffy, soft skinned, white latino looking, but really just mixed mocha, nonbinary person was gonna be...changed over a year or so. I thought I could prepare for it, so that when it does happen it doesn't hurt as much to watch to them in pain if the bleeding from the scars are irritating them or if one day they're super cranky and obnoxious for what seems to be no reason. Or if one day they end up feeling they dont need anybody like Zanthos, with the 4 avenger rings lol.

But I'm too damn fucking sensitive. I was born this way. I've always prepared myself with the worst and the best information, that way when it does happen, the tidal wave of emotions from the reaction, doesn't end up torching my soul or blowing me out the water. Cause I am gay. I adore women, men, and when I met this person I loved them as an in-betweener as nonbinary. They are so brutally harsh, twisted, manipulative, jealous, and possesive. But I've always liked that they had these emotions inside of them that they hold back because they don't wanna seem so soft, always hiding this feminine quality about them because ideally, they're pretty looking, gorgeous eyes that can turn black cold like obsidian, and those fucking cheeks and cat nose. I've only seen the slight hips, but I didn't mind it. And they've always hid their body away even when we would try to have sex. I knew the dysphoria was there, cause again I prepared myself to be patient and kind.

So, I'm glad they're turning a new leaf to make themselves feel more confident about being recognized in society as a full, grown ass man. I'm pretty sure HE, is gonna get cocky af, cause that's just the way he was when they were they.

I know it's selfish of me to say, but I'm afraid of what will happen down the line years later. But that's just me being afraid. If He ends up not liking me anymore, I know it won't be the end of the world and I walked away at the right time when I did. Because this person is currently separated from me, and I'm still insecure about that part too. Not knowing how they are during this transition for what may become years or not...I hope HE is doing okay and not piercing everyone with their new, world domination, ego.

I just don't wanna imagine them get fucked by a guy....sorry that's just me. And will their buttery ass kisses, still be as sweet anymore?

Will I be ok with HE having chest hair?

Will I love the sound of their new voice or will I just hate it, while still missing the old, brodie, sexy, slightly feminine voice?

Especially when they used to go all soft and cuddly on me over the phone, it was soooo cuteeee. I miss our phone and text conversations.

Will they grow into another relationship with somebody else because they started to become unattached and unattracted to my body, my tits, my hips, my vagina even....just because they completely changed their identity?

And I still a woman? I've only thought about wearing a binder a couple of times, and yes, I do watch ftm and trans porn because I did like the fantasy of being intimate with someone who had a bigger clit size or just having a big clit of my own that felt like a dick.

I'm willing to admit that. Because let's be honest, boys get away with so much more shit as a male, compared to us females.

I wish I could grow a dick overnight and nobody not know I'm still a chick! Lol, but I still don't like the all over hair body growth and I still want my vagina back. Like a rental suit with an actual dick and no tits. Those are the onllyyyyyyyyy things I've thought about, but would never admit out loud. Only because I still like my body and my gender identity as is. I feel like the blue girl from X-Men could get away with it, cause she can be anybody she wants to and go back to being herself at the end of the day. And still camouflage behind walls. Lucky chick. Especially if she could teleport, oh he'll yeah.

It's gonna take me awhile to get over this, so please be patient with me. As I'm trying not to cry as I watch my ftm porn get fucked by a guy. Cause I used to be heavy into it, now I feel wrong for watching it and then I'm reminded "40% chance, you're watching it" 😞🤮😫

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letmetellyouaboutmyfeels · 4 years

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I don't know if this could be taken the wrong way, so let me just say that I'm approaching this with the utmost respect and admiration for you work: would you ever consider writing a "how to" kind of tutorial for how to structure a smut fic? I love your fics and would love to get a sense of your process, since mine apparently does not work for me anymore.

Okay, phew, this took me far longer to get to than I’d hoped, my apologies, nonny! I’ve never considered writing a “how to” before, since I don’t really see myself as an expert or a teacher, and everyone’s process is very personal and subjective. But I hope this sort of slap-dash tutorial will help you in your writing endeavors!

Warning: NSFW and “crude” language ahead, since I’ll be damned if I’m bothering to use a bunch of euphemisms while I’m literally talking about writing sex scenes.

So You Wanna Earn that “E” Rating: One Kinky Idiot’s Guide to Writing Smut

(Shut up, I’m hilarious.)

First Steps: Before You Write

Okay, so, I say this pretty much anyone asks me for writing advice about something, no matter what the topic might be: start with research.

Shocking as this might be, I have not had sex with a vampire, a dragon, or a werewolf (yet, hit me up, I’m single). This is pretty easy for the reader to assume, since most of us have not met a vampire or any other supernatural creature (alas). But a lot of the other sex stuff I write about I haven’t done, either, and same with a lot of other writers. For example, I have never given a blowjob to an uncircumcised man. Garcia Flynn is from Europe, where it’s a lot more common for Gentiles (non-Jews) to be uncircumcised, so it made sense for him to still have a foreskin (compared to Wyatt Logan, being American where most men regardless of religion are circumcised). So when writing sex scenes, especially blowjob scenes, I had to know what the fuck to do with the foreskin.

RESEARCH!!!!

Research can also be kind of helpful in the erotic sense. Most articles such as “how to use a vibrating dildo” can be very straightforward and clinical, but the detail of their descriptions can help you to start picturing the sex scene you want to write.

So before anything else: if you don’t have the hands-on experience, RESEARCH RESEARCH RESEARCH. This includes reading other smut fics that have whatever it is you want to write about! I read a lot of gay smut before I wrote two men getting it on, seeing as I am not a man (I am as swift as a coursing river and have the strength of a raging fire but, alas, do not possess the force of a great typhoon and I am the farthest thing from mysterious as the dark side of the moon).

Another thing some fellow smut writers have found helpful is watching porn. They’re much more visual than I am, and so seeing things acted out, even if they’re acted in a cheesy way, can help them to get creative juices flowing and visualize what they want their characters to do. I do not like porn, since I am a fucking snob and criticize the lighting, the script, and the camera angles the entire time.

Yes, I’m a great time at parties, thanks for asking.

Also? Masturbation. YES I’M SERIOUS. Think long and hard (ha) about what turns you on when you’re touching yourself. I don’t just mean that fantasy about the pirate captain, I mean literally, what parts of yourself does it feel good to touch? Do you like to tease and take your time, or get right to it and be a little rough? Do you prefer big dildos that fill you up or a small vibrator that concentrates on your clit?

What you like and how you want to be touched is a great way to start.

Part Two: How to Get Your Blank Word Doc To Stop Mocking You

I usually start my smut scenes one of two ways. The first way is generally for my oneshots: WHAT KINK ARE WE GOING TO GET EVERYONE INTO TODAY??? LET’S SPIN THE WHEEL!!! *game show theme music*

The second way is more for my multichapter fics, which is: what is the purpose of the sex scene? Why are these characters having sex?

Everyone has times where they have sex just ‘cause they wanna have it. That’s what PWPs are for. “I’m horny and I want to read someone getting two cocks in their vagina/being tied up and made to orgasm five times/fucked against a wall.” Great! Excellent. Wonderful. For those cases I ask myself, “well, if I were in Character A’s shoes, what would I find hot?” I consider the person’s personality, and then roleplay in my head what would feel good to me to do. Then I swap and do the same thing through Character B’s shoes.

For example, I am very submissive in bed. I want my partner to tell me what to do (not all the time but when we’re getting kinky). I do not want to be the one giving orders. Lucy Preston, however, is dominant in bed. She wants to be in control. So when I write sex scenes I can’t just say, as Lucy the woman, “oh I want him to hold me down and fuck me,” because that doesn’t fit her characterization (at least, not the characterization I see for her). That’s important to consider, always.

CHARACTERIZATION IS KEY!!!! I can’t tell you how many damn good fics I was into until I got to a part where a character was acting OOC and it took me completely out of the story. Most recently, I was reading this hilarious and sexy smut oneshot that I was absolutely in love with–until I got to the end, and Character B, who is known for being very taciturn and not good with words, started spouting off all this really earnest and romantic stuff.

Look, there are ways that a taciturn person, who isn’t good with words, can be earnest. Having them say cliche romantic stuff is not it. I was completely taken out of the story and that saddened me because I loved it up until that part.

***Interlude***

A good example of this is pet names! Pet names that characters call each other really showcase their personality. For example, I have Flynn call Lucy moja draga and moja ljubav which are Croatian for, respectively, “my darling” and “my love.” But he calls Wyatt moj tigriću which is Croatian for “my tiger,” because it just doesn’t fit the snarky, chaotic, initially-adversarial Wyatt/Flynn relationship for them to call one another “my love” or “my darling.” Wyatt calls Flynn “babe” in a way that started out sarcastic and became a habit before he could stop it.

I could go on (the trio has a lot of pet names for each other) but my point is, the pet names fit their personalities and their dynamics. Gotta do the same for your sex scenes! People don’t just become porn stars when they have sex, they’re still themselves!

***Interlude Outro***

Okay, so that’s PWP But what if it’s in a longer fic? What if this is the sex the characters have been building towards for 50k, 100k, 200 FUCKING THOUSAND WORDS WHAT THE FUCK–

*ahem*

Anyway, if you do that, then of course it’s not just about “hey I’m horny and have a thing for being spanked.” There have to be reasons why. Consider the circumstances. Is it a release of tension? Did they just have an argument and they’re running high on adrenaline? Did one of them just suffer a loss and they want physical intimacy to feel comforted? Why are they having sex now, instead of at another time, and once you figure that out, that’ll set the tone for the whole thing.

This was something I really struggled with in The Thing With Shadows Is (They Come From Light, From Somewhere). The setup for that fic is that Lucy was a dominatrix at a BDSM club, and needs to become one again to go undercover and get personal information on Rittenhouse members. To maintain her cover, only one person will be in contact with her, by posing as a client and doing BDSM scenes with her. The person chosen is Flynn.

This was a bit of a shameless excuse to have Flynn and Lucy fucking every chapter, but having characters doing sexy stuff to each other every chapter can get boring quickly. So every chapter I was thinking, why are they doing this. Why are they being sexually intimate? What are their emotional states? What do they want, and what are they not saying to each other? What is coming out through the sex because they’re refusing to use their words?

The why will immediately dictate what sex stuff actually happens in your scene. If a character is, say, grieving the death of a loved one and wants intense physical comfort, they’re probably going to want to be on the bottom (missionary position) so that the weight of the other person on top of them grounds them. Or, perhaps they would like to be on top, so that the other person can wrap their arms around them, and they feel held and cared for. Perhaps they want to do it with the other person behind them, kneeling, arms around them, so that they feel held but they don’t look at the other person’s face, because they can’t handle that kind of intimacy right now with all the emotions they’re struggling with.

But on the contrary–maybe they want to be fucked hard and rough, taken out of their heads, made to not think about anything at all! All of these are viable choices based on the character, and it’s up to you!

Comparing it to yourself can really help. How would you want to have sex in that given situation?

Is the sex tender? Is it explosive? Is it frantic and on the floor of the foyer with their clothes mostly on because they can’t get enough of each other and they’ve waited too damn long already? Or is it done slow and soft in a bed, fully naked, their hands interlocked, staring into each other’s eyes? What the characters are feeling and why they’re having this sex now, here, will help with that.

Figure all that out, then projectile vomit it onto the page.

Part Three: Revision, or, Taking Your Darlings Out Back and Shooting Them

Once I finish vomiting unleash my first draft, then that’s where the research comes in. I read the scene over again and go, okay, well, this and this and this are very hot, but this position here isn’t physically possible. Or I can add in bits of realism like, okay, here’s a part where I can describe the safeword, or how she tied the knots, or what the vibrator looked like.

Your first draft is where you just vomit up whatever you find sexy. Because if you keep stopping along the way to interject realism or to double-check everything, you’ll never get finished. Save that for the second draft.

And by the way–I’m using the word ‘vomit’ for a very important reason. The goal of your first draft is for it simply to exist. So often we want perfection immediately, and that’s not gonna happen. If you aim for perfection, your story will never be finished. It doesn’t matter how crappy your first draft is. What matters is that it exists.

So. Revision time. Now, fanfiction can be, say it with me folks, ESCAPISM.

LOUDER FOR THE PURITANS IN THE BACK!!!

FANFICTION CAN BE ESCAPISM!!!!!!!

So sometimes that means your sex is a little too good to be true, sometimes the BDSM practices are a little unrealistic (who the fuck is going to survive ten orgasms without a break, the closest I got was five and I got a fuckin’ UTI out of the deal), and so on. But! Don’t break the rules until you know what the rules are! Learn the rules! Do your research! Then you can break them without breaking your readers’ sense of realism.

For example, I have read fics where the person was tied up and had an unreasonable amount of vibrator orgasms, and yeah, probably in real life, there should’ve been a pee break in there somewhere, they should’ve stretched their limbs, taken a breather. But it was a damn good fic to fantasize.

On the other hand, I was rudely jolted out of a fic I read once when the dom fit his FIST inside the sub’s MOUTH.

I tried it, guys. My hand is not that big. It did not work. I was literally reading the fic screeching YOU’VE DISLOCATED HIS JAW, HIS JAW IS NOW DISLOCATED, OH MY FUCKING GOD.

So yeah. Do your research so that you know how to break reality in fun ways that enhance the sexiness, not in weird random ways that take your readers out of the story.

Going back in and looking at your sex fantasy (because that’s what your first draft was, a sex fantasy) through the lens of your research and your critical eye ensures that you can add in details that make it more realistic, and sexier.

When you’re three fingers deep (or jacking off, I don’t know, whatever your genitalia is) and you’re picturing your favorite actor fucking you, you’re not thinking about the details.

Unless you’re me in which case you halt halfway through because no no we should’ve taken our shirts off in the hallway and then she could pick me up–rewind, let’s take it one more time from the top…

And that’s good! You’re flooded with endorphins, you’re chasing an orgasm, who the fuck cares about logistics! But it’s an experience that’s just for you, in your head. When you’re writing a story, you’re giving that experience to someone else, so you have to provide them with as many details as you can so that they can experience that fantasy, too.

Of course, all rules are meant to be broken. There are times when a lack of detail is good, and fits the mood. My smut scene at the end of Love You Like a Killer (I Want To Make Your Heart Stop) was very mood-oriented, very emotional, very much about release and the connection between these characters. I had them make love during a goddamn thunderstorm of all things. So I didn’t go into huge detail about whose throbbing cock was where and so on. Because going into too much detail would’ve ruined the dreamy, emotional, romantic-music-swelling mood I was going for.

But yes, revisions, add in all those lovely realistic details about logistics (I have drawn stick figures in the past to figure out sex positions, do what you must) and things I learned from my research, and ta-da!

Part Four: Random Information I Find Helpful

Variety is the spice of sex. Be careful not to overuse words. This is something you tackle after you revise, when you’re on the more nit-picky stage. If you find yourself using the word “yet” a lot, or you’ve drawn attention to someone’s “massive” cock three times in the last paragraph or said that she spoke “breathlessly” a dozen times… grab the thesaurus.

Fanfiction is often escapism, that means it’s okay to sometimes leave out mundane details like “hey are you on birth control,” using a condom, peeing right after sex, tying your hair back so it’s not in your mouth while you eat them out/blow them, etc. You can use those details! But don’t feel shackled by them if you feel they take the reader out of the moment. Use your discretion.

Cock and dick are the words to use. Prick is okay but it depends on your audience–it’s a very British/UK term, but as an American it’s kind of a weird word to me (it always makes me picture his dick as like three inches long). Use your discretion. “Shaft” works if you’re stroking it or blowing it (i.e. she swallowed around his shaft) and don’t overuse the word. Personally I find “cock” is more erotic than “dick” so I tend to use dick for non-sexy moments and cock for when I’m trying to turn on the reader, but again, that’s personal preference.

For the love of God just call it her entrance, her pussy, her cunt. None of these ridiculous euphemisms. “Her lower lips”? What the fuck. Be careful not to overuse pussy/cunt though because those are unfortunately also used as insults so if you use it too much, readers can find it too crude. Find a balance. Yes it sucks. (Or y’know generally avoid using any term altogether which is what I do yes I’m aware I have a hangup stop looking at me like that.)

Common sense should always prevail. Know your biology. A 40 year old man is not going to get it up again five minutes after coming. A 20 year old man is going to have shit stamina. Characters should not be having athletic sex after they’ve been stabbed. Nobody can deep throat a cock without choking on their first time. And so on.

Don’t bite off more than you can chew. If you don’t know how to describe the knots you’re using to tie your character up, then don’t describe it! Just say Character A tied them up! A good rule of thumb is if you don’t know how to describe something logistically, focus instead on how the character feels while it’s happening. Are they exhilarated by being tied up? Nervous? Describe that instead.

It’s okay to write something you haven’t done. I was writing smut (well praised and enjoyed smut) long before I ever had sex (on a similar note, hey, it’s okay if you don’t have sex until your mid-twenties or even later, you do not have a “sell by” date, okay?). Don’t be afraid to ask questions of people you trust, if you want first-hand information.

Take. Your. Time. Don’t rush it! Savor it. Enjoy it. Really dive into it. Nobody likes rushed sex in real life and nobody likes rushed smut.

And last but not least, have fun! This should be fun, titillating, this is your fantasy about these two characters. Enjoy it. Maybe your kinks aren’t someone else’s kinks, but your goal isn’t to please everyone (that’s impossible) or even to write what you think will be the most popular. It’s to write what you want, and what you find sexy. So experiment! Enjoy!

We all have moments of writer’s block. But the more you do it, the easier it gets. I hope this was all helpful, dear nonny, and I hope that you’ve having a wonderful day and that you get your smut writing mojo back!

yes that was an Austin Powers reference I’m sorry I couldn’t resist please forgive me

#mads answers things #smut #fanfiction #fanfiction writing #writing #writing advice #smut writing #what the fuck else should I tag this #I was so tempted to specifically reference some really bad fics I read back in the day on FF.net #but I resisted #because I am (sometimes) capable of being mature #I had way too much fun with this

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shadywobblerpalacerebel replied to your post “Genuine question : what's wrong about mpreg ? '-'”

I Just want my gay bois in my stories to have biological children... Why is that transphobic? I don't get it...

Your answer is found in the post you responded to, so let me bring your attention to it since you skipped past it.

Well, I’ll first quote some trans dudes and NB AFAB folks, because they’re the demo harmed most by them (along with uterus-owning intersex dudes):

“daily reminder mpreg is transphobic. like some men can get pregnant and these men have vaginas and uteruses. stop inventing shit that doesn’t exist to invalidate those who do.“ -user: daddybackes

“I hate mpreg. like all these fic writers everywhere going to ridiculous lengths when they could just have trans men but apparently either a. we don’t exist or b. aren’t worthy of love/sexy enough to be in their little stories. i just hate mpreg.“ -user: daddybackes

“now that i think about it mpreg is one of the weirdest, literary concepts out there especially when it involves cis het men. IRL though trans men totally have the option to go through pregnancy and it’s completely normal. IDK, man, I hate when (more than likely) straight girls take something that is something that is uniquely trans and then apply it to straight CIS men. they want to erase us so bad because we’re not “real men” so we don’t get to be involved in their fan fic. They’d ltierally rather make up a whole other set of organs in men to justify mpreg than be like “well some men have uteruses.” Besides i’m not asking cis people to write about the trans experience, becuse they don’t know it, but they can at least just write a man and be like “also…vagina” that works too. so yeah exactly.“ -user: daddybackes

“because it’s ignoring that (trans) men can get pregnant (trans men specifically, but anyone born with a uterus can get pregnant, with any gender identity) and just making both parties cisgender“ -user: bpd-lance

“Like you don’t need magic for men to get pregnant. It’s not an alien thing. I am literally a man who can get pregnant I’m writing this post right now. It’s further otherization of trans bodies combined with gross misogyny when it’s actually used as a trope in fiction (I’m lookin at you, a/b/o fics). It’s always a cis man getting pregnant some how and then he’s treated like shit for these “feminine” things. There’s nothing inherently feminine in giving birth so why are the characters who do give birth in mpreg fics suddenly treated like they’re women (and therefore like shit) because they’re pregnant.If I got pregnant right now, I would not suddenly become a woman. The use of misogynistic language and actions (which are often not outright) towards a pregnant character upholds the idea that pregnancy is a woman only experience, which just isn’t true. It isn’t. I hate mpreg a whole lot and I’d love to have a conversation with other like minded mpreg haters” -user: bokuroho

“another cool tip: don’t write trans male characters to fulfil your pregnancy/mpreg kinks!the coolest tip of all: trans characters don’t exist to carry out your shitty kinks so have some fucking respect “ -user: rabbit-hearted-boy

“to people who write mpreg so their m/m ships can have babies:trans people exist mpreg and f*ta are transphobic (+ pretty intersexist too but i’m dyadic and not an expert so i’ll put that aside for the momet). they fetishise the idea of a man or woman having bodies that they aren’t “meant” to have. they fetishise transness. it’s gross and horrible and as a trans person i’m gonna complain about it.and that second part… uh. i mean that you could have a cis dude and a trans dude as a couple, because most trans men can still give birth to kids. (so long as they haven’t had surgery + aren’t too dysphoric to do so, of course.)” -user: autistictatsuyasuou

“why do people still use cis men to write mpreg stories when trans men existwhy do authors still use cis characters to write stories about gay couples conceiving a child when trans men exist why do writers come up with convoluted ways to get cisgender, men-identified characters pregnant when transgender men exist and need representation” -user: benjiscloset

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So, with that all said, there’s basically a few issues here:

1. Trans men are being ignored in favour of cis men, despite the cis men characters embodying traits of trans men in order to create/progress a certain narrative. This is textbook fetishization.

2. Mpreg, as a category, is the fetishization of trans men’s bodies to primarily pursue male pregnancy above all else (often involving plenty of smut), more often than not ignoring any and all trans experiences that either don’t fit the narrative they want to tell, or are too ‘difficult’ or ‘scary’ for the writers to write. This is deeply fetishistic in a world where there’s next to no representation of trans men that doesn’t include the fetishization of their bodies and the sexual use of them in ways befitting the cis gaze and standard dehumanization.

So essentially, cis men are used instead of trans men, which is fetishistic, but even when trans men are used, it’s nearly always fetishistic in how the characters and narrative are handled.

There is one type of male person in the world that can get pregnant, and it’s trans men. So when people remove that unique experience from trans men, and discard all of their other traits and experiences, and plop that ability to get pregnant into cis men, that’s absolutely fetishization. It’s fetishizing a whole social group of people, which is dehumanizing and misrepresentative, so it’s transphobic, yeah.

Ultimately, when it comes to any trans representation in media, the primary goal has to be the humanization of the trans characters, because by default, we are dehumanized, which is why nearly all trans representation in media is fetishistic.

If trans representation wasn’t overwhelmingly fetishistic and transphobic, maybe there’d be a little leeway, but as it is, any media content that doesn’t explicitly humanize trans people will end up being transphobic. They cannot be used as a vessel/vehicle for a certain plot device or narrative. They cannot just be used as a means to an end.

Like, a good test is this: Take the mpreg character(s). Remove any and all sexual narratives and scenes. Remove any and all narratives and scenes that are in any way related to his genitals and biological functions. Is a full story told? Can one be cobbled together by what remains? Is the mpreg character still a key element? Are they a departure from transphobic stereotypes (of course, if they’re not trans, then the work is a transphobic write-off)? Are they fully characterized at least at the level of the other main characters? Etc. Etc.

In reality, mpreg doesn’t explicitly claim to be related to trans (or intersex) people, but it cannot be viewed outside of that context in a world where trans and intersex people are also displaced from our bodies and our realities by cis dyadic people, in a world where our body parts are literally objectified and fetishized and removed from our humanity. I literally don’t give a crap what anyone’s intent is, that’s the reality of it, that’s representation that harms trans and intersex people, and if people fail to realize that, then they’re harming trans and intersex people, categorically.

Besides, we should be propping up adoption in fiction, because it’s just as damn valid and wonderful and real and natural as pregnancy. Putting nuclear family ideals over fetishization and oppression of trans men and trans masc nb folks and otherization/devaluation of is super shitty and there’s no reason for it.

#shadywobblerpalacerebel #mpreg #transphobia #trans representation #trans fetishization #intersex fetishization #intersex representation #intersexism #cissexism #fandom meta #creative responsibility #genitals tw #genital mention tw #pregnancy tw

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just-a-couch-potato · 4 years

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The Kissing Booth 2

Just saw the trailer for this piece of “insert wording of your own choice.” This is a huge pile of heaping cheesy garbage…trash. And do you know what, do you know what the worse part is… I’m here for it. Will I watch it? I hate my own answer to this self-posed question. Will I like it? I already know I won’t.

In a more serious tone. This is being put out into the world. Like, I’m old enough to know that this is not it. This is not how high school, or relationships should be, but would I know that if I werrrreee…say… a 12-year-old girl fantasizing about her own potential high school romance.

Firstly, a lot of emphasis is put on Elle’s body throughout the movie…like, a lot. It’s arguably the catalyst of the whole thing. The movie starts with Noah pointing out her boobs, which she then feels like she has to cover while Lee and Noah both laugh about it. Then, there’s the whole fighting scene outside the school, there’s the locker scene, and the beach scene (can’t remember which came first). All of it is centered around Elle’s body and how it “developed” and “changed” over the summer. There’re so many issues that I could go and on about and this could easily turn into an essay based solely off the fight outside of the school, and how Elle got punished for it. Then, with no self-respect, she agrees to go out with said guy. Like, ughhhh, this should not be acceptable. And they spin it like she agreed to the date because nobody else had asked her out. She sacrificed her respect so that she could…what? Hit a milestone? Say she’d been asked out? Go on a date with a moron? Seems to me like she was pressured by the timeless construct of a woman’s worth being based off the approval of men. Is that just me, am I being harsh? Am I looking too much into it?

Secondly, if you like your best friend’s brother just be upfront about it. Like, fuck-it, talk to your friend about it, especially if you established a rule between you two not to date each other’s siblings. I promise you, it’s not that big of a deal. It may seem like it, but once you get older you realize stuff like that doesn’t even matter. Say something before it’s too late. What’s the worse that could happen if you tell your friend that you like their brother? You stop being friends? At that point, sounds like you need a new one anyway. Elle… this is a hint that Lee is a big whiny baby.

Thirdly, the triple-mean-girl-threat, that’s so often portrayed in high school, is getting old. Really, really old. Give me some originality please. God, I’m thirsty for it. Did anybody really have that going on in their school? I’m genuinely curious because this wasn’t a real thing in my high school.

I love a cheesy romance movie. Nothing against the gooey, hallmark feel, but can we have something different. Like, as a reconstruction, I would’ve liked the pool/boob scene to go like this… Noah pointed out her boobs, Elle said something snarky and/or sarcastic like “never seen a pair before?” or looked down and said, “Oh, shit, you’re right. I hadn’t noticed.” or even better is the clueless approach to make the other person feel uncomfortable, “what do you mean?” Then, if Lee just had to jump in, he should’ve been defensive, not laughed and said whatever shit he spewed about her hormones. Bleh.

Then, the skirt scene that follows should’ve gone something like this. The pants ripping was fine, the short skirt idea was okay, but did the skirt have to be so severely short that you could literally see her underwear. It was so exaggerated that I think the only reason we didn’t see her vagina is because of the cuts and angles of the scene. With the skirt so short, it makes it hard for at least some of the audience to not be like, “okay, well she shouldn’t have worn a skirt that short.” No, no, no. I agree, it’s school, you shouldn’t have to see someone’s underwear, girl or boy, as they walk around, but they could’ve had the same issue with a skirt that was too short but not, ‘I feel a breeze on my bare ass cheeks’ short. Then, because it’s a cheesy movie, Noah coming to her rescue is alright, but the conversation that follows is just awful, just plain cringy. That should’ve been altered to something like “women should be respected.”, “he had no right to lay hands on you no matter what you were wearing.”, “that should’ve never happened”, “I know you could have probably handled the situation yourself”. This would’ve made him more likable, like her crush on him was justified beyond his outward attractive appearance.

After finding out that Lee wasn’t gay, I think I would’ve liked to have seen a love triangle. We come to find out that Noah has had a crush on Elle for who knows how long, but it would’ve been cool to find out that the reason for rule 9 (is that the right number, idk) is that Lee also had a crush on Elle (was this hinted in the second trailer or am I just too hopeful?). I think at the kissing booth, with Elle blindfolded, they could have had Elle kiss them both without the firework explosion, or whatever they had going on in the background when her and Noah kissed. Could’ve done without that to be honest. Then, Elle, unaware that she kissed Lee, continues with her crush towards Noah. And Lee, poor poor Lee, tries to win her over, unsuccessfully, because she is secretly with Noah and she can’t see that her BFF is the one for her. Then, *gasp*, instead of Lee getting angry when he finds out that Elle and Noah are together, he’s sad and we come to find out that he knew the whole time. Then he spontaneously kisses Elle, and Elle realizes that she likes him too, recognizing that his was the amazing kiss she had the night of the kissing booth. Noah sees the kiss, they lock eyes, and then the movie ends. Cliffhanger established. Boom. Not entirely original with the well-established play on the love triangle, but I would’ve eaten that cheesy garbage up. And it looks like that’s the direction they decided to go for the second movie anyways.

What changes would you guys have liked to have seen in the first movie, and what are your predictions for the second?

#thekissingbooth #thekissingbooth2 #rant #movierant #netflix original #elleandnoah

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gascon-en-exil · 4 years

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sorry if this is tmi, but you know how in fanfics, the bottom always gets his ass fingered before the two guys get to fucking? like a 1 finger, 2 fingers, cock, ikea manual? is that what really happens because i always thought it was weird everyone is so obsessed with fingering

When it comes to gay sex, there’s no such thing as TMI as far as I’m concerned. That’s approximately half my whole blog handle.

Anal fingering serves two purposes, and its value in each capacity depends on the experience of the bottom, whether he’s recently been opened up (with his fingers, with toys, or with the same or other dicks as the one he’s preparing to take), and how big (length and girth) the top is. The first, usually for less experienced bottoms or guys who haven’t had anything inside them in a while, is to open him up as is often depicted in fanfic. In the moment it’s rarely a methodical one-two-three-dick progression but is, as with all things pertaining to sex, a messier and less regimented practice, and different bottoms will require different amounts of fingering to be comfortable. Some of them may be able to have their prostates stimulated with fingers, some less so. The second and more common purpose of fingering is to do with some kind of artificial lube, to use in conjunction with lubing up the top’s dick for maximum glide.

You could in theory do this with just spit, but if you’re going that route rimming can be much more effective provided the top knows how rim properly. In contrast to what you’re saying about the ubiquity of fingering in written erotica I have to say that I see rimjobs depicted far less frequently than they actually occur. If I had to guess I would attribute this to squeamishness on the writers’ parts and uncertainty over whether the men who actually engage in gay sex share that squeamishness. I assure everyone however that we have developed numerous euphemistic ways to describe eating ass such that no one has to think about very much the reality that this we’re talking about someone sticking a tongue in someone’s else anus. I have guys tell me to sit on their faces, that they love eating me out, that they’re experts at eating “pussy” when we both know they’re not talking about vaginas. It’s just a biological reality of wanting to have penetrative sex with someone who does have a vagina.

But back to the fingering, it’s important to note that it’s not always the top doing it. Particularly if a bottom plans to ride his partner he’s usually the one fingering himself, and even for other positions it’s just more efficient for the bottom to lube up his hole while the top does the same for his cock. In short, prior to anal sex it’s very likely that there will be some fingering, though the form it takes can vary significantly based on many factors. Personally the only time I’m willing to let a guy top me without any prep other than a modest amount of lube is if he or another man has already fucked me during that encounter and is going for round two (or three, etc.)

#My sexcapades

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“Precious little d. Either embarrrssed about talking about sex or it had been quite some time, and if it had been a long time, that seems quite inconsistent with the PR story that was starting to ramp up as this was not long before confirmation day and the I’m a straight man with a gf tour.” Gawd is she serious lols. Darren loves a naughty pun so why would be embarrassed to talk about sex. And seeing as Abby has probably never had sex she should probs keeps quiet.

Darren embarrassed to talk about sex? HE WROTE “ME AND MY DICK”!!!!!! He has a bar called Tramp Stamp Grannies which serves drinks called boob soup...there is no way in hell he was embarrassed. Like who the hell is she thinking about when she says that? Herself? Kurt with his “because of the layers” conversation? Certainly not Darren Criss.

The clip is here (X) so you don't have to watch the entire episode.

He says ‘who me” and takes a heart beat to answer - Kathy makes another joke and he says “IDK...IDK, yesterday?” to which Kathy says “because I would think playing a gay guy but being a hot straight guy, you must get a ton of pussy” and he says “Well I mean, well I mean, I don’t want to embarrass Lily...” In fact Darren says “yeah, yeah” while Kathy is saying this. He wasn’t silent and trembling in the corner while Lily saved him. IDK what video you were watching. Kathy wasn’t outing him she was making a joke about how much pussy he gets being straight and hot but playing a gay guy. How do the ccers get everything so wrong? Oh right- they cut the clip, slow it down, make a gif which Abbys calls

““Little bonus:”

Keep reading some high-end nonsense-I commented on some of the nonsense but I only made the comments regarding this video “bold”.

Anonymous asked:

For some reason KGriffin has been on my mind today. Her infamous interview asking D about vaginal sex. Dude looked like he was going to come out of his skin. Another thing as close as C is with her I’ve seen a lot of pics with him at her house at parties without the boyfriend.

Oh you mean this classic moment? An interview just a few short months after the woman he had been betrothed to since birth moved to LA and you’d think the answer would be frequent and all time and not something that would completely fluster him. So much so that L/ily had to step in and save him.(Yes, because everyone wants to say “frequently and all the time” about their girlfriend who just moved to town. Classy. Lily didn’t “step in and save him”. You should have watched the video again before you write about it.)

You can always see his brain spinning, thinking “can I say 3 years ago before I became Co/lfersexual? Oh wait my beard lives here now. Surely if it were real it would be all the time. Should I just refer to the last time I had sex with C? They don’t need to know there was no vagina involved…..” (Yes, that is exactly what a sane person would think in the heartbeat it takes him to answer. Watch the video again- NOT THE GIF...your fantasy has changed the facts-you sound like Trump “he ran int other tunnel and died crying and screaming and whimpering like a dog”)

He was so obviously struggling and thankfully L/ily, an openly gay woman, made it into a joke to spare him. (what joke does L/ily tell that saves him? I’m curious because when I watch the video that part must be mute)

Precious little d. Either embarrrssed about talking about sex or it had been quite some time, and if it had been a long time, that seems quite inconsistent with the PR story that was starting to ramp up as this was not long before confirmation day and the I’m a straight man with a gf tour. (But look at that, it IS consistent with YOUR story of a fragile but powerful gay man who realized he loved his costar the moment they met but woefully that love is forbidden for reasons that make no sense whatsoever but involve Ryan Murphy and a contract, a contract he signed with wide-eyed innocence at 23. He just wanted to share his talents with the world and the lure of fame dazzled him but he soon found out he signed the deal with the devil. It’s the story of a man who chose the wrong beard and is still paying for that a decade later just as he still pays for signing that contract as a naive 23 yo. A man who, as you say “likes cock”, but it stuck spending most of his time with his “wife”, a woman he detests. This fragile but strong man who wrote “me and My Dick” and mimicked masturbation while standing in front of the paparazzi pen on a red carpet is is TERRIFIED of talking about sex...duh!)

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Just want to say that I could not be happier about most of the Halloween costumes and parties this year. But, I do think it needs to be said that Kathy and Chris were friends before this. By this interview with D, she and Chris had been pals for years. I know she was on Glee, as a judge of one of their many competitions. And she also held a fake marriage ceremony with him on stage somewhere, with Chris as her groom. She’s like Jane, a mom sub. C was on K’s show, then D, same as Jane’s.

And yes, Kathy knew. She always has, same as Jane. They are insiders, people to be trusted with the truth. She just loves to put people on the spot, even those she cares about. All of these folks on the show that day, knew the truth, whatever it was at that time.(She’s his mother figure? but his mother was alive when this was shot. I love how they “know” this stuff-everyone know but nobody thought to help Darren or stop working with Ryan Murphy out of solidarity and support- hell even Darren didn’t support Darren by icing Ryan Murphy out of his life. Also nobody has leaked on bit of information ...ever...in 10 years. That impressive AF. )

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This Halloween was like Christmas, it was fabulous and no matter what they try, they cannot undo it. And I am confident D&C were fully aware of what was happening on Thursday night with the pictures. They have been playing this game for years, they know how not to be in the background of photos. They wanted those pics circulated.(more confirmation bias) So my question is, why now and who allowed those pics to be published? We all know the content is generally very controlled. And I would imagine EP has full control over the pics that are released from his party, I always question his involvement and well he was responsible for the only formal pic to date of CC, albeit a group photo.

C killed Halloween with his 2 costume choices. They were amazing. And I love that both he and D wee in drag last Saturday.

As for M/iarren, while the costumes themselves were not that great (kind of cheap and poorly executed though D as a dalmatian was adorable). I would say she spent more time and effort on the pics with her “squad’), i loved both of them. The villain and the victim. And in both cases, the D character won. And costume one was a blatant nod to C and his amazing books. Proving she is obsessed with us and what we say and trying to one up C.

Sad for her, she lost Halloween this year and CC triumphed and caused an absolute riot (a riot caused by Chris, Darren, Will and Mia speaking together at a party.. it has come to this#SAD!).

On K/athy thanks for the insight. I guess i cannot imagine asking such a direct question if I knew the truth. I guess what she failed to realize is that D is a terrible liar, especially back then. (why would Kathy, a great friend to Chris, do something so painful and difficult for Darren in front of a video camera let alone on a comedy show. Outing someone is a serious matter and not something concussive a rapid-fire comedy show. Your theory makes no sense whatsoever). His face told a million stories and none of them were of a straight man with a gf that just moves across the country to be with him (yes Abby, his face gave him away because his words sure as hell didn’t, never have and never will. It’s absurd but you continue to believe you know his truth based solely on facial expresses-which you have proven you cannot read accurately-, t-shirt graphics, song lyrics and Instagram “likes” but sadly, that is where we are at).

No doubt both L/ily and JTF knew. I think JTF has actually been a role model to D. And he and JM have been, from what i can see, really amazing to both our guys.(Vomit- random gay men in Hollywood are not “supporting Darren” through his 10 years of closeting, denial and marriage to a women-they have their own lives.) And L/ily would never have jumped in that way if she thought for one second that d was capable of handling it himself (Oh FFS, Darren made the joke about him and Lily having vaginal sex, Lily didn’t jump in, she cracked up and after he milked the joke for all he could get out of it- then she made a joke riffed off his. Your fantasy has overtaken the truth once again. Luckily we have video proof). But since D could not muster an answer, she answered for him and then he was able to collect himself and go with the joke. (that isn’t true at all-it’s a complete a lie).

Intereting side note, when that video originally aired, i still believed the PR story and I remember thinking about how odd his answer was and how uncomfortable he was. And i wasn’t looking for anything as I didn’t think there was a reason for him to lie.

I love this interview. And example of something team shit would dream about if only d could answer convincingly and instead it completely shined a light on the fact that D is queer and prefers the company of men, at least at that point in his life (Not making a statement on his past and sexuality) (OMG really? You're not? All you do is make statements about his sexuality. Let’s pretend you are right with this theory- For all the help that Jesse Tyler Ferguson, Ricky Martin, Ryan Murphy, and all the other gay men in Hollywood are providing ccDarren, this video showing how team shit failed again was broadcast 6 1/2 years ago (3/13) and Darren is still saying he’s straight, he’s still not spending time with Chris -well of course except the Halloween moment caught on the camera-they still lead entirely different lives and Darren married Mia sooo I’m not sure how they are team “shit”. Sounds like “team perfect” since everything is going their way. They even got Darren to cuddle Mia for a photo as “punishment” for that little moment with Chris...Team Shit for the Win....again!)

#cc #ccer #cc fandom #crisscolfer #darren criss #debunking cc liees #Kathy Griffin Show

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bulldagger-bait · 4 years

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Sometimes I really hate the fact I was born female.

I hate that fact that men don't take me seriously.

I hate that I'm seen as a harpy whenever I show slight passion about a topic.

I hate that I was raised in a school where the boys thought I was insane for being a feminist. Where boys took pictures of me after saying "women only belong in two places, the kitchen and the bedroom", and then posting them all over social media calling me the "angry man hating lesbian feminist". I hate that a boy negged me on in chemistry class, sexually harassed me, and then when I lost it at him my chemistry teacher told me to calm down, that I was overreacting. I hate that when i told him to fuck off, and got sent to the deputy principal to explain myself. Me. Not him. Not the boy who was harrassing me, or the teacher that allowed it in his classroom.

I hate that when I told my dad a boy had been sexually harassing me, he went behind my back, contacted his parents and my school administration. I hate that I was then called into my deputy principals office and told that this had all "been blown out of proportion" and that I was being unreasonable. But it wasn't unreasonable for that boy to say he couldnt wait until I was 18 to get me drunk and high so he could have sex with me. When I was an out lesbian.

I hate that one of my friends was raped by a boy in our school. I hate that when she told the school they didn't believe her. I hate that they made her continue to share classes with him. I hate that she was threatened with suspension for spreading lies about "such a serious topic" and that he was able to keep harassing her on school grounds, unchecked.

I hate that one of my friends thought it was okay to threaten to rape me in front of my entire social group as a joke. And then I was seen as a hysterical bitch for telling my most trusted teacher. She actually did something about the situation. I was then ostracised from that group of friends. I "couldnt take a joke" apparently.

I hate that when I was nine years old I was riding my bike around my neighbourhood, and a boy five years my senior cornered me in an alleyway and tried to rape me not twenty meters away from my front door.

I hate that when I was younger a boy would hit me, scratch me, pull my hair, twist my arm, dig his grubby little fingers into my pressure points, making me cry out with pain, only to be told it was because he liked me. I hate that I believed it. I hate that I let it continue for two years. For two years my "best friend" covered me in bruises, and I let him because it made me feel pretty and wanted. I was ten.

I hate that when I was fourteen and desperate to convince myself I wasn't gay, a boy who i thought was my friend tried to pressure me into dating him only to then tell me about his porn addiction—his words, not mine—and call me an insensitive cunt for getting as far away from him as possible. After he told me about the things he'd like to do to me. Not with me. To me. As fourteen year olds. As children.

I hate that I was forced into pink and shaved legs and make up and long hair.

I hate that my mother made me cut up boxer shorts I had bought because I was sick and tired of wearing panties. Because some guy had made some comment about my grammy-panties. Never mind the fact that they were comfortable. I bought boxers because they were closer to shorts and I thought boys would just leave me alone. I bought boxers because they were cool and had superheroes on them and were comfortable. I bought boxers because I was sick and tired of the neon pink panties my mother had been making me wear for my entire life.

I hate that I wore pigtails to school and a boy called them "ride-me handle-bars".

I hate that when I cut my hair off the first thing people assumed I was, was a man. As if its that easy to take my womanhood away from me. As if all that makes a woman is long hair. I hate that I was called "skank who was trying to hard" when I had long hair, an "art hoe" when I had short hair, and a "dyke", "failed woman", "wannabe man" when it was cropped.

I hate that at 8 years old I was being bullied for being ugly. Because I had unkempt eyebrows. Unshaven legs. Tangled hair. Sweaty skin. Scraped knees. A crooked smile. Because I wasn't a child model. Because I wasn't some pedophiles wet dream.

I hate that I'm considered incompetent for certain jobs because of my menstrual cycle. Because women are too over emotional when they're "pms-ing" or "on the rag"

I hate that a man's go to insult for me is "cunt". Something that dehumanises me to my genitals. How silly of me to think I was anything more than just a hole for someone to fuck.

I hate that someone took advantage of my sexuality. Because I was repressed. Because I was a woman who grew up in a christian environment. Because I was a lesbian who was still convinced I could be straight. Because there was a pretty woman who knew she could manipulate me. I hate how there are people who still think its my fault, or that lesbian sex isnt even real so how could I be raped? Or that women can't rape. I hate that I had been convinced that what happened to me was normal. Because women are frigid bitches that don't want sex, but their partners do, and its "inhumane" to not put out.

I hate that I am paid less. And that people don't believe women arent paid less. Despite the fact that their is mountains of evidence to support our argument.

I hate that I had to do twice the work to get half the recognition in school.

I hate that a boy with no experience and no drive was seen as a more suitable leader than I was. Because I was a "controlling bitch". I hate that I did an incredible amount of work on the student council and he got to take the credit for it. I hate that he was a worse student but was seen as more acedemically gifted than I was.

I hate the double standards.

I hate how every part of my body is sexualised. I hate how my disability is sexualised.

I hate how when I mentioned my chronic pain condition to my male classmates, they made comments about how I would make a fantastic masochist. I hate that I internalised it. I hate that I believed them. I hate that when I got into a sexual relationship I let her hurt me—even though i didn't like it—because I throught kinky sex was the bare minimum and "vanilla" was for frigid prudes.

I hate that my body is not mine, but rather belongs to the public. For the government to legislate. For strangers to ogle at. For my father to control. And when I speak up I'm an unreasonable bitch. When I demand agency, I'm insane.

I hate how the odds were stacked against me since birth all because of that second x chromosome. All because some doctor said "its a girl" and immediately half of my opportunities were removed because they "weren't for girls".

I hate that in order to keep a job I am supposed to adhere to femininity. That not wearing make up is seen as lazy and unhygienic. That I need to "fix my eyebrows". That I need to shave my "gross gorilla legs".

I hate all this bullshit bagage that comes with being female. I hate it. I hate it so much. I hate that I am my own voyeur. I hate that even in my most private moments I am focused on how an unseen gaze would percieve me.

I hate that the slightest devience from "purity" will be met with threats of violence. That if someone doesnt agree with my politics I can be told to "choke on a dick" and to "kill myself" and whoever said that is safe in the knowledge that their community supports their words and actions. That if I step a toe out of line or make a mistake I deserve the full force of misogyny that people have been waiting to dole out to an appropriate victim.

I hate that my own father sexualised me. I hate that he abused me. I hate that he got away with it all because "teen girls make up that kind of stuff for attention". Because he was an "upstanding man". I hate that believes he is guiltless. I hate that he has manipulated and gaslighted me into believing his version of events. I hate that when I speak up I need to be careful because "he's a good man" and "he doesnt seem like the kind to do that" and that "you're blowing things out of proportion, I'm sure it was never like that."

I hate that when women accuse men of violence its "he said, she said". But when men accuse women of the same they are instantly believed. I hate that my voice holds less weight than a man's.

I hate that the religion I was raised in told me not to speak in church. Not to ask questions. To submit to men. To cover my head before god. That braided hair was sinful and vain.

I hate that I was taught there was no such thing as a female orgasm in order to discourage me from having sex. That I was told sex would be painful. And yet I was also told that when I married a man I should freely give him sex because it was my duty to serve him and bear children.

I hate that I'm seen as a baby factory.

I hate that I'm seen as a collection of body parts. A uterus. A pair of tits. A vagina.

I'm not those things. I am made up of those things, but they do not define my worth. I am made of carbon, but you wouldn't call me "an arrangement of carbon atoms" or "a carbon storage system" or "a carbon factory"

I hate that when I talk about my experience with womanhood I need to twist myself into knots to not step on any toes or offend. I hate that I have to be palatable when I am upset and enraged.

I hate that my anger is demonised and sexualised.

I hate that my love is fetished by heterosexual men. I hate that they see lesbianism as this empty thing to get off to.

I hate that I don't feel safe holding my girlfriend's hand in public. I love her more than anything in the world and my skin burns when I don't get to touch her. I hate that sometimes I get scared and call her my "friend". Not girlfriend. I hate that in public I feel ashamed to love her.

I hate it that my homosexuality is debated. I hate that it is seen as disgusting.

I hate that I have been taught and socialised that every single part of who I am is fundamentally flawed in some way.

And yet, despite all this, there are days where I am grateful for who I am. There are days when this body is not my enemy. There are days when I love my womanhood, however that may appear. There are days when I am unbothered by the thoughts of others. There are days where I am unafraid to love who I love and to love proudly.

There are days where the pain and anger of the past drive me to be happy.

I know those days won't last. They never do. There's always a slur, or a misogynist, or an abuser, or a traumatic memory. There's always a right being infringed upon, or an aspect of my body made public property, and it takes me right back to the anger.

I could never stop being angry. There is too much pain in this body to forgive and forget.

But sometimes, I don't hate the fact that I was born female. Some days I'm proud.

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that one ask you got wasn’t transphobic because she said she isn’t attracted to trans women (although you don’t always know when a girl is or is not trans and if you’re attracted to her when you thought she was cis and not after you know she’s trans is indeed transphobic and if she has a vag there is no way to blame it on not liking penises), it was transphobic because she said that it’s impossible for a lesbian to be attracted to a trans women. trans women are women plain and simple. (1/)

hey are not men and it is transphobic to say they practice “performative gender,” have “male bodies,” liken being attracted to them to conversion therapy, and say they cannot be desired by lesbians. that’s an extremely binary and transphobic way of thinking of trans people. some lesbians have problems with penises, and that’s ok, but what isn’t ok is to reduce trans women with penises to that part of their body

2/)or their “pheromones” or whatever and justify blatant transphobia by saying that it’s a matter of personal preference. you are not always going to know who is trans and who is not, indeed many straight men and gay women date trans women and are still their sexuality, first of all, and second of all, a trans woman’s worth is not defined by someone’s ability to be attracted to her. writing it off as not being able to be attracted to trans women is a dangerous generalization bc it normalizes (3/)

not only the idea that trans people are undesirable, but also that it’s ok in the least to reduce them to their genitalia or to even suggest that they are always going to be whatever they were assigned at birth. lesbians can be and are attracted to trans women. it’s up to those who aren’t to examine why, because it’s not that they have “male pheromones” or penises.

(4/)some of them are on estrogen which changes pheromones and some of them have vaginas. it’s because of transphobia and the ingrained otherment of trans women. this isn’t policing someone’s sexuality, this is calling out of dangerous rhetoric that contributes to more violent transphobia whether or not you have trans friends (5/5 fin.)

soo. honestly.. I am have had a shit month and a REALLY shitty couple of weeks. And I am exhausted and sad and experiencing heartbreak and loss and fear and uncertainty all at once. Like life altering terrible. So I will do my best to answer this.

I can only speak from my experience. I am not trans, nor in any way gender dysphoric. I don’t have a degree in gender studies. I proclaim zero expertiese on gender or transgender issues.. hence my speaking partner who handles that information.

I do align my sexuality and my gender with people who were genetically and biologically born with my same sex traits. NOW.. as I have stated. I have no idea if I have ever been phyicially attracted to a trans person..because I have not dated anyone who is trans.. I know this because I have had sex with all of the women I have dated.. which is not many… I never said it was impossible nor did I say their attractiveness had one single rats ass to do with their validity or right to be happy, healthy and safe.

Lesbians defining their own sexuality is well with in their rights. If they only want a vagina that is all original parts that is not transphobic,, but to say lesbians can’t be same sex and gender attracted feels homophobic to me.

I don’t claim to have immunity because I have trans friends. Far from it. But I do make the effort to bring them to every table I sit at out in the community so their voice can be heard. The deal is.. they agree to hear my voice.

If a lesbian wishes to define herself as a lesbian and date a transwomen.. okee dokee. FIne with me.. I don’t own the rights nor do I really care what her partner has in her pants. NONE of my business. If a trans person tells me they are a woman.. good enough for me.. I don’t need an explaination nor disclaimers nor a run down of what is under the hood. Same goes for me.. If I say I am a lesbian.. done. .end of converstation. Let’s all go get some vegan tacos and bitch about Trump. I don’t need to define that further. It is just unneceassary for casual interaction.

If I started to fall for someone then found out they have a penis, that is likely a deal breaker for me.. One, yes…partially to societal pressure that lesbians don’t like penis. That is a giant barrier I likely could not break through. I am one hundred percent willing to admit that. I can’t lie and say.. I’d get over it.. I wouldn’t want to start that relationship on unfairly shakey ground. Not if I truly cared. And secondly, and mostily, because penises just don’t turn me on. I don’t like them on me, in me or a touching me. AND if the person is post op? Can’t give you an answer.. for me personally I don’t have any clue if I would be arroused.. never been in that situation.. I literally have no way to know.

The conversion therapy part comes into play because many lesbians.. and I know this is unpopluar but it is true for many and a fact is a fact, just don’t like nor want to like a penis no matter who has it.. Lesbians to the far end of the same sex trait and same gender attraction exist. I am one.. as far as I have experienced. I don’t owe anyone to say otherwise. It would be disingenuous at best.

I don’t hate transpeople.. I am not afraid of transpeople. I support their right to exist, to be happy and loved and I support people who id as lesbians to date anyone they want. If you can fucking meet someone, fall in love and have mind blowing passionate sex.. then god damn well do it because such a thing is a rare and wonderful.

I love vaginas and breasts that are part of the original body.. I just do.. I don’t have any interest in finding out otherwise.. but ALSO don’t feel the need to announce that every where I go.

You ask me to examine why? I admitted above some of that is due to societal and community pressure, but by in large you are correct.. IT IS UP TO ME and I choose to not really look into it because right now I have no reason to question my sexuality and natural attraction. Should a situation arrive where It would warrant a closer look I can still choose to delve deeper or not and that is my choice. I don’t owe anyone an examination of how i define my lesbianism… just like no one owes me one as to how they define theirs.

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I’ve never really been able to admit this to people because I’m always worried about how they’ll view me or treat me. But honestly I’ve been more upset and disgusted with being a lesbian in the last three years because people say I have a vagina fetish and that I’m disgusting simply for being a homo female then I ever have before. I would get upset over people saying I was going to hell, which happened a lot when I was little. But now I’m 19 and I’ve begun self harming again because /1

2/ because I’m just so miserable being this way. Everywhere I turn I see people saying such hateful things about “TERFs” and it is like, okay, but it makes me nervous because I know they almost always mean homosexual too. And it has messed with me so much. I’ve had other terrible life events happening to add to this, but this whole thing hasn’t made any of that easier. My ED is so bad right now. My iron and Vitamin D levels are stupidly low. I’m getting terrified to leave the house because I’ve

3/ convinced myself I’m a disgusting person with a vagina/breast fetish. I’m just so miserable all the time. At this point I would give anything to be bi or straight. I really would. I don’t want to be this way anymore. I don’t want to keep cutting myself every time I think about a woman sexually or romantically because I feel like I’m being dirty and horrible. I just want all this to be over. I feel so alone and empty. I don’t know how to have pride in who I am. I don’t know how to love what

4/ I am. I’ve had to cut out a friend recently because he kept validating this thoughts of mine. And it made me sick and hurt. He thought it was okay to tell me to my face that I’m unsympathetic and don’t care about other people just because I’m gay. I’ve caught the train and night and let him stay with me for long periods of time when he was struggling at home because of his transition. But because I’m gay he called me a terf and said I was nasty person. I think that’s when I fully broke. I

5/ I don’t know what to do anymore. I really don’t. I have people telling me I’m not really gay because I was sexually assaulted when I was little. I have people telling me I’m not really a lesbian because I like boobs and Bahia and I have people saying my love is shallow and means nothing because I have a vagina fetsih. I can’t handle it anymore. I can’t. Everything hurts and I’m starting to not trust myself. I even called an LGBT support hotline to get help or reassurance that I wasn’t bad but

———————————————————————————–First, I just want to say how brave you are to speak out about your mistreatment and how you’re feeling. That takes so much bravery to stand up and say that something is wrong, even just to yourself. It sounds like you’re fighting so so many battles, and I’m so sorry that defending your sexuality is one of them.

I feel with you on the eating disorder issue. Lately I’ve been struggling more than in the past. I know this may not be the center of your message to me, but if I may, if you’re not already seeking some form of help to mitigate the effects of your ED and improve in that area please please look for whatever kind of help you can or at least some support. This stuff can get dangerous, and you deserve a long beautiful life ahead of you without the detrimental effects an ED can bring. I’m right here with you anon, and we’ll both figure this out

I’m also familiar with the pain you’re feeling losing your friend over being homosexual. I’ve lost a number of friends recently over telling people my beliefs. I’ve had friends tell me they’re disappointed in my selfishness and apathy, I’ve had incredibly close friends tell me i was making things all about myself. But we absolutely aren’t anon. Saying that gay means GAY and gay means SAME SEX ATTRACTION will never be a selfish act of malice to anyone. Affirming your right to a healthy, fulfilling relationship with the same sex (and only ever with the same sex) is GOOD and RIGHT. I’m sorry you’ve lost your friend in this, but if you ask me, they sound like people who don’t bring good things into your life when they wont accept and celebrate that you are gay. That doesn’t make it any easier though, and I’m sure the pain is still there. Don’t feel bad for that struggle of feeling loss even for people who may not treat you right. Take your time, and know all the while that you ARE in the right.

I just want to say lastly that if you ever need to talk to someone, never hesitate to talk with me, or reach out to the other lesbians and gay men you can put some faith in. Community can be so vital to withstand these storms, and I know there are so many lovely lesbians I know here who would be happy to just listen and share in your struggle.

Again, I’m proud of you for being honest with your feelings, for being homosexual (the best accomplishment anyone can achieve by far ;P) and I hope you have nothing but healing times ahead for you. My best wishes to you anon

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nish-s-random-writing · 6 years

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“LaDiDaDiDa”

USUK/UKUS Hitman Jones fanfic

words:1749 summary: Jones was just having a little fun, but somehow he ended up getting tried in court. Well, he supposed it was up to his Arthur to bail him out. Again. Most likely with a lot of murder involved. warnings: blood, murder, abusive-ish-kinda relationship, death mentions, physical harm, court proceeding that isn’t a court proceeding that might offend an ace attorney fan (a/n): well, I threw the truckload in here, didn’t i? Inspiration was from the many vines of Hitman Jones with SonReal’s “Can I Get A Wtiness?”, or, y’know, the one that goes “I am the man~” Enjoy! :D

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“Your honor, if I may intrude-“

“Get your feet off ze table!!!”

“Geeze, judge, no need to be rude.”

I could feel stares on the back of my neck. I smiled, knowing the jury was paying very close attention.

Ah, yeah, I was in another courtroom this time, being tried again. It was just a little slip yesterday—myself having a bit of fun; it was simply by chance that they found me with blood on my hands. Luckily, they’d never find who it belonged too, though the murder reports frolicking around Ney York was enough for them to arrest and try a random stranger in an alley with his hands stained red. Ha ha.

Arthur would be so mad.

The courtroom was big, empty, comprising mostly of auburn wood and a marble floor. It would be easy to start a fire in here. The seats were wooden—and a little creaky. I liked the sound. I rocked back and forth on my heals, making the chair squeak, making the noise echo, and making the German judge in front of me look like he was about to have a stroke.

That would be nice, wouldn’t it? To kill someone without doing anything more than bouncing your heels.

“Stop it! You- you…! Ah, does this man not have a name?” The judge yelled and rand his fingers through a bunch of frayed papers on his desk, those of which he immediately began to organize into a neat pile. Ah, a neat-freak. Extremely easy to piss off.

“No, your honor, I was born nameless and covered in blood,” I declared with a grinning mouthful of teeth.

The judge’s blond brow twitched. “What are you saying?“

“Well, I ain’t lyin’! Not everyone’s born with a predetermined name and you can’t tell me you flew out of your momma’s vagina all squeaky clean!”

“Enough!” He growled and banged his hammer-thingy on his wooden thingy. The already quiet courtroom seemed to hush even more. Above the angry German, the clock read 11:56, almost noon. The harsh sunlight was already beaming through the windows to the right.

“You,” The judge started again. “You have no name, no record, no face recognition. Who are you? A foreigner?”

“Maybe, maybe not. I could be Japanese for all you know.”

He tucked in a breath. “You—! Be straight with me, young man!”

“Sorry, I’m, like, really gay and I find dicks hot so it’s a no-can-do there!”

He gaped like a fish, surprise on his face. A snicker or two came from the jury stands before he silenced them with his hammer.

“Listen here! You have numerous offenses already—refusal to cooperate is one of them! Having no records makes you highly suspicious. This cannot be tolerated. I am breaking numerous procedures here and it pains me so, but answer me one thing, if you will not answer anything else! Whose blood was on your hands and what were you doing with that baseball bat?”

The judge leered, inching forwards with his hands on the table. He was daring me, behind his glasses. I offered a lazy stare behind mine. Above him the clock read 11:59

“Uhh, I plead the fifth?”

His hands were rammed on the table and he collapsed back in his chair. Then he was fixing up the disturbed pile of papers.

“Hey, what kind of trial are you running here, judge-y?” I teased, leaning back on my arms behind my head and bringing my legs up on the table. “No prosecutor, no defendant. Just you and, uh, the jury?”

“I’m early. They arrive at noon. And you have no rights to speak to me!” He snapped.

“You have no rights to speak either, bro. We’re in the same boat. What? I don’t even get a lawyer?”

Right, on the spot, the clock reading 12 noon, the double doors on the other side of the room burst open in a flurry and all heads were turning. In walked a blond man in a posh, tailored, black suit, outfitted with a nice green necktie. He had a briefcase in one hand, a phone in the other, and shades over hidden eyes.

“I am Lovino Vargas, replacement lawyer for the defendant, your honor,” he introduced, Italian accent heavy, as he came to drop his suitcase next to me.

“Um, Mr. Vargas. Ah—w-wasn’t Feliciano supposed to be his—“

“My brother cannot come today. He has gone down with the cold, you see. I replace him for today.”

With a quick scan of his papers, the flustered judge nodded an affirmation. “So you will.” He breathed, relaxed, and slumped subtly into his chair. His fingers, however, remained fidgeting with the papers.

And the man sat next to me, unwilling to look my way. Still, I grinned at the sight of thick, fuzzy eyebrows above the shades.

I leant in with a whisper, “Hey, Arthur.”

“Shut up, Jones.” He muttered quietly, lips barely moving. “Jesus Christ, must I rescue you every time, you good for nothing idiot?”

“I recall a time I rescued you, Artie.”

“Shut it.”

The jury had begun to mutter and the judge was, once again, distracted by his papers. They were waiting for the rest of the court. They would never come.

“Hey, Art, when’s it gonna go off?”

“About 12:04,”

“But that’s about-“

“Oh! For the love of god!” He cried out loud, throwing his hands up in the air. The jury and judge immediately turned to him and I tucked myself into my seat, hands in my lap and head down looking meek and embarrassed.

“This, this criminal has to use the restroom, your honor! He has been bugging me for the past minute. Please, to appease this man, may I take him there?”

Despite the strange sentence, Arthur’s was as convincing as always; his voice was a holy grail of genuine emotion and persuasion. And he pulled it off, for the judge fumbled and blinked.

“Ah, y-yes. Take, um, take a guard, will you?”

Two were posted at the front door. Wearing all black, bullet-proof vests and carrying a rifle each. Arthur pulled me up from my seat. How would he handle this?”

“Oh, your honor, may we take both of these men? I do not trust this criminal.”

“Um, y-yes! You shall. Go on, then.”

Maybe it was just this guy being terrible at his job, or maybe Arthur had gotten something in his drink earlier. Whatever it was, I grinned happily.

“Thanks, Mr.Vargas. Man, I really gotta do number two, if you know what I mean.” I stated as I walked down the aisle. Both guards each took one of my arm and Arthur walked behind them.

We emerged into a brightly lit hallway that took a sharp turn just three doors down. The floor was the same white marble and a potted plant stood in the corner. I had a feeling that the bathroom was a long way off.

Upon turning the corner, everything looked the same for a long way, but the pressure on my arms were immediately relieved.

I turned to Arthur who had a bloodied stainless-steel knife in his hands. He was posed casually with his arms at his sides and stood above two crumpled heaps of black-clothed guards. He knelt, wiped the knife off on a guard’s shoulder, and stuck it back in his inner breast pocket.

“Come on, Jones,” Sighed Arthur and he began to walk down the hallway. I followed at his heels, grinning.

“Thanks, babe.”

“You don’t call me that, you fucking idiot.”

“Aw, c’mon, don’t be like that!” I couldn’t help my giggle.

Immediately, I was pulled into a room and thrown to the floor. It was an office room, with a meeting table, a few chairs, some filing cabinets and a long window on the other wall.

Arthur stood above me, sneering, his shades now off and his green eyes glinting with anger. He locked the door.

“You absolute fool!” He spat, now back to his old British accent. “Do you realize how much danger you’ve put us in? They know your face now, Alfred! You are a lead to them now.”

“Relax, Art. A fire’s gonna break out in their records room after your bomb goes off, and I put a bug in their system so it’ll crash for a bit. Also, I deleted every little bit of record they have on me, so no worries!”

Despite my obviously brilliant justification, I was met with a harsh slap to the side of my head. I laughed.

“Fucking idiot! Think you’re so cunning, so brilliant, so sneaky. You think you’re the best hitman that’s ever been, huh?” Another smack, harder, drawing blood from my lips. The iron taste… delicious. “you’re nothing but a helpless fuck who I have to bail out every time you get caught!” Another lie from him. Another smack from him. “Useless!”

“If I’m so useless, dear Artie, why do you save me each time? Why not let me rot?” I grinned, excited, biting my lip just to get another drop of that metallic taste.

And Arthur smiled back.

“Because, dear Alfie,” he said, gently cupping my chin in the hand he used to hurt me. “I don’t plants seeds just to throw away my harvest.”

In the distance, the explosion went off. The bomb in Arthur’s suitcase which would have killed everyone in that court—everyone who’d seen my face. A vibration that shook the room at the edge of my fuzzy vision. Neither of us acknowledged it.

And he licked my lip, tasted my blood, sent a shiver down my spine, before he got up and offered a helping hand so I could do the same.

And it was always like this. Well, not always.

He had to find me first. He had to break me first. He had to quench my spirit with sharp words, harsh beatings, and biting psychological hurt. He had to crush my mind and body, before resurrecting me with a renewed vigor, a different flame, a different spirit. He brought me back half-dead, and that was why I’m alive.

No, I’m not the old me. No, I’m not flawless, I’m not the best. That was Arthur. I don’t say sorry, I don’t care about manners. I’m not perfect.

But I am who I am, the man Arthur broke into shape. And he’ll keep breaking me as he pleases, despite it being enough, because in his logistics, why not?

Yeah, I love him for that.

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Cute Twins and Haunted Inns: RHONY S13 E9

We open with Leah Facetiming all the women, inviting them on a trip to Salem, MA, somewhere she had always dreamt of going, but being that she had lived in New York City pre COVID, and she could go LITERALLY ANYWHERE ELSE her entire life, she had never made the trek before. Everyone is game, and Luann tells a joke about witch vaginas being able to grip brooms.

Ramona and Bershan have lunch together, with Ramona wearing her ridiculous clear mask, which doesn’t touch her face. They discuss the previous episode’s dinner in Harlem, which they both agree was “preachy and teachy.” I’m inclined to agree because that’s how it felt as the viewer of a show that is literally broadcast to gay men and liberal white women across the globe. Can somebody please explain to Bravo what the meaning of guilty pleasure is? I wanted to see women (sometimes literally, shout out to Aviva Drescher) tearing each other limb from limb and hurling insults and pinot grigio at each other. If I wanted to learn about the Harlem Renaissance, I would watch PBS. (For the record, I have educated myself on the Harlem Renaissance, and I am open to learning more about Black history. I just don’t want to watch drunk women who are not open to the experience have to sit through it during my gay UFC fights. I said it. Sorry!)

Eboni and Sonja head to Philadelphia on a Sprinter van. During the first five minutes of the trip the two pals drink Starbucks coffees in holiday cups (I’m confused about the timeline here. Isn’t it close to Halloween when they visit Salem? Sus...), champagne, and kombucha. We get a flashback of Sonja talking to Ramona and Luann in a previous episode about how the other women need to be more receptive to Eboni’s educating them on the Black LIves Matter Movement because this is a huge platform/opportunity for her to raise her voice. The two women agree that Ramona is extremely uncomfortable talking about race. Eboni confesses that the Salem trip is going to be a “do more” and not a “do over.” For the LOVE OF GOD IF I DON’T SEE THESE WOMEN LITERALLY BURNING THEMSELVES AT THE STAKE, AND RATHER YET ANOTHER LECTURE ON THE HISTORY OF RACE IN THIS COUNTRY, I WILL ACTUALLY JUST START WATCHING PBS DOCUMENTARIES AT 9 ON TUESDAY NIGHTS JUST TO SEND A MESSAGE TO BRAVO. ENOUGH! Sonja’s Adderall kicks in, and she and Eboni begin loudly chanting “No shit in Salem!” Why are they going to Philadelphia to meet a matchmaker for Sonja?

The two meet Eboni’s matchmaker friend, and Sonja confesses that she trusts that Eboni has done a great job of describing Sonja for her. Eboni states that she sees a lot of the root of Sonja’s problem being that she “allows the other women to walk all over her and speak for her.” I think it might be pill addiction and alcoholism, but you know what they say in 12 step meetings! Rush into the first relationship you can find, so here we go! The matchmaker asks a few questions about Sonja, and Sonja allows Eboni to answer most of the questions for her, as she orders herself little neck clams and coffee. Sonja states that she’s passionate about helping what the matchmaker refers to as “the vulnerables” (gag): the LGBT community and artists. She states that she’s definitely a “Frenchophile”. Does she mean she loves Frenchie from Grease? Because I think the word she’s searching for is Francophile, but I digress. She says money is not important to her, and Eboni says that’s not true. She says she doesn’t care how old her potential husband is, which is also untrue, unless the advice she was giving Tinsley during her tenure was complete bull shit. The entire trip it turns out was pointless, though, because the matchmaker apparently already had someone in mind.

We have scenes of the women packing for Salem, and I learn that putting a chapeau on a bed is horrible luck via Luann yelling at her assistant.

Next we see the women all rendezvous on a tour bus Leah booked for the four hour drive to Salem. We learn that Bershan had cancer, which turned her into a real go-getter, and we learn that the producers do not like Bershan because they just let one of her boobs fly waaaay to the west in her interview look. Leah reveals that the dinner she has planned is in a tattoo parlor if anyone is interested in getting inked. Leah is the only RHONY with any ink, as we get a flashback to the women having conniptions last season when they realize Leah has forever tarnished her body with the devil’s pen.

The women arrive at the Hawthorne Hotel, which looks honestly pretty standard and really pretty basic and underdecorated. The scariest thing about this place is the General Manager’s fake Boston accent. The women do a weird witchy prayer. Ramona smells an opportunity to use her fame for something free, and gets the Manager to agree to give her free room service. Luann lights up some sage, and the women all get ready for the leather and lace tattoo dinner party/attempt to reveal that Ramona is a Trump supporter. In the lobby Ramona yells that she’s “tweaking. Bershaun is TWEAKING!” No, Ramona, Sonja WAS tweaking, but it’s a quarter past Adderall time for her now, and she’s settling into what appears to be Xanax o’clock.

The women arrive at the dinner, and Sonja is immediately infatuated with the two twins that greet them, whom the producers label “semi spooky twins.” Luann is impressed by the size of the fortune teller’s hands. The coven of wives sits down, as the chardonnay interacts with Sonja’s Valium, and she just starts saying whatever comes to her brain, for instance the seeds that Eboni planted in the Sprinter the previous day about Ramona being extremely unreceptive to racial conversations. When Ramona tries to dodge the conversation entirely yet again, Eboni says that there’s no way Ramona is going to back down from this conversation because Ramona is “too strong.” Then Eboni just casually drops the words white supremacy, like she didn’t know what she was doing, and the Bravo boom sound effect comes out. Luann then points out that Sonja seems to be playing both sides, and we’re shown a flashback of the same conversation at Ramona’s house from earlier, in which Sonja is saying that she agrees Eboni wasn’t reading the room very well in Harlem. Leah admits that the Harlem night could have been handled much better, but defends Eboni, saying that she’s not allowing herself to get shit on the way she was when she first joined the cast. Leah calls Ramona a moron and says that Ramona is what’s wrong with the world. Ramona tries to run away. Everyone accuses her of being a coward, so she stays momentarily. Bershan calls Eboni’s delivery at the Harlem dinner preachy. Ramona says she just doesn’t get it. Eboni has a great life. What’s the problem? Why bring up the race thing? She says Eboni doesn’t suffer, and Eboni asks if Ramona is aligned with white supremacy. Leah calls Eboni out because her mother voted for Trump, and Eboni has said positive things about Trump in the past when she was on Fox News. Ramona sneaks away and comes back suspiciously eager to play a game. Were people doing coke in the bathroom, Ramona? As soon as Ramona comes back, Luann slinks away as well. What a crazy night! It’s a to be continued, and it seems like we might finally get some actual content this season finally!

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Here are my full and unfiltered opinions on trans people! Because some people on discord think I’m transphobic!

Trans people are great. I don’t care if you’re trans or not and you’re not special because you are trans, it’s not something you should want to be but it’s something some people are, and I support and respect that and the people but I’m not going to put them on a pedistol because they don’t need that. They need support and the truth not warship and fluffy “oh oh honey!”s.

It’s not transphobic to not want to date a trans person. The genitally (even after any surgery out there) and sometimes outward appearance of trans people doesn’t always match what people are attracted to. It’s simple fact that a biological man that has gone through puberty will have an Adam’s apple and most people who are attracted to women (excluding those attracted to both men and women) will not find that attractive. They will also not find a penis attractive. That is not transphobic that is just fact. There are a few exceptions that will be okay with dating a women with a penis. A FEW. That’s all there needs to me because there are also only a few trans people. It is not transphobic to not be apart of the minority.

You need to disclose that you’re transgender to anyone who will see you naked. I am not saying this because I hate transgender people and want them to be uncomfortable I’m saying that because I love them and want to to stay alive. You don’t know how people will react to you being transgender. The stupidest thing that’s ever been argued against any of my opinions is on this topic. The person told me “you don’t need to disclose if you’re trans if you’re mtf and have the surgery-medically made vaginas look the exact same as a real vagina” which is just a flat out lie. First of all, a penis is not where a vagina is. A vagina is father down, so, when they make the penis into a vagina, the placement of that penis does NOT just magically change. Even then, it’s made by surgeons not artists. They make a scientifically accurate vagina that will survive its purpose, they do not make a beautiful completely accurate vagina. Some people will kill you if they find out you’re trans in private. Tell me one thing, would you rather be hit in public where there are dozens of eyewitnesses who can testify on your behalf or would you rather die in a dusty motel room where no one can really prove who did it? Because that’s the shit that happens to trans people when they say that shit in private. You do it the first time you get them into a public setting and you don’t tell them your address or let them be anywhere in private with you or take your clothes off until you know they are be 1000% okay with dating/being near a trans person. It’s for your own safety.

Now the other reason for disclosing what’s in your pants to a potential sex partner is because sorry baby but some straight men/women just don’t want to sleep with someone with your genitals. It’s not transphobic to not like dick/vagina in any circumstances. Genitals are only a factor in sexuality aka they can still want to be with you for your other attributes but genitals are still a factor, to some people they’re just a bigger deal than to others. Put them first and put their comfort over yours. Think about what’s more nerve racking, telling someone you care about that you have a dick/vagina or getting into bed with someone and realizing they do not have what you think they have in their pants and then having to say you don’t want to sleep with them and possibly facing the “THATS BLANTENT TRANSPHOBIA!!!” bullshit. There’s also the inability to have children thing, but that one to me is kind of a given and I don’t really need to go into too much detail on this.

I don’t think gender fluidity is a legitimate thing because that means that it’s to some degree a personality trait/founded on stereotypes and I do not agree with that at all. But I am not genderfluid so for all I know it’s out there but I’m just not it.

Non binary to me isn’t really a gender but it’s more of a self expression tool, now this is really controversial and I’ve gone into more depth with it other places on that blog and it’s a bit different than trans to me so ima not get into that too much here.

Trans people go through tons of shit but we all do. This is just their battle, and some need to step up and take responsibility. Their struggle is acceptance; I can relate, my family is not accepting of my lack of religion and my sexuality. Their struggle is safety; I have that too, being gay and the fact that literally every other night I wake up to police lights and a new neighbor being carted off to jail for whatever reason (top hits such as: 80 pounds of cocaine under a trailer, that one guy who help 4 teenage girls hostage for 12 years, my neighbors who set their house on fire (with their kids inside how sane), the other neighbors who had actual heroine needles decording their yard, and then there’s all the times my house has been in danger with guns, drunk guys, high guys, people breaking down my door etc etc etc.) literally as I’m writing this I can see police lights out my window... And on top of all that the financial aspect of surgery and hormones; opp got one for that too i have health issues and hospital bills are hell so I’m currently unmedicated fun fun fun.

Basically people in general are good and I love them all to a degree, their opinions are just opinions and I can see that, but if I disagree I will say so and if people can’t handle that they should react with something other than “YOURE TRANSPHOBIC” because if I was, if I really really was, you’d know and I’d wear it like a crown. I am not transphobic and honestly while I’m not attracted to penises in any way and as of now wouldn’t want to date a women with a penis that doesn’t mean I’m closed off to it 100%. I haven’t been in that situation so I can’t say I would never.

-this is written after I got those asks-

Thanks for assuming I’d never date a trans person when I literally said that i wouldn’t currently want to date anyone with a penis that’s more of a thats not my thing than a Ew No Date Trannie He He He to me at least but whatever

Last note; I know I said this is my full opinion but ya know anxiety is a bitch and I think I heard a gunshot in the middle of this and I definitely heard a scream and a cat going v v fast around the neighborhood so naturally thinking isn’t very easy right now hahah if I die make sure that everyone may fuck my corpse because that’s what I would have wanted

#opinions

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Hello! I tried to stay far far away from his personal life a long time ago, I didn’t search m’s name since her face creeps me out, but the last event made me think and there is something I need to understand. You said in one of your previous posts that she is a “vile woman who fetishises LGBT+ people”. And more. What did she do?

Hi anon, sorry for the late response. Yesterday, I was far too angry to articulate my thoughts well and my wifi was terrible. But I’ve calmed down now so I can respond.

She fetishes gay men a lot. She made a sign last year saying ‘I had gay sex on this sign’ and made D hold it. She’s also responded to one person to comment on C’s ass since their handle was like ‘colfrsbutt’ and she wass like ‘Ooooh i love’s butt’. She has done a few other things I can’t remember right now but she rarely talks about LGBT people without making it sexual.

She also mocked C*ry M*nteith’s death which is why I strongly dislike her. Context for this tweet - CM was supposed to do a BTS interview with LM and C and D were going to do the same on the day CM died. Obviously, they had to reschedule. Then, when they finally recorded the interview with C&D, M posted this lovely tweet:

She has never apologised for this. IN fact, she only addressed it eight months later when someone who was a friend of Croy’s found out about it. He was made aware of it when he promoted her band and deleted the tweet he made about her band after learning what she said. After this, she went on a rage, blaming everyone who was angry and completely deflected the blame. It’s clear, she only addressed it because her promo was taken away. If she really felt bad, she would’ve addressed it when it happened and clarified what she meant. It’s not the first time she’s made fun of people with drug addictions though.

She said thsis when someone had been told by many of her fans to kill herself because she wasn’t a fan of M:

This one is minor and maybe not proof of anything but she was also consdecnding towards C. She was supposed to interview ohim on the red carpet and she bragged about it. He didn’t show up and she tweeted thsi:

(Also. This is speculation so no one come for me - but allegedly she assaulted D after this. She was on a rage, D defended C so she attacked him. THe next day this rumour was released, D showed up with a huge bruise on his face from ‘gum surgery’. I trust the source that told us this but like I said I do notknow if this is true and it’s speculation)

This is also a minor one, and one I thought was a joke at first. But conisdering her leaked post from instragram demanding presents, I think she’s just like this and it just isn’t something that’s apealing to me

Like I said, She might be joking. I’ll admit I would do jokes like that. (Especiallly since I have an uncommon name) but with her latest insta post that was leaked, I don’t think she was joking that much.

This tweet here bugs me, mostly since it raises issues with why people are against feminism

I do understand why people are criticl of feminsm. It is sadly filled with a lot of people who use it to shame people who aren’t ‘perfec’t and people who are just as sexist as the ones they claim to be against. And there’s SWERFs and TERFs (I should also point out, M has made a lot of TERF like comments that annoingly I can’t find but she’s made comments that have came across as only women have vaginas and onl men have penis). But comments like this... miss the point on misogyny. Men who hate women don’t hate them because ‘lel you can’t give them orgasm’s. It’s usuall a deeper reason than that. It also kind of ignores the fact htat there are gay men who are misogynists so this tweet just reeks of her wanting to cash in on activism to show how ood she is, while not really doing anything (since last years women’s march, I don’t remember her doing anything for feminsm and the fact she just follows D around and only lets herself be seen as hi GF raises a few eyebrows for me. I believe she’s a feminism of convenience rather than actually being one).

She has also insulted D a lot of times - most notable calling him a ‘D-bag’ during HATAI, is often quite rough with him (it’s even been bragged by friends and fans that she’s violen’t with him) and often uses him for photo ops. There’s at least two videos of her plastering a fake smile on her fce when she notices cameras and tries to make them more coupley.

I’ve probablly missed out a lot since I’ve been following this shit for six or seven yeras now but I hope this clears things up! I just want o say this is why i’m angry at the engement. I wouldn’t care if it was anyone else but it’s mostly due to it being her and because of the qu**rbaiting D has participated in over the years

#Anonymous #the terf #blah blah

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