#i know because i grew up catholic

[kinardscoffee]

All these people out here picking apart every scene looking to "prove" that Buddie will happen obviously missed the scene where Tommy KISSES Evan and asks him OUT ON A DATE.

There's also the scene where Buck ACTIVELY seeked out Tommy at his job.

Tommy also called Buck ADORABLE and gave him space, so he didn't feel PRESSURED.

Buck also went over to Maddie's and GUSHED OVER HIS FEELINGS ABOUT THE HOT PILOT.

And let's not forget when BUCK ASKED TOMMY TO HIS SISTER'S WEDDING BECAUSE HE WANTS HIM THERE AND TO DANCE WITH HIM.

Lou Ferrigno jr said that we can expect the interactions between Buck and Tommy at the wedding to be "so cute" so please settle down.

Eddie and Buck will not be confessing love or having an accidental (or nonaccidental) romp in the sheets during the Bachelor party.

Okay?

Okay.

[frozen-orbit]

I didn't expect this movie to hit me this hard AT ALL 😭😭😭😭😭 Literally changed my brain chemistry for good 🙏🏻 thank you Pixar

[factorialsotherfandoms]

Mini-event tomorrow as well lol? But early. Guy Fawkes Night the 5th Novemeber! But the event is 3rd!

Remember, remember, the 5th of November,

Gunpowder, treason and plot.

I see no reason

Why gunpowder treason

Should ever be forgot.

[xenonmoon]

OH THE YITZ THING, YEAH FUCK THAT.

IM JEWISH. READING THAT WAS LIKE. WHAT THE FUCK BEMIS. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK.

IT’S LIKE A WORST NIGHTMARE SCENARIO, WHAT WAS THE POINT OF THAT?????

The collective stuff is. . . mildly fun. The rest of this run? Throw it out.

It was disturbing to read as a gentile, I cannot even begin to imagine the horror of reading it as a jewish person. Many hugs pal

Thank you for the ask!

[yououghtaknow]

genuinely kind of terrified as to what will happen to me when i see bare live in three (three!!!!!!!!) days. i will either go fully insane or transcend mortality or perhaps both. either way i will most likely end up full weeping.

[slicedblackolives]

hi yknow that post making fun of protestants co-opting catholic aesthetics in their work and claiming it was inspired by their childhood religious trauma and asking them to make art about unadorned basements and steel folding chairs? that's succession. that protestant art is succession

[outlying-hyppocrate]

i don't really think about my race or my religion very much but. hmm

[anneslifeinchrist]

I’ve had at least three students this year tell me they thought I was Jewish. 

(I am their religion teacher at Catholic school, I have a papal flag in my room, I’m very known for saying y’all need Jesus - I’m still confused about how none of these are dead give aways.) 

“Well then why do you talk about Jewish and Muslim people, why do you wear a veil, why are there Hebrew letters in our room?” 

Because we are always going to combat ignorance with knowledge and hate with love. 

America (and Europe) is so Christianized and we truly do not realise how much of the “default” is Christian. The environment at our school is intentionally Christian - we are not meant to be a secular institution, that’s not our mission - but there is a great big world out there that still caters to Christianity. We are going to be going out into this big world and meeting all sorts of amazing people who do not follow Christian traditions. (And many who are also Christian but keep different practices themselves.) 

When we learn about new things we might be wary, that is different and we do not know about it - eww. (Like a toddler trying a new food.) If we speak of other traditions in class, even if it is brief, it means you already have these things in the back of your head when you encounter them in the world. Your instant reaction then, should not be negative.

If you already know that your Muslim friends will be fasting for Ramadan, that this is an important and communal part of their faith, you might need the reminder that it is Ramadan, but you can arrange schedules that suit their needs - be ready for alternate eating times. If you know that building booths outside is a part of a Jewish holiday, you won’t be as surprised when they pop up. (I thought this was the coolest thing ever as a little kid.) I am not able to teach you every detail of every religion and culture you will interact with (mostly because I don’t know myself), but you need to know that there are so many amazing people of faith in the world, with deep convictions just like yours, who are out there loving and caring for others just like you. The more you know, the more easily you can come to the table and break bread with others. 

Their differences do not erase their dignity and the call to love everyone and treat everyone with respect. There is far too much hate and discord in the world. It is fine that we disagree on what we believe, it is not fine to respond with hateful comments or words/actions that demean others. There are individuals of all religious backgrounds that do and say things that are a disgrace to the religion they claim to follow, you should never be one of them. 

The idea that presenting basic knowledge like ‘Muslims fast during Ramadan’, makes me somehow ‘other’ to what the students expect is terrifying. Their algorithms present such a single perspective of the world that deviation is absurd to them. Or they get deviations in the opposite direction - one of hatred and distrust. 

You don’t need to know everything about every religion, but you need to know that you are called first and foremost to love, not agree, but love. 

[scenicphoenix]

I care for my sister a lot, I really do. But some of the things she says and does just makes me so upset. Honestly I would like to cut contact. But I only know two to three people in real life and my sister is one of them, and my sister is legally blind and needs help getting places. (Mom won't be around forever and she isn't showing an interest in getting to know other people besides me and Mom)

She has no idea what boundaries are, and is so oblivious that it seems like she's trying to be malicious. I know she's not doing a lot of what she does to me specifically on purpose, but there is only so much I can take. Especially when she just doesn't listen to me even when I am practically begging her to just stop. I have had to pull the Mom card recently to get her to stop crossing my boundaries. She listened to mom and her counselor before the person literally saying "fucking stop". She had to be told by two people, who should have had nothing to do with our fight, that she had completely crossed a line and did everything completely wrong she possibly could have done wrong. Instead of the person begging her to stop, to stop crossing the line, to stop talking, to just stop. What is it about me that she won't respect. Is it because I'm the little sibling, is it because I wasn't perfectly fucking calm. She called my anger irrational. I think my anger was perfectly rational. With the shit she was doing and saying. With her once again crossing my boundaries even though I have shown her where the line is. Even when I literally said stop and she continued anyway.

There is just some things me and my sister should not be talking about. Because we have different opinions. We have different morals. So some topics are off limits. She often ignores this. An example of a topic? She's a Terf. She's into a particular anime trope. I have told her not to mention that anime trope. She likes to say that the anime trope isn't transphobic because it's "only in anime". Hell some of her views on things are enough for me to want to try and cut contact. She's bigoted and falls so easily down far right conspiracy rabbit holes. She's listened to Fox fucking news over me and sources I've shown her. Her morals are very middle-class bigoted white woman, cares more about animal welfare than human beings, she's into eugenics no matter how much she denies it. Which I find confusing because both me and her grew up disabled in major poverty in the goddamned country. I suppose my sister is proof of how strong propaganda and misinformation is. How does someone in the country think shearing sheep kills them, that all animal farming is bad. And yet also ignores that slavery still exists. And the thing is that when I told her our morals are different because I care more about people and she cares more about animals, she didn't deny it. She wanted to, but she couldn't.

Why won't she listen to anything I say but will with others? How come she disrespects me more than anyone else? She has done this even before I was trans, so I know it's not that. She has even asked herself why she treats me differently than others. So she realizes that she does this but doesn't know why. My best guesses are: I am the little sibling I am supposed to be dumber. My mood disorders and overall mental health. My physical resemblance to our dad, she has BAD memories of that asshole. She's competitive. She wants things to be like "the old days" even though the "old days" she remembers never really existed.

[corvidcall]

i think everyone should take time to think about their religious background and how it impacts their morals, manners, and their idea of what a religion even IS

But also when i do that for myself i think the results are really funny

[xocasper]

yep yep i’m back and here to say that something long is gonna drop soon. i’m talking 5k+. don’t ask.

[philsmeatylegss]

I only recently realized that not everyone grew up in a moderately strict Roman Catholic household because I’m in a 1400-1800s history class and I was the only one who knew the first few questions he asked about it and now I’m just the designated grew up catholic.

[vampirepuppygirl]

You know, I grew up catholic and never experienced catholic guilt, and it still kind of confuses me

When I went to mass, the readings and the gospel were always just life lessons or stories to make you think, and what it wanted you to think about was usually humility and piety and loyalty and faith and stuff like that

Faith formation was mostly about learning the history of the church and important stories that you should remember, plus prayer memorization

I don't ever actually remember a time where they were specifically like "you must feel guilty about this" or "everyone by default deserves to go to hell and you must constantly prostrate before god to be deemed worthy"

It was "everyone sins and everyone drifts away from god and that's okay because he will never abandon you"

It was "Jesus died for your sins. To liberate you from them so you're no longer beholden to the old way, so you're no longer beholden to original sin, so you can have a clean slate without ceaseless penance"

The sin forgiveness cycle that Catholics kind of get pulled into was always described to me as a liberating cycle. It gives you the freedom to sin and the freedom to make mistakes as you bumble through the blind chaos of life without worrying about perfection or damnation

Even when I went to confession it wasn't just a blanket "don't do it again" it was "think about why that is a sin and let that experience teach you something."

If I know anything about catholics it's that they love rules and they love the pursuit of knowledge, I once had a very long conversation with a priest about why a certain rule was a rule and why a certain sin was a sin and it was a lot more complicated than just "god said so," even if I can't remember the specifics anymore

I don't know, maybe it was my specific diocese or I've just been around a lot of liberal priests or something, but I even had someone tell me basically word for word "As long as you follow the ten commandments and use the seven virtues as a framework to guide you, you're set. Use confession to scrub away the sins you can't avoid and that's it. Nobody is without sin so just do your best and that's all anyone can ask of you."

Primarily, what growing up catholic taught me was just the importance of love

Love your family, love your neighbor, love a stranger, love the Earth, love nature, and fundamentally love yourself. And forgive yourself. And be patient with yourself. Because I was taught that everyone sins and that's okay.

And that's okay.

I was taught that seeking absolution and forgiveness is meant to steer you in the right direction, yes for the ultimate goal of heaven, which was defined to me as Oneness with God. And hell was defined to me not as a multi-tiered demon filled demiplane of fire and brimstone and ice, but simply the state of separation from god.

But it wasn't just about salvation it was also about making the Earth we live in now a better place and they are rules specifically to facilitate good communication and good relationships with other people and yourself, and obviously God (but whatever.) It was always basically let God absolve you of your guilt but don't force yourself to feel guilty if you make a mistake.

I don't really consider myself catholic anymore, mostly because of other people, catholics and protestants who use their religion as a tool to spread hateful rhetoric and become their own personal left hand of God, instead of using their religion to spread love and patience and understanding and forgiveness and tolerance and all of the things that they actually fucking preach. Why y'all throwing stones huh? Y'all ain't without sin. Literally nobody is. That's the point.

But I like what I was taught. I use what I was taught a lot. Technically even if I don't consider myself catholic I still am. I have been confirmed, I could waltz right into a catholic church confess my sins and my doubts and have a long conversation with a priest and boom blank slate once more. There would be penance hoops I would have to jump through but that's literally what happens with every confession, so still

But that's always what confused me about Catholic guilt like

What were you taught?

[astrxealis]

astarion... the man that you are.....

[erenalias]

I work in a very polish and very Catholic town with only older women in my department. Sometimes it’s been really scary, especially recently, to be visibly Jewish in the surrounding stores before or after work. That being said there really is no feeling quite like walking into work with a new Tichel and 3 Polish grandmas swarming you and telling you that they “Had a babushka Just like this one in the old country!” It makes me feel so safe and welcomed as the only non-Catholic.

[pizzathumbs]

Is there anything more uncomfortable being in the door with a sweet old Jehovah's witness outside and a man that hates religion inside yelling at you to slam the door.