#i want to understand

[narcissistcookbook]

can someone help me make sense of these images? left to right it's before anti-aging skin treatment, after 12 weeks of treatment, after one year of treatment - and like, she starts off glowing and ends up looking dead? is it just me??

[manicpixiedreambens]

Here’s a question: according to Jenny, she knows all of the eligible bachelorettes in Port Townsend and there are lots of ladies with lots of cats. So like… are those cats also in league with the Cat King, or is it only the stray cats? Or if a stray cat gets adopted does that mean that that household is now protected by the Cat King? Please I have so many questions about this I need answers

[paladibun]

Will Byers explain

[alfiely-art]

Okay guys hold on

I've been seeing a lot of Desuhiko hate on my dash, and sure he's annoying when it comes to women, but like

He never came across as a misogynist...?? At least to me

Can someone show me when he was like that?

Sure it's annoying that he flirts with every woman he sees, but. Once he realizes they're not interested he backs off

Like. Compare him to this archetype in danganronpa.

Hifumi? Calls literal children shotas and lolis.

Toko? Just. Look at how she talks about Togami. The man isn't even interested AND she reminds him of an abuser

Teruteru? Drugs Hajime and tries to trick Sonia into shit.

Souda? Wouldn't stop chasing Sonia even though it was obvious she wasn't interested.

Miu? Literally assaulted people and flashed children

Desuhiko doesn't really come close? Except maybe to Souda? But Desuhiko DOES back off when he realizes he's not getting anywhere with a person

So can someone please explain why they hate him so much to me? Like genuinely I wanna understand that viewpoint

(Also before anyone asks I am simply pointing out flaws in the danganronpa characters listed. I love a good chunk of the ones I listed.)

[murder-hobo]

Someone please explain to me why people enjoy hurt/no comfort and hard angst in general??

I'm all for people reading and enjoying whatever they want, don't get me wrong! I'm just honest to gods baffled why anyone would enjoy such mental and emotional torture >.>

I personally feel actual physical pain when reading stuff like that and my brain just feels off for a good while x_x

[appalesbian]

tops of the world…. give me your wisdom. what happens in those beautiful brains of yours. you are an enigma to me but I wish to learn

[the-decapod]

I want to actively comprehend you.

[lemonluvgirl]

Hey other writers

Is it just me or does it sometimes feel like the stuff you don't try all that hard to write ends up being some of the stories people respond to the most?

Because I can spend weeks agonizing over and editing/re-editing certain scenes from a fic I'm completely invested in, dream about at night, and love to death and it makes about the same splash as a drop of water in the pond, but then I turn around and write some drabbles about a/b/o crack that I post on Tumblr, unbeta-read, that takes me like 30 minutes tops to write and the response like night and day...

All this to say...

I've been writing fanfiction for about 2 years now and I still don't understand how any of this works. Why do some things grab people's attention more than others?

Is it because of tropes? Is that why people read?

Is it the size of a story? Are more people prone to read drabbles than multichapter fics?

Anybody got any ideas, because while I'm not going to become a slave to the masses and churn out a bunch of fics to please people, I genuinely want to understand this phenomenon.

Because unanswered questions bug the hell out of me.

[cielpansyhive]

I've noticed the past few years that some people tag platonic relationships with ship names. I'm trying to understand the reason for it. No judgement, I just don't get it. I see it mostly in the Voltron fandom but I have seen it in others.

On AO3 there's the slash option but also the & option. So if a friendship is important they could use "Person A & Person B" instead of "Person A/Person B." With the ship name they'll tag as "platonic (ship name)." So for example, I'll use sheith, it would be tagged "platonic sheith."

At first I thought maybe if there was an actual relationship but it wasn't sexual...but then there's still romance so that's not quite right. Platonic is platonic. Is there such a thing as a relationship that isn't sexual or romantic but it's more than a friendship? Because to me that just sounds like friendship. There are friends that become family, there are best friends, there are platonic soul mates, but it's all on the friendship scale somewhere. I ask only because I don't understand, once again not judging.

Another thought I had, if somone uses the ship tag but isn't making real shippy stuff, are they saying while they don't write it themselves they aren't against it? Kind of like saying, "you're safe here." There are plenty of things I don't write myself but I enjoy reading other people's work with it.

Maybe in a later work set in the same AU there is a relationship, but it's not there in that work. Like, "warning: this series will eventually have this ship."

Or is it just that they don't know how to tag things? I'm not a tag snob, I'm not perfect with tags either. I just want to know if these are people that would be welcoming or not. I would think if they hated the ship they wouldn't use the ship name even in a platonic way. But I just don't understand the intention behind it, so I don't want to risk things. I've seen it done so often that I feel like I've missed out on something.

[caleblandrybones]

what is tommy armitages deal. I ask this with no animosity but I remember maybe one line of dialogue from him throughout the whole show and yet he gets a nickname. is it his curls and big wet eyes

[unabashedhonesty]

Am I...transgender?

I’ve felt my whole life like I am not a proper female. I remember me, as young as three years old, arguing vehemently with my maternal parental unit that I am a BOY, gd it! I’ve had barbies and dresses and the color PINK forced on me my entire childhood. (I despise pink to this very day because of the association.) I wanted to play sports like wrestling and football, but I couldn’t because those were “for boys”. And then I learned when I was a teenager that I like both genders — but not sex. And I was apparently “wrong” for both of those things. I always had to talk and behave a certain way because of my genitals, which never sat well with me. When I finally started to live with the notion that I-have-a-uterus-and-sizable-breasts-so-logic-dictates-that-I-am-a-girl, I tried to embrace my “place” in the world and started focusing on how to be a “proper lady”, yet all the sudden I was “slutty” and a “hoochie” “outspoken” and “disrespectful” and should dress “conservatively”, even though girls who showed off their looks apparently got praise and approval (it didn’t help that the only affection I ever got was from the “family friend” who got way too handsy with me, but I took it because here was someone who was finally being nice to me).

When I finally got away from toxic relatives and out on my own, I tried to be a proper woman, but the label “woman” never settled in and I waited my entire twenties to feel “right”. Then tragedy hit me and my partner and living became survival again, thus I no longer cared what I looked like or what people thought. I stopped wearing makeup so much, I stopped shaving my legs and armpits, I stopped the painful process of waxing my face, and THEN!! For the first time, I actually felt comfortable in my skin. I stopped wearing bras so much. I started wearing geeky t-shirts and jeans and biker boots. I talk in a way that feels right to me, and not how a “lady” should. I stopped sitting like a “lady” and I don’t take shit from anybody anymore. I began to realize that I never liked being referred to as a “she” and would jokingly tell my friends to not accuse me of being a woman. Then I started an anonymous, faceless, genderless Twitter (before the muskrat takeover) as a social experiment, and learned that I LIKED it when everyone just assumed I was a guy. I didn’t correct them because I didn’t want them to change the way they talked to me.

I then came to the conclusion that I’m genderfluid. I prefer they/them pronouns, but I really do enjoy he/him. I still know how to be a “woman”, and I still occasionally present myself as one when it’s needed (or when it’s not a good idea to get into correcting people). I still thought I was stuck being a woman when I met my partner, so I will happily be a woman for them from time to time, because that’s what they’re attracted to and I still want to be attractive to them. But they never try to make me be anything, and certainly doesn’t shame me for my gender issues — they love and support me whatever I’m feeling. (They still refer to me as “she”, but that’s what I still was when we met nearly a decade ago and it’s hard for them to switch, so I don’t hold it against them; they’re not malicious about it at all). And if I’m feeling particularly masculine — even for weeks or months at a time — they don’t try to stop me from being just that. For most of my life, I’d never heard of transgender or gender-affirming care or anything of the sort (due to being raised in an EXTREMELY conservative environment), but once I started educating myself about it so I could support others, it started to make a lot of sense to me. But I’m still learning and trying to understand it all, so I beg of you, LGBTQIA+ side of Tumblr, to PLEASE help me understand what exactly I am and what I’m going through. I know how I feel — have ALWAYS felt — and that is most certainly NOT feminine. Am I genderqueer? Am I Trans? Is this real? Am I a hypochondriac? Is it all in my head? Am I just confused? Please help!!! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤎🤍🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[fretbored34]

To be fair, I don't understand much 🤷‍♀️

[platypusisnotonfire]

I want to be the kind of soft dude that gets poetry but I am just too stupid to understand it

[celluloidbroomcloset]

I am so perplexed as to why there seem to be newer (female? queer?) fans of The Avengers who don't think Steed and Mrs. Peel are sleeping together? What do you think is going on there, then?

[vastimagines]

Everyone here: Wilburs a bad dad

Same mother fuckers: OH MISSA ITS OKAY YOURE A GREAT DAD