#i'm trans fyi

[fallout-lou-begas]

so i picked up a brand new prescription today

[punkeropercyjackson]

Stephanie Brown wouldn't relate to Taylor Swift's music,she'd relate to Ethel Cain's music.Lower class + Abused by men all the time + Csa survivor + Died and got ressurected + Transgender

[quarks-pussy]

[Images description: Twelve pictures of Star Trek actors. The phrase "thank you for being both amazing actors and amazing people" is written across most of the images one word at a time, except for the two images in the middle. The middle images are of William Shatner, reading "not you!" and Robert Beltran, reading "or you for that matter". The actors in the other images are George Takei, René Auberjonois, DeForest Kelley, Gates McFadden, Wil Wheaton, Kate Mulgrew, Patrick Stewart, Siddig El Fadil (aka Alexander Siddig), Nichelle Nichols and Leonard Nimoy. End image description.]

Non exhaustive list of course. Many more such cases, in fact feel free to add

(insp)

[pathetic-gamer]

Too late, you Menstruate now

me, receiving this ask:

[die-tenebris]

FASCINATING.

1. Did I even reblog anything?

2. Want citations for what ways specifically which trans men are awful

3. Marginalized people need to earn support and community? Really? Not a valid or addressable point.

Imagine if this said trans women instead of men. Do me a favor and read it that way real quick and let's take notice of how that might change how one feels about these sentences.

[vocaloid-hcs-spam]

len was the type of kid to "crush" on anyone who was nice to him (haha same).

anyways so when miku was the first person outside of his family to make him feel truly respected as a trans man without coming out first. there came the crush.

but also she did his hair a few times til he found a style he liked and mmm domestic intimacy cute.

[wild-at-mind]

I wonder if there is a particular loneliness in being a trans person who transitions within a relationship with someone who never considered themselves part of the LGBTQ community at all. :(

[squirmmm]

received possibly the most polite solicitation of my life today... ummmm content warning for description of transphobic sexual harassment but! when someone opens with "i hope i can ask without offending you" it's an immediate "yup. this is a 'what are you' conversation" to me, but turns out the guy was cruising and not a chaser. like ok sure, fundamentally what's the difference? i am a little over vilifying everyone who sees trans people and wants to bang them. but STILL normally that kind of interest from random strangers on the street goes into 'you should be grateful some people are into tr*nnies" reaaaal quick once i am not receptive. but this was some guy pretty far on in years, with a mobility aid *full* of daily necessities at the buy nothing event i run cleanup on, and at first my other friend was helping him find pants that fit him. and later he addresses me with that "hope i can ask without offending you.... Are you bisexual?" and pressed me when i said something vague about 'just knowing i'm different from the majority' (0% interested in detailing my experiences for strangers. i keep it honest but insubstantial). and i was ready for it to turn into him being a jerk but he actually said "i think i'm kind of like that too." n after a little clarification/sharing i started to drift back to the cleanup and said to let me know if there was anything i could help him with n he said "maybe there is but you're working" and im like. oh, well, is it something quick? and he said: "don't tell me THAT went over your head." and honestly he was kind of sweet the whole time! and YES he was absolutely angling for a handjob in the park restroom that always smells like piss and YES i was absolutely not into it but. it was very different from how i am used to randos clocking me and trying to hook up and while i wasn't flattered i was oddly moved

[notsocheezy]

Brain Curd #126 - Poetry Precursor #2

Brain Curds are lightly edited flash fiction poetry - practically first drafts - posted daily (haven't missed one yet!) and sometimes written with the express intention of being terrible… but, you know, in an endearing way. Please like and reblog if you enjoy - the notes keep me going!

Wait

Clinging to body-pillow relief,

Dreamt fantasies of another me,

Here to comfort my aching soul

Naked as the day birthed

And just as filthy, sweating,

Tossing, turning, spinning, burning,

She too, I see with horror,

Bears the unwanted gift

And hides in unspoken words

So I recoil, distant on the mattress,

Her dark eyes dissolving unto me,

Will it happen again, that the nightmare will not be over?

You out there, in the world which frightens me to wake;

You in the distant days, know what I say as I type:

In a week and a seventh, I shall be dead or headless.

No more.

[fujikos-gun]

it's so fucked honestly

[rvstled]

sideblog mostly for otherkin/hearted stuff + poetry/art.

In general I'm just a stray werewolf/dogboy. I mostly ID with/as wolfdogs, and eurasian wolves, as well as regular humanity. He/him only.

I identify as somewhere between otherhearted and therian. Sometimes I feel fully like an animal, but most of the time I feel like a human with canine features (ears, tail, claws, fangs, etc.). I've felt these phantom features for as long as I can remember.

I don't wanna follow from my main so just imagine this is stray dog rp where I visit your porch (blog) sometimes for food (posts) /j

Content warnings and tags under the cut.

I tag major triggers, but keep in mind that I enjoy horror and a majority of posts I reblog will either be depressing or horror (or both). There might also be suggestive or crude posts sometimes, but that's not the focus of this blog nor will it ever be.

Common "triggers" I reblog are #horror, #gore, and #blood. There's more, but those are the ones I tag frequently.

If you find the contents of my blog uncomfortable, or don't want me to interact for any reason, just block me. I do the same.

TAGS:

#poetry, #writing (for misc text), #art, #dogposting (for alterhuman stuff)

[gemisbored]

giving yourself a transmasc fursona is a very cis girl thing to do, right?

[maslows-pyramid-scheme]

I'll answer soon, anon. I mostly agree with you about the failures of radical feminists, I just don't see proponents of any other liberation (or even social) movement being that different...

[backtothebog]

the "vile fascist view" of thinking woman = adult human female

wow you terfs are fast😂

do you lounge in anti terf tags to be offended all day

gosh, get a hobby, go outside, touch some grass, try to be happy instead of repeating misogynistic views and using literal nazi terminology, maybe, while claiming to defend women's rights

get a life

[gloomy-prince]

I love the Trans Eddie AU though I am very curious what inspired you to make it? Since it could've been just a regular Reddie AU so why make Eddie trans?

Fyi I'm not mad about it I'm transmasc myself and it makes me so happy to have the representation!!

i've answered this before but just to boil it down i like him and relate to him and when I feel that way about a character this happens

and then i accidentally made a whole comic about it. so the trans hc came before the idea to make a comic did lol

[ms-demeanor]

hello! sorry to bother w this but im sort of desperate at this point. given your post about school abuse: so like. i had a similar experience and i thought that i had sorted my brain out. BUT. big but. now im trans and every time i have to correct people w/ misgender or come out to people that i dont already know their opinion on the issue, i get an anxiety attack that makes me unable to do it. ive told many therapists and no one so far has understood why im terrified of making stuff that other people can perceive as me being difficult to work with. would you have *any* advice? thanks!

Okay so first of all it is totally valid to feel that way; that isn't an irrational response, that is your body and brain going "!!!! I have learned this lesson before!" But just because it's a sensible response doesn't mean it's functional in the long term, which is why it needs to be addressed (which I'm sure you already know, I'm just explaining for people in the back).

So now here is some meandering advice:

Spend time with people you already know you can trust. It's okay to take a break from new people and situations (as much as is possible) when you are processing traumatic events and learning to care for yourself. Spending time with people who you don't have to come out to, who don't misgender you, can help you normalize being out and correctly gendered to yourself.

Recognize that you don't have to be out to everyone and some assholes aren't worth it. This is going to depend some on the context, but you don't owe everybody an explanation for yourself and if people repeatedly misgender you after being corrected you may just be better off not spending time around those people.

Loop in trusted people in low-stakes ways. If you get the sense that someone who you think is pretty safe has misgendered you on accident, it might still feel too intimidating to correct them in person but it might be a good idea to follow up with text or a call or a message to say "hey, just FYI, I think I heard you use a/b pronouns for me earlier, I just wanted to let you know that I use c/d pronouns. Did you want to meet up again next week?" the breakdown on why I think this is effective is - Distance means you're safe - nonthreatening "FYI" means you aren't saying "I'm offended" and assumes good faith from the other person - feels less accusatory (not that you need to tone police yourself, but if you're trying to lower the stress level overall then assuming it was a mistake and letting them know you don't think it was on purpose should reduce the overall tension) - request to meet up again or topic switch to something lighter once again says "I'm not mad, that was just regular information, we can now return to our scheduled programming"

I think that, generally speaking, this is also a decent way to come out to people if you're nervous; physically remote and emotionally casual can be a good place to work from (even if you're actually panicking in your head but you can pull off casual in a written message)

Find (or create) a space where people are 100% going to support you. If you need to create a discord server, if you need to schedule a regular coffee date with trusted friends or family members, whatever it is, give yourself a space where you are unconditionally supported and can have people to bounce ideas and concerns off of. Even if it's just you and one other person, it's good to know you have *someone* who you can say "I think I want to tell this other person to use my pronouns but it's scary" to and know that you're not at risk in any way. I'd say try to make sure that you're still interacting with people outside of that space, but have a space to retreat to where you can just drop the worry.

Recognize that somebody else's problem is not a reflection of you. If you have, for instance, a coworker who is being a piece of shit and refusing to recognize your gender, that is not a reflection of your gender that is a reflection of them being a piece of shit. If there is a classmate or a sibling who uses the wrong pronouns after being corrected that doesn't mean you're not entitled to your pronouns that means they are being a piece of shit. Some people are just not going to accept you and that's on them. Try to minimize your time spent with them and if you have to spend time with them at work take steps to ensure your safety, but don't fight losing battles with assholes.

It really is legitimately scary. You have good reasons to be scared and you are doing a very frightening thing (and not to do the meme thing but you are legitimately being so brave about it; the fact that you are reaching out and asking anyone for help, including randos on the internet, means that you are taking steps to doing the scary thing and that is SO GOOD and I'm really proud of you for making the effort in spite of the fear).

Here is some less meandering advice:

Practice. Talk to yourself in the mirror, practice with friends, practice with your therapist. Practice coming out to yourself in a casual way. Practice correcting your pronouns. Practice an introduction for yourself that explains the information you want to give to new people you might meet. Get it down to a quick little patter, get it to be something that's easy to say to yourself in the mirror first, then try it with friends for practice, then try it around the safer people you might want to give the information to. It'll get easier as you go.

Look for a local support group (or an online support group). If there's a local LGBTQ+ center you should see if they've got events going on or a support group you can join or workshops or any manner of social thing where you can go interact with people who have been through similar stuff.

Journal. Each time you find yourself frightened of talking to someone about your gender, do what you need to to get through the day and then sit down and think about that interaction. Write down what happened, write down what you were thinking. Was there something in particular that made you anxious? Is it something you can practice addressing? Was there something you noticed about the person that made you uncomfortable? Is that a common thread in the times you have trouble talking about this? If you're able to narrow down specifically what is making it hard to speak to some people that might make it easier to explain to therapists but will also make it more actionable for you.

Here's some very optimistic advice:

If at all possible find a friend who will be rabid and unflinching in their support for you and hang out with them around new people. Get yourself an attack dog copilot who will cheerfully step up and make corrections for you. I know not everyone can do this and I know that if you can find someone like this they can't be around all the time, but it can be wonderfully reassuring to find that one person who you know is going to be ride or die about making sure that everyone in the room respects you. (Being that person for someone else can also teach you how to be that person for you)