#idk I know I’m not articulating this well

[wavesoutbeingtossed]

Can I just talk about how much I love the wordplay of “Suburban Legends”???

The way that an urban legend is a story that’s been passed around so far and wide and often that it’s accepted as true (folklore, if you will) or at least believable or exciting enough to keep passing on from campfire to campfire.

And then in this song it’s suburban legends because the story’s been papered over, it’s become a cliche, a poor replica of the real thing. The (cool) urban legend of this hot, epic romance for the ages everyone would talk about forever has been replaced by the (all too familiar, devoid of authenticity) suburban legend of being toyed with and losing herself in a relationship that once again leads to heartache because they can’t be genuine with each other about what they actually want. It’s not a cool story; it’s pedestrian, it’s another blip in the radar of their young lives (just like the suburbs are the epitome of boring in pop culture, cookie-cutter and bland and forgettable and soulless, compared to the magic of the city where anything could happen and everyone wants to be in). It’s not an epic love story for the ages, they won’t be spoken of far and wide, they’re on the periphery of the real thing but never quite making it.

Her mind 🤌

[citizen-zero]

it drives me nuts how it feels like you can’t talk about certain feminist issues anymore without inevitably getting called a TERF even if you’re not one. like I hate TERFs and I think the pushback against them is fully justified but sometimes it feels as if, in our efforts to make bigots unwelcome, we’ve unintentionally ceded ground to them and made it so people think of TERFs when they think of feminists. which is the opposite of what we want.

your feminism has to be intersectional but like, that means acknowledging that not all women are going to have the same kinds of problems. gay women and straight women have lots of issues that will never overlap. same with women of color and white women. I don’t think it should be controversial to recognize that the same is true for trans women + AFAB people and cis women. I think it’s okay for some conversations to only focus on one or the other.

idk this is mostly a problem I see in left leaning spaces bc the conversation in broader society already mainly focuses on feminism in white cishet terms but the answer isn’t to do a whole 180 and shut down conversations about issues that primarily impact cis women and AFAB people and make people nervous about talking about those issues, the answer is to continually affirm that trans women are women regardless of AGAB.

[viktoriakomova]

Not to get Sad but like. I miss not knowing what’s going on with gymnastics in a way lmao? Like I peer pressured (complimentary, pat-on-back celebration worthy 😎) some of my normie friends into getting bama szn tix and I brought them to a meet last year and they were so so jazzed about like. ALL of it.

In a way I do understand bc it’s all just so impressive to Normies who mostly can’t even touch their toes let alone do a passable cartwheel etc so like EVERYTHING is awesome by default. And that’s not true of basketball football etc like most able bodied people can do the basics of those sports even if their performance is terrible. Most people can throw a ball or dribble it even if they suck, or carry it and run at some speed. But yeah ykwim

Like one of my friends, his favorite skill is a double pike on floor. He just thinks it’s the most impressive thing and he loves watching it every single time, he doesn’t know shit about difficulty ratings he’s just watching what’s in front of him and in a way I’m extremely jealous of him 😭😭😭😭

[south-sea]

shadow having days where he’s more kid than adult, and more adult than kid

but also days where he’s more maria than shadow

[meebles]

i wish i knew how to not take things so personally. rationally i know that it’s completely valid and genuinely a good thing for people to have different opinions about characters and ships and whatever and it’s not that deep etc. and yet there’s still this irrational part of me who just wants to give up writing completely because am i doing this right? are they in character? am i using too many “overused” fandom tropes? am i interpreting this completely wrong? even when i believe i’ve done a lot of thinking and retrospective and tried to genuinely understand these characters and their motivations

idk man i just want to have fun, and i know a part of that is just doing my own thing and not worrying about what other people like and not getting worked up about it. but it’s hard sometimes.

[silent-partner-412]

i watched a video about what it means to be “basic” or “unique” regarding consumption and it was a good video and it had me thinking about my relationship with media and it’s popularity. cuz i gotta be honest, popularity is almost necessary for a story or game to have longevity for me cuz the community becomes a HUGE aspect of it for me.

to illustrate this: 13 sentinels aegis rim. this was a phenomenal game i played this august. i liked basically everything about it; it was absolutely engrossing. it had all the pieces in place to become a big hyperfixation for me, and it didn’t. and i gotta be honest, it’s cuz there was nobody to talk about it to!! the game didn’t sell well at launch, and even though it’s doing a bit better now, it’s also been years, and most people that were super into it have moved on. posting about it felt like shouting into a void, you go into the tags here or the subreddit for it and there ARE fans, but not a lot of them. i found a handful of videos about the game on youtube and i enjoyed them, i tried to find fan art and fanfiction, but it just wasn’t enough. within days i moved on, and i kinda feel sad about that.

compare that to stardew valley, which i’m still posting about to the point where i feel like i should be exhausted by this point. but i’m not! this game is massive, it has sold millions of copies and has dedicated communities all over the internet. there is a copious amount of activity and love for this game that in turn becomes all kinds of fan creations and discussions, meaning i can be invested in basically just this game for weeks and not even have to play the game itself. and honestly? i vastly prefer this type of relationship to a game or piece of media, i just have more fun with it. i can say the same with most things with big passionate fanbases; as aggravating as i can find fanbases for games like fire emblem or xenoblade there is always activity within those fanbases which is way more sustainable for my attention.

this is why i find it funny that being into popular or “basic” things is mocked, cuz honestly i like being into popular things more than niche things. it doesn’t necessarily make popular things better than niche things, but there’s a certain aspect of community to it that feels nice, and you just don’t get that as much with more niche stuff.

[steveharrington]

will never like nickisnotgreen because the one time someone made a very fair critique of him (and other commentary youtubers) using misogynistic dudes online as easy slam dunks for them to make surface level lukewarm commentary on like “women ARE people actually” and in turn receive praise and money he like literally threw a fit and didn’t even address the concern. how are u gonna have a fanbase that is like 95% women and then get mad when they don’t worship you for doing the bare minimum of condemning misogyny

[wavesoutbeingtossed]

There has been so much excellent discussion on my dash this morning, especially musing on the privacy vs secret thing, and once again thinking about how strange it must be to go from thinking “I must shrink myself and avoid public sightings for the sake of my sanity and personhood” to realizing that perhaps you are shrinking yourself in public specifically because the person you’re with doesn’t (or people you’re with don’t) want your personhood to infringe on their peace of mind 😵‍💫

[ectoplasmer]

sorry it’s early and i’m brushing my teeth while the sun is rising since I passed out last night before I got the chance to, and we’re getting genuine sunlight for the first time in weeks, and I’m busy contemplating just how ridiculous this series is

[clownsnake]

if flowey is a foil to the player in one direction, where your status of being a higher power detaches you emotionally from the people in the world of undertale (thereby allowing you to do otherwise immoral acts like murder), then it can be said that ralsei is a foil to the player in the opposite direction. What this means, I don’t entirely know. just remember how ralsei keeps so much faith in the narrative’s plans for him

making this unrebloggable bc while i love the conclusion I made here, I'm not super confident in how I've worded this. But I want to get this idea out there anyway so. U can look but u can't touch. Enjoy

[bungee-gum-b1tch]

so 3.3 happened… what the fuck hoyoverse

rambling in the tags cuz i have way too many thoughts about this

[wilberave]

i mean i do love them, but on one hand i really think the haha autism funny memes on here are like… genuinely doing more harm than good in terms of how autistic people are treated. like, it’s great that people with lower support needs who don’t present symptoms in a traditional way are being recognized and getting diagnosed but at the same time, this website lacks absolutely any and all critical thinking skills. so people think “well i’m autistic and so obviously i have the same experience as every other autistic person, and if anyone implies differently they’re an idiot” which is why we end up with people making stupid ass fucking posts like “i’m the cool kind of autistic not the trains/steven universe/whatever other thing i’ve deemed cringe type of autistic :)” and people making fun of childish or weird special interests or people not reading social cues or just all kinds of shit that they’ve decided they don’t want to cloud this new Cool Edgy Autism brand that’s being built and it’s SO bizarre??

it reminds me a lot of the transmed shit honestly, in that being part of a marginalized community doesn’t mean you don’t need to unlearn your internal biases toward that community.

like how is calvin garrah bullying some non-binary kid with rainbow hair because they “make the trans community look bad” any different from you bullying some fandom blogger because “not all autistic people are cringey weirdos and they make us look bad”

[and-i-said-fewer]

au where burn butcher burn and whoreson prison blues are switched

[kavehater]

AURGHH I KEEP FLASHBACKING TO THE AWKWARD SITUATION TODAY

[snapbackslide]

i’ve finally caught up to all my messages. finally texted everyone back 😭 and my closest irl friend and i talked as if no time has passed & nothing happened. it's unsettling to me bc i need to fix the issues, i can’t act like nothing happened, but my loneliness is overtaking my need to correct problems so i think for now it’s enough