#idk if that’s like. a red flag or not

[lesbiacnh]

third date PLANNED. we cut this date a little short bc her stomach hurt

[inkskinned]

he says i hate everyone except you and that is addictive and that is kind of romantic and beautiful because you're young and you're kind of a sarcastic asshole too and you don't like bad boys, per say, but you don't really like good ones either. and you like that you were the exception, it felt like winning.

except life is not a romance book, and he was kind of being honest. he doesn't learn to be nice to your friends. he only tolerates your family. you have to beg him to come with you to birthday parties, he complains the whole time. you want to go on a date but - people are often there, wherever you're going. he's just so angry. about everything, is the thing. in the romance book, doesn't he eventually soften? can't you teach him, through your own sense of whimsy and comfort?

at first - you know introverts often need smaller friend groups, and honestly, you're fine staying at home too. you like the small, tidy life you occupy. you're not going to punish him for his personality type.

except: he really does hate everyone but you. which means he doesn't get along with his therapist. which means he has no one to talk to except for you. which means you take care of him constantly, since he otherwise has no one. which means you sometimes have to apologize for him. which means he keeps you home from seeing your friends because he hates them. you're the single exception.

about a decade from this experience, you'll type into google: how to know if a relationship is codependent.

he wraps an arm around you. i hate everyone except you. these days, you're learning what he's actually confessing is i have very little practice being kind.

[valtianan]

red flags 1/3

[wigglybunfish]

Worst Most unhinged throuple in Edo period Japan.

Or, alternatively: hey what if they were all great and happy and satisfied. AND had two hands.

[softer-rounder-larger-heavier]

I’m kind of of two minds because on the one hand I know that feeders get a mostly undeserved bad rap as being universally shitty and abusive when in reality the things we talk about are just in the realm of kink, but on the other hand sometimes I go on another feeder’s blog and I just have this visceral reaction of oh…. You really DON’T respect fat people do you. Like you clearly actually look down on us (me included because I’m a fat feeder!!) but think it’s hot so you come on tumblr to get off. So I guess what I’m saying here is if you’re a feeder, especially a thin feeder I’m like 99% less likely to trust your intentions if you never break character and make it clear you see fat people as like, human beings and respect us when you’re not jerking off. Idk I just have been thinking more and more that building intentional community in this space is a good idea shrugs

[sunny12th]

I don't think we need a monologue or explicit statement from Dany renouncing the Targaryens of Old Valyria for owning slaves and the Old Valyrians for spreading slavery through Essos. She never thinks about them, she doesn't have them on a pedestal in her mind. She has a favorable viewpoint of her immediate family, mostly Rhaegar, that she was taught by her brother. I dont think we need to see Dany explicitly state for the readers that her slave owning ancestors were evil and she disagrees with them because her actions show this.

[kil9]

fun and funnyyy side effect of autism is that sometimes when you fail the social check ppl just assume you want to kill people

[storge]

Who are you? I’m your fiance.

FAN ZHIXIN as Yan Xingcheng My Lethal Man (2023)

[nostalgia-tblr]

I thought it'd be handy to have a tag for Sylvie being shady in fics, to make it easier to find. But what? 'Shady Sylvie'? 'Trickster Sylvie'? Then I remember that 'Warning: Loki' is a tag and as the saying goes what's good for the gander should also be offered to the goose, so

Warning: Sylvie

[twinge-of-cosmicangst]

I do wonder how Colin is going to react to Pen being Whistledown, with the complications the show has added. Your love interest almost ruining the reputation of your sister and actually ruining the reputation of your first betrothed, like one could maybe be overlooked but both is a bit much.

[gayangelcrimes]

Why was there never a Hotel California episode why was there not an episode about a hotel in the middle of nowhere that looks pretty normal at first glance but the food is strangely bland because they don't use salt, and some of the other guests have no idea what year it is, and the staff are strangely insistent that they can't leave right now, and when they look closer all the people there are ghosts that aren't aware they're dead, and the hotel is cursed, and they're trapped in there

[emily-mooon]

Made a little comic based on this post by @/puyopuyopopee

[k-n0-x]

Red flags but the flags are heart shaped~

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Okay we all know that Lucifer is the perfect man for me, but even the brightest stars have their dull moments.

Luci has these moments where he’s really clingy where it’s almost possessive? and sticks to your side like a cleaver, which usually you don’t mind, but it gets annoying when he whines whenever you have to do the most mundane tasks.

Gets jealous waaaaay too easily. If you give positive attention to any other Hell resident bar Charlie ofc, it sends him into a fit of silent rage, some of which you notice, and confront him about it.

This leads to the next red flag. He clams up and defends himself, using excuses like “He doesn’t wanna lose you” (Which is valid, given his backstory) but sometimes he doesn’t just admit he’s wrong, and communicate that in an appropriate way. Though, he tries to improve, without telling you as such.

Speaking of communication, he struggles to open up about his problems and what he sees; 9 times out of 10, you have to coax it out of him.

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[woolandcoffee]

I would like someone smarter about these things than me to talk about what's behind this recent (at least I think it's recent - the last decade or so?) rise in the US of like... state-based jingoism? You know, where people get very angry about "transplants" from out of state - particularly if they're from California or Texas or another large state - and blame them for changes in the region.

And you know, I have no doubt that this has always been a thing, but it feels, at least anecdotally, like it's getting more hostile. I didn't used to be cautious telling people I'm originally from California, but I'm a lot more careful about it these days.

[july-19th-club]

my sister has two fountain pens, both very friendly pilots (a metro and a kakuno) and she brought them to me to clean them or fix them bc neither of them write without flow issues . and well her first problem was that she didn't realize she had no ink in one of them. her second problem was that she brought the ink out to refill and ... baystate blue. noodler's inks are imo extremely overhyped in general but what ive discovered this morning as i'm rinsing her pens out at home is that this one leaves a gritty/sludgy residue of blue/black particulate on fucking everything. i knew it stained to high heaven but it's so GUNKY . and almost greasy? sludgy. this stuff is harder to clean than my organics studio nitrogen and nitro is fucking famous in fountain pen reddits for being so staining and hard to clean. if noodler's ink has one million haters im one of them. if noodler's has ten haters im one. if noodler's has one hater that is me. if noodler's has zero haters i am no more on this earth . if the world is with noodlers then i am against the world

[gaminegay]

Another straight/monogamous/general Relationship Thing I don't get is "when they're still friends with their ex 🚩🚩🚩🚩" like. Oh so it's better if the breakup sucked or they childishly refuse to talk or they grew apart? Why.