#if you weird in the wrong way people will send you death threats like

[8-bit-space]

Tiktok is legitimately the worst app to grow up in your teens on im so sorry to everyone who is doing this.

[akutasoda]

how do you think Jouno, Tecchou (and anyone else you want to add) would be with an S/o that doesn't stand up for themselves?

Your writing is amazing <:

how do i keep going?

synopsis - you never really stood up for yourself, and as your lover they can't have that whem you're so amazing

includes - fyodor, jouno, tecchou, ayatsuji

warnings - gn!reader, fluff, comfort, small talk of being taking advantage of, brief mentions of bullying, threats, wc - 691

a/n: ahhh tysm anon! all i could think about when writing this was 'they asked for no pickles' im so sorry

fyodor dostoevsky ★↷

↪fyodor wasn't exactly know for his communication skills, he preferred to be left to his own devices but he would absolutely not tolerate someone talking down on him or trying to take advantage of him. and same would go for you.

↪you were part of a very exclusive group, even more so as his lover, to see the slight softer side he normally kept shadowed away. and seeing youe hesitance to stand up for yourself in any given scenario kind of ticked him the wrong way. you were practically perfect as can be in his eyes why do you tolerate it?

↪he's not the greatest when it comes to emotions but would try his hardest to understand why you would let that happen, whatever the reason would support you in his own weird way. would try and convince you to atleast try to stand up for yourself once.

↪he wouldn't, or try his hardest not to, intervene unless it got bad or really started to annoy him. and would understand if you don't talk about it with him, again he wasn't that good with emotions either. although you seemed to notice that you were left alone more often. weird, almost as if something scared them away huh.

saigiku jouno ★↷

↪very confident person definitely and would absolutely not stand people trying to take advantage of him. so seeing you letting it happen and not sticking up for yourself would leave him confused and slightly annoyed. not at you however.

↪he would kind of understand why you might let it happen but would want to try and encourage you to stick up for yourself. sure he could do it for you and sometimes he would but he knows that you're amazing and more than capable of sticking up for yourself.

↪death glares and threats. he isn't the interrogation specialist for nothing. eventually you might start to notice a decrease in things bothering you, and if you know it's him you might have to tell him to stop before he gets in trouble.

tecchou suehiro ★↷

↪he may not be the most vocal person, opting to stay quiet for some time but that doesn't mean he wouldn't stand up for himself. so seeing you not standing up for yourself and either letting people make fun of you or take advantage of your kind nature would confuse him.

↪why wouldn't you want to stand up for yourself? and maybe not until you would open up to him would he realise why. or he would figure it out on his own but wouldn't pry about it until he truly had to intervene or you finally talked to him about it.

↪but that wouldn't stop him from doing something about it himself. if he was in the vicinity, which is most likely, he wouldn't physically do anything apart from send death glares and take you else where.

↪he knew you were strong enough to take care of your own battles he just silently wishes you would do so more often. you were amazing, you deserved to stand up for yourself. maybe he would try and coax that out of you but if you didn't want to do that that's fone aswell he was always there for you anyway.

yukito ayatsuji ★↷

↪doesn't care what people think. he is well aware if what people think of him and he just doesn't care so that means that he won't tolerate them trying to take advantage of him. he would stick up for himself anytime. so seeing you let people walk over you would weirdly break his heart.

↪why are you not sticking up for yourself? he may figure out why if you don't tell him, so he would understand but that still doesn't help in his confusion.

↪wouldn't stick up for you unless you wanted him to or it got really bad, he wants to let you fight your own battles, he knows you're strong enough to. again would encourage you to do so however.

↪maybe if it got specifically bad and you were still not standing up for yourself he would definitely intervene. he might just get a bit carried away.

[my-unorthodox-life]

okay can i vent for a minute? get real personal with all y'all?

i've been a tumblr user since i got my first tablet at age 12, over a decade of having at least one active blog (usually more) so it's safe to say i've both gotten my fair share of hate and found ways of using this app to benefit me and keep me detached from this hate

currently i have 4 active blogs, my main where i do the typical reblogging and updates on my fanfics, this one where i post like a proper blog and reblog jewish things that matter to me, my mental health recovery blog where i talk about my eating disorder and ptsd, and my adult one where i reblog fun sexy stuff and chat about the struggles of dating as sex positive people with trauma.

all very important to me and all have various levels of anonymity when it comes to knowing about me as a person. some have my name, some a nickname, one just my age. plus various tidbits so people know what to expect from my posts and what we can chat about, basic blog rules essentially

in the past few months as antisemitism has gotten more and more common place i of course get more anon hate, i don't turn of inboxes since i do get nice stuff from time to time, and that's kind of the territory of running a blog (i had a trans rights one in the age of kalvin garrah, i think i'll live)

out of those four blogs the one that gets the most antisemitic messages, i mean full paragraphs of truly vile ramblings that read like a nazi fever dream, is the one for my mental health recovery. a blog that i block all but mutuals on, meaning either a stranger or someone i've interacted with is sending these messages

i've started replying to them, cause i feel if they want to be mean and make a fool of themselves i might as well let everyone see (poor guy keeps sending me weird reviews of "my" wattpad fics. i've never had a wattpad account but this doesn't seem to stop him), but what gets me is that blog has the least personal information on it. no name or nickname, no hobbies or interests listed, nothing about what i do for work beyond "pet care", and the only mention of my religion or politics was one post that joking about how my mental health often gets worse around the high holy days (very demure, very mindful)

and yet that's the blog that gets straight up death threats, not even disguised as anything else, just straight up calling me a pig who deserves to burn. not the personal blog where i've posted about israel and palestine, or about dating while religious, or hell even this one that might as well be a "i'm a sensitive jewish minded person! thoughts?" blog.

no the one blog that people feel safe harassing is the nondescript recovery and relapse blog. that's where people feel comfortable.

and it makes me sad, not because of what was said, but because it *was* said. that there's people out there comfortable enough in their bigotry to go up to someone and spew vile hate like it's nothing, but only of course if they can't put a name or face to the person they're talking to

what this reminds me of is when i was in high school i had an art teacher who didn't stand for antisemitic jokes, and there were a lot in my school. one day a kid just asked him "Mr.Dexter, are you a jew?" and his response really stuck with me. he said "It doesn't matter, maybe I am, maybe I used to be, maybe my wife is. But you shouldn't not say mean things just because you don't want to get in trouble, you shouldn't say them because you know it's wrong. If you didn't know, you wouldn't ask."

and i think that really sums up all these trolls i've seen running through jewish blogs or even ones that casually mention it, they know it's wrong but the aren't saying it to a jewish face, they're just saying it to the idea of judaism

these people wouldn't walk up to you on the street and look you up and down and say half of what they feel comfortable typing, but here where they can not only hide their face, but seek out a target that has hidden their own they've found a way to give themselves free reign to say and do whatever they want. to them it's not a person on the other side of the screen, it's the strawman caricature of a jewish person, out here just for them to yell at to get whatever anger they have out of their system

of course there are some people who would say truly despicable things to a random person on the street, but cmon is that person really on tumblr hunting through buzz words to send hate?

anyways i know the compassionate thing to do would be to pray for them to heal what's hurting them so bad, but yanno what, they can suffer a bit first

[konigsblog]

That mlmxreader blog also keeps claiming that you're sending your followers to go attack them and send death threats. They do a lot of arguing that your dark fic is not real dark fic and that you're purposely trying to trigger and retraumatise them - is what I gathered looking at a couple posts...

I think that for one, there are definitely writers who do romanticise some topics unhealthily with things such as rape/assault/torture, but I don't think you're one of those people? Like you frequently tag and keep stating that what you're writing is fiction, it's fantasy.

On that note, they keep trying to argue that CNC is the more "moral" kink to be writing vs. rape. I honestly think that rape fantasy is something people do fantasize about and can sometimes just not be CNC (bc they keep trying to pin it back to that kink). It's the fact that there's no established relationship and discussion like in most BDSM pairings where they talk about rape play. At the end of the day, you tag your works properly. I don't see much issue with writing what you want when you make sure to tag (which you do!) and are aware the subject you're writing about and its usual connotations (which you're also aware!). People can be mad and uncomfortable, but at the end of the day it's them who chose to keep talking about it. I think people need to get used to being uncomfortable on the internet. This is not a new concept and nobody here is a "hero" for anything.

Sorry I just paraphased some posts and asks with some of my own thoughts on it!

i mean, my content is supposed to be dark, it's dark content for a reason, and i'm not describing these characters to be standard; i'm writing them manipulative, vindictive, depraved, ect. i do appreciate you, anon, as you weren't rude, and instead polite. i appreciate it, my dear! 💗

i don't really care about this whole thing, but something i have never said was to send death threats. now, we don't know if they're lying – they could be – but, if they aren't, stop. i didn't tell anyone to send death threats, because i don't condone that. aside from death threats and mocking someone's trauma, i seriously don't care what you want to do. whether you don't block them, block them, whatever, they've made multiple posts directly insulting me in weird ass ways, so i couldn't really care about their immature opinion.

i'd like to point out something they said though, kinda funny, considering they've mentioned me multiple times outside of their callout post. they said they made ONE post about me with examples, that would be their callout post. but, they're not counting how they're talking about me in response to anons, or how they're mentioning me in their hashtags. it's childish. yes, you 100% have the right to not enjoy a certain kink/coping mechanism (because funnily enough, people use different ways to copes) but it's immature to name people, talk about how what i'm doing is "disgusting" or how i'm a "vile cretin" (like what lmfao 😭)

here's some screenshots of what i'm talking about when i say they've even insulted me, or made comments. this is 4/11 screenshots.

and comparing my supporters to an iof soldier... 😬 wtf is wrong with you? that's disgusting.

now, if anyone sends this to @mlmxreader, go ahead and let them know that they're not the centre of the world, them multiple posts taking about me and insulting me is immature on their end.

[olderthannetfic]

Hi hi! I have a question and I apologise if it's impertinent but I really didn't have anyone else to ask. I'm new to ao3 and I'm still figuring out how it works. The problem is this- when I look up a character x reader, I'll see the tag included in many works that have oneshots but since it's a side character, more often than not the oneshot for the character hasn't been written and the tag has been there for months. Is it okay to do that or is it tagging something incorrectly? They say they'll write one eventually but they never do, y'know? To me it kind of feels like they're just trying to reach a wider audience but because of this I can't even filter tags and I have to manually search through the book to check if the character is included, especially when the chapters are titled only by numbers :')

Is it okay to tag things in advance like that?

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Oh boy...

Wattpad refugees do tend to use AO3 "wrong", sometimes in ways that break the rules and sometimes just in ways I find annoying and against typical AO3 culture.

I'm assuming you are coming from Wattpad based on you calling a work or a fic a "book", which is a very, very Wattpad thing to do.

I'm assuming they are coming from Wattpad given the bad behavior you're describing and the fact that they're a x reader writer.

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So, here's the thing, if you start writing a fic and there's any amount of the actual fic, even if it's pretty short and bad or in a weird format or whatever, it's still a valid fanwork. Most of the time, AO3 leaves it to the author to decide how to tag (aside from a very few things like death threats in the tags or failing to use the required archive warnings).

AO3 won't stop someone from tagging a future pairing that hasn't appeared yet.

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But "books" of "oneshots" are such an obnoxious Wattpad thing. This is a completely stupid use of AO3 from the "Please send me prompts" part that is usually in there to the way that unrelated fics are smashed together.

It's not against the rules, but it's a crappy use of AO3 befitting of n00bs.

Sadly, old hands at AO3 also make shitty works that are unrelated stories mashed together. They're often a whole set of kinktober fics or something where the trope tags and the ship tags are accurate, but you can't tell which ones go with which ones without searching the whole fic.

We regularly complain about that on here.

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A much better way to use AO3 is to make a series titled "My x Reader Oneshots" or "All of my kinktober fics" where each separate story is its own work with its own tags.

My assumption is that this person is using the inaccurate tag both to get more eyeballs on their existing work and because they probably take prompts for that ship or something. (I'm basing this on the kinds of things people say on their oneshot books on Wattpad. Maybe they don't actually take prompts since you haven't mentioned it.)

Some people just don't care that they're annoying others and messing up the tags, but I think some actually don't realize how AO3 filtering works and have no idea this behavior is a nuisance.

On a lot of sites, both Wattpad and algorithm-driven social media, unless a post/work is very popular, it disappears out of sight. Even an inaccurate tag doesn't do that much.

On AO3, one is getting a full list of everything with the tag, going back however far. It's a library catalogue for which you should use accurate data. But this writer is probably thinking of tags more as advertising and a way to get their name out there so readers can follow them pre-emptively. They mean to write the ship in the future, so it's not really inaccurate... (And, tbh, if it were a single work and the ship just hadn't appeared yet, I would agree with them even though those are frustrating too.)

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So no, they should not do this.

But it's not actually against the rules.

I would mute the annoying people who do this.

[homestuckconfession]

it rubs me the wrong way that people sended a ton of harassment and shit the way of the hs2 team and painted them as irredeemable monsters (which absolutely has nothing to do with transmisogyny trust me bro, there's absolutely no political motivation for painting the trans woman you don't like as a pedophile because she was a little mean to the people who wanted her dead) to the point a good chunk of them had to basically leave the internet, and now people are suddenly cool with hs2 again now that theres a new team. like i like hs2 don't get me wrong (and honestly i think the pre-hiatus stuff was better), but it feels weird seeing people who would have sent death threats to the original team suddenly on board with everything. it feels insidious.

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[notyouraryang0dd3ss]

hi, indian anon here ( I think I used the ⏳️) ig you can say I'm an ex swiftie, but in the sense that I was never exposed to western music until evermore and I listened to it and loved it. I never engaged with the fandom or anything, and didn't even know all these things taylor did, and I thought taylor was a decent person because of the documentary. This was until ofc, the matty healy incident which opened my eyes to her behavior, but idky I felt like I couldn't openly dislike her. Everyone in my school was obsessed with her and if you're a girl, and you hated her, or even disliked her, you were a pick me, and I didn't wanna get hated on more by my classmates (long story there). The last straw for me was prolly when 1989 tv was released (after the mh incident I just called myself a swiftie cuz I liked her earlier work) and I had joined an online swiftie group chat, and the people there were so vile and hateful. I remember saying it's wrong hating on harry styles for cheating on her cuz she did the same, or that Joe alwyn is just a regular dude, and so are all her other exes, except prolly matty and the John Mayor guy for dating a 19 y/o (SHE ALSO DATED MINORS THO??? no one talked about this shit) and I mentioned that she's not god and that she has done bad things, and the gc, which had 50 active members everyday, collectively not only hated on me, but also these people had access to my private insta acc. My face, my friends, my address, they knew it all. It was so scary, and while I have been in plenty of toxic fandoms before (my first death threats were by the hp fandom, which I've left long back), I actually felt threatened. It actually felt like a cult, and it was scary until my insta acc got shut down (idky), and the ppl couldn't find me anymore. The swiftie fandom is weird at best, and potential criminals at worst, because wtf. They don't have any sort of individual thinking, and if someone does, they will find a way to shut it down. Even now, when I interact with a swiftie and taylor Swift comes up, and I say I don't like her, their behavior is just like the ones online. Ik ppl get more confidence to do bad things online cuz of anonymity, but swifties are the same irl, too. They completely believe it is okay to treat ppl terribly, harass and spread disgusting rumors and even doxx a Palestinian woman and give her details to Isreali organization. Like that actually happened. I regret that I didn't leave the fandom sooner because I can't believe I was associated with something like this. Ik celebrities make mistakes, and that fandoms always have one toxic portion, but this is too much.

Sorry for the long rant tho 😅

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sorry it took me a while to respond, there is SO MUCH HAPPENING in this ask. like 3 diff asks rolled into one omfg

1. peer pressured into “continuing” to like taylor swift you are a different kind of victim im so sorry you went through that (and all to prevent you from being bullied…im so sorry)

2. THE SWIFTIE GROUPCHAT: that is horrible and TERRIFYING. all you did was practice critical thinking and you feared for your SAFETY. their reactions are not logical nor rational and speak to how dangerous her fanbase is.

if you feel like you cannot call out your fave for their behavior without your safety being threatened, that is not a fanbase, that is a cult. i think we should actually did a venn diagram of swifties and cults we’d have a perfect circle.

3. SWIFTIES IRL: this is so true about how they behave. ive had friends tell me theyre scared of saying they hate taylor IRL cause of the backlash they’d receive. THAT IS NOT NORMAL. even when BTS was at their peak ppl never felt threatened by the ARMY to that point 😭

you NEED to send more info/links/ss about the doxxed palestinian. i need the #SwiftiesforPalestine to see wtf their mutuals are doing. that is ABHORRENT behavior. that poor woman!

thank you sm for this ask, u are truly one of god’s strongest soldiers cause wtf!!!! is wrong!!!! with swifties!!!!!

(p.s. if you are a repeat anon go ahead and sign off your asks with an emoji so i can keep track! thank you!)

[syunkiss]

Nothing much besides a text about why I hate proshippers and everything about them.

By the way, don't waste your time responding to this, I'm just going to block you and go on with my life normally. DM me if you want to argue seriously.

tw: lots of swearing and swearing, disgusting sexual mentions, talking about minorxadult and incest ships, death threats.

Imagine a grown man fucking a sex doll. A sex doll is clearly made to represent an adult woman, big ass, big boobs, whatever. Now imagine that same man fucking a baby reborn doll. It's different, isn't it? Very different.

A doll that was made to represent an adult is VERY different from a doll that was made to represent a baby, a child, a teenager, a minor, whatever.

But now think with me, does the sex doll feel pain? Does the sex doll have a conscience? No of course not. And the reborn baby? Does she feel pain, is she conscious? Of course not, they are fucking inanimate objects. But the a baby reborn doll STILL REPRESENTS A FUCKING BABY.

And why is this so different when they are 2D characters or whatever? They don't exist, but what the fuck difference does that make? No-fucking-difference. An underage character REPRESENTS AN UNDERAGE PERSON. A character of legal age REPRESENTS A PERSON OF LEGAL AGE, two characters who are brothers REPRESENT TWO PEOPLE WHO ARE BROTHERS whether a human being OR NOT.

If you drew a picture of your 54-year-old smoking uncle Andrew and your 3-year-old cousin Elisa fucking each other, wouldn't it be wrong? Wouldn't that be disgusting, weird? Would you fuck your 13-years old fornite player brother name Kyle? No, you fucking wouldn't. Wouldn't it be weird if the twin sisters at your school Bárbara and Bruna just kissed in the middle of the hallway and started dating? It would be very strange. /ex

"Ah but I do this to cooperate with my pedo/incest/rape trauma :(" no you do not. You are romanticizing, sexualizing the traumas you went through. Especially if you are a victim, you should fight against it, not in the side of it, you stupid idiot. Did your brain get fried by the sun or what?

I'm sure 100% of proshippers are just stupid people so stupid they couldn't even get past 4th grade in school. You are stupid, idiots. I wish the WORST for you. When you go out on the street, your butt gives off such a huge stench that it interferes with the garbage collectors' work.

It DOESNT MATTER if theyre fictional or not. It DOES NOT matter. And fuck you if you think its okay just because they "do not exist and do not feel or think".

I don't encourage anyone to send death threats or anything like that, but kill yourself if you support that kind of shit. Stop being stupid. The world would be a better place without trash like you and your idiotic "community".

[running-tweezers]

I think I’ve finally really figured out the way my past tumblr/fandom related trauma affects the way I interact with fandom now. I’ve never really had words for it, but I’ve been doing some soul digging and I think I’ve gotten to the bottom of it. Which is a net positive I think.

It sounds ABSURD when you say it out loud/write it down plain like this. But hear me out. There’s a reason.

I somehow operate under the assumption that everyone here automatically dislikes me. As a default state. If someone likes/reblogs something I post, especially if they are someone whose fandom creations I admire, I almost see that as them going “hm. Ok you get a pass with this one, even tho normally you suck so much.” The person could Literally Be My Mutual and I still think this.

ALSO, I am OBVIOUSLY being constantly surveilled by some kind of strange panopticon of fandom, and everyone is seeing everything I do and everything I post and just WAITING for me to do something Incorrect and Bad. Just waiting for me to Do Fandom Wrong (as if that’s a thing) so they can jump on me and start getting everyone to send me so much hate I have to leave tumblr and this thing I love is ruined. As if “he wouldn’t fucking say that” is some kind of death sentence.

And I am well aware of how ridiculous that sounds, but you have to understand. That is the EXACT scenario that was constantly held over my head by a certain “popular” “big name fan” of a previous fandom I was in. I got weirdly entangled with him, and he was manipulative, creepy, and downright abusive. That’s the exact sort of thing he would very subtly imply and threaten if I didn’t agree with him on everything. (And it turned out he was actually anonymously sending death and rape threats to people who he perceived as “wrong” so. It wasn’t just talk ig)

Idk, I feel like I’m finally figuring out WHY certain things are triggering to me. For example, those ‘popularity’ type posts. That weird traumatized part of my brain saw those and said “wake up babe, new list of people to be scared of just dropped.” Now maybe I can at least try to better metaphorically whack that bit of my brain with a rolled up newspaper and say “NO. STOP IT. THATS NOT A NORMAL WAY TO THINK.”

Anyway, I’m looking to get back into therapy, can y’all tell? lol

[cerise-on-top]

Soap with a Tsundere!Reader

What it says on the title. Essentially, you're drinking yogurt with him at 2am in the kitchen. Swear words, insults and stuff like that, but that's to be expected. SFW and gender-neutral reader, as per usual.

“You’re a horrible little gremlin man, you know that?”

Eyes narrowed, a scowl on your face, you regarded the man in front of you with disdain. At 2am you caught Sergeant MacTavish drinking yogurt straight from the little cup. Some of the pink dairy product seemed to have gotten on his cheek. Typical for someone like him, but that didn’t make it any less infuriating, actually. So good with any sort of weapon, so good in hand-to-hand-combat, he was capable of rivaling Lieutenant Ghost with his skills, so bad at literally anything else. If that man, that creature, could be muffled by throwing a pillow at him, you would have done so the first time you had met.

“Missed those remarks. You got any more comments about me this time around?” The stain of blueberry yogurt on his cheek seemed to stay as MacTavish simply threw away the cup, opting for another one. His next victim seemed to have been strawberry flavored. You could only watch in horror as he peeled off the foil on top, giving it a few licks before downing another small cup. You were well aware anything he did made your blood boil, but this was just the cherry on top.

“What are you, some kind of weird masochist? A sadomasochist? Leave the yogurt alone, or, at the very least, have the decency to eat it with a spoon! I swear, if I could I would make sure you step on lego every day, you losing lottery ticket! Spending time with you is like stepping into a puddle while wearing socks!” He seemed to take in your insults in the same way a lizard would take in the sun on a warm rock, seemingly pleased and without hurt.

Once again, the fridge was opened, this time victim to staying open for another few seconds before the sergeant took out two cups of yogurt, holding them out to you after closing it. Mango and banana, it seemed. “Go on, take one. Nothing wrong with drinking some yogurt. No one but us needs to know about it.”

“I refuse to stoop as low as you. You’re drinking these like they’re shots. That isn’t what they were manufactured for. Use a spoon like any normal person would or I will not hesitate to send you death threats every day per snail mail.” You opted for mango. Mango has always been a pretty good fruit, you were hoping the yogurt would taste similar to it. Even if the banana flavor was smiling at you as well, it would have been unfair to MacTavish.

“You tell me to go die in creative ways every day. It’s actually rather amusing. Now, peel it off and we’ll cheer to another mission accomplished well.” He indeed was holding out the small plastic cup like it was a glass of whisky, waiting for you to follow. Unfortunately, you did, peeling off the thin metal sheet and putting the rim against that of MacTavish. “Cheers!” Like a madman you actually put the yogurt cup against your lips, waiting for its contents to meet your mouth.

It didn’t take long for the taste of mango to reach your tongue, swallowing it as more came. The tiny avalanche seemed to halt soon enough, however, leaving the exotic flavor to be but a remnant. But you were determined still to make the best of it, licking the edge of the cup. Once you were done, you turned to the sergeant. “You’re just straight up a creature and it’s almost an insult to be drinking yogurt with you at 2am.”

“Almost.” He held out his cup, waiting for you to put yours in. You indulged him, grabbing the strawberry flavored cup as well and putting it in the tiny tower. In spite of you “disliking” him as much as you did, he still seemed rather pleased with himself. The bastard was just full of it and you did want to sock him in the face for it. Yet he was nice enough to throw the cups away. “Not so bad, is it? But I’d advise you against telling anyone about it. Price wasn’t very pleased to hear that people would drink this stuff.”

Going for the paper towels on the counter, you ripped two off, one for each of you. “Sure do wonder why. Anyway, don’t indoctrinate me into this sort of stuff again.” You handed him the towel.

“Don’t ye worry, next time we’re inviting Gaz to our midnight snacks.” The blueberry stain was finally gone for good after he wiped his mouth. “Though, I’d reckon you seem to like meeting in the kitchen in the middle of the night. Always a coincidence how we seem to meet here, just the two of us.”

“No! Not true! It just so happens that our stomachs share the same stomach-cell!” It was almost offensive that he would think that, such a thing could simply not be further from the truth. Crossing your arms, you straightened your back while making direct eye contact with him. Yes, he was a brave man, not afraid to take on an entire tank using nothing but a few grenades, but maybe he would back down either way, recognise that you were in the right.

A chuckle left his throat as he shook his head. “Wouldn’t exactly call eight times in a row something made up. Maybe we do share a stomach-cell, though. Why don’t we meet somewhere else next time, then? See how alike they really think when it comes to food.” He mimicked your body language, an eyebrow raised as well.

“Oh, well, about that-”

“Going on a date, just the two of us.” He took a step closer. “Finding a nice restaurant, spending time outside the kitchen with each other.” Another one, he was standing right in front of you, head tilted as he stood tall and strong. “Maybe more.”

The last time you were this close to him he pinned you down during a sparring session. His scent made you a bit woozy, as did his warmth that you seemed to attract like a magnet. It stuck to you, much like iron filings. Regardless of what you did, MacTavish, more often than not, seemed to be by your side. It had to be that way, you simply weren’t ready to admit to it being the other way around. “Well, I mean, that’s certainly an offer. There is a restaurant nearby that isn’t too bad either, but there’s no way I’d go there with you?”

“Was that a question?”

“No?” The roll of paper towels suddenly seemed a whole lot more interesting than your conversation partner. Stepping away from him would mean that you lose the fight, there was no doubt about it. MacTavish seemed almost cocky this time around, it was sort of unfair. His hands were rather big as he placed them on your shoulders lightly pushing you against the counter. And yet, it seemed so easy: Indulging yourself, letting him touch you this gently. There was no way of telling when the next time would be. A warm thumb gently caressed your shoulder, moving the fabric of your shirt from side to side. “I could easily just punch the living lights out of you, and you know that. I’m not that weak.”

“Never said you were. You’re pretty mean on the battlefield, I know that much. Though, you didn’t answer me if you wanted to go on that date.”

You sighed, tensing up a bit again to try and get him to stop, against your better judgment. “Fine, but only if that’s what it takes for you to leave me alone, you moronic creature.” It did what it had to do, MacTavish stepped back.

“Perfect. I’ll see you tomorrow, then. Unless you wanna come cuddle tonight?” The warmth faded into the night. Yet, for as enticing as that offer really was, you couldn’t best your pride, especially not when a smirk like that made its way onto his face.

“Shut the fuck up and go to bed. I can and will reconsider if you don’t stop pestering me.” A hug from him would probably be amazing. He was strong, he was warm, it would likely make you act like a greater idiot than you already have tonight.

“Alright. Night, then.”

“Night.”

Quietly, you watched him walk away, only muttering to yourself once he was out of sight: “What a fucking idiot.” As soon as the echo of his steps no longer reached you, you stormed out of the kitchen, heading to bed yourself.

[bioethicists]

Your post about unfollowing people who’re really combative online made me think about someone in particular. Apologies if this is out of nowhere so feel free to ignore.

If somebody (with thousands of followers) who isn’t a part of a specific marginalised group habitually seeks out bad takes regarding them to dunk on, isn’t that a little weird? I’m not talking about defending your friends when they’re facing discrimination or dunking on the main bigot character of the day, but regularly seeking out bad takes from small accounts that’d otherwise never seen the light of day.

It’s nobody on here I’m referencing. I feel a little crazy because this person gets heralded as a huge ally and has a lot of people in this marginalised group who’re really devoted to and defensive of them but it just really rubs me the wrong way because they seem really discourse-brained more than anything else.

yeah haha ironically i think some of the ppl on that post are seriously missing the point (which i probably could have made clearer) in terms of some of them are like. people who clearly think being told they're racist is the same as the type of behavior i'm talking about.

but also yes! this is more what i meant- people who are seeking out fights with those who would otherwise never get any attention! especially when it's takes that are NOT popular or the response is just totally disproportionate. or just building a social media brand off of over-exaggerated hatred/meanness towards people who "deserve it". it reminds me of all the cis people on here who constantly reblog shit about like... putting terfs in meat grinders but then never even lift a finger (or, more likely, are part of the mob) when trans women are sexually harassed or viciously bullied.

i don't think joking about harming bigots is some grand moral wrong, but it's often just gratuitous in a way where... are you actually expressing outrage or are you using the performance of outrage to get followers? what if that outrage is directly putting people in danger (e.g, if you find a terf with 45 followers + start sending her death threats, is that helping anyone or is it potentially provoking more violence, which you know full well you will NOT be the primary target of). i can see how this behavior can result in members of certain groups defending you, because if nobody has shown their willingness to defend you, isn't it refreshing to see someone who will? it's not so simple, either, cuz i do think ppl who do this do CARE, but i'm not sure the way that they care is sustainable or would hold up to a real, complex situation where allyship is needed.

it's so contextual + i'm not arrogant enough to pretend like i'm the one who can see the context right 100% of the time. this is a little sappy but i feel like the difference is whether the root of the anger is love/hope or if its fulfilling your own desire to lash out/release tension/look good. like "i'm pissed because i care about my trans siblings + it hurts me to see them treated this way + nobody else is saying shit for them so i'm stepping up" vs "raging online meets a need in me that i'm not willing to acknowledge + here's the perfect target". not exactly that simple but sometimes u can tell someone would be a kiwifarms bro if they didn't need social capital from a different crowd, ykwim (which btw we regularly learn that certain leftists will comb through + disseminate kiwifarms shit if it fits their vibe, which is an automatic red flag to me that you only care about drama, not morals)

it reminds me of how some "callouts" are clearly written with the intention of preventing harmful people from maintaining the power to do more harm (e.g x popular artist sexts underage fans) while many others are clearly written with glee about someone turning out to be Bad (e.g x popular artist has a private twitter that i, op, SCROUNGED to find, where they say horny things about genshin impact characters)

[radfemsiren]

I can’t find the post you made on the psychological differences between male and female pedophiles? I thought it was interesting

Tumblr took it down and honestly I didn’t feel like fighting it like I normally do, since ppl were misunderstanding it. I said I really hope that if the goals of feminism are achieved and female child bodies are not sexualized, than both female and male pedophiles would stop their heinous crimes.

I speculated from truecrime media (not an academic source lol, so it’s not some scientific theory) that I’ve seen that female pedophiles have a weird emotional motive for their sex crimes, and I wondered if they were trying to relive their youth and fetishizing their child self. I condemned them many times and called them equally disgusting, but people took it as me sympathizing? I don’t mind valid disagreements (I think maybe the word degenerate was the wrong word to use?They’re both degenerate in my opinion but the males seem more into the idea of “taboo” sex while the females try to gaslight their victim into being a boyfriend) but I got spammed crazy asks and accused of sympathizing with them so ugh

Idk man I feel like radblr has gotten way more lame since I was here last. Like last time I was here I’d get fellow radfems disagreeing and having valid differing opinions, but not so much personal attacks and bad faith interpretations. My dash is also just scrolling through mile long annoying separatist arguments, tiffs sending death threats, screenshots and drama… like ohhh my god 😅

[rolkstone]

"Would you tell your parents/coworkers/friends/etc you read x?!" antis scream as if it's a gotcha.

and yet that tells me even more about the anti state of mind. Fuck your privacy, fuck your boundaries. I don't tell people outside of my discord server or my blog what I'm into because it's not fucking relevant, and more importantly than that: they didn't fucking ask.

if someone asks me what I write about or jerk off to, that's one thing (though very strange for the latter). No, I'm not going to disrespect someone by volunteering the weird ass kinks/fetishes that I'm into that hurt NO ONE in the physical reality.

It's very fucking telling to me that antis see nothing wrong with bothering another person with your kinks or interests unprompted. Kind of like how they send death/rape threats to people they think are "degenerates" unprompted

At this point, I can't even tell what antis understand or know, because of the way they choose to act, but I can say this: know your fucking audience. Read the fucking room. That's one thing antis have proven themselves incapable of, and that is any form of subtlety or keeping your mouth shut sometimes

If some relative or boss or w/e found out what kind of porn I look up (as that's the "worst" thing I can imagine someone finding from my internet history) and they judged me for it, then that's their sad little problem. I'm not hurting anyone IRL, nor calling for anyone to be hurt. Therefore I stand by my internet history. However, I'm also a decent person and I wouldn't bombard uninterested parties about something as incredibly niche and personal and specific as my kinks

at this point, antis are just desperately digging around for anything they can use as a gotcha, aren't they? Because feeling superior is always better than actually treating people with kindness and understanding, right?

[skaruresonic]

The idw discourse is so bad, I feel caught in the middle because each time I express how bad the storytelling is, in a new issue or how off model the characters are drawn, idw fans gang up on me. But on the other hand I don't want to be associated with the people who think think it's funny to tweet how Flynn should die or make weird assumptions about Stanley being a bad person ? Like that's weird and cruel. Hate their work not them as people.

I just decided to pretend the comic doesn't exist and it helps lol.

I'm sorry that happened to you. Idk if anyone else will tell you that, but I will, because I know how much it sucks.

One time, I saw a guy on Twitter blame us for his inability to criticize the book in what he believed was a much more "balanced" manner without getting harassed by people.

Digest that for a moment. It's our fault for other people's reaction to us. And instead of rubbing his brain cells together for a moment and questioning the reasons why this knee-jerk reaction occurs, or even reflecting on the fact that it occurs at all and perhaps realizing that the call is coming from inside the house, he fell back on old biases and decided it was the haters who were wrong.

The mental gymnastics on display here are unreal.

In this case, I think people are stumbling into the usual fallacious trap of assuming both sides carry equal weight, and thus believe that defaulting to a position of "neutrality" makes them morally superior somehow.

That's kind of what I hate about this fandom - the utter superciliousness. The rotten shit we as a fandom get up to (and no, being a little snarky in a reblog does not count as harassment) while proclaiming love and light uwu. Be nice to everyone, except those freaks over there.

"Neutrality" is in scare quotes here because it's not true neutrality, but a way of posturing to the in-group that you're not Like Us. As demonstrated by my Twitter-user anecdote, people around here don't want to say anything hater-flavored because it risks intense ostracization. That's why you have people jumping down your throat for presenting even mild criticisms. It'd be pathetic if it weren't so annoying.

I'm not talking about people who let well enough alone. I'm talking about centrists who sneer "both sides are bad," as if by distancing themselves from the situation in a smug manner, they're declaring themselves more enlightened than the rest of us.

Honestly, the other side should be just as insulted, but they're not, because this attitude only helps them in the long run.

In reality, this is more like the fishhook situation centrists have with antis vs. proshippers. Saying "this whole thing is stupid" really only benefits antis because they now have grounds to reply, "Yes, this IS stupid, don't you think proshippers are crazy for being upset at something so trivial?" while conveniently omitting the part where antis routinely send proshippers death threats and other heinous material.

Look at it from this angle: the most concrete harm I have seen their side say they've suffered is a deep discomfort and estrangement from the book. Which, yeah. That sucks. But it's also kinda on you to just click away if it makes you uncomfortable.

On the other hand, I have had legitimate crying fits because of horrible messages I received and have told people multiple times about the anon who mocked my recently-deceased mom. Which, unlike clicking away from a blog, I had no choice but to see sometimes because I was still naive enough to believe people would behave themselves in my inbox. In fact, a mutual were recently discussing our anxieties over retaliation should IDW be cancelled. There's stuff about this that you just don't want to think about because dwelling on it will freak you out.

"Both sides are bad" stings, especially in light of knowing the measures I have taken to walk on eggshells and draw proper boundaries. I literally cannot know if someone in this fandom will consider my explanations harassment and dogpiling, so I try not to reblog with commentary. On the reblogging site.

Reflect on how fucked-up that is, to feel uncomfortable adding a tag to someone's fanart because you're worried they might realize you're One of Them(tm) and shun you on that basis alone.

I won't sit here and say I've always been perfect in my conduct, but at the same time, it's just the infuriating experience of double standards all the way down. Somehow it never occurs to them that if I held them to the same standard they hold me, I could call them all out on intellectual dishonesty for refusing to engage with any of our points no matter how calmly or clearly stated because "lol ur just a hater," and tar them with the same brush as those who sent me death threats.

But ofc, things don't work out like that in the calculus of Le Sonic Discourse. It's just a rotten experience to the core.

[beevean]

While I don't super disagree with you, I do have to say the timing is a little funny since zealousfox has recently been exposed of asking for nudes to minors and he's known sontails nsfw fan. While I agree it doesn't make one an pedophile I do have to say why would you like porn of an obvious 8 year old boy? Or ship Chris with an adult character when he's 12, but yeah people that complain about Sonamy are stupid

I don't know. Really, don't ask me. I don't find cub porn attractive in the slightest, far from it. And while I say that most Sonic characters don't have a fixed age and it's really stupid to make a moral discourse out of ships like Sonamy or Knuxouge just based on the cold hard numbers of their former ages, it's undeniable that characters like Tails, Cream and Charmy are designed to be perceived as young kids - Tails might be a genius who flies planes, but he still acts anywhere from 8 to 12 depending on the game. So I understand the visceral repulsion and the question "what is the appeal? What kind of person would like such a thing?".

But by the same logic, I can bring you this:

A guy who went on harsh tangents against problematic fictional content ended up sharing NSFW material with real minors :) and he's far from being the only example.

Hell, recently there has been a shitstorm against Reploid REVO, a very important name in the Mega Man fandom, for flirting with minors in his server. He didn't do anything weird in the open. He just talked about the perfectly family-friendly Mega Man. (in fact, I even remember him complaining about Zero/Ciel for being "problematic", but sadly he has protected his tweets so I can't show proof)

And this is the scary part: you cannot assume. I think this is one of the biggest reasons there is this hysteria against problematic ships and whatnot: because clearly, only a dangerous person would like such things, right? And if I can spot them from the content they like, I would never fall prey to them! Instead, I will always trust people who tend towards Pure Content, because this means they are pure of heart uwu (ignore the part where they send graphic death threats to people they don't like: it's justified /s)

And that's just not how it works, sadly. We can't know why someone likes "weird shit". Is it to cope with serious trauma? Is it to safely explore a terrible scenario in a setting where no real person is hurt? Is it to be edgy? Is it because they have genuinely that kind of terrible impulses that they are three days away from enacting IRL? We can't know, and we surely cannot ask because victims shouldn't feel forced to wave a "get out of discourse" card (not that it works, as victims are also chastized for "coping" the wrong way, see above lol).

I know the sweetest people that have all sorts of "nasty" fetishes. They have their own personal reasons to be appealed by certain kinks, and it's not because they're secret pedophiles. I, myself, am starting to understand that I might like certain things because it's my brain's way of elaborating the life I'm living. Brains are weird. It would be very convenient if abusers and criminals announced their ill intentions as easily as having weird porn in their likes, but then abuse wouldn't exist because it would be easily preventable, would it.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

What's your opinion on parasocial relationships

From: "I don't think we should be able to see fictional characters have sex because they haven't consented"

To: "Blatantly and overtly objectifies -insert celebrity here-"

There seems to be wild swinging from one end to the other 🤔🤔🤔

okay so this is uuuh a Large question and I need to start by saying flat out that "parasocial relationship" is a pretty value neutral term that's only very recently taken on a distinctly negative connotation. the term was invented in the 1950s in response to increasing television viewership in America, to describe the one-sided attachments that viewers formed with fictional characters and media personalities. while Horton and Wolh, who coined the term, did express concerns that some people might be prone to substituting parasocial relationships for real, reciprocal human connections, it wasn't intended to be a condemnation of the practice. parasociality in small amounts is essentially necessary to have any sort of stake in fictional characters or celebrities who can't love us back, and its worth noting that parasocial relationships significantly predate the terminology - humans have felt strongly about rulers who don't know them and characters from myths and stories for centuries. this sort of connection-making is fueled by the same extremely social nature that let us bond with dogs and other domesticated animals.

so the tl;dr there is that my feeling on parasocial relationships is that it largely depends on whether we're talking about, like, people having harmless crushes on attractive and charismatic actors or, like, twitter stans sending each other death threats over musicians who don't know they exist. like most things, it's harmless in moderations and is mostly down to individuals to use their grown-up brains to not make it weird and harmful.

now, onto the example you gave of people objecting to depictions of fictional characters having sex because they can't consent. I don't know that parasociality is the main issue at play here, although as we've noted a degree of it is certainly necessary to care that much about a fictional character in the first place. that particular ideological clusterfuck is a result of several things colliding, I think namely:

a.) an increasingly prevalent and normalized streak of extreme sexual conservatism amongst people who broadly consider themselves progressive. if you've spent much of the last decade online and especially in fandom spaces, you've probably seen this mindset becoming more and more pronounced via a bunch of horse-assed debates about the morality of depicting #problematic things in fiction and fanworks. sincere arguments that sex scenes are bad because made up people who don't exist can't consent to being featured in them is pretty much always where that particular line of thinking was heading.

b.) an absolutely tragic conflation of media consumption with activism and political beliefs. this overlaps heavily with point a (with a lot of assumption that if you're a Good person you must take great pains not only to not consume Bad fiction but also to call it out at every opportunity for being Bad, lest you be accused of having Wrong opinions) and also generates a lot of very stupid takes like treating Captain Marvel as a #girlboss #feminism movie despite being sponsored by the US Air Force and holding creators from historically oppressed identities to impossibly high standards of Good Representation, a thing that doesn't exist and no one agrees on. (read Elaine Castillo's excellent essay collection How to Read Now for way more eloquent thoughts on that.) the point being that people's so-called hot takes about popular media are almost conflated with their politics, whichever way they may lean. this also related to point c, which is"

c.) the internet and its many insufferable algorithms encourage outrage and conflict at every opportunity, so nobody can just say some normal shit like "I don't like seeing sex scenes on tv, it feels uncomfortable :/," because people will start crawling down their throat screaming about how it's actually very sex negative and queerphobic and problematic to dislike watching sex scenes and that the person who posted that is somehow personally oppressing people with sexual trauma who are reclaiming their relationship with their sexuality and were greatly helped by [insert sex scene here]. so you have to pre-empt those replies by acting like you're teeing up a fucking tedtalk and also are ready to throw down in defense of your lukewarm opinion, and that's a lot easier to do if you've figured out how to use language affiliated with social justice to bolster your point.

anyway. that's my opinion on that.