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[huellitaa]

why people don't like you ₊˚⊹ 💬🎀

okay this is not as harsh as the title suggests but i wanted to put it literally bcuz this is a problem i've struggled with for the longest time. im gonna be brutally honest here. there are so many reasons why ur not of the social status you want to be or don't have as many friends as you like yadda yadda yadda. SO ,, here's my thoughts on why that's the case , and how to help! 🫶🏻🎀💬

──★ ˙ ̟🎀you're fake

whether its cuz ur trying to "fit in" or because you have a completely different personality stored in the back for everyone you meet, ur fake. its very simple. its not necessarily a bad thing, it just means ur insecure.

🧁𓂃 ࣪˖ how do you deal with this?

stop trying so hard girl. it's not that deep. there are 8 billion people on this earth and counting, u really think this person's gonna matter when ur living ur dreams and thriving even more than you ever imagined you could? no. move on. next please!

find out who the fuck you genuinely are. you're never gonna live your life if YOU aren't the one living it. once you get a start on finding who YOU are it's gonna make you more authentic -> more magnetic -> more attractive in every single way, including social.

u arent obligated to fit in. think about the type of people that you see in the street and you stare a while at, the type of people who stand out from a crowd for whatever reason, the people u look up to, ur idols who you could never imagine to meet in a thousand years; do you think they fit in? do you think merging with a crowd is what made them appeal to you so much? no. think abt that.

wake the fuck up and realise u deserve better. why are you neglecting yourself by hiding yourself from the world? would u do that to anyone else? would u get anyone else to change themselves just so they can fit in? girl get a hold of urself!!! you've been through so much and youve made it so far and yet you're still pretending to be someone you aren't?? you deserve SO much better. people who truly deserve you will always love you for you, no one else.

──★ ˙ ̟🎀 ur too awkward / anxious

i want to preface this by saying theres nothing wrong w this at all and i completely understand but ur gonna face some problems of people interacting with you. or you interacting w them. or both. i was diagnosed w generalised anxiety disorder when i was 11, so i understand how much this can impact ur life not just socially but in all areas.

⭐𓂃 ࣪˖ how do you deal with this?

first thing im gonna mention to preface is this can be a symptom of an underlying condition u may need to get checked out. if its impacting ur everyday life please seek therapy, i am not a professional and cannot help u w this, even if i'd like to. i love u ♡

find what is making u anxious. what about social interaction is scary to you, and why? why does interacting w others make u nervous? is there a specific thing ur worried about or u find nervewracking? always. find. the root!

have compassion and empathy and patience w yourself. its perfectly okay and normal to some extent to feel like this and of course we're all gonna feel like this sometimes but its important to treat urself with care, especially in these times.

treat urself as u would a child. i recommend treating urself like a friend a lot but when ur in a delicate and emotional state like this its better to treat urself like ur ur own child. take care of urself with the same love and attentiveness as you would your own children and give yourself time and take care of yourself to work through the issue. ♡

break things down and take it slow and simple. break it into steps and PUT. YOURSELF. FIRST until u feel able to go back out into the public again and be That Girl ♡

──★ ˙ ̟🎀 ur straight up mean

this can be anywhere from just being generally disinterested in people, being constantly negative all of the time to being just really shitty and rude. we all have the same potentials and possibilities but sometimes we can fall into the trap of negative patterns when interacting with others, which is okay. everyone messes up sometimes. but the important thing is is that we fall back out of that and become even better for it!

💬𓂃 ࣪˖ how do you deal with this?

try ur best to put ur ego aside and think about yourself from an outside perspective. would you wanna be friends with you? if you were another person, how would you think people feel around you?

(🗒🎀 note: if that's too difficult, create someone in ur head or mentally assign ur traits, the good and bad, to someone you dont really know, and think ab how youd feel around them. insecure? jealous? confident? excited? nervous? think about it.)

i know it sounds weird but literally just sit down and talk to people close to u when you get the chance or the opportunity comes up and ask if anything you do comes off rude or blunt or abrupt or any sort of negative trait you think might be the issue here. or just subtly (or directly, either one works) try and find out their opinions on you so u can figure out if that aligns w what and how u wanna be, and then how you can change that.

just be generally more sweet and polite. people are easily gonna like you more if ur not a total dick. stop being mean to people, say please and thank you, compliment strangers, smile at everyone, put ur ego aside cuz its really not that deep girl.

──★ ˙ ̟🎀 ur too nice / people pleaser

okay being nice is not a bad thing. there is a fine line between being THE nice girl and being A nice girl. there is a fine line between being kind and being a pushover. you don't have to sacrifice urself to be nice to people. being nice should go both ways!

🧁𓂃 ࣪˖ how do you deal with this?

first things first, like all things and like i've said a billion times before, you need to address the root of what is causing you to act like this. this should always be the first thing you do when addressing any problem, esp w urself. why are you acting like this? what is causing you to endlessly seek approval like this and sacrifice urself in the process? think.

start saying no to people, even to the littlest things. if you want to do it then sure, but start saying no so much more often. it gives you a sense of control and shows you only you have a choice in the things you do in ur life, no one else.

define kindness. is what ur getting in return to this unconditional self sacrifice genuine kindness, or friendship, or respect, or attention, or whatever else you assume you're receiving from all of this? only you can answer that. ask urself what the genuine meaning of all the things ur trying to gain from this are and then see if that aligns w what ur receiving. (🗒🎀 note: also read this post of mine for more on this! ♡)

again, therapy is gonna help a lot w this. if this is making an impact on ur life, social or otherwise, then i am not a professional and cannot help u w this (as much as id like to). ily and i believe in u ♡

──★ ˙ ̟🎀 you seem "unapproachable / intimidating"

people are threatened by talent. people are threatened by beauty. people are threatened by what they aren't. so, congrats! you've achieved your goal! 🩷💭

🫶🏻𓂃 ࣪˖ how do you deal with this?

i told my therapist once that people have told me i seem rude, unapproachable, intimidating, etc. and i felt really upset about it because i dont wanna come off that way. i wanna be nice and approachable and someone people can talk to. and she asked me what i would do if my favourite celebrity or famous person or whatever was my age and was walking through my school. i told her i'd think they were really cool and want to be friends with them, but wouldn't be sure how to go about it bcuz they'd be super intimidating. think about that.

🗒️🎀 note: but if you do find that people say this or act like this around you a lot, then you might need to do some introspection and ask urself if anything ur doing makes people feel like that rather than their own insecurities and mindset. ♡

i just want to quickly add that not everybody is going to like you. everyone feels a general sense of dislike from time to time and this post is what i mean by that, NOT how to make everyone like you bcuz that's literally impossible and something you shouldn't waste ur time and energy on. as harsh as i may have been in this post ur amazing and i love u no matter how much improvement you have to do ♡ i love you and am proud of you and you should be proud of yourself too!

all my love... 💬🎀🫶🏻💗

[hanni-simp]

I really love Gi-hun as a reminder to In-ho about what/who he could have had. It’s like a black hole eying a star. A scene that really stuck out to me was the one where he’s awake and listening to Gi-hun and Jung-bae talk lowkey looking mad as hell.

Like are In-ho and Gi-hun both trapped? Yes. But the fact that Gi-hun can talk with his friend about leaving there with the money, and that he can come to resemble his old self with just a short interaction, shows a sort of potential that In-ho no longer possesses. Even when he tries, albeit briefly, to get Jun-ho to stay, all he can do is draw things in. He won’t move/alter himself. There’s no getting out with the money for him.

And so, he sees to it that the last vestiges of hope for Gi-hun pulling himself out of this are dashed, too. He drags him in further, as black holes do.

[markbandanawitts]

i haven’t drawn natsumi in foreverrr

i’m working on translating natsumi & giroro’s 20th anniversary manga chapter so take this as like a little bonus content for now…..since i’ll probably be posting it tomorrow sometime

[mortuarydolls]

please dont follow me if ur a sturniolo fanpage okay thank u

[literallysimjaeyun]

SUNGHOON WEVERSE UPDATE JS KILLED A WHOLE FANDOM

[sicklysweetgf]

do you guys have that one mutual who you always see in your notifications who you are just wanting so bad to interact with, but you will not ever dm first lol 🥲🙈

[sweetheartcrush]

girl who shakes and quakes whenever she has to communicate with someone (me)

[arminsumi]

oh my GAWDDD when did 14k followers happen I'M SMOOCHING ALL OF U RN COME HERE 🫵👇💋

[bbluefllame]

eirene have u escaped the clutches of ur league addiction

like. not at all. I'm sorry gang I fear I'm a loser BUT ALSO IVE SHOWN U THE HOT WOMEN YOU GET ME RIGHT?? U GET IT?$?÷(?=?= PLEASE😭😭😭😭😭😭

[sleepy-kitten-of-mine]

Credits : NunuJs (Deviantart)

[starsandrqindrops]

IT’S SEUNGMIN’S BIRTHDAY !!! 🐶💗💗

seungmin the actual love of my life. seungmin who practices endlessly and works so hard for his singing and performances. seungmin who hopes to reach peoples’ hearts when he performs. seungmin who is keeps everything clean and likes neatness. seungmin who works through problems slowly and methodically. seungmin who likes routines and discipline. seungmin who is so silly and randomly makes little noises sometimes. seungmin who will tell bark if the members ask him to. seungmin who wishes he had more younger members so he could take care of them. seungmin who rarely cries but when he does turns his back to the camera or walks away. seungmin who loves pochacco. seungmin who sometimes covers his smile bc he used to have braces even though his smile is so beautiful. seungmin who once covered han’s rap part in gods menu. seungmin who intially wanted a snail as his skzoo. seungmin who loves in n out and hot cheetos. seungmin who said not to go to other idols’ concerts. seungmin who wanted to be a baseball player when he was little. seungmin who would have become a lawyer or a photographer if he wasn’t an idol. seungmin who never missed a day of writing in his journal. seungmin who becomes the hyper member when he usually calm to cheer other members up. seungmin who used to brush his teeth multiple times a day. seungmin who is my love, my life, and my constant comfort. seungmin who i want to give the world. seungmin who has made so many stays including me happy. seungmin who deserves all of the happiness and success in thr world 💗

[blorboo]

Idk who this will reach but to everyone who's ever read "Order's Up" by @DeerandWalnuts on A03 (aka the lovely @curry-and-gunpowder on tumblr) I went ahead and ordered ✨le drink✨

by that I mean Dazai's infamous "One coffee with lots of milk, decaf, double sugar, cooled down but no ice" that he orders in the fic.

SHSHSHS overall experience: 9/10!

mainly cause a.) i punched my social anxiety by doing this 🤭 and b.) the drink actually didn't taste that bad! (i love sweets and milk though so.. 🤷

yipee~ [disclaimers in the tag btw]

**** for those who don't know

the fic is quick one shot about dazai's strange coffee orders told from the perspective of the cafe waitress (who actually has a personality btw!). it's inspired by chapter 1 of the Dark Era LN, where Dazai asks hirotsu for a drink.

If you haven't read the fic yet, i suggest you do! It's only 1 chapter, a very quick and EASY read, it's light hearted and the writing is engaging. <3 link is here:

[kunikisss]

NOOOO YOURE SO RIGHT . HE HAS TO BE A LITTLE PATHETIC. he would NOT degrade you i know it for a fact.!!!

awwwwiddnxbjdbbs THANK U sometimes i feel like the way i see keegan is so different from most of the fandom rggrrrrdhdhrgg like hes Not a mean fuckboy guys have u SEEN that man??!!!?!! sweetest one around. the degrading thing i mean if you reallyyyy rlly wanted it hed agree BUT reassure u sm after that. tell you that he loves u and you know he didnt mean any of that right? UERRMEMMMMMMM YEAH

[hijackalx]

https://twitter.com/UntoldArtist/status/1740879998570115561?t=BDN73xC2GKZiu6r_L4SUpQ&s=19 I come bearing gifts. Sorry for spam liking, hope this kinda makes up for it

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[haerinheartss]

STOP NO (yes indeed I will- I will do it for free even 🙂‍↕️

[sillyguymilooooo]

they r gay and kissing guys !! (I hate GAY PEOPLE !!!! /j)

Raaahhhhh lasko and Lonan raaahhhhh