#kiwi’s aspec posting

[kiwinatorwaffles]

i pity people who say “yeah it’s nice to see these two characters as friends but their relationship becomes so much more meaningful if you see them as romantic.” how has the dredges of the amanormative world poisoned you this bad? have you never had a friend or wanted a friend who changed your life for the better? or if you do i feel bad for them because of so obviously little you value them

[it-is-only-a-novel]

Aspec symbols

So I've been trying to gather a list of aspec symbols! Old and new, widely accepted, but also more obscure. Here's my list so far, including links and explanations (in italics) where possible. I've tried also to add in the specific labels that the symbols "belong to" where relevant/possible.

Arospec:

the color green (and anything green)

white aro ring which is worn on the middle finger of the left hand link

aro flag

archery (bow & arrow)

arrows of any type

frogs they are green (this is a more general queer symbol as well) link & link

yellow roses (& yellow flowers in general, seems to be more for alloplatonic aros, since yellow represents platonic love) link

sunflowers (aroallos) aroallo flag colors link

aardvarks link

anglerfish link

manticores link

rats link

nandays and caiques link

griffins link

phoenixs link

anatomical hearts distancing ourselves from the regular outlook on love, and/or love in general may be more for loveless and/or heartless aros

<2 link

succulents green

cacti green & many do not want romantic partners and can be seen as prickly, or want to be prickly

plants in general green!!

"no romo"

hummingbirds (aroallos) link

pineapples (aroallos) link

pizza & ice cream link

kiwis link

the emojis:🫀, 🏹, ↖️, ↗️, 🌻, 💚,🍍, 🍏, 💘 explanations: link

paper crowns references jughead jones from the archie comics link

Acespec:

dragons link

cake cake is better than sex link

garlic bread

the color purple

black ace ring which is worn on the middle finger of the right hand link

ace flag

space

pirates "Ace pirates aren’t interested in your booty" link

wolves

ghosts (demisexuals) link

axolotls

denim vests

cryptids

AVEN triangle

ace cards suits: spades-aroaces, Hearts-Alloromantics, Diamonds-deamisexuals, Clubs-grey-asexuls link

the emojis: 💜, ♠️

some of these are based off this post, and this master post

Aplspec:

the colors blue & yellow in the apl flag

apples (green apples can be geared toward apls that are also aros)

blue heart 💙

bees

iridescence

apl flag

blue roses link

Blue apl ring on the thumb link

based off of this post, explanations are there.

Aspec:

aliens & robots reclaiming stereotypes about dehumanization link

Artemis goddess in Greek mythology focused on her passion for hunting. Represents finding fulfilment in other aspects of life not only sex, romance, friendship, love, and so on. Also used a bow & arrow link and also my own interpretation from reading about her

Many thanks to @merely-a-caricature, @the-big-gayheart, @heartless-aro, @arosunflower, @saffigon, @crab-in-progress, @aroace-thoughts, @apl-aro-narc, @entropy-sea-system, @dateademisexualpersonwho, @legally-x, @askanaroace, @aroace-people-are-lgtbq, @the-amber-droid-dreams, @foolishfynnesse and @itsnotasecret20 I used their posts/reblogs/comments to compile many of these symbols (and I've linked the posts). If I've missed someone, I apologize, it isn't intentional!

Last edit: 23/2/2024

I also want to add, that this post doesn't include all aspec identities, such as agender, afamilial, asensual, and more. They are important parts of the community, but I'm only informed on some, so couldn't include them.

[eldorr]

Flowerbed Lesbian

Plain flag (left), Flag with stripe meanings (right)

This term/flags were originally posted June 5th, 2022.

Last year or so (actually around 2 years now upon re-posting) I made my own take on the lesbian/gay/vincian/enbian flags since I am critinclus/radinclus. However one of the two posts detailing these flags was lost, so I am remaking/renaming them, along with simplifying and cleaning up some stripe meanings.

The original flags I made were 9 stripes, and I didn’t like the way I simplified them into 5 stripes, so I’ve decided to make a simple 6 stripe one. Some of these flags will look very similar to the ones I originally did, and some will look way different.

This flag is coined as a Lesbian flag, however anyone who is Q4W (Queer for Women), WLW/NBLW/WLNB/NBLNB, or identifies their attraction to women as queer regardless of their own gender or other attractions. (Basically anyone who feels like a lesbian, but may not 100% identify with the lesbian label for any reason, is allowed to use this flag, as long as they recognize it as the Flowerbed Lesbian/Q4W flag. You could call yourself Flowerbed Sapphic/Bi/etc in order to make that connection.)

This flag stands for inclusion and solidarity within the Lesbian community, and between the Lesbian community, other Q4W communities, and other non-primarily Q4W Queer communities (Vincians/Enbians/etc). Generally just look at the stripe meanings if you want the general idea, I go into more detail for my reasoning below each meaning. This is a LONG POST.

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The Stripe meanings:

Top/Vibrant Deep Purple: Aspec Lesbian, Monospec Lesbian, and Mspec Lesbian inclusion and solidarity.

The Flowerbed Lesbian flag is radically inclusive of Aspec and Mspec lesbians, due to exclusionists in the community attempting to push them out. Monospec Lesbians should have solidarity with Aspec and Mspec lesbians.

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Second Stripe/Vibrant Velvet Magenta: Multigender Lesbian, Genderfluid Lesbian, Genderflux Lesbian, Monogender Lesbian, Xenogender Lesbian, Agender Lesbian inclusion and solidarity.

Of course these are not the only genders included under this stripe, however these are some of the more excluded and misunderstood from general lesbian spaces, so they’re here to explicitly say they’re included under this flag. Monogender Lesbians should stand with Lesbians with more complicated gender identities.

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Third Stripe/Cardinal Pink: Pronoun-Non-Conforming Lesbian, Gender-Non-Conforming Lesbian, Pronoun-Conforming Lesbian, Gender-Conforming Lesbian Inclusion and Solidarity

This stripe is obviously here due to the whole “masc = bad” mentality that is rampant in lesbian and otherwise queer spaces. This stripe is for explicit inclusion of he/him, they/them, it/its, neopronoun, nounself, emojiself lesbians, and lesboy, masc, transmasc, carnatian, lavenderian, kiwi, transneu, transxen, xenic, amaranthian lesbians. Gender and Pronoun conforming lesbians should include and have solidarity with non-gender/pronoun conforming lesbians.

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Fourth Stripe/Hot Pink: Lesbian and Non-Lesbian Q4W inclusion and solidarity

This stripe is here to include non-lesbian Q4W in lesbian spaces, conversation, etc. This stripe stands for and includes anyone who has Queer love for women, and doesn’t primarily identify as a lesbian. This includes sapphic, neptunic, lilaen, trixic, faunic, etc. This stripe can also include lesbians who are not explicitly Q4W, and may be NBLNB lesbians. Non-Lesbians are not the enemies of lesbians, and lesbians should included and have solidarity with other Q4W.

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Fifth Stripe/Dark Violet: Femme Lesbian, Futch Lesbian, Butch Lesbian, Twink Lesbian, Otter Lesbian, Bear Lesbian inclusion and solidarity.

This stripe is here partly for the same reason as stripe number three, however with the added notion that Femme/Futch/Butch are not lesbian exclusive terms, and that Otter/Bear/Twink are not vincian/gay man exclusive terms. There may be many reasons someone would use these terms, Femme/Futch/Butch generally relate to gender-presentation, and Otter/Bear/Twink generally relate to one’s body. Of which there is a lot of fatphobia in queer communities, so this stripe is primarily here to focus on challenging what a lesbian “looks like”. Futch and Butch lesbians (Ursulas) are not the enemies of Femme lesbians, and Bear lesbians and just as valid in their lesbian identity as Otter and Twink lesbians. Be inclusive and have solidarity with other lesbians, even if they don’t “look like” a lesbian. Challenge fatphobia, transphobia, and queermisia in your own communities.

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Sixth/Last Stripe/Vibrant Dark Blue: Otherwise Marginalized Lesbian inclusion and solidarity.

Like I mentioned in stripe number five, there is not “look” to being a lesbian. This stripe is for the explicit inclusion of otherwise marginalized lesbians, whether they be BIPOC, a religious minority, trans, intersex, polyamorous, chronically ill and/or disabled, neurodivergent, fat and/or a bear, etc. Include and have solidarity with other lesbians, whether or not they’re like yourself. Challenge bigoted rhetoric in your own communities.

[reblogforsamplesize]

some of these are more ace/acespec and some are more aro/arospec and some just feel aspec in general and like. all sorts of combinations

this poll was submitted by an anonymous user. if you have a poll you want boosted feel free to submit it to me or post it and @ me in the replies or send me the link in an ask!

[astralaspecs]

#Aromantic - Sept. 14 & 15

I tried posting this earlier and Tumblr ate it instead. Anyways, many of you may remember that earlier this year the hashtag #asexual was trending on Tumblr. Back in April I tried to get #aromantic trending as well. Unfortunately, this first effort did not work, which was probably enlarged part because I only posted the effort the day of. People didn't have a chance to prepare or know about it. I'd really like to get #aromantic trending so here's round 2.

Who: Everyone! It doesn't matter if you are aromantic, a positivity blog, LGBTQ+, or anything. All are welcome to participate!

What: This is an effort to get #aromantic trending. You can contribute by creating posts and using #aromantic as well as reblogging other posts, especially from aro people!

These post can be a wide range of things, they can be positivity, art, pride edits, informative, memes, or other various things. As long as they are relevant to aromanticism and have the #aromantic, you're good!

*Please be sure all posts are relevant to aromanticism or the aro spectrum.

Where: Tumblr, but I'm sure posting stuff on other sites wouldn't hurt.

When: Sept. 14 & 15, 2019. (You can start scheduling posts now though!)

Why: There's a lot of reasons why, but one of the biggest is that quite honestly, we leave out aromantic people. They are spoken over, they do not receive the same recognition that asexual people do, I've seen both through my experiences and surveys that they are less likely to be included in the community. They have different stigmas attached to them.

There's also an issue of people posting things that are said to be "aspec" but only apply to aces or things tagged as #aromantic that only apply to ace people. We need to start giving recognition to aromantic people.

In addition to this visibility is extremely important. You might assume that this hashtag trending is a worthless endeavor. But in many ways it's not - it opens the door to learn about a term and learn about themselves. Just the other day I mentioned aromantic to someone, and after explaining it to them, they said "hey, that sounds like me." It starts a conversation that could be eye-opening for many people.

*This is by no means all that should be done for the aro community, but positivity never hurts.

So please, join me in posting on Sept. 14 & 15, and please reblog!

[soft-sapphic-love]

Ace  Lesbian Moodboard // Mod Kiwi

Sappho Lesbian Flag & A lesbian flag for all by @apersnicketylemon​

[smolkiwisblog]

welcome to my pinned post! this will contain my DNI and a small about me and any info i think people should know about me!

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this blog is meant to be my safe space for me and smol me, so DNI if you are or post: nsfw/18+,kink(even sfw),traumacore blog,scenecore blog,horror,gore,vent blog,queerphobic/LGBTQIAphobic,terf(and any variants of it),aspec exclusionist,racist,truscum or transmed,pedo/map/nomap/whatever you are trying to call yourselves now,ableist and any general meanies

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hihihihi! you can call me kiwi or jamie, i use they/them/he/him pronouns. im autistic, have cptsd, anxiety, and multiple chronic illnesses.

i age regress both involuntarily and voluntarily, and i regress in the 0 to 15 range. im also a pet regressor, usually a smol kitty hehe :3

i like: soft toys, drawing/painting, the colour teal/aqua/turquoise, ratchet and clank, jak and daxter, marvel (mainly bucky barnes), cats, birds, colouring books, and 2d animation

i dont like: movies, crowded places, stickers, the season of summer/it being over 15 celsius, beaches, any super medical/hospital stuff and anything school related.

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also: just an fyi i use mobile tumblr (android) bc computer tumblr is scary and overloads my brain

[perfectcringecharacteroftheday]

Mod Hatch is back with a new special interest and a LONG ASS post, buckle up kids because Todays Cringe™ Characters of the day are: The Egopliers! (Not all pictured)

Googleplier (shown on the left) is an agensexual praes/siromantic singularian. It is condifluidflux of several condigender, and mildly digifluid. Google uses It/Itself pronouns due to wanting to seem less human than it appears. With access to the current DSM and thousands of psychiatric papers, it’s self diagnosed with NPD, and very autistic. Google is also a quoigenic median system, with Red, Green, and Oliver as its facets. 

Darkiplier (shown in the middle) is a Dawnian polygender (chamgender, introgender, agender, and leogender,) chaeinsexual echoromantic. Dae has npd and schizophrenia, uses dae/deam/daeself and ki/kin/kingself pronouns, and is voidkin, demonkin, and kin of Discord from My Little Pony and Val from Outlast.

Wilford Warfstache (shown on the right) is an ambonec chameleogender shifterfluid (medeifluid and erotofluid) Peacock Diamoric! Pi is pansexual, somnioromantic, reciproalterous, and Objectum sexual as well! Wilford uses pi/pin/pinkself, py/pyroself, and me/mett/mettaself pronouns. Pi has bpd, npd, ocd, and is toykin, specifically an alpaccasso!

 Yandereplier uses chi/chiself and fae/faerself mostly, but is ok with any pronouns! Chi is a uniattracted grey-ace borderfluid attrafluidflux mnioct, who just uses queer irl to be simple. Yan has bpd, madd, and chronic pain, and chi’s also swordkin and fictionkin of Steve Carlesburg from Welcome to Nightvale.

Dr. Iplier is an Achillean Sollunarian bigender (filko and shkizeingender) schroromantic who is in a soft romo relationship with Host. Dr uses cor/corpself pronous, and has madd, cptsd, schizoaffective disorder, and cotard’s delusion. Cor’s also a postfurry and kin of Lego Joker and Sherlock Holmes.

Host is a kiwi diamoric aspec fricto-mingender corruflux caedoboy, and lae’s been in a relationship with Dr Iplier ever since cor fixed the Host up after an accident. Host prefers no pronouns, but likes lae/laceself. Lae has ptsd, madd, psychotic depression, and is blind due to not having any freakin eyes. Lae is also kin of pit bulls, Tank Dempsey (Primus) and Dr Monty from Call of duty, and is a soulbonder and a netfur. Lae’s fursona is probably a ferret but lae wont tell anyone. 

Bim Trimmer is bi and genderfluid as heck! Ro’s genders include absorgender, extrogender, gendercute, and genderflora. Bim uses any plant-themed pronouns, because ro is a phytanthrope. Ro’s also a furry, and has ocd, hpd, and chronic migraines.

[kiwinatorwaffles]

the funniest thing you can do to a character who has a lot of different ships in canon/fandom is to make them aromantic. most eligible bachelor sees everyone as their friends

[kiwinatorwaffles]

honestly the world would be much better if everyone just realized that asexual people can do whatever the fuck they want and still be ace btw

[kiwinatorwaffles]

every aromantic person who has to witness someone say “there is no non-romantic explanation for these characters” should be financially compensated

EDIT: if i see another one of you fuckers arguing “but sometimes they ARE just super romantic” i’m tired of being nice. i’m just gonna let you know that 1. amanormativity has rotted your fucking brain and 2. it’s people like you that are the reason why aros are suffering. other aros you are not absolved of this. just fucking listen to us for once and stop denying our experiences and pleas.

[kiwinatorwaffles]

get aspec beamed idiot *queerplatonics your ship*

[kiwinatorwaffles]

i’m not gonna lie fandom alwaysoften feels like an actively hostile environment towards aromanticism. even if it’s not intentional most of the time. like the way everyone jumps towards romantic ships and prioritizes those relationships over everything else and stripping aro coded characters of their aromanticism to be like “normal people”. maybe everyone just needs to slip away just this once from the amanormativity whispering in their ears to kick aros to the curb

[kiwinatorwaffles]

when i vent about how shipping culture and romance in media has led to aspec discrimination and a corrosion of friendship in real life some people respond to it with "well you're aspec and dislike to ship however i'm allo and it's a part of me to like shipping" they literally miss my point. i don't dislike ships. i have a few ships myself. it's completely valid to enjoy these aspects as a personal preference. i dislike shipping CULTURE and the insistence that everything must be romantic/sexual.

amanormativity is the reason why friendships in real life are treated as inherently lesser than a romantic relationship. it's why people get made fun of for being virgins when everyone should just mind their damn business. and it reflects hard in the fandom preference for everything ship-related and pushing aside anything else. also saying it's inherently allo to ship sounds really fucking amanormative to me but what can i say

[kiwinatorwaffles]

i feel like a lot of the mcyt fandom doesn’t realize this but i guarantee you, a lot of us don’t want to see shipping content not because we think it’s rpf or something, but because we aromantic people are so fucking tired of seeing ship content all over the internet that when there is a DEDICATED TAG FOR FILTERING SHIPPING IN A FANDOM we’re rightfully a little pissed when people neglect to use use it. and we’re also rightfully a little pissed when others come in and tag our works as ships in reblogs in a fandom that appears to be generally respectful of ship boundaries.

it’s all about respecting comforts until your ship duo interacts and then it’s untagged romance posting on the dash. it’s all about respecting comforts until someone personally tells you that your tag made them uncomfortable and then it’s complaining that people are being immature and that they don’t know how your tagging system works. it’s why i physically could not finish watching double life and i had to have the tag filtered for nearly a WHOLE FUCKING YEAR because people would not tag their ships. it’s why i stopped telling people about my boundaries because somebody talked shit about me literally in front of one of my FRIENDS for doing so.

the mcyt fandom has probably been where i felt safest as a romance-adverse aro, and a lot of my fellow aros feel the same. don’t change this for us. it’s just one tag to help us out.

[kiwinatorwaffles]

“oh this character i previously headcanoned as just aromantic showed interest in someone so i guess i gotta headcanon them as allo/demiaro/grayro now” what’s stopping you from continuing to headcanon them as aromantic and writing that relationship anyway you can do whatever you want