#learning from experience

[furiousgoldfish]

When you grow up having the worst possible things happening to you around every corner, you can't just keep living your life without expecting the worst.

This isn't even paranoia, it's learning by experience. You can't just start expecting nice and safe and kind things to be put in your way, if they never were, it would not be backed up by any real-life experience you had. It would feel like you're dreaming if you suddenly expect your life to change completely and contain different events from anything you've experienced before. We don't work like that. We learn from experience. We can only predict what's ahead by looking at what's behind us, our collective experience on earth is the only pointer we have to what else we can expect to happen.

If you often told that your expectations are twisted, or that you're just looking for the worst in people, or assuming everyone has bad intentions, that's not something you should be blamed for. After suffering abuse and mistreatment, you have to be on the lookout for these things to prevent the worst and to save your life. You cannot afford to get trapped in abuse again, you have to look at every person and ask yourself, what is the worst they're capable of. What would they do if they had the complete power over me. And you have to work with that, make sure it doesn't get to it, as much as it's in your power to do so.

Abuse victims have to go above and beyond to keep themselves safe, because we get targeted. It's not something we want to do, or something we do to make our own lives difficult. We don't enjoy it. We want to be safe. We want to let our guard down. We want to relax and believe we're surrounded by people who wouldn't harm us. But, if we're wrong, the consequences can be disastrous. And getting abused by someone we trusted was safe for us, that is not something we can survive endless times in life.

[howdoesone]

How does one balance the demands of multiple consulting projects?

Consultants often find themselves managing multiple projects simultaneously, each with their own deadlines, deliverables, and client expectations. This can be a challenging task, especially when balancing the demands of multiple clients and ensuring the quality of work. In this article, we will explore strategies for effectively managing multiple consulting projects and maintaining a high level…

[insightfultake]

The Swift Hand of Age, The Slow Footsteps of Wisdom: A Life’s Irony

Time, ever the mischievous trickster, ensures that wisdom arrives when we need it least and age comes when we need it least as well. Youth, drunk on the heady wine of inexperience, races ahead, convinced of its own infallibility, while age limps behind, clutching its hard-earned truths like pearls cast before the swine of our former selves. How cruelly ironic that by the time we learn how to live, most of life has been lived already!

[spirefan]

Did you drink water on this fine Monday? I hope so; let's talk about the power we have to salvage experiences from unhealthy habits and forge paths for better ones with the start of just one step:

[lexstellaris]

In case you’ve ever wondered if those big plastic trays can be used in a 105C oven to dry out soil samples for two days, the answer is no. XD

[ossie50]

"Practice makes perfect"

Or so they say. After many years of coaching various sports teams, kids and adults, I have always held the belief that its “perfect practice that makes perfect.” After all, people can continue to repeat the same mistakes, or never achieve a necessary skill, through repetition. Even reinforce bad habits. The obvious critical element in the process is feedback and modification of performance…

[goodoldbandit]

How Motorcycle Riding Principles Can Fuel Effective Team Building

https://gob.stayingalive.in/revving-up-knowledge-unveil/how-motorcycle-riding-princ.html Discover how motorcycle riding principles can enhance team building through trust, dependability, and camaraderie in your management strategy. The Open Road to Effective Management In the fast-paced world of management, leaders are often looking for innovative strategies to build effective teams.…

[leghorned]

[Savior Faire: Challenging] Bust a sick fucking move.

[sunny7meadow]

Older and Wiser

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Stargazing, at the edge of the unknown.

[ohmyarda]

"All I need to know is if there might be some future for us, some possibility of... I do not know what. [...] I still have the earring. I would like to give it to you... as a token of affection. Will you take it? [...] Then that is enough for me."

Dragon Age: Origins themed Valentine Day commission by the wonderful @quibbs 💕in which Zevran turns the camp into a makeshift tattoo parlor because my Tabris doesn't have her ears pierced. maker she's going to get sepsis.

[purrassicjet]

After the events of Junior Year, Fig releases a single called "Complicated". It baffles Cig Figs fans because there was no announcement, just a quiet release. It's also very different from her usual stuff, with a more folksy vibe and only one instrument, an acoustic guitar. It's clear Fig is singing, but she's never been known to play an acoustic guitar.

The song sings of being a teenage adventurer in a world much bigger than yourself, of older men and broken dreams, of mothers and daughters, of betrayal and of new life. Another voice joins Fig's for the last chorus ("I don't want to be perfect, I just want to be complicated" (which is changed from the usual words "I wanna be perfect, but it's all so complicated")), but nobody can figure out who it is.

Fig isn't making it easier to figure out. She never plays the song live, and when asked about who the mysterious other people (the guitarist and the second vocalist) are, she just waves it off with a laugh and says that said person would rather remain anonymous.

It continues to confuse fans until one night, around the middle of Fig's set at a big concert, she tells the crowd that she's going to be doing something new, something she's never done live before.

The crowd waits in anticipation as Sandra Lynn shuffles on stage, holding a beat up old acoustic guitar, covered in paint and hand prints from her Aguefort adventuring party.

Fig introduces her mother, the inspiration for the song, and both the guitarist and the second vocalist.

And for the first time ever, "Complicated" is played live

[mxmarsbars]

impulseSV has reached the goal [Postmortal]

[queenoftreasures]

How One Assignment Reignited My Creative Flame

“The easy road is always crowded. The path less travelled is where you’ll find your true self.” Bard In all my life plans, a career was not even listed. Life’s only purpose was to study and get married. Yes, it does sound archaic, but that’s the way it was. For anything to come to its logical conclusion, your beliefs and life’s path have to be aligned. Mine weren’t. Reading and Writing Improve…

[s-darling-art]

Jay cuts her hair off three days later