#lesbianmoms

[cowboyjen68]

Hi, need some advice

I’m 28 and my wife is 26, we’ve been married for 4 years and she’s wants a baby. She asked during our first year of marriage but I said no because I thought we were to young and I wasn’t financially stable enough, but honestly there were just excuses. She recently asked again and I don’t know what to say. I think we’re both old enough, I make great money at my current job, we have the space, but part of me is scared. What if I’m a bad parent. My parents were not the best, my dad was in the military and almost never around when he was home, and my mom left whenever my dad was home and would only show up when he was deploying. I work in a corporate setting so I make well over 6 figures, but I’m gone almost 3 to 4 months of the year due to business deals and meetings. And I don’t wanna be like my parents and never there for my kid. I wanna give my kid everything I didn’t have but I’m scared I’ll just end up like my parents( My dad). My wife has been so supportive of me and has helped me get to where I am now and I feel like the least I could due is give her baby, but I don’t know how to tell her how I’m feeling about it.

Wanting to have and raise kids is the first and best step to becoming a good parent. If you did not want kids or you were hesitating because you did not want the committment of children it would be a whole different thing. If you don't want kids don't have kids. If you are happy at the thought of raising a family and the work seems worth it and something you and your wife can handle together then absolutely move forward.

We are not destined to be our parents or repeat their faults, especially when we are aware of the mistakes they might have made, whether intentional or accidentally.

As far as travel is concerned, kids can handle that especially in this age of technology and things like zoom, facetime etc. I know families in which on parent travels quite a bit and they have built in to their routine Marco Polo videos, zoom calls and even letter writing as a way to stay engaged and have fun connecting without little kids getting too bored.

Your wife should have lots of on ground support in your absence. Having a built in (or two or three) emergency sitter just in case is a great relief. Make sure you have a good pet boarding facility and are in good standing if you have dogs or cats so that if something were to arise she has back up when you are away. Putting in place these kinds of support take a lot of worry off the table. A cleaning service can help as well as a decent list of good places she can call for things like car problems, plumbing and other household repairs.

Take time from your job (you probably get adoption or maternity leave even if you are not the birth mom) to bond with an new arrival, baby or not. The first few months are important to establish a relationship with both new borns or older kids in the case of adoption or foster.

When you are home you don't have to over compensate for your absence. Your child and wife will have a routine in place, don't disrupt that too much. It will stress you and them out. Just becasue you have been gone you don't need to "make up lost time" if you have been communicating with your family while away. Make sure you take time for your wife and don't feel guilty for getting a baby sitter once in a while, you still need your intimate connection (grown up time) with each other.

Lots of families are healthy and happy with both parents working 40 plus hours and barely making ends meet. If creating and nuturing a family is what you both want, go for it.

[keesshhiiaaa]

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[studsrn]

@thetwomom_browns It’s been a while since we’ve introduced ourselves here on Instagram… if you’re new to following us, thank you so much for spending time with our little family 😃🌈 We both work full-time. Amanda is a financial analyst and Lauren is a therapist. We so much enjoy sharing what we can of our lives - between pregnancy exhaustion and busyness! I’m Lauren 🙋🏻‍♀️ on the right in the picture above, and I do most of the posting/engaging here on Instagram! Amanda 🧑🏾‍🦱 is here too, she just tells me her ideas/opinions and I share them, haha Our son Judah 👶🏽 is in the middle and our newest addition 🤰🏻 should be arriving in about 10 weeks! We chose to have kids through a process called reciprocal IVF where I carried embryos from Amanda’s eggs. We matched a sperm donor to my features and got really lucky to have a sweet little blend in our son 💚 Amanda and I have been together for almost 8 years and married for a little over 4. We love hiking in the Blue Ridge Mountains and spending time outdoors with our wild child 🪵🌲🍂 Random/fun facts about us: 1. Amanda doesn’t like big bugs and will promptly scream when she sees one 😂 You can imagine that means I’m the bug killer/catcher in the family 2. As a double Aquarian couple, we are intensely passionate. Passionate in love, lust… and also conflict. When we fight, the earth stops spinning. We are what John Gottman describes as a happily married and highly compatible “volatile couple” 😂 We’d love to hear from you! Who are you and where are you from?! #introduction #himynameis #rivf #reciprocalIVF #ivffamily #samesexparents #lgbtqfamily #lesbianmoms #twomomsarebetterthanone #loveislove #lovewins #welcome #spreadlove https://www.instagram.com/p/ChpiYmmuBzK/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[createacamillahect]

Camilla Hect daddy issues

(I may have sent this ask before)

two responses lol

1) daddy issues cam is so hot of her. kinda mad when you say the wrong thing. consenting to slap you if you say something that strikes a nerve.

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2) your friend's lesbian mom once told you to make sure any partners you get are in therapy. at the time you thought it was funny but you realize through toxic crushes that she meant if people aren't working on healing themselves, they're more likely to hurt you on accident.

camilla's dads are like that. you think they would both be great parents if they worked on healing themselves, but as it is, their unhealed wounds have turned to spikes that have poked camilla enough time to have scars. you think she's beautiful for having survived it, even if she didn't survive it valiantly.

you listen to her speak about them, and both attend therapy together to work through your collective daddy and parents issues. you love her. you love that you're both working on healing for each other.

[justmeli452]

Update on the littles. One of which is not little anymore.

AJ is almost 13, in 7th grade, is an artist and is constantly drawing. She's super smart but has a hard time believing in herself. She turned into an amazing little woman.

Emberly is 3 and i super sweet most of the time. She's goofy and silly and dramatic. She has a speech delay bc of her hearing, and is just starting to really talk.

[labella143]

He’s just getting so big. #babyboy #fiveyearsold #boymom #lesbianmom #happy #kindergarten #love #lovelife #vanslife (at Vero Beach, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/CilnZWyjIsr/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[earlsings]

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[no-moremusic]

when the catholic guilt and the guilt of not telling your best friend that you’re gay is too hard to handle we will always have henren being the best moms and the best wives and denny being the best kid. #lesbianmoms

[revacholianpizzaagenda]

Anyway Steban did for sure ONE thing wrong and it is that he mention “his mums” but it turns out immediately afterwards that it is not two mothers but rather a singular woman he nicknamed mums for some reason. Lesbianmoms-baiting for five entire seconds is a crime, dude.

[wood-addict]

If you listen to the words in this song says it all she crazy in love with someone not featuring her! This is the bitch Elisabeth Troy when I refused her advances on holiday in Thailand where she followed me! Dumped her at the banjan tree resort in Phuket so she could lounge by the pool drink herself silly do lots of nose powder Ghana bitch wanted to hang out with the fashion and celebrities music and Primrose Hill set there. Now that to me was work I wanted to explore the country and culture. Anyway she met Kate moss (nose powder while pregnant?) and told her I was a paedophile and later when I lived in nyc added Rapist to that accusation. I am a gay man who likes other men not boys definitely not girls! What is it with black chics you don’t fuck them on command and they tell everyone your a peadophile it’s happened to me 3 times! It’s one of the reasons I don’t do black girls hair anymore! Don’t miss all the weavery and wiggetry at all. Sad thing is it gave the fashion set dream team something to talk about and spread like wildfire thanks to Kate, Naomi,Ronnie Newhouse, Edward Enningful and Pat McGrath all these bitches I used to work with they knew me and they destroyed my reputation in Uk and Europe and America it’s why I stopped hairstyling all together be careful if your a stylist for any of these and 3 British Black chicks Elisabeth Troy(Ghanaian) Naomi Campbell (jamaican yigga) and Ineka Burke (Dominican green eye redskin bitch). GOOD LUCK IF YOU WORK OR CHECK FOR THESE BITCHES! They want Chinese in them I Wasian because they want pykny with good hair some bitches please??? Crazy Love alright??? #fashion #fashionblogger #hair #hairstylist #music #musicbusiness #musicblog #fashioneditor #magazine #fashionshow #fashionshoot #celebrity #celebrityhairstylist #fashion #music #blackbritish #african #africanamerican #blasian #wasian #asianamerican #blackgirlmagic #ghanian #ghanians #lgbtq #lgbtq🌈 #lgbtqia #gayparents #lesbianmoms #lesbians @gay_parents_of_the_world @gay.parents.connect @gayparentmagazine prepare your possibly gay children for straight people! 2nd generation here!@gay_times_group

[sirashglam1]

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[ateremteshezterkell]

A little sketching is the best way to relax after lectures. I guess it's clear that I'm delighted about the royal baby.

[shapposaid]

Luisi: Amelia I am sure that I want to start a family with you.

Amelia: are you sure of what you're saying Luisita?

Luisi: I am sure that I love you, and that I will always love you [...]

Amelia: Well, then I go where you tell me, my love.

[butchisnotadirtyword]

“I came out to my family by letting them know I was moving in with her. We had to buy new sheets because we’d both been sleeping in single beds at our parent’s places. We got a Ninja Turtles double quilt set and based the colour scheme of our linen around it. When we bought a washing machine we made a fort out of the box. We painted it and made a periscope with those little make-up mirrors I no longer used. We got pet rats and named them after song lyrics. We pinned her first attempt at pancakes to the noticeboard in our share house. She got that motorcycle and didn’t even make me feel bad when I dropped it. She wrote poetry on post it notes. We danced in the kitchen.” - Katie Morrison recounting her first butch 4 butch romance as a baby dyke. 😢 they grow up so fast! . . Read the rest in Issue 4, The love and sex edition. Only 4 print copies left but available via digital download forever. All Digital Downloads will be half price through the rest of corona season, that’s $3.25 for a single issue or $15 for the whole set! - link in bio. 💕 . . 📸 by Jane Duong . . 🙇🏼 @commonkate . . #butch #butchisnotadirtyword #butchesofinstagram #lesbian #lesbians #lesbiankiss #butch4butch #lesbianmoms #dykesofinstagram #lesbiansofinstagram #dyke #dykes #gender #lgbtq🌈 #lgbtqia #lgbtqiaplus #gay #sydneygay #sydneygays (at Sydney, Australia) https://www.instagram.com/p/B-FbDkJBtDU/?igshid=1400tt905wp0l

[lesbiansgoal]

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[myliterarylesbianmothers]

Me: *sits down for dinner tucking one leg up onto the chair*

My mom: *heavy sigh* could you please try to sit like a cis het?

Me: *frozen deer look*

Me: well damn....

Me: but no my spine will crackle