#long tags on this post bc I have an opinion and want to vent about it. but I am genuinely curious about the results

[vault81]

you know what i lied im ranting and raving about it

[miseryoforpheus]

intro post <3

Hey there!

Im Jamie and my pronouns are They/She/he

Im a neurospicy minor (but I will swear and also am fine being moots with/talking to adults as long as no one is a creep to me it’s all good)

Uhhh welcome to my online diary :|

Happy to make friends if u want - feel free to DM me

online diary blog w lots of Neil Gaiman reblogs bc he’s my idol

Fun facts about me:

Umm ok (trying to think of fun facts now)

Im Italian but grew up in England, would love some more Italian moots <3

my favourite authors are Neil Gaiman & Terry Pratchett (but it’s been like that since before I read good omens lmao) also Rick Riordan and Alice Oseman

certified gravity falls child

if u couldn’t tell by the URL I’m obsessed with Greek and Roman mythology

nostalgic for a time I wasn’t even alive - late 80s and early 90s mainly but also like 70s

nostalgic for a time I WAS alive (barely but it still counts bc I do remember it) - the late 2000s

I did a quiz to see what Beatles band member I’d be and got Paul Mcartney

damn u rlly don’t realise how boring u r till u try and do an about me huh

Music I like:

Hozier, Olivia Rodrigo, Conan Gray, Harry Styles, YUNGBLUD, Beatles, Elton John, Queen, Renée Rapp, TV girl, bears in trees, Ricky Montgomery, NOAHFINNCE, MARINA, Fleetwood Mac

getting into:

Nirvana [used to love them a few years ago but then a mean girl made fun of me for it so I stopped listening to them but I’m starting again]

Dominic Fike Paramore

mother mother

MCR

the neighbourhood

The tags I will use:

Jamie answers asks - u guessed it this is for answering any asks

the most boring soap opera - my life stuff because my life is the most boring soap opera

MOTD - mood of the day which is just a lil thing I do

for the record:

I stand with Palestine 🇵🇸

please click here every day:

also free Ukraine 🇺🇦

aro and ace people are LGBTQ+ and this is an aro and ace and aroace safe blog

in general this is a COMPLETELY safe space

if u want anyone to talk to btw I’m always here to chat, can’t guarantee i’ll be able to help but I am always willing to listen literally any time we don’t even have to be moots or anything just DM me ok? Ily all take care of yourselves ok loves? <3

Also one last thing just for ppl that know me, I have no problem with u following this blog or anything but be warned that I’m not gonna filter my opinion at all on here bc I need a place to be myself and if u don’t want to see that i understand and idm just pls don’t take it as a personal attack or anything if u ever think something I post relates to you, I promise it’s not I just need to vent <3

My MOTD ratings:

0-2 > feeling really really really shitty

3-4 > shitty like I have too much sadness and anger and everything inside me and it feels horrible and yeah yk [reckless behaviour is strong here for me + pretty strong intrusive thoughts]

5 > normal. Numb. Yucky. Normal level of intrusive thoughts [for me at least, everyone is different]

6-7 > smol happy, probably was a bad day that got better

7-8 > :D

9-10 > fucking ecstatic

[kyupidos]

08/??/23’s delivery 🏹✉️ genshin impact

time spent with themヽ( ･∀･)ﾉ_θ彡☆Σ(ノ `Д´)ノ,ヽ( ･∀･)ﾉ_θ彡☆Σ(ノ `Д´)ノ ;; summary. ‘where they do invite you when time is free?’

characters. cryo vision holders : chongyun, ganyu, kaeya alberich , ayaka kamisato ( separate ) ;; platonic . 🖇️ tags. reader is gender neutral ( you/your ), reader isn’t specified to be anyone in particular ( just close to the character ), fluff

📡 _a/n. really hope the genshin fandom treats me kindly. first genshin post, so i’m posting for the cryo vision holders because they’re ICONS. simple post bc why not? also, haven’t played since early 2022 so apologies if these are ooc/conflict w canon!

chongyun

— the purely positive yang energy filled exorcist chongyun is quite the fan of the spoken tales of liyue, so oftentimes he’ll ask you to come along with him when he knows you have the time.

— he may invite you to the library or anywhere else that stores or rehearses stories, but most times he’ll bring you along to listen to the stories of iron tongue tian at third-round knockout, where you both may find yourself immersed in the story within minutes of its start.

— every now and then, he’ll casually whisper to you some commentary in regards to the story, asking for your’s as well. though, some random thoughts might end up mixed in as well. ‘i wonder if this really is based off a true story,’ and ‘ah, wait, i ran out of popsicles..’ are just some of the phrases you may hear.

— though, sometimes between the two of you, it’s just plain silence as you listen to the words of the storyteller before you. not that it’s any issue, it’s a comfortable silence and you know for a fact that you’ll end up indulging in long commentary and critique when the story is done.

— but if you turn your head to face him, it’s clear to see how much he enjoys this time spent, especially since it’s time spent with you.

ganyu

— whenever ganyu gets a break off a work, she particularly likes to spend her free time at wangshu inn. and, when she knows that you’re free too, she finds it in herself to invite you to spend time there with her.

— frequently with you, she loves to just relax and engage in conversation with you, about just anything really, as she drinks some water in a tea cup and offers to get you your preferred beverage. every now and then she might unconsciously bring up work, so don’t hesitate to remind her that this is her time off.

— on a slightly separate note, she may also ask you for advice on random subjects, like clothing to wear and starting a garden. she’s rather unsure about these sorts of things herself, at least on how to start, so she appreciates all sorts of input. even if it leads to her failing miserably, she still wants your opinions.

— all in all, she just really appreciates having a nice and relaxing conversation with you, it truly does put her mind at ease knowing your opinions and thoughts on certain topics. the qilin might also even vent her frustrations with you, and allow you to do so as well. knowing what’s on your mind seems to soothe her all the same.

kaeya

— calvary captain kaeya quite enjoys spending time in taverns, spending more time there than he does at the knights headquarters. though if you don’t like the atmosphere? he’s fine with that as well, hanging out just outside and sitting down on a bench to enjoy his favorite wine, and for you to enjoy your own preferred beverage.

— most of the time it’s random small talk, though it’s also just a sort of ‘go with the flow’ sort of thing, if you get that. he might ask you about your time in mondstat, or if you’re strong enough ( especially if you have a vision ), he’ll ask if you want to join him on his knightly excursions. though he really just wants a lesser load, it’s nice to fight alongside you as well. if you’re up for it.

— though he won’t invite you if it’s particularly dangerous, he’s still sure to tell you all about it, whether through an elaborate and possibly exaggerated tale or a dramatized complaint of the overwork. he might not be able to tell you some bits, due to having to keep things private for the knights of favonius, but he’ll tell you whatever he can mention, if you’re interested.

— back on the topic of random conversation, he actually gossips quite a bit with you about whatever it is he happened to overhear that particular day. all in good fun though, unless you have any drama you’re willing to share, which he is ready to listen to, with commentary and everything.

ayaka

— it was a bit hard to pin down exactly where she’d like to hang out with you, so taking inspiration from her story quest, most likely she’d take you around inazuma city, visiting various locations all the while.

— now, it’s not exactly the calmest of times to hang out with her, but she does her best to make you feel comfortable nonetheless. perhaps she may bring you to a restaurant to try the foods, or to ‘oruga textiles & kimonos’ to get some inazuman fashion advice.

— she might accidentally end up busying herself along the way, but not to worry, because whenever this is the case she promises to make it up to you, and make it up to you she does. at the end of every outing, she’ll invite you to kamisato manor, drinking tea and chatting away until it’s time for you to resign for the day.

[nmzuka]

tbh I've always found those "liking posts are USELESS if you care about artists you have to REBLOG" posts to be agonizingly entitled. That kind of tone, as if not reblogging something is Morally Wrong somehow, sucks pretty bad. Like, damn, I fully get the sentiment bc reblogging IS how artists get discovered and that's an integral part of this site, but also an artist doesn't get to demand free advertisement from me by trying to shame or guilt trip me.

The tone just feels disrespectful towards audiences, treating them like selfish machines that need to be trained to output maximum Engagement Numbers because they're Doing It Wrong. Posts that just explain the difference between likes and reblogs are fine, but I usually see variations of the same "no likes, only reblogs" sentiment instead.

just... venting some thoughts ig, curious about your opinion if you wanted to share your thoughts on the subject

I know your followup message said I didn't have to reply but I'd like to anyway

I definitely was personally more caught up on wanting people to reblog my art before but I think that comes with having been on the site a long time and seeing the culture slowly shift? There is definitely a much larger ratio of likes to reblogs now then there use to be and that is a bit discouraging as an artist in a way? I 100% get that at least and def still obviously want reblogs and engagement (and especially comments left in tags those make me happiest!)

But I also 100% get not always wanting to reblog a art piece you see. I'm very gulity of just liking a post but not wanting to reblog it for whatever reason.

Reblogs are obviously important but I think at the very least liking a post at least shows it was seen! Sharing my art means I want it to be seen. If people dont want to reblog it for whatever reason thats fine but at least liking it lets me know people saw it and helps keep me wanting to share ya know?

I've seen people post art and put like "dont like unless you reblog" and that left a bad taste in my mouth and made me not even like the post because I didn't want to reblog it...

Idk its kind of a complicated thing... artists do need reblogs but the audience isnt obligated to do so but likes do also matter as well (at least to me) cause at then you know your stuff is being seen

[e77y]

Long but relatively unserious vent/rant below the cut (sorry I added this in bc I realized how long this post is oops)

Being at the center of some kind of internet witchhunt (which ik is kind of buzzwordy but) is literally my biggest fear ohhh my god. Even a small scale one… I think I would Die. Maybe it’s because I had a similar thing happen with my friend group in high school where one of them convinced the others I was like evil and spread all these rumors about me… 😭 He was splitting on me but still. That’s an explanation, not an excuse. And it basically confirmed all of my intrusive thoughts about myself, and my personality completely self-destructed and changed, and I haven’t interacted with any of those people the same way since. I isolated from them for MONTHS and just loathed myself. Bleh

The reason it’s on my mind is bc I’ve seen this happen to friends and mutuals and even just people I’ve followed in small fandoms, where the whole fandom hates them bc of this little drama and like. I KNOW that fandom drama is not the end of the world, but truly I think that would destroy me for months. And I would never be able to set foot in those spaces again :’) Getting a handful of rude comments about a fucking transfem hc I had at like 14 made me stop writing fanfic for YEARS 😭😭😭 sigh. Just bc they said it was ‘out of character for him to want to be a girl’ 🙄 (<- character who canonically felt confident when dressed as a woman btw. initially for a disguise but then she grew to love it. BUT I DIGRESS KNSHFJW)

All this to say I think that’s why I tiptoe around everything I say online… I am SO scared of ruffling feathers, but I know that fandoms are places for like! Having fun! And it’s not a big deal! And it doesn’t affect my real life! But like idk.. I just hate the idea of being hated by anyone. I’m sure that I ANNOY some people, and that’s whatever; I talk a lot and make overly personal posts sometimes (like this lol) but I don’t wanna be HATED yk? And idek if it’s better to be hated and ostracized publicly or resented in secret by people who still interact with you… :( Agh. If you ever have an issue with me, please DM me instead of letting it build up into something worse!

ANYWAY LIKE.. with fandom stuff. Idk. I want to have fun! I want to write and post things on Tumblr and AO3 etc but I am just very scared of peoples’ opinions, especially now that I have a decently popular/well-liked longfic in DnDads. For some reason I have convinced myself that writing bad or self-indulgent NSFW will make everyone hate me lmao. Like girl the POINT of fanfic is to be self-indulgent……….. sigh I need to get out more

^ light-hearted… but also kinda true haha. I stay at home a lot just bc I don’t have many reasons to go out atm and only a handful of close friends to go out with. Hopefully that will change when I move next semester lol. And whenever I get interests, they’re VERY strong and long-lasting, and fanfic writing is one of my main hobbies, so I get REALLY into online communities. And rn that is kind of my little niche fandom Tumblr bubble… which is embarrassing and probably unhealthy but whatever. I just inevitably get a lot of anxiety about things that are important/fun to me (bc OCD), especially bc I’ve never really had mutuals/‘friends’ in a fandom before this, excluding my irls

Anyway this got longer and more vent-y than I intended so I will tag accordingly, and sorry to whoever is reading this lol; I just wanted to get my thoughts written down in a public forum bc idk… Makes me feel less insane when ik other people can see it, too. Helps me not take it too seriously and spiral lol.

[sillysadduck]

sorry, what ship/character do you dislike? I don’t pay much attention to discourse and I’m super confused

OH I didnt think anyone would see that post so I want to apologize if I brought discourse to anyones dash but I needed to vent since I feel like ppl dont read my pinned🥲 sorry if this gets long I'm super bad at keeping it short feel free to ignore

So!¡ small explanation so I can let it go.

(Claire enjoyer mutuals pls don't read this if you don't want to see me being a big hater kisses kisses ily🙏🏻🙏🏻)

People got mad at me, mostly on other social media because I dislike Claire and I absolutely hate her ship with Yellow. This is all personal opinion but she's such a boring character to me and it's so obvious the briefcase fabricated her for that specific illusion, just like the other workers, so she doesn't have a personality she's super bland and overrated imo. But that's not what bothered me.

What bothers me is the fact that SOME people who enjoy that ship are always making gross comments about "Yellow is like a child!1! Like a toddler!1! But he's physically an adult so its ok and he still had sex omg look its canon haha bc they have a kid". That's very very not needed if they see him as "child-brained", and that's ALSO very much not canon, at least to me it was part of the illusion.

They also make gross comments about MY design for Yellow whos CLEARLY a child and say I draw him super hot or whatever, it gets even worse with my genderswap version of him, I got explicit comments about "the things they'd do to her" and "good thing she would be 38" If you have seen my design for Yellow I think you would agree thats... not "sexy" or "hot". And it's always the people who enjoy that ship. ALWAYS. ALWAYS THEM. Sadly if I said I don't want fans of that ship to interact I'd lose all my mutuals since its probably the second most popular ship, and I don't doubt their intentions are good and not creepy, but I can't say the same about the people I don't know.

I don't trust people who ship that outside of the people I know. I know my mutuals would never like it in a creepy way, I trust them and hope I'm not wrong for that. But I can't say the same for everyone else.

So yeah I started blocking the tags for Claire and her ship with Yellow bc many people who like the ship are creepy. Obviously I don't mean ALL shippers. But, I'd prefer to avoid it. Completely.

[golbrocklovely]

wow. I didnt realise people were so invested in where a 27 y/o dude was sticking his… surely you’re tired of these questions by now? you also seem to know a lot abt colbys personal life for an outsider… or maybe youre his secret gf with all the insider goss… Lol no hate just find it all funny.

you must be new here haha

i've been talking about colby's love life since like 2019/20 on here. basically once i started asking ppl their opinions, or for them to come vent about random stuff in the fandom, that's when ppl started asking me about his love life and what he does with it.

that being said, i rarely snoop or dig for stuff. i have friends that notice stuff, and then i also get told info from anons. usually they know before i do lol

and personally, i don't mind any of this for a couple reasons. one, realistically, fans are already having these conversations. they just do it in dms and gcs. i'm just one of the few that talks publicly about this stuff. and bc i do that, i try my best to keep the girls anonymous as much as i can. second, ppl are naturally curious. as am i. even if i talked about other shit, i would still want to know about his love life for curiosity's sake.

what else am i supposed to talk about? their videos? i do that. their career? i do that. their friends? yep. their personalities? of course. i talk a lot about snc, and eventually, it comes back around to their love lives. it's just another topic.

third, and kinda most important, i don't let my perceived idea of their (or mostly colby's) dating life make me think differently or lowly of them. colby dates a lot. he hooks up, he has flings. he's an adult man living an adult man life. and i accept it as that. he's not a slut bc he sleeps around. he's not a douche bc he goes from woman to woman. he's just.... a guy. but that also being said - i don't know him. i don't know what he does with his free time or, as you so eloquently put it, stick his dick into. a lot of this is just assumptions. and i understand that what i believe to be reality is not. i don't know everything about him, and i'm okay with that.

and fourth, snc aren't on here. this is the one true platform where we can vent about them without them seeing it. and without them laying eyes on something they didn't want to know. twitter, insta, tiktok - they can't escape comments. there is only so much colby can hide from on there when ppl feel the incessant need to @ him every time he so much as breathes near a girl. on here... i can talk about it and know he's 99% most likely not to see it.

if snc come on here, they are signing up to see whatever about them. they aren't gonna accidentally come across a post of mine or whatever. especially since i very rarely tag their names when i'm talking about their love lives. the only time i do that is when i make a general post of "hey maybe everyone should chill out".

so... no, i'm not tired of it. i think it's fun :) lol

also if i was dating colby i would be LONG GONE from this place sksksk

[devilscastle69]

snzfet discourse/setting boundaries

This has been bothering me for such a long time, but I haven’t had the time to sit down and write it out, so if you’re not interested in snzfet discourse pls move on. That’s also the theme of this post.

Last month (I think?) I saw a thread about hot takes being taken down by a few people who were saying it’s ruining their safe space. The replies on the thread were like “hot take I like mess.” “Hot take I hate mess.” “Hot take, I hate baby talk in fics.” “Hot take I like stifles or hate them.” “HOT TAKE I LIKE THE CHOO BETTER TTHAN THE AHHH” 

It was people literally expressing their opinions and personal preferences. And people became angry and personally offended.

We are all adults here. If you have problems setting boundaries for yourselves, that is a YOU problem. You don’t get to harass others into taking down a harmless post about general preferences and possibly unpopular opinions. Two people saying they don’t prefer a long buildup or some shit when 60+ other ppl like it should not cause extreme drama. I don’t know who these people think they are like “I feel upset by a topic bc of my own personal issues so YOU and EVERYONE ELSE are the problem.” 

It’s one thing to say hey can we please tag emet in this community since it’s a big trigger for many ppl. That’s so reasonable. Can we tag mental health stuff. Can we tag the panorama discussion. What’s not okay is to say, hey can you not say your personal opinion on Ah Choo bc it makes me feel sad :/ That’s called like scroll past.

I think people don’t understand what setting boundaries is. It’s not telling people what to post. It’s saying to yourself, this upsets me and I will scroll past. I will mute these tags. Maybe I will block this blog for a week. It is your responsibility as a fully grown adult to do this, and if you can’t, then probably you should seek help. i’m in therapy it does gr8 things. I literally hear family members talking about the most queerphobic things constantly and have to set my boundaries by leaving the space or putting in headphones. I don’t want to hear that someone saying i like cough sneezes makes you feel icky inside and the person who said they like it is EVIL

This is tumblr. Everyone is entitled to having their own blog with their own posts, thoughts, stories, and opinions.This is not the sneeze fetish forum. (Also even the sneeze fetish forum had a snake pit for venting and objectively I have never seen anything like that happen on snzblr.) If you want a moderated space, go to the forum. I was a mod for like 5+ years, and there has always been some sort of preference topic, likes/dislikes, turn ons/off topic on the forum. This is nothing new. I swear to god my brain cells were killing themselves reading the discourse around such a mundane topic. Literally go touch grass.

You make your own safe space by following people you like, by contributing positively to the community, by blocking content you don’t like. You make this space unsafe for others when you dogpile them into deleting their content.

[treecakes]

Hi, sorry to do this, but I notice you vent about the TGCF manhua art quite a bit… Which within itself is fine; it’s your blog and your opinion and you don’t have to like it, but…

The main thing is, when you type a post with barely any text and then put most of your thoughts in the tags, it will show up when other people look through the tags…since that’s how the Tumblr search function works.

So for example, if I’m interested in finding posts on various manhua (not solely related to TGCF), I end up having to scroll through quite a few posts of yours where you’re just dissing the TGCF manhua. Which is again fine in it being your opinion, but it makes it a bit harder for people browsing like me who just want to enjoy various manhua and weren’t intending to view multiple negative posts in a row that could lean toward discourse or drama-stirring.

I’m not even that into TGCF or the manhua myself, but I do like different donghua and manhua and it’s just a tad awkward scrolling through an already mostly quiet and empty tag and just coming across multiple posts that seem designed as a personal opinion that is meant to be shared to one’s blog/followers rather than the full public of Tumblr[’s search function] (I realize the tags can feel like a quieter place to communicate your thoughts, and this is true for reblogs, but for original posts, it only draws more eyes to your post if someone’s searching up key words in the search bar).

Plus as mentioned, the manhua tag can be pretty quiet, so it’s just a bit inundated at the moment with the TGCF manhua hate (it’s not just you that does this). And the perpetuation of “not really actual manhua content” is only exacerbated with the fact that manhua in general is such an underrated medium, and the tag is already flooded with people mistagging different manhwa as manhua etc.

That’s why I thought I’d mention it, although usually I wouldn’t try to say anything! Apologies for the long message. You can go back to hating the TGCF manhua now, but I hope you’ll be willing to at least take the tagging stuff into consideration. 😅

yeah i know how the tumblr tagging system works and i decided i don’t like. particularly care. it’s how i post 🤷 also correct me if i’m wrong but i’ve literally made two posts abt this in the last like. week. that’s it. 😭 i don’t go out of my way to make original posts abt this series bc like. it’s not the focus of my blog? and i was just annoyed i kept getting messages and rbs abt it on my silly little poll blog 😭😭 i don’t make a point of clowning on the manhua

[ocdhuacheng]

Hi, sorry to do this, but I notice you vent about the TGCF manhua art quite a bit… Which within itself is fine; it’s your blog and your opinion and you don’t have to like it, but…

The main thing is, when you type a post with barely any text and then put most of your thoughts in the tags, it will show up when other people look through the tags…since that’s how the Tumblr search function works.

So for example, if I’m interested in finding posts on various manhua (not solely related to TGCF), I end up having to scroll through quite a few posts of yours where you’re just dissing the TGCF manhua. Which is again fine in it being your opinion, but it makes it a bit harder for people browsing like me who just want to enjoy various manhua and weren’t intending to view multiple negative posts in a row that could lean toward discourse or drama-stirring.

I’m not even that into TGCF or the manhua myself, but I do like different donghua and manhua and it’s just a tad awkward scrolling through an already mostly quiet and empty tag and just coming across multiple posts that seem designed as a personal opinion that is meant to be shared to one’s blogs/followers rather than the full public of Tumblr[’s search function] (I realize the tags can feel like a quieter place to communicate your thoughts, and this is true for reblogs, but for original posts, it only draws more eyes to your post if someone’s searching up key words in the search bar).

Plus as mentioned, the manhua tag can be pretty quiet, so it’s just a bit inundated at the moment with the TGCF manhua hate (it’s not just you that does this) + the existing spam bots. And the perpetuation of “not really actual manhua content” is only exacerbated with the fact that manhua in general is such an underrated medium, and the tag is already flooded with people mistagging different manhwa as manhua etc.

That’s why I thought I’d mention it, although usually I wouldn’t try to say anything! Apologies for the long message. You can go back to hating the TGCF manhua now, but I hope you’ll be willing to at least take the tagging stuff into consideration. 😅

Yea I know how the search function works the reason why I say manhua in the tags instead of specific things like tgcf or starember is so that it doesn’t show up in the tgcf or starember tags (so no I’m not tryna start discourse or stir drama) I literally didn’t think anyone went into the generic manhua search page lmfao 😂 and I don’t even do this thaaat often I made like 3 posts in the last couple days bc ppl were being annoying about a poll. But like whatever i mean if it bothers you That Much I’ll try to remember to sensor manhua in the tags too skdjdjcjejdjeidjdj

[makeste]

Not that anon, but yeah, I think it makes a HUGE difference if people make good faith efforts to engage in fandom fairly and respectfully, as opposed to spreading outrage and bashing other fans just for the goal of making fandom an angrier place to be. I'm saying this bc I disagree with you in good faith - I hope you see a difference between that and me sending you insulting asks just to try to rile you up. (Not that I'd do that! You're great, I just very much disagree with you on this.)

okay so just to clarify, in my previous post I was specifically thinking of situations where people are venting about the chapter on their own blogs. I fully support everyone's right to do this, and so long as harassing other fans doesn't come into play, to be perfectly honest I don't care how genuine their concerns actually are or whether or not their opinions are too negative or anything like that. people can post what they want on their own blogs, and even if those posts cross into the main tags, that's still their right. other people have the option of not reading it if they don't like it. that's how fandoms work; we share our opinions and talk about them.

however this is an entirely different thing from actually going into someone else's inbox and sending them hate and such. that never came into the conversation yesterday (at least I don't think so lol, tbf it was late so I might have glossed over it). harassing other fans in their own space is an entirely different thing from complaining about the canon in one's own space. with the latter, I don't care either way. and with the former, I think it's actually unacceptable regardless of ones intentions. whether you're genuinely full of moral outrage or just trying to stir up trouble, it really doesn't make a difference to me because in the end the result is the same -- you're still harassing someone, and that's a shitty thing to do. don't do that, guys.

basically all I was trying to get at is that I generally try to distance myself from fandom negativity if it's bothering me, rather than getting riled up and bogged down by it. so things like the "please won't somebody think of the children" outrage to me aren't worth getting worked up over whether I agree with it or not, or whether those fans are sincerely concerned or just fake concerned. so long as they are having those discussions over on their own blogs, to each their own. nobody's forcing me to read it. and if they do decide to involve me in the conversation by sending me an ask, so long as the ask is reasonable and polite, I still don't really care whether their concerns about the story are real or manufactured. whereas if the ask is rude and insulting, it similarly doesn't make a difference whether they're sincerely mad or just trolling, because either way it's still fucking rude, you know?

in short I'm not here to police other people's fandom opinions lol. all I care about is that you treat other people with respect (which includes not going into their inboxes uninvited unless the person has indicated that they're cool with debating something) whenever you interact with them personally. so long as people do that, they can complain about whatever they want and hate whichever characters they want and bash the series from now until the end of time, because that's their right, and it's their fandom too just as much as mine. anyway so I hope this explains my stance a bit more clearly.

[bluecookies02]

Your daily reminder that the characters you're "protecting" and crying about are not real and you are actually not helping anyone by policing and cyber bullying real people for drawing/writing about it.

Yes I'm talking about all fictional content that exists(apart from RPF obviously)

•If you are a minor you do not have a say in any NSFW content and your opinion is not valid because you shouldn't be in that place to begin with. And that's nobody's responsibility then your caregivers and yours. You being uncomfortable in a NSFW space for any reason is not a problem of content creators nor the content itself. Just wanted to get this out of the way first. Also if you're a minor kindly leave.

•Now if you're not a minor and you saw something that disturbed you and it was properly tagged but you still continued to view it out of curiosity. On you. Go cry into your pillow or smth. Vent to your friends. You have the right to dislike something. Idk how this is not common sense but don't go bullying someone for the content that YOU chose to view.

•I also understand that certain trauma can push you into viewing it. Trust me I understand. But while your trauma is not your fault, how you treat others is still your responsibility.

•if something isn't tagged you still shouldn't go and tell a creator of the post to kill themselves or accuse them of the most vile things that exist...just bc you've been upset/triggered 😀 You have two beautiful options. Either ask the creator to add the warnings in the future or BLOCK them to avoid seeing them and their posts altogether. I'm really sorry if a post impacted you greatly and I wish people would always tag their stuff out of decency but at the end of the day they are posting something on their account, in their own space and as long as the platform allows it, they are not obligated to tag things.

I've been in fiction spaces for God knows how long and I've been triggered/disgusted and got borderline nauseous over some fics i stumbled upon. Some made me physically hurt and curl up. And even then not even for a second did I think about sending anything mean to the author. Did a question if they are mentally sane cross my mind? Maybe a handful of times when I was younger. Those thoughts I kept to myself and went on my Mary way in search of new destiel fiction at the time.

of course I can't tell you what to do and you can stay a pitiful excuse of a "woke" person and a savior you think you are😌

[incarnateirony]

I've been told by someone I should make a post about this.

This is in regards to a certain group of fanpol that for some reason people associate to me. They did used to stay in my server, but were yeeted for a variety of problematic behavior (including: fanpoling, aggression, a variety of rule breaking, arguing the right to break the rules, and literally trying to take over the server to nuke what they wanted for being told to stop breaking the rules--ABOUT fanpoling).

I want to clarify:

1. I never told anyone to go out and fanpol anyone nor did I engage in them doing so, they were just, you know, people in the salt quarantine section of my server.

2. They were, in fact, scolded when they brought the fanpol in server against rules

3. I have no further affiliation with them.

4. I too think they're being giant twunts

For SOME REASON I am still getting blamed for their bullshit when it is the literal reason they were first reprimanded and, by their own cascade of inability to stop, ultimately removed from POLOL.

Listen, at the end of the day, idgaf if you have a gay dean headcanon as long as you're not out there like finding "rival lane" posts just to directly pick fights and bashing everyone on the head with it being THE ONE TRUE READ like you're allowed your sandbox and as far as I've seen all like 8 "gay dean theory" fans generally just mind their own fucking beeswax and build their own sandcastles. Nobody's out there doing real damage like, say, bronly stalking/libel/actor attacks they are literally writing fanfiction.

I don't like the theory. That doesn't mean I'm gonna stalk you down and assume the outright worst of gay dean fans as "biphobic" -- like, maybe listen and have a real debate (if they're open to it)? And if you disagree, disagree? There's a distinct difference between "paranoid cis guy saying dean 'can't be gay' bc he sleeps with women as bisexual erasure" or "actively pees in the real world LGBTQ sandbox by posting incest bs into real pride month tags just to annoy people even though that's like basic LGBTQ comm etiquette to never associate", and "LGBT fan builds harmless spec that he was repressed gay all along, which is like, actually a thing that happens irl sometimes". Like. You don't have to launch out in the worst possible faith against LGBT people that are just. Playing. In a sandbox. Not bothering anybody.

So I wanted to get that out there.

Ironically the person who told me to make this post was someone that was swept into their original horse shit before realizing how off the rails bananas they went. They saw it from the inside. And really thought I should make this post.

It's ironically the same as the bi Cas debate. Personally I can't stand the read, I feel like the entire journey of the shadow itself quite literally screams in heteronormativity through his ex to be abolished as he absolves himself the same way he taught Jack, who Made It Loud. Like indeed it's fucking loud. But at the end of the day if someone wants to see past that, that's fine. You have your own read you enjoy--stay in your lane and enjoy and we're fine. Come at me about it then expect an actual pointed debate. But I'm not gonna seek anybody out. Because beyond a few het girls that just relate through rachel, other popular m/f[or at least visually and textually maybe vague] examples like megstiel a lot are either lgbtq (such as ace and nb being common) or disabled (thus strong rachel parasocialization because she is a sweet bean)-- so the ones that DO mind their shit and DON'T show up to pick fights?

Man who gives a damn honestly. Who caaaares omg like the ship is canon the deancas queerness is canon it's all miraculously queer and yes but can people stop trying to eat each other with intersectional label fights omg that's it thats all you have to do just let fellow LGBTQ people play in their sandbox of an overall piece of queer media stop peeing on each other

Hell if you wanna vent!! And have those opinions!! Post them on your own blog! Converse it with your own people, or in your own server! Just don't come into my yard and take a shit and we're fine.

Or they pull that crybully bullyshit where someone doorkicks in, gets logically bodyslammed by someone already over their shit, and after them and 5 of their posse come in to fuck off cry that somehow the one person bullied all 5 of them, there on that person's blog

pls

that's not even highschool shit, that's playground bullshit omg how old are all of you

[beacon-lamp]

Thoughts on dreams response?

so i read the 19 page paper and then watched dream’s response video.  don’t really know what the discourse surrounding his response is bc ✨i don’t care enough to go purposefully looking for it ✨

my overall thoughts on the Entire Situation under the cut because i talk A Lot:

first and foremost, the math in the paper is Incredibly Thorough.  dream gave the Abridged Version in his video bc i doubt most people read the entire thing.  but if you read the paper, you’ll see the author point out what calculations the mods did wrong and, more importantly, why they were wrong and how they fixed it.  you’ll also notice that they mentioned several times that the results the author calculated did match some of that of the mods’ calculations.  we love reproducibility.

questioning the credibility of the author is a waste of time and energy.  they’re Anonymous for a reason.  imagine getting a fucking doctorate in statistics (an additional 4-8 years of study after college in the US) and your biggest paycheck of the year comes from some dude in florida who plays minecraft for a living.  jokes aside, you can argue in circles about “oh dream bribed the expert” but the intentions of the author and purpose of the paper are clearly stated in the first couple pages.  before all the math stuff.  people were so quick to believe the stuff in the paper the volunteer mods put out.  why not believe the expert too?

there is a greater lesson here to be learned about bias.  both for and against dream.  it was Incredibly Concerning to see So Many People immediately jump to “dream cheated 100%” or “dream would never cheat he’s the best” before understanding all of the facts.  i’ll admit, even i fell into this trap before i took a step back from the situation to look at the big picture.  we all have biases, many of which we aren’t even aware of.  but it’s always important to recognize those biases and account for them as much as possible before drawing conclusions, especially those that have real world implications.  it’s also important to listen to Experts and those who Know More Than You.  sometimes you just have to shut up and listen.  you’re not going to know everything and that is Fine as long as you are open to Learning from those with credibility and knowledge.  you’re going to make mistakes and have opinions you’ll later look back on and *cringe* and all of that is fine because we are all Growing and Learning. 

aight let’s talk about the mods.  i’ve already like vented in the tags of a post from like 2 week ago and my point still stands.  statistics is Very Difficult to Do and unfortunately is an Incredibly Powerful Tool.  there is No Right Way to do stats.  the data is unbiased but the analysis and interpretation of that data can be.  once again, that’s why it’s important to account for your biases.  the mods tried.  i’ll give them credit, i really do believe they Tried.  but unfortunately trying sometimes just isn’t Good Enough.  statistics can be weaponized to push forward an agenda, whether or not the author intended it.  i know that this is “just minecraft” and it only affects “one person” but inaccurate publications or misrepresentations of data have Real Life Consequences.  one Disproven and publicly denounced paper had people Believing that vaccines cause autism, contributing to the antivax movement that is Once Again having an impact during coronatime.  the point is, the mods should’ve consulted a professional.  someone with credentials about their math.  there is no doubt in my mind that they knew the fallout that was to come.  the drama this would stir up.  there was Obvious, Documented bias against dream from the beginning.  i’m sure there were people who wanted to take him down at least a peg or two.  but once again, that’s no excuse to publish this without consulting a Credible Expert.  i’m going in circles now you get the point, academic integrity is Very Important.  also News Outlets have reported on this, overall shedding a pretty negative light on the minecraft speedrunning community as a whole, which also harms the mods too in my opinion.

finally, let’s talk about dream.  if you don’t like him, that’s fine.  it’s Okay to Not Like Someone.  to Stop Watching their content.  to Stop Supporting Them.  dream responded incredibly immaturely to this entire situation, as we have seen him do Multiple Times before.  personally, i don’t believe the excuse “i acted without thinking and i’m sorry” cuts it anymore, given his 14M subscriber count and 1M+ twitter followers.  he is a grown adult and should learn to conduct himself better publicly.  i have friends his age and this behavior in a professional setting, which for him twitter is because social media/ content creator is quite literally his job, would be Completely Unacceptable.  it’s perfectly valid to be angry and yell about it to his friends, hell i’d be Furious.  but he should know better than to tweet impulsively.  feel free to draw your own conclusions on him as a CC and public figure.  please do.  i know “cancel culture” has deviated from it’s Original Meaning (much like the term “stan” has too) but hold content creators accountable for their actions.  do not blindly defend him.  at the same time, acknowledge that he is a young adult who is still growing and learning.  these two ideas can and should coexist.  however, ***do not accept apologies that are not yours to accept***.  shut up and listen to others who know more than you about a particular thing.  think for yourselves.  draw your own conclusions but always be willing to Grow if/when you Learn New Information.

the world is Complicated.  i’m sorry.  i wish it were easier too.

in conclusion, i can’t believe *this* is the first time i’ve used statistics knowledge outside of an academic setting and in the Real World.  2020 is fucking wack.  if you’ve made it this far, thank you for coming to my incoherent ted talk.  no one is going to read this whole thing and i’ve accepted that.

[scoutpologist]

fandom vent under a read more i guess. im just upset with this fandom in general.

im starting to hate this fandom a little bc of the pure amount of discourse. like i got into apologist discourse a bit but i don’t actually care that much because we’re all here to have fun. this is the first fandom i’ve had to block so many tags for because the discourse is just EVERYWHERE. i didn’t make a tumblr to see people arguing all the time, i made a tumblr to see people make fan posts and talk about what they love and share writing and art. i don’t want to hear people constantly arguing.

i know that’s a personal thing for me - a lot of people love the discussions that apologist discourse brings and that’s fair! but when all i see after a lore drop is just negative thing after negative thing it gets exhausting. i’ve blocked every tag and people still don’t use them properly and my dash is covered in negativity for my favorite characters and lore points. i’m here to have fun, i’m here to escape, i’m not here to read mile long posts about why some piece of lore was done badly or some character is terrible. you’re entitled to your opinions, of course you are, but when half the fandom is just negativity it feels terrible to even interact with. i want to interact with this fandom, i do, and so many of you guys are wonderful people, but i’m dealing with SO much shit in real life and i’m here to escape that via fiction, not see people argue all the goddamn time.

once again this is just how i feel and it’s just my opinion on the fandom at the moment. i’m just fucking miserable with it all yk? i wish there was more joy here. i really do. i might start up a positivity project for this fandom, idk. there is so so much negativity it’s starting to weigh on me BAD.