#me: *grows up with no social skills*

[rutadales]

I think my least favorite thing that happens in fandom spaces is how overly familiar people act towards you. Like whenever I get a post over 200 notes I have people making jokes in the tags that aren't like outright distressing or gross or anything but that just. idk! are jokes I would only make with people I know. Like "fuck you!" or "oh this is awful" or whatever that's done in a joking tone but it's still weird. You don't know me like that

And it's not so much a problem over here because we are so insular as a community so even if I don't know you guys by name or if we don't follow each other I still recognize the person commenting on my stuff. enough to almost certainly recognize the joking tone instantly and for that familiarity there to be warranted. we're not friends but it's like, yeah! I know this person they've been here forever. It's comfortable.

But in larger spaces that casual familiarity is gone. I've literally never interacted with you before. It's like if you overheard a conversation on the street and just walked in and started joking around with them like you knew them. it's uncomfortable!! and like yes obviously I'm looking for interactions when I post and tag things that's the whole point, so it is inherently different than say a private conversation being intruded on but djakfoofjf just don't act like you know someone you've literally never engaged with at all before.

[change-the-rules]

there's knowing you aren't supposed to pop pimples especially in the T zone and then there's well now apparently my eyes, forehead right above my eyebrows and upper nose region have swelled up that seems concerning

[danelloevee-sky]

[wins a race dressed as Alexis]

Me: I knew something character-relevant was going to happen

[no one in the server helps me activate the Hermit Valley race]

Me, shaking: I.. knew something.. character-relevant... was going to happen...

[umilily]

to this day, i'm genuinely baffled by the reasoning i was placed in the gifted kid class at my school.

"because you're good at being social and connecting other people."

not only super weird to outright put that responsibility on a 10 year old, but also ??????

[neutralparent]

honestly unsure what the fuck im doing anymore

[driftveilcity]

Yeah 2023 sucked in a lot of ways for me but you know what? I went from being a hermit with no social life and debilitating social anxiety to someone with a job where I regularly leave the house and even have some work friends and can talk to a stranger without having a panic attack. so like no all of my problems didn’t disappear I still have TONS of other issues to work on but I’ve come a long way

[lesbiten]

every single day i feel robbed of the fact that i grew up learning only how to draw animals and never people

[kingmaximusboltagon]

most appealing part of the inhumans is that theyre all middle aged with back pain

[thespacesay]

i find it fascinating (/negative) how people think there's some clear and present divide between physical and mental disabilities, and treat it as if the only overlap is when you have both.

like... for one, can we acknowledge that there is not, in fact, a binary of types of disabilities? how do you describe cognitive disabilities that affect both physical and mental function? what of disorders that originate in exclusively physical ways (ie, post concusive syndrome) but present with strong mental symptoms (anger, change in personality?)

how can you claim to support neurological disabilities and claim that ADHD is not, in any way, a physical disability? why is it different only if the presentation of a disability is seen as mental?

like... genuinely speaking, when I see posts insisting that movements around disabilities are meant for only the physically disabled, all I can believe is that you too have fallen victim to ableism. You are using a baseless categorization to separate and divide when the border is always going to be fuzzy, and always going to be used to hurt rather than help on a systemic level.

[neverendingford]

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[llycaons]

lwj is poorly suited towards being cc in everything but principle, but I’ve seen people put forward jc as a better option and I definitely think he would be more of a disaster. at least lwj demonstrably cares about non-cultivators, and he has a large support system in his sect

[mormorando]

anyone else when depressed would convince themself they can only survive under capitalism if they marry a rich man lovelessly and let him r*pe you everyday because you could never make enough money to survive without that or resorting to prostitution. hah. it's fun growing up as a girl

[cwunchi]

do you ever have something click in your mind

[formerlyknownas-delight]

My mom just appeared in my living room, bringing kitchen scraps for the chickens, greeting me with an accusatory “you didn’t answer my Hello!” after I removed my headphones it’s 2.30 am

[starsonmarsy]

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[smuglemon]

i feel like no matter what i do i live in a deep thick shame. trying to mask and be 'Normal' leaves me feeling like a freak who isnt being true to anyone while simultaneously making me feel paranoid and like im Hiding something Integral to myself and at the same time deeply shameful. but if i am myself like Really myself with no pushing anything down i'm afraid i will be totally unapproachable or worse foster resentment in others because Im not like them all the time. it's unrealistic now but its happened before, and I'm consistently paranoid.

i don't think i did anything wrong by being this way. I don't know how to not be who i am, and I dont think i deserve to feel shame so constantly. I want to be understood :P