#ocd is not an adjective

[ophelia-ophelian]

“omg i’m being so ocd rn”

i’m going to blow you up with my mind.

[tired-bisexual-brainrot]

Rant and PSA: OCD

OCD culture is everyone assuming that it just means you're a "neat freak" or a "germaphobe" or that "you want things to be tidy and clean" or that it stands for "Obsessive Cleaning Disorder" when really OCD is an incredibly exhausting, draining, and stressful disorder that looks different for each individual person. i'm begging ppl to do your research, it's not that hard. also ppl need stop using OCD as an adjective, our brains are literally programmed to notice asymmetry and it's not just "things you don't like." the paper wasn't cut straight? don't say "can you fix that, i'm just so OCD abt things haha." you simply prefer to keep your office space organized and someone asks to borrow something? don't say "just make sure to put it back where you found it, i'm a little OCD abt that.”

personally i have checking, contamination, and “just right” OCD. i could have others but i’m not entirely sure what they might be. it’s such a draining disorder, and, quite honestly, it can be terrifying at times. information abt what OCD really is, is literally just one google search away. we aren’t here for you to use as an adjective and we aren’t here for you to assume we just like to clean. not every person with OCD has a type that forces them to clean, or be organized. my mom does, i do not. OCD is usually genetic but that does not mean that it manifests itself on the same ways between parent and child.

[chronically-obsessive-compulsive]

What is OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)?

so you're either recently diagnosed or someone you know just told you they have OCD. or maybe you think you may have OCD and are looking for resources. either way, I hope this post can help you

What is OCD?

the IOCDF defines OCD as "a mental health disorder that affects people of all ages and walks of life, and occurs when a person gets caught in a cycle of obsessions and compulsions" (IOCDF, What is OCD?)

What Are Obsessions?

"Obsessions are thoughts, images, or impulses that occur over and over again and feel outside of the person's control" (IOCDF, What is OCD?). These thoughts and images are usually the things that we fear the most, which is the cause for the anxiety before we do compulsions. Obsessions are time consuming and take up a lot of time, often getting in the way of the things that we love to do

What Are Some Common Obsessions?

harmful intrusive thoughts

contamination

perfectionism

sexual intrusive thoughts

relationship related intrusive thoughts

fear of forgetting things or making mistakes

plus many more that I haven't listed

What are Compulsions?

"Compulsions are...repetitive behaviors or thoughts that a person uses with the intention of neutralizing, counteracting, or making their obsessions go away" (IOCDF, What is OCD?). Compulsions are like our very unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with our obsessions. However, the relief is only temporary, and the obsessions just come back, leading to the cycle of OCD. Just like obsessions, compulsions are very time consuming and often get in the way of our personal lives. This is how OCD can become debilitating.

What Are Some Common Compulsions?

checking

washing (washing hands, showering, grooming, etc)

cleaning

repetition

counting (arithmomania)

skin picking (dermatillomania)

avoidance

seeking reassurance

plus many more that I haven't listed

The Vicious Cycle of OCD:

so now you know what obsessions and compulsions are, but how do they work together to make OCD? (TW FOR THOSE WITH CONTAMINATION OCD, I WILL NOT BE HOLDING BACK WHEN I DISCUSS THIS) The cycle begins with an obsession. Picture this: I'm sitting at home relaxing and watching tv in bed after a long day. I get up to grab a snack or go to the bathroom or something and I see a small spot on my wall. I get closer to investigate and see a small bug. I have no idea what it is, but that bug is in my room. My mind starts to race. How did that bug get in here? How long has the bug been in here? When there's one, there are always more. Did it lay eggs in my room? Are there bugs in my carpet? Are there bugs in my bed? Are there bugs crawling on me in my sleep? I put those thoughts aside for a moment so I can get a shoe or something to squish the bug. Reluctantly, I move in and the bug is no more. But the thoughts come back. What if you set your shoe back on the floor and the bug remains get onto your carpet then when you're walking barefoot with a cut on the bottom of your foot and it gets inside? What if that's already happened? You're disgusting. Bugs have been all over you. They're all over your room and they're on you all the time. You need to shower. At this point, my anxiety has already taken control. I try to tell myself that every other time that this has happened and I've had these same thoughts, that I was fine. There were no bugs all over me. There were no infections. I was okay. That's because you took a shower. If you don't take a shower this time, that's what will happen. Do you want to risk that? No.

So I get in the shower and clean my body like usual. But that isn't enough. Scrub harder. You need to scrub harder. You didn't get all of it off. Harder. You missed a spot. If you miss just a tiny bit your body is contaminated. That hand that you grabbed the shoe with to take care of the bug is contaminated too and you're using it to clean your body. Start over. And by the time that my intrusive thoughts can't come up with something else to throw at me, my skin is irritated and painful to the touch. But I know that I'm safe now. And by the time that I get back into bed, sore and with a migraine from the panic attack I just had while I was in the shower, I realize something. You don't remember locking your door when you got home. Check it now- someone could break into your house. Or has someone already broken in while you were in the shower and couldn't hear the door open...?

This disorder has drained me emotionally for over half of my lifetime. It's not something to romanticize. People die over this debilitating, exhausting, disorder. I wouldn't wish OCD upon my worst enemy.

Fuck your "you're lucky to have it because it makes you clean and organized" bullshit responses. Fuck your "obsessive christmas disorder" t-shirt. Fuck your "I'm so OCD" bullshit.

Stop trivializing the disorder that has taken parts of my life away from me

sources: “What Is OCD?” International OCD Foundation, 7 Oct. 2020, iocdf.org/about-ocd/.

[obsessive-frog]

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[crimsoncosmic]

Just coming here to say that:

Narcissism and being a narcissist is a mental illness. It is not an adjective you can use to describe your ex who just happened to be a bit of a jerk.

Bipolar is a mental illness. It is not an adjective you can use to describe somebody who’s just a bit moody

Psychopath/Sociopath are both extremely stigmatized mental illnesses, and should not be used as a word to describe someone you simply just don’t like

OCD isn’t just being a perfectionist and being obsessed with cleaning.

ADHD isn’t just some quirky trait and having a lot of energy. It’s actually a learning disability

Autism IS A DISABILITY. It’s not a “different ability” it’s a disability, and it’s okay to acknowledge it as that.

Narcissistic Abuse isn’t a real thing, and the term only “narcissistic abuse” only causes more stigma around people who have NPD

That’s all.

[formulapisces]

let’s all do the stop using ocd as an adjective challenge!!! it’s so easy!!

[horrorwebs]

the sweetest compliment ive been given was yesterday when my friend told me "if i ever kill you its not because i hate you, i dont hate you. it'll be because of one of my schizo episodes" bdbbfbfbfbgb

[accordionlover]

most of the time im like "i love being a freak :) yaay identity :) wahoo" but jesus christ. teenage girls will always make me want to kill myself.

[queencvbra]

Friendly reminder that OCD is a medical disorder, not a synonym for “clean freak”, or a fun little quirk. It’s outright fucking debilitating at times, especially when you have the same obsessive thoughts for 5+ hours straight telling you someone in your family hates you or that you’re going to die that day with absolutely no evidence to support that and yet you can’t get your brain to shut the fuck up because you have a disorder and can’t regulate that shit.

[anhedonia2]

terminally online people will really have issues with you using adjectives because that adjective is part of the name for a condition. like… calling someone by that adjective isn’t diminishing the legitimacy of your condition. they can deserve to be called the adjective, and it’s not the same as diagnosing them. it’s an ADJECTIVE.

[mochapanda]

so yall know its a picture and not text anyway. fucking dumbass

bc fuck etymology right

[agentemo]

is autism an adjective

[yourpsicodelicbitch]

Sun houses and fathers 🌞

Yoshitomi Nara

✨first post of 2024✨

take what resonates, leave what don’t 🎀 you don’t have to necessarily identify with it.

*I use whole sign system -house system- for more certainty

9H: you’re learning constantly from your dad. he teaches you what he’ve learned through his life. he’s teaching you about his mindset, the origin of his beliefs, why he stands for them. he could be someone very religious or faithful, and through that faith he could have teach you things he know now. also, he could be really philosophical and probably has a fixation with politics, investing. he could seem very patient or is constantly worried trying to understand how he can help you.

10H: your dad could be someone really hardworking, who you could have seen work really hard through all this years, making sure you’re satisfied in the economic and study aspect. he could have not been present too much when you were growing up and when he showed up he was too strict, he probably wasn’t conscious or didn’t know how to approach you -could be bc they thought him to bottle up his emotions-. you could end up studying/working on the same career/field your dad’s in.

11H: your dad it’s okay with who you are, or what side you show to them🧐. you’re their fav or they left you. you could feel like the only child/you are. he could seem too disperse, take it how you want to. idk why but mostly of dads of sun 11H are younger than what’s expected. he’s permissive. you were a spoiled kid, that has to do with your dad. “dreams” that word is important, he had a lot of influence and power over yours, he could have destroyed them or making sure you have all the resources -depending on the aspects-.

12H: your dad won’t judge your decisions or you. he’ll be a support. he could have difficulties to put limits in a father-son relationship, you could have felt stressed when you’re seeing how your dad is being bullied by your siblings bc of that attitude. you could have being the one who is protecting them or you’re the more serious/introverted one in the dynamic. or the total opposite: he’s too strict and you had to be careful on how to act. there’s something that happened there… you two could share something obvious, an interest, physical appearance, an adjective, etc. something everyone can point out. also, you could feel a strong or subconscious connection with your dad’s sight of the family.

5H: idk why I have the feeling you didn’t saw your dad for a long time and then you saw him, I’m trying to express that your relationship with him it’s not constant. he could be explosive or impulsive. he could contradict himself so much. he could have had you without planning it/unexpected -you were a surprise for him 🤩-. could be that your parents were young when they had you and etc. that’s why you’re like an experiment 😭 your dad doesn’t know how to approach you and he has a temperament. emotions here are fiery, when each other express their emotions they don’t take a seat and have a chat with a cup of tea, they’ll say how they feel crying and screaming.

6H: your dad could have OCD, no, I’m lying, but he could be really fucked up about order. “thinks have to be like this, why you didn’t let me this at this time?” Or the total opposite, not in the middle. he could get sticker in his routine and if things are not how he planned he get stressed. a perfectionist. he could be strict or conservative. he’s sarcastic, that’s why you could be sarcastic too. he’s hardworking and also could help on campaigns and etc. at some point you could have helped him on working on his health. and you could be the one who end up taking care of him/being the sibling who spends more time with him.

♡ Based on personal experience and what I’ve analyzed in my surroundings.

♡ English is not my first language.

♡ I’m not a profesional astrologer.

Thank youu. baibaiii🫣🫶🏼💋

Do not copy. Please give me credits.

[identitty-dickruption]

I know I said I’d shut up about this, but it’s so frustrating to see/hear people vocalise phrases along the lines of “if you don’t do [action], you are a [negative adjective] person”. it’s like people are building sentences that follow the pattern of an obsessive compulsive thought

what, fundamentally, is the difference between “if you don’t read classics, you’re anti-intellectual” and “if you don’t [do a compulsion] you’re a bad person”? both are not based in logic. both are trying to make you feel guilty and evil until you do the magical action…

anyway, the internet continues to be bad for people with OCD, and this is just one more reason for that

[queerism1969]

General stuff I wish more cis people knew:

Being trans is a situation one is born into. No, trans children are not cis kids who are being manipulated or abused by parents because it's "trendy". That shit is just a modern reworking of the "gays are recruiting kids into homosexuality!" bullshit from the 70's and 80's.

Trans women are not "biologically male" and trans men are not "biologically female". Transition causes massive biological changes; trans men who are on testosterone and have had a hysterectomy have far more biologically in common with cis men than with cis women, and trans women who are on estrogen and have had reconstructive surgery have far more biologically in common with cis women than with cis men.

The existence of trans people is not a recent phenomenon, and the number of trans people is not increasing. Trans people have always existed; there are just more out trans people now.

Trans women are not gay men who attempt to become women in response to homophobia, trans men are not women who attempt to become men in response to sexism, and trans people would still exist and still need to transition even if both homophobia and sexism were eliminated.

Many trans women are bi or lesbian; many trans men are bi or gay (attracted to other men) (see p.28-29)

Allowing trans women and girls to use the same public facilities as other women (e.g., restrooms, locker rooms, etc) does not put cis women and girls at risk

That there are not more trans women than there are trans men.

Most trans people are not visibly identifiable as trans

Being trans and/or transition is not biblically condemned, and being trans/transitioning is not universally condemned by mainstream religious organizations

Spelling and grammatical notes:

It's transgender, not "transgendered"

It's dysphoria, not "dysmorphia". Dysmorphia is an unrelated anxiety condition on the OCD spectrum.

Transgender is an adjective, not a noun. So there are transgender people, but nobody is "a transgender".

The word cis is a Latin prefix, not an acronym, so there's no need to capitalize it as CIS. Cis is short for cisgender, which is the opposite of transgender. The prefix cis- means "on this side/on the same side", while trans- means "across/beyond/on the other side". E.g., cislunar vs. Translunar orbits

Faux pas to avoid:

Don't ask about our genitals unless you're our doctors or there's mutual interest in sex. Don't ask about "the surgery" either, which is still really just asking about our genitals

Same goes for the graphic details of our sex lives. Unless we're already in the kind of relationship where we casually discuss these matters, it's none of your business

When talking about something a trans person did before they transitioned, refer to them by the name and pronouns they use now unless they have specifically told you otherwise. It's like talking about someone who used to be married to an abusive asshole, but has since divorced him and stopped using his name. Even if talking about something she did while still married, I really hope you wouldn't call her "Mrs. Abusive Ex". That would be spectacularly tactless. That's not her name now and not how she wants to be known.

Never out someone unless they have given you explicit permission to do so. Don't assume that because they're out to some people that they are comfortable having others know that aspect of their medical history

If you accidentally refer to someone by the wrong pronouns, just correct yourself and move on. Don't dwell on it, just make a serious effort to not do it again

[nostalgic-soda]

Anyway daily reminder that if you use ocd as a casual haha funny adjective I am psychically projecting my obsessions and intrusive thoughts into your brain <3