#reciprocation :: response

[camellcat]

people acting like faith would dom buffy. lmao. lmfao even. if buffy said down! faith would trip over herself in her haste to listen. what are we doing here y'all

[scoldingdarjeeling]

When Masking Makes You Invisible

The problem with having ADD (ADHD-I) and an atypical profile is that you mask your symptoms so well that even other people with ADHD start treating you like a neurotypical. This can create unbalanced relationships, where communication feels like a one-way street, and you often end up feeling overlooked or forgotten.

[starmonsterrr]

[ * Hi guys i'm still cringe btw. Me and the boyfriend and husband (gender neutral) (yes he is both at the same time) :3 ]

[prettyboykatsuki]

my love all this pillow princess talk i must ask, do you have any tips on how to be better, for lack of a better word, at it? sometimes i worry i'm just being a bit of a starfish on occasion 😭

as always the default advice is communicate with your top and see what things they want beforehand but really the only thing is be responsive and show like. earnesty / gratitude. thats basically all that is needed

it really depends but as a service top my only job is to please you. so in return the only thing i want to hear from you is that im pleasing you and doing a good job at it. i know a lot of pillow princesses who are a little more shy. it doesn't need to be a performance or anything. basically do your best to relax and entrust yourself to whoever your with on the basis they want to do this for you. if it's too hard to express yourself during sex, do it after for sure and maybe tell your top beforehand so they know not to worry when you're being quieter

but like. service tops want to know you are feeling good. so if they're making you feel good, communicate that in some way. holding onto their arms or just being loud etc.i like having my hair played with and being close to my partner during. hearing verbally is good but being able to experience it in your body language is more than enough. intimate but nonsexual touch is always great. also if they're not making you feel good, don't be afraid to course correct. it's true for any sexual partner but like. especially for service tops lol

its fine as long as you feel good and relax basically

[szilverer]

on hands, responsibility, and "what's mine is yours"

the ghostie is inevitably going to See In Apocyan some rather personally disturbing parallels between the Seventh Coil/Tiger Keeper and themself :D itll take me a while to get to that though so. why not revisit the start with the 37486 unposted things i have lying around

Edward's hands are their hands.

Responsibility is the strongest thread that kept these two tied to each other, back then. Reisz made sure to leave it clear on day one. Marrying me isn't you getting what you want. Marrying me is a punishment.

Which means that all his actions– whatever wrong he does, whatever person he haunts— is on their tab. This is not a matter of guilt or remorse: Reisz' own self-administered price to be paid for their whim is the permanent sense of responsibility over their... husband.

He, by all means, should have died. It would be the kind thing to do by their own (naive) beliefs and yet Reisz kept him alive on a (selfish) whim.

If he's breathing now it's only because they let him breathe.

If he gets blood on his hands, that's blood on their hands.

You are my responsibility.

His hands are their hands.

Reisz' hands failed them ever since they tried to commit suicide in that coffin.

Caving their skull in left a series of minor issues that made their life more difficult. Small things. Speaking. Reading. Writing, holding a pen. Buttoning and unbuttoning. Delicate lab work. Even opening jars stopped being an automatic action and became an active process. Reisz dropped things all the time– they couldn't trust their hands for a lot of things now. Nothing too bad, though! They swear. Nothing serious. Minor annoyances, that's all.

Edward's hands were burned.

It was true hell to move them at all after his darling dearest set fire to his life, yet he endured it. He agonisingly held tools to write letters upon letters and carve sculptures day and night as palliative care, desperately trying to retain a modicum of sanity while separated from his object of affection. He purposefully burned himself again, he endured it, and the pain helped him through it. After shedding skin twice, the scars remain, although not as stiff as they used to be. They don't get in the way of his life at all.

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Reisz doesn't ever ask for help in London– after becoming a POSI, they started to concern themself with reputation. They don't want to be seen as weak, or rather, they don't want people to learn their weaknesses. It feels inadequate.

Well, Parabola isn't London. They reach a point where all the minor difficulties add up. One day Reisz dreams of the Orphanage, their unconscious taking them to their responsibility extended, they see this man they're keeping tabs on, grinning, all but glowing just by being near them, and they are so exhausted they give up, they make use of him.

i need you to...

It makes him so happy. Even when he tried not to smile they could still see the false-joy in his eyes. This is far from a punishment, but isn't that sort of thing part of being loved? Isn't this the make-believe they wanted to experience in the first place? It's fine. No one else is here to see. He's seeing it, but he's cut off from London so it doesn't matter. A couple weeks into this marriage and Reisz starts to slowly but surely favour their own comfort.

His hands are theirs.

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and yeah in case anyone's wondering how badly rei inadvertently set themself up,

[otsmosis]

Angel considering it his ultimate test to crack Alastor ^^

[autisticmind]

I don't have "ulterior motives", generally speaking, they are exterior motives— as plainly given as can be, if I know you want me to tell you or feel like I should share for one reason or another.

I don't really see the point in hiding most, if not all things— which can lead to info and trauma dumping and oversharing, when I don't understand/recognize when it's not appropriate.

Do not give me vague hints. Tell me when something makes you uncomfortable.

And don't misinterpret my wanting to know why as trying/wanting to argue with or pressure you— I am just trying to make enough sense of it to expand or fit it into my expectations. I don't, generally, have a problem with the thing itself, just the adjustment.

So explain— at least, try to as best as you can. Specify. State things honestly and openly and clearly. Directly. In another way if one was maybe too unfamiliar or unclear for me to understand.

I promise you, I will respond to and reciprocate the effort most appreciatively.

[joelletwo]

head in my hands the final gintoki.

[kresnikcest]

I still don’t know what’s funnier. Julius being absolutely oblivious to incestuous thoughts and then having fifty panic attacks when he realises, or Julius knowing full well about it and spending years of his life hating himself for it.

[tittyinfinity]

Cool cool cool cool cool cool cool cool cool

[maegalkarven]

I like the headcanon what druids have a high sense of smell even out of the wild shape and what emotions, being chemical reactions of the brain and the body, have a smell too.

I especially like it in the context of Levi being a druid and a darn good one.

Which makes the entire meeting at the Wyrm Rock keep hilarious.

Gortash speaks about them being allies and their plans, and the entire time Levi is sweating and trying to figure out why the tyrannical chosen of Bane emits the smell of being enamored with him.

Bonus point if both Jaheira and Halsin are present and they just awkwardly share glances, like: "What the fuck???"

[evilducks]

this amv always ends up annoying me because the point of catradora To Me is NOT that they were 'destined for each other' or 'meant to be together' like that's just not it!! their relationship is something that THEY get to choose, something that THEY get to define. after a lifetime of having other people try to take their decisions away from them, being able to choose what you are to each other is amazing! it's such an important part of their story! if we say that they were meant to be together, then it.... kinda takes away that element. which is fine i am glad that people are enjoying themselves and it's cool that different people have different feelings about canon. but. but. :(

.......IT'S ABOUT FREEDOOOOOMMMMM LISTEN TO ME LISTEN TO ME IT'S ABOUT FREEDOM

[thebirdandhersong]

am I simply............. to be an educational pit stop and temporarily necessary mental/emotional/spiritual support for the men I love for all time?? like yes the two boys I've loved in my life I DID love with all my heart however the first only started reading the Bible regularly and investing in his church community after I broke up with him (these were things I kept suggesting while we dated, but which he brushed off and didn't take seriously) and now it's looking like I am an emotional bookmark for the second. like I'm in between one page of his life and the next, and am helping him process and am teaching him how to deal with his emotions properly, but what I'm doing for him is literally all that I will be to him, and he likely won't remember me when I move out of the dorm and graduate.

[hadesknockedupintheunderworld]

Hhhhh brainrotting over Ianfinite <- man who should not be this obsessed over the psyche of someone's Sonic oc

Anyways, I think it's a common misconception that Infinite simps for Ian Jr, but Ian Jr would never reciprocate feelings

What if the feelings are mutual but each of them thinks the other does not feel the same

Like Infinite thinks Ian Jr is cool, and that he can see right through his attempts to be cool and edgy (even if he also simultaneously thinks he is how he tries to be). He wants to please Ian Jr so he can win him over, or at the very least so Ian Jr will keep him around. Pathetic Jackal trying to impress his crush and make his crush see him as super cool and great, but also afraid that his crush can see through him and will notice every slip up or mistake. Doesn't think Ian jr feels the same but wants to make it happen by just being so appealing

And what's funny is that Ian Jr *does* see right through him. He can see that Infinite is pathetic and cringe. He *does* notice when Infinite slips up and fails. Except that's what Ian Jr likes about him. Does this make sense? Someone would be like "Infinite is cringe!" and Ian Jr would counter with "I know! It's what makes him appealing!" Or at the very least he knows and doesn't care. But even though that Ian Jr can see Infinite's attempts to look cool in front of him and what would be Infinite's attempts to woo him, it does not occur to Ian Jr that Infinite likes him romantically.

Ian Jr looked for Infinite after he "went missing" (I have not played forces. I heard Infinite got trapped in the phantom ruby or something? Idk I'm thinking from a specific comic I'm pretty sure Ian made), but Infinite doesn't know this. Infinite isn't just acting the way he does because he wants to prove himself better than Shadow, but also because he frankly wants to make Ian Jr swoon (and be considered cool by the mobian he thinks is just so incredibly cool), and Ian Jr doesn't know this.

This could be solved if they just talked about it, but they won't!😂

Because Infinite is dedicated to his plan of winning over Ian Jr without having to reveal himself (basically getting Ian Jr to confess and choose him)

And Ian Jr believes Infinite doesn't feel that way and is just glad Infinite is around and alive at least, so he doesn’t see any reason to talk about anything

Idiots idiots someone should force them to kiss

It wouldn't fix this, but it would be funny

[lycanthropiedd]

I AM WAITING?????? I HAVE BEEN WAITING?????? I WAS BORN WAITING?????? WHAT COULD I BE???????????

[boyfear]

i think the reason i don't really identify with the fagdyke persona that many on here have recently found kinship with is that by the same logic i kind of consider myself straight both directions too. and to me it feels like it cancels out