#romantic. platonic. qpr partner. idc i just WANT

[rotisseries]

posts where people say they don't like zelink bc it's just another knight/princess ship kill me dead like wdym. are you shipping things based off the characters job descriptions

[spaceastridxx]

A lot abt SU recently but I just want to talk on my lapidot shipping, bc I don’t ship them as a “couple” let’s say

I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately bc I’ve been getting into my past hyperfixations again (once a hyperfixation, always a hyperfixation lol)) and I ship lapidot, as most people know, peri is aroace canonically, so in my brain, lapis and peridot and lapis’s relationship as a QPR(queer platonic relationship) nothing romantic, but platonically partners, I mean they lived in a barn along caring for a farm,with pumpkin- the most queer way of living( speaking from my opinions on howd I live as a lesbian)) plus, their relationship is different from ruby and sapphire, (a canon sapphic romantic relationship, I mean they’re married so idk how it wouldn’t be lol))

One thing I think on constantly, when lapis leaves with the barn to the moon,lapis obviously wanted peri to come with, how they both deal with the loss of each other, it makes sense that their bond is more, their reaction when lapis came back also, it’s an all of sudden thing, you can tell that they both were surprised and glad to see each other- it really makes me wonder what conversations and interactions they had before they drove the arms to homeworld to rescue the gems when they both reformed, it obviously took time to rebuild the ships to be flyable, there was some obvious bug feelings they both had to talk abt that couldn’t in that very moment-

Some things I rlly think on is that Peri’s bubble formed in barn with lapis, yeah it may just be a coincidence that lapis is there but honestly I feel like they both feel like home to each other- the development between both of them is so good, peridot helped lapis thru the stuff with jasper- it may all be just my thoughts but I absolutely love the ship of lapis and peridot having a qpr relationship (this may be controversial but idc)

[aroaceconfessions]

I know I guess I have a QPR but to me like the possibility of a QPR doesn’t seem to be a thing for me cuz the way I conceptualize romantic vs platonic relationships is labels + presentation. I’m aroace (or in both those spectrums? Just easier to say aroace) and before discovering I was aspec I always felt like relationships didn’t dictate behavior and vice versa. To me the difference between being friends and being romantic partners is the people in the relationship having mutually agreed upon labels, is the people involved agreeing to simultaneously present their relationship to society in the same fashion. So to me the difference between having a boyfriend and a boy friend is that we just tell people it’s romantic. So while I love the idea of QPRs and I get where people are coming from when they describe them, to me relationships are just like your fridge and the labels are magnets you stick on it, so you can have all the same foodstuffs with circle magnets one week and the next week you have square magnets with all the same food. I guess in this analogy the food is behavior?? But the magnets is def just the label you slap on. So in some ways I’m sad I feel like I can’t have a QPR? Even if technically I can only have QPRs from my understanding? But I think that sadness is knowing there isn’t a space in society for a QPR and so I can’t label a relationship QPR cuz the infrastructure and social stuff just isn’t built for it. And it makes me sad cuz so many people are so happy in their QPRs and all I can think about on that is that society will demand them be different. But I don’t want them to be different. We may be in different corners, but I love the people being themselves when they share their joy over QPRs.

Anyway, I think it’s odd people try to base relationships off of specific feelings too so for my life I like the “it’s just a label thing, that’s agreed upon by all parties, and behaviors are determined by comfort and boundaries of all parties” better than constantly questioning “how do I feel?” I learned a long time ago idc how I feel in specifics, to me all that matters is wanting to spend time with someone and being happy they exist. And them choosing to spend time with me. Cuz to me, that’s what any relationship is: people choosing to put in the time to be with another.

[sunsetling-12]

currently obsessed with steve and robin fake marriage agenda (i read Love and Honor but Not Obey from crow_of_crimes on ao3) bc im assexual and in a qpr and these two are my outlet for literally everything in my life so...

im back for more headcanons :D

i agree with the fanfic in question, they don't tell anyone that they got legally married and just live life as nothing had happened

steve buys them a somewhat fancy ring because he's like that (he usually wears it, but robin keeps it mostly in a chain around her neck)

they move away to new york (or any other big city idc, just think ny is kinda cool) after robin graduates so she can start college

(i personally think they got paid by the government to stay quiet about the shit that happened, so money's not an issue anymore, but Steve still get part-time jobs or else he'll get bored — and i think he's the type to open up a coffee shop or buy a franchise or something like that)

anyway, they shared a tiny apartment

and use their married status to escape from messy situations

although sometimes they lost dates because of it

bc i've a feeling they don't know when someone is flirting with them unless they're the ones who start the flirting

they agreed to get a divorce if one find in a stable romantic relationship they want to be more serious with

it almost happens three times: two because of steve and one was robin's

but usually their partners don't understand the bond and codependency they have (is not like you can talk about other dimensions and government conspiracies in a date or in life in general) so those relationships end up wearing down

eventually they gave up on purposely finding a serious romantic relationship and just 'date around'

they have one neighbor who swears to all the others they're cheating with each other because he eventually sees women and men coming and going but can't convince anyone else because to every other person around, they're the example of 'perfect love'

they find it more funny than they should

once robin graduates college, they buy a brownstone

steve falls in love with the idea of becoming a foster parent, it doesn't take long to convince robin so they could start the process of getting licensed

steve becames a stay at home dad

robin was a little worried she wouldn't be a good parental figure but she ends up doing a good job, specially with older kids and teens

i dont know how the rest of the party would find about all of it... i live for the slight angst and think they lost contact with the others as the time went by, but something (not end of the world related) could happen and they all get back together for a big surprise (😅)

steve and robin would finally be comfortable enough with themselves to explain why they really are just platonic and why they preferred to live like that

the other two headcanons blogs that i have: 1 e 2

[strangestcase]

hfassfafsgd it’s so stupid when exclusionists claim that queerplatonic relationships/platonic datemates are “like having friends” or “trying to claim having friends is inherently gay“ like WHOA Kevin I didn’t know you lived with your best friend and got married to them and had casual sex with your best friend and celebrated your Dating As Friends anniversary or raised children together and acted like a run-on-the-mill couple save for the lack of romantic feelings, just to name a few examples of Totally Just Friends Things lmao... a queerplatonic relationship is neither a frienship nor a traditional romantic relationship, it’s something else ENTIRELY and I don’t know how that fucking simple piece of knowledge couldnt make it through your thick, arophobic skulls. who by the way usually pair the good ol aphobia with some good old Hating Polyamory Joaks because FUCK non-traditional relationships amirite folks????? apparently the only non-standard relationships allowed are Two Cis Allogays Being Totally Normal and Not Freaky, lest we scare the cishets! And, look, I’m NOT ARO and I know it’s now my job to tell y’all what the aromantic community wants but, to put this on words, your shitty posts mockin QPRs and/or polyamory are also hurting me, an allo bi person, you know, part of the True Good GaysTM y’all claim to want to protect from the Bad And Ridiculous Gay Snowflakes (plot twist I’m actually the latter)? Like... tbf I would like to have a partner, platonic or otherwise, idc, and seeing my personal feelings towards relationships be turned into a stupid “special queer snowflakes ahuhuhu” joke a Fox News presenter would DEFINITELY laugh at is. Hm. Dare I say. Not good!

[planetbass]

bro all 25 of those aspec asks, hit it

holy shit dude, alright

Space, dragon, or cake ace?

space

How long have you known you were ace?

probably since i was 12 or smth? whenever i first found out what it was, which was when i joined tumblr. as for arospec, i went by grayromantic for a little bit, i don’t remember when that started. by mid to late 2015 i was going by full aromantic. 

Favorite part of being ace?

it’s one less thing to worry about lmao.

Least favorite part of being ace?

all the discourse n gatekeeping around it on tumblr. the constant ‘not feeling lgbt enough’ despite having other lgbt identities. 

Intimacy, yay or nay?

depends but typically nay

What kind of moments make you think “oh yeah, I’m definitely ace”

when i hear abt other people my age (or even younger) engaging in sexual acts all the time. it’s just like,, ?????? yall do that??

What’s your theoretical type?

we talkin looks? cuz idc. when it comes to crushes i’ve had in the past, it was always someone that could make me laugh.

Are you in / would you want a QPR?

i’d be open to the idea

Describe your ideal romantic/platonic partner

someone with a similar sense of humor, and someone that i never really feel drained being around. someone who shares the same interests as me.

Say your best aspec pickup line

i literally have nothing to say or think of here

Most underrated form of intimacy?

being weird together

Favorite music genre?

alternative, typically. folk/folk rock etc. indie, or whatever tf you’d call mili.

Any really niche interests?

defunct theme parks

What’s the first movie/show you think of when you think “unnecessary sex scene” or “unnecessary romantic subplot”

supernatural. marvel movies. 

Rather than sex/romance, media would be much better off with more ____

FOUND FAMILY. m/f friendships that don’t turn into romance. intimate platonic m/m relationships. more diversity in general. 

Do you experience the aspec obliviousness when it comes to innuendos or the like?

nope i’m hyperaware

Do you have an ace ring?

are we talkin abt like a physical ring or like, a friend group, or smth else. either way no. but majority of my friends happen to be acespec

Do you want kids, or pets?

definitely want pets. i don’t necessarily want kids or plan on having them, but if i ever did end up with kids somehow i would definitely want to adopt. 

Instead of sex, I’d rather have ____

all of the zelda merch

Favorite movie/book/game genre?

movie/show - comedy, feel-good, fantasy, slice of life, musical

book - mystery, thriller/suspense, horror, sci-fi, comedy

game - rpg, adventure, single-player, story-driven, horror/psychological horror 

Could you see yourself in a relationship with a sexual person?

big maybe. i’d probably shy away from it

Name something you do that’s ace culture

eat cereal at 2 am

Are people surprised when you say you’re ace, or not?

i don’t really mention it, and when i do its just to ppl online. so no not rly.

Are you out to people?

nah. my friends know and that’s good enough for me.

If you could live somewhere with only aspec people, would you?

maybe. i don’t know if id want to live somewhere with only aspec people, but a society that’s severely less sexualized sounds ideal.