#straight to marriage

[buddiedaydreamer911]

when he says stuff like this, is when i truly believe eddie would propose to buck just seconds after their first kiss

[whetstonefires]

You know what I realize that people underestimate with Pride & Prejudice is the strategic importance of Jane.

Because like, I recently saw Charlotte and Elizabeth contrasted as the former being pragmatic and the latter holding out for a love match, because she's younger and prettier and thinks she can afford it, and that is very much not what's happening.

The Charlotte take is correct, but the Elizabeth is all wrong. Lizzie doesn't insist on a love match. That's serendipitous and rather unexpected. She wants, exactly as Mr. Bennet says, someone she can respect. Contempt won't do. Mr. Bennet puts it in weirdly sexist terms like he's trying to avoid acknowledging what he did to himself by marrying a self-absorbed idiot, but it's still true. That's what Elizabeth is shooting for: a marriage that won't make her unhappy.

She's grown up watching how miserable her parents make one another; she's not willing to sign up for a lifetime of being bitter and lonely in her own home.

I think she is very aware, in refusing Mr. Collins, that it's reasonably unlikely that anyone she actually respects is going to want her, with her few accomplishments and her lack of property. That she is turning down security and the chance keep the house she grew up in, and all she gets in return may be spinsterhood.

But, crucially, she has absolute faith in Jane.

The bit about teaching Jane's daughters to embroider badly? That's a joke, but it's also a serious potential life plan. Jane is the best creature in the world, and a beauty; there's no chance at all she won't get married to someone worthwhile.

(Bingley mucks this up by breaking Jane's heart, but her prospects remain reasonable if their mother would lay off!)

And if Elizabeth can't replicate that feat, then there's also no doubt in her mind that Jane will let her live in her house as a dependent as long as she likes, and never let it be made shameful or awful to be that impoverished spinster aunt. It will be okay never to be married at all, because she has her sister, whom she trusts absolutely to succeed and to protect her.

And if something eventually happens to Jane's family and they can't keep her anymore, she can throw herself upon the mercy of the Gardeners, who have money and like her very much, and are likewise good people. She has a support network--not a perfect or impregnable one, but it exists. It gives her realistic options.

Spinsterhood was a very dangerous choice; there are reasons you would go to considerable lengths not to risk it.

But Elizabeth has Jane, and her pride, and an understanding of what marrying someone who will make you miserable costs.

That's part of the thesis of the book, I would say! Recurring Austen thought. How important it is not to marry someone who will make you, specifically, unhappy.

She would rather be a dependent of people she likes and trusts than of someone she doesn't, even if the latter is formally considered more secure; she would rather live in a happy, reasonable household as an extra than be the mistress of her own home, but that home is full of Mr. Collins and her mother.

This is a calculation she's making consciously! She's not counting on a better marriage coming along. She just feels the most likely bad outcome from refusing Mr. Collins is still much better than the certain outcome of accepting him. Which is being stuck with Mr. Collins forever.

Elizabeth is also being pragmatic. Austen also endorses her choice, for the person she is and the concerns she has. She's just picking different trade-offs than Charlotte.

Elizabeth's flaw is not in her own priorities; she doesn't make a reckless choice and get lucky. But in being unable to accept that Charlotte's are different, and it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with Charlotte.

Because realistically, when your marriage is your whole family and career forever, and you only get to pick the ones that offer themselves to you, when you are legally bound to the status of dependent, you're always going to be making some trade-offs.

😂 Even the unrealistically ideal dream scenario of wealthy handsome clever ethical Mr. Darcy still asks you to undergo personal growth, accommodate someone else's communication style, and eat a little crow.

[flyin-shark]

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

come get yer Laughin'stock! get it hot off the press! free Laughin'stock right here!

[pharawee]

🇹🇭🏳️‍🌈 But it is now confirmed!! https://x.com/saksithcna/status/1772884245981123020?s=46&t=mvTAw9jWfh8OZn8f86CleA

Thank you, anon. I've been excited for this the whole day. 🥳

I just hope they ultimately decide on the best possible version of the equal marriage act with full gender equality and equal rights when it comes to adoption and parenthood. 🙏

[boylikeanangel]

im fucking devastated. all aziraphale wants is to be with crowley. he's always thinking about them in collective terms now. we carved it out for ourselves. our bookshop. our car. there's no him without crowley anymore. he has spent six thousand years running away and telling himself there's no "their side" that he can't get too close always holding crowley at arm's length but the second doesn't need to fool himself anymore literally all he wants is to share his life with crowley. jesus fucking christ man

[serialunaliver]

straight marriage tiktok is terrifying. why are you bragging that you take care of your husband like he's a toddler? it's so dark in here . hello?

[canisalbus]

Is it hard not to make all your characters gay? Matteo is 👀 very good (idk if you've said his sexuality, I just assume that due to the time period, most "side" characters would be straight?)

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[lokh]

WAIT SHUROS DAD SAID HE WANTED HIM TO BRING SOMETHING BACK INTERESTING.... AND WHO IS MORE INTERESTING THAN LAIOS....

[weapon-ish]

okay so i think maybe catholics are insane. BUT today at in-law christmas. one of my aunts-in-law BROUGHT UP good omens, talking about how she loved it and that season two was devastating and how she's so excited for season three. actually literally said "i need it to end HAPPY!"

i felt like i was caught in a real life version of an old obviously fake superwholock tumblr post. this 40-something straight catholic woman loves the gay sacrilege show. girl what? i wouldn't have believed it if my wife wasn't there to confirm. i was so excited actually......... i recommended she watch wilde and bright young things bc she loooooves michael and i love that for her, i want her to see his twinkiest roles, LIVE FREE KELLY,,,

if we ever come out as not a cishet couple to that family i swearrrrr im telling her first. she would clap for us i think

[respectthepetty]

I KNOW IT JUST ENDED SECONDS AGO BUT PETTY HAVE YOU SEEN LAST TWILIGHT EP 10!?!?!? NIGHT NATION RIIIIIIIIISE!!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 - Katros

I actually haven't watched it yet, but your ask caused me to immediately skip to part three of the episode, so I could see

NIGHT NATION RISE!

He said all of that with his FULL CHEST! No hesitation. No argument. This isn't a daddy. This is a dad. And I have never been more attracted to a man using his authoritative voice.

I was saving this episode and planned to watch it in the airport but good thing I saw this part already because I would've screamed at gate B5 because Night deserves his family, and Day and Mork are going to be the best uncles to the kid who will be the ring bearer at their wedding.

MARRIAGE EQUALITY 2024, THAILAND!

[backsurasy]

They are just too cute, I love them, I want them to adopt me

[seulgishaku]

Hera my biggest opp cause why would you make Jason wake up holding Piper's hand and not Leo's like she gotta be homophobic or smth

[movedtodykedvonte]

Despite the plethora of exceedingly hot and alluring women in Peter Parker’s life his compatibility and chemistry with most of the men he encounters as Spider-Man makes me believe his issue with connecting with these women has little to do with living a double life…

[mummer]

can you imagine being this insanely cruel when speaking about your lesbian sister who lived a very full if tragic life????

[vaguely-concerned]

I am taking the fact that o'brien hung out with bashir in this lighting

for a whole episode, without it apparently stirring much in him other than maybe faint irritation, as proof that for all his other wonderful qualities our chief of operations really may be completely heterosexual