#trans struggles

[peterokii]

how i transed my gender in primary school but didnt realize it until i was 17

[m3l4nch0ly-h1ll]

A transfem and transmasc pressing their chests together for comfort. Thinking of how wrong their chests feel but how right they feel together. If only they could've switched bodies, how easy that would be for them. But, they can't. So this is their method of reassurance. They're in this together, and they'll feel right soon enough. Until they have the chest that they want, where their roles are reversed, and they can finally feel like a puzzle piece when they push their bare chests together.

[finnslay]

Sigh

[fox4brains]

the struggle of being genderqueer trans man and wanting to experiment with gender the way a cis boy would and still be percieved as a boy but if i do it ill just be seen as a girl 😭 struggles of a pre t genderqueer trans man

[lucina-rae]

[zeawesomeness]

Lowkwy wondering how Kendra knew Leo was a ‘she’ when (s)he looks as close to cannon😭😭 (was it a girl sense??)

I HECKIN' KNEW SOMEONE WAS GONNA ASK THIS!!! Which is completely fair, btw.

They both immediately knew Leo was a "girl" when this happened:

A common struggle trans people deal with (myself included) is: no matter how well we pass, our voices tend to give us away.

Leo will eventually take testerone to deepen his voice, but in the meantime, he sounds like a girl.

[moderndaycassandra]

I got misgendered at McDonald's today. I was wearing a frilly skirt, a choker, a lesbian pride bracelet, a decent amount of makeup, and a pin with my pronouns on it. I asked a question and the cashier turned around to ask a coworker "Hey, HE wants this, can we do that?" My adam's apple isn't that big, my jacket obscures my shoulders, and my face was fem enough under the makeup. I legitimately don't understand how this person thought I was a man.

Every time I start to feel even a little bit good, the universe throws a fucking curveball like this.

[jacobboo]

why do people feel the need to deadname you when talking about the past

i didn't get replaced by some trans guy, you don't gotta pretend like I wasn't trans back then

[bli-o]

i fucking hate transphobes because they love to make up “actual reasons” trans people are trans like “they have a fetish for being (x) gender” or “they want to prey on kids” and it allows them to completely dodge actually interacting with arguments for the existence of gender and the non-existence of gender or sex binaries. It sets the discussion MILES upon MILES back because it’s not even a discussion of whether trans people are real, it’s a discussion of whether we’re xyz stereotype.

and that’s the express purpose! It’s the oldest trick in the book; if they make a strawman to argue with, they dont have to put in the effort to argue with you at all! Conservatives have done this for hundreds of years.

misogynists stereotyped women as emotional to have an excuse for not confronting whether women are inherently less capable or smart than men Racists stereotyped black men as predators to have an excuse for not confronting whether your skin tone was a valid reason to dehumanize and hate someone

homophobes stereotyped gay people as predators(rings a bell) to have an excuse for not confronting whether being gay is natural or not immoral.

Just as they stereotype trans people now as predatory(rings a bell) “autogynephiles” or as “TRAs indoctrinating kids.”

[linkymew]

cis people are always wondering what my gender and pronouns are.

i would also like to know.

[peterokii]

my mom doesnt like my tattoo

[m3l4nch0ly-h1ll]

How many actual trans men are there in representation, especially in ancient history? Instead of cis female Sworn Virgins and a bunch of cis women who only presented as male for reasons other than genuinely feeling and identifying as male? Instead of there just being stories about cis girls being SA'd and suddenly wanting to be men because of it, or a father wanting a son but the mother birthing an AFAB child and raising them as a boy and turning them into a male body through prayer?? Instead of the stories being of women who went to war as men without feeling like men, and women who presented as males for the sake of privilege rather than feeling like males?? I can search up trans history and only see stories and art of transfems, enbies, intersex people, and cis women. I can search up history of trans men and the only 'representation' I see us getting is cis women when they don't correlate to my searches. They aren't AFAB people that feel and identify as men and therefore live as men for genuine euphoria and to feel right, they are cis women pretending to be men for privileges and other advantages that aren't related closely to the self and their own identity, because they don't identify as men. It shatters the meaning of the term transgender. Researchers know the meaning of transgender until it comes down to trans men and transmascs, then the definition is suddenly watered down and we don't exist.

[sunification]

me: god my period is killing me

my friends who don’t know I’m trans: your what

[bumg-i]

DUDE does anyone know where the FUCK to find swimwear for Trans men like omg the only shit I can find for tops is on Amazon and only fucking color is black like I want bright colors???? Helllloooooo like my tits are small but doing anything water related i feel extremely insecure and it makes me feel disgusting out in public I don't want to feel that way !! Please I'm looking for really any recommendations

[lets-all-calm-down-a-bit]

It makes me feel a little weird that most of the transmasc positivity posts about trans guys being able to happily have curves and tits are pretty sexual. Like, I think trans people should be able to express themselves however they want, and you don't have to be dysphoric or hate your body to be trans. (You can be trans and love the body you were born in!) It's just unnerving to see so much focus on well... how hot trans guys are when they have tits and curves, and to see all the art of trans men with boobs and hips be half naked and suggestive. It feels less like liberation/allyship and more like objectification.

[Pls don't take this post as me being a transmed or like, idk vague posting or something. I'm not. I just think trans people of all shapes and sizes deserve to be loved without being seen as sex toys, and I've been feeling uncomfortable with the emphasis on nonconforming trans people's sexual attractiveness lately.]

[belovedapollo]

TW transphobia from parents

I’m now 2 months on T and my voice is ofc cracking and whenever my mum is hanging out with me she rolls her eyes when I have to clear my throat. My dad called me yesterday to tell me happy international women’s day. I’ve been on the edge ever since and I am so tired. I wonder how it feels to have supportive parents instead of parents that are passive aggressive.