#ugh i hate this time of year so fucking much

[redwidow616]

I am SO SICK of people always blaming new/young fans whenever something goes wrong in a fandom.

I know they don't say "all new/young fans suck" they only say "oh i bet it was only new/young fans who did *insert shitty thing" and they might even be right sometimes or even most times but i see no fucking nuance and it's just so frustrating because every. single. time. I feel the need to say in the tags "well not ALL new/young fans are like that"

It feels like if those people met me and i told them I'm new to the fandom they would immediately look down on me. And for what? Because i was born later? I'm sorry but you have had so much more time in your life to find things you're passionate about and so much more time on social media in many cases to connect with people and also discover new fandoms through that. You're absolutely not helping the issue by saying "ugh i hate new/young *insert fan name". If anything you're making them resent you if they see it and pushing them more towards behaviour you deem inacceptable.

Of course some fans do shitty things and unless they're like eight years old they are of course totally responsible for that and yes maybe some young fans do some things they shouldn't but they shouldn't be immediately ostracised forever because of that because people make mistakes. I bet you did too when you were young. And maybe if they had older fans who maybe told them something about this fandom and supported them they wouldn't do shitty things.

So what I'm trying to say is just don't blame new and young fans immediately without an ounce of proof because it makes people feel really shitty when it's generalised like that

[fragiledate]

god i just caught the most fatal cold rn

[autisticlee]

no one knows just how hard I work at things. how I have to work 1000000x more than the average person to compensate for being autistic and adhd and probably other things i'm working out with therapist, and having a sort of physical disability i've not received any help or treatment for. everyone assumes I don't try or give up too soon. they think I just started, need more practice. they think I expect everything handed to me immediately with no work or effort and don't acknowledge the multiple years i've put into things. they think I have no right to be upset about still failing to get where I want even after working my entire life to get there, while watching people around me surpass even my meager goals within a fraction of the time and work i've out into the same thing. constantly getting surpassed by everyone around me who seem to barely do any work to get there compared to me. it's all handed to them and falls into their lap so easily. all because they don't have the extra obstacles to overcome and work around that I do. while they go from point A to Z immediately with no major stops in between, I have to go through every single letter and then some, often getting sent back to the start. but it's always *my* fault, according to everyone. it's not the fault of those around me who ignore me, don't support me, don't help me, don't believe in me, etc. it's my fault they don't do those things. because doing the work of 10 people in one isn't enough, just because it's me. and not reaching Z as fast as everyone else means I don't deserve any of the support or help or anything else and means i'm not trying hard enough. it doesn't matter that I *need* to work harder than 100 "normal" people combined to get even half the result! Just because I can't reach what they do means i'm not trying hard enough! ugh.

[songwritingauslly]

don’t you love it when ur friend forgets about u and ignores ur existence the second she’s near her best friend

[theflyingfeeling]

how dare stores not sell the exact kind of products I'm looking for

[baked-hylian]

I wish I could control my frustration better

[freckleslikestars]

Don't blink. Blink and you're dead. Don't turn your back. Don't look away. And don't blink. Good luck.

DOCTOR WHO 3.10 | Blink

[cashew-milkk]

why has jjk manga gone to absolute shit. it’s so ass. i’m reading it for the sake of completion, but i’m not enjoying any of it

[lilgynt]

why my mom can’t flush or wash her hands is beyond me

[peapod20001]

Did sleeping help

No </3

[johndonneswife]

someone really should be talking about how difficult it is to plan a wedding - a gay wedding - when both of your families fucking suck

[opens-up-4-nobody]

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[coridallasmultipass]

Personal vent post, how I tag things, apologies for this probably showing up in search results because I'm not censoring words (do not have the spoons rn)

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So I'm getting really frustrated (at the situation, not at individual people! Sorry to vague right after getting a request, I was gonna make this post like a week ago) that multiple people have asked me not to tag Bro/Cal reblogs as Stridercest.

Stridercest does not mean incest, it means Strider/Strider relationship. I'm tagging it for followers who don't want to see Strider/Strider at all (or for those who do, too, I guess). On MY blog, it has NO bearing on whether or not something is incest. Lil Cal has been a Strider since Day 1 to me, way before any of the events after Act 6, as a pure vanilla puppet. A Strider by marriage, in my opinion. But I'm not opposed to calculating the amount of Strider that got put in Lil Cal, as I've done before. You also have Dirk/Hal which is also Stridercest, but not incest (at least in canon, sometimes it is incest in fan depictions). Or Guardiancest, which I don't think counts as incest in canon either (but usually always is in fan depictions). Even selfcest between one Strider (beta!Dave/beta!Dave in a time travel situation, for example) is still gonna be Stridercest to me.

The ONLY Stridercest I add the specific ship tag for is Bro/Cal, because that's otp5eva for me, separate from any other Strider stuff (Stridercest probably doesn't even make top 3 HS ships for me). Everything else only gets the blanket Stridercest in reblogs, because I already tag a lot, I don't have the energy to add nuanced tags for weird Strider situations, and whether or not that constitutes incest, or which version of a character it is, especially when the artist/authors don't usually make the difference explicitly stated in their own caption/tags, and sometimes it's vague on purpose! (I'm currently writing a fic where Bro and Dirk are the same person! I'm not gonna make the distinction a big deal.)

It's mostly frustrating because then I have to decide if untagging the relationship as Stridercest is going to make someone else following me uncomfortable who will then see it untagged.

Going forth, I am going to delete whatever reblog I made if I get this request from someone else again. I'm trying to remember names, so I don't reblog any future content that would conflict with their requests, but this has already happened with three people in like the past two weeks. Had to block one person for telling me to die because I tagged "Stridercest" on the post preventatively, as usual, because I care about tagging for my followers. (I literally checked their blog like 3 times to make sure they didn't have a DNI pinned, and I still got told to die for my efforts lmao.)

Literally, please just DM me privately (thank you to the other people who did, sorry for the trouble!), and I will either delete the reblog, or block you if you request that. I'm not TRYING to make people uncomfortable, which is the whole reason why I tag it to begin with.

So, I'm not un-tagging shit anymore, it's delete only from now on. I'm not going against my own blog rules I set both to try and accommodate my followers, and to make searching my blog easier for myself. (Used to not tag anything from like 2011-2016 or later, and I'm still in the process of back-tagging everything, since it's been so frustrating to find old fandom posts.)

[wehavecometoanend--maybe]

incomprehensible ramble

sometimes when I'm going [*loud crashing sound*] inside my brain I want to ask the people in my life questions that I really shouldn't ask them (and won't) because they are inappropriate and stupid and also. nobody would answer them truthfully anyways or well...I wouldn't/couldn't believe the answer either way because like.

who would, if asked by a friend who u know is going through it: "do u think I'm doomed by my inability to change? am I a bad person? am I a burden [to you]? do I offer you anything positive? do you think I'll always suffer?" answer with, yes, actually, I think you're gonna die suffering, after you suffered all your life and also ur really annoying. like even if that was the case. at least the people in my life wouldn't say that. I think

so whatever the answer(s) would be. I can't trust it. I'm awful 🥰

[mydignityisinflames]

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[neverendingford]

Therapists have two genders:

Professional Asshole and

Well-meaning Incompetent