#unrealistic expectations of women

[lejacquelope]

How to say you are an incel without saying you're an incel.

[femperor]

1800s: It's okay for a woman to be a teacher, but she has to quit if she gets married.

2000s: it's okay for a woman to be a teacher, but she has to quit if anybody finds out she has an active sex life or used to do porn ever even once.

[ecoamerica]

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[starryvomit]

“9-5”

-S

[idiosyncraticrednebula]

If you expect your significant other to be "perfect", boy are you gonna be in a lot of trouble.

[natsmagi]

Your response to the last post was contradictory to what you had said previously.You said you head canon of female tsumugi is from what you consider to be the epitome of an appealing and feminine female figure and then in the next post you are saying that it’s not the standard???so what is it?I’m kind of rolling my eyes at this because.I’m not even trying to discount the experiences of bigger boobed woman and I agree representation of them should be more varied..However.the completely one sided narrative you are trying to magistrate makes it seem as though life is SO much easier if you are completely flat.If you completely lack curves.If you completely lack volume.If that world that you were describing in your replies existed then boob jobs alone wouldn’t make as much money as they do annually.Anon was tactless in asks but I cannot sit here and pretend you were all that graceful that entire discussion either.

i think youre misunderstanding it. the point of my fem mugi isnt "the epitome of appealing and feminine female figures" its "what society deems conventionally attractive," and, societally speaking, women with curves Are. but does that mean these women are treated with love and respect for how they look? no. which is what we're talking about

and my arguments are obviously gonna lean heavily on one side because Thats What We're Talking About. like ive mentioned many times over im flat as fuck. i could go on and on about how us flat people get grossly infantalized and called "pedobait" and shit like that, but what would that add to my argument? we're not talking about flat people right now. nor am i saying we dont experience assault either. but the circumstances are different. to act like boobs arent something that alot of people view as inherently sexual is just kinda dumb, and thats been the topic of discussion. misogyny is a LARGE ISSUE, and what we're currently discussing will obviously only cover a fraction of it

people get boob jobs either because simply They want to OR because they feel having curves is the only way people will view them as "beautiful," again due to the limited variety in womens bodies in media and men lusting so frequently over the curvy one exclusively. but also again; this body being viewed as "beautiful" does NOT mean those who have it are treated with respect, which again, has been the topic of discussion

im not trying to be "graceful" with my responses, because frankly im pissed i even have to say this stuff. im not some goddamn company thats going to give you a PR response when i get asks like this, because im a human being with emotions. obviously im going to let my emotions show. especially when people are being so disrespectful towards me and others

[workinprogress14]

I wish someone had told younger me that your boobs don’t need to fit any certain ideal to be loved.

Your boobs will be loved even when they hang cause that shit is heavy and gravity is a real thing. Your boobs will be loved if they’re little. Your boobs will be loved if you have big areolas or not. Your boobs will be loved if you love to show off cleavage, and your boobs will be loved if you choose to wear a turtleneck. Your boobs will be loved even if one is bigger than the other…twins can be fraternal. Your boobs will be loved if they are decorated with jewelry or if their only holes are milk ducts. Your boobs will be loved if they are fake and ultra perky. Your boobs will be loved if they’re natural.

And anyone who makes you feel otherwise can stfu. They don’t deserve your glorious, soft, delicious, playful, tender, orgasmic titties.

[ecoamerica]

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[momocicerone]

Pet peeves in fiction: children who are written by authors who clearly have never interacted with a baby/child and have no clue how they speak and what their limitations/milestones are. Children (toddlers) who speak like adults or teenagers. Badly written children who try to pass as Genius children or super smart/ mature children. Children who are used as convenient plot devices instead of characters, have zero character build, and are lazily written without proper research.

[sspiderj]

i'm sorry but Unhappy Campers just makes me think about how it's easier for trans men to pass than it is for trans women

[worldprincessp2]

What is the point of a 2 hour marketing and publicity brainstorm when we have no budget to do the things we want to do ….

[pocket-size-cthulhu]

Thinking about when i saw someone's drawings of their Battle Girl OC's and the one girl had pants with thigh cutouts. Like regular pants but the inner thighs were exposed. And like sure that's a sexy look ~in theory~ but i couldn't help but think about how utterly unrealistic that is 😅 cutouts on the THIGHS of all places??? The same thighs that are always sticking together or rubbing uncomfortably??? No thank you 💀

[coffee-bat]

it's all "thick thighs save lives" until those thighs have cellulite :/

[lsmolinari]

Standing the Test of Time

[cease-theday]

Everyday I debate telling my manager to kick rocks.

[popcornucopia]

Why can’t I girl the way I want

[hareofhrair]

I wanted to put this one the previous post but it was long and this is a tangent but- In regards to the hypothetical "If House was my doctor I'd just tell him everything. Rip to all his other patients but I'm different."

The whole point of the show is that you wouldn't. Like a major theme of the show is about how the various shames and stigmas and habitual dishonesties that plague our societies both metaphorically and literally kill us. "Everybody lies" isn't just a cynical catchphrase, it's the shows thesis. Because of how we operate as a society, everyone feels compelled to suppress and hide things and that inevitably leads to suffering.

And there are plenty of episodes where this is obvious, ie "I cheated on my partner and gave them an STD." But there's also much more of "This little girl went through early puberty and because of the way our society stigmatizes women's bodies her single father never discussed puberty with her and she was so afraid and ashamed of her new pubic hair that she tried to shave it without telling anyone and mutilated herself, leading everyone to think she'd been abused and throwing off the whole case until House figured out her hormones were going crazy because she'd been exposed to her father's low T medicine, which he hid because of how our society regards masculinity, which he started taking because he began dating a younger woman (because of shame stemming from our society's unrealistic expectations wrt sex in relationships) which he was hiding from his kids, because of shame regarding our societies toxic views on monogamy."

A particular episode stands out as a really good example. S06E15 "Private Lives," which aired in 2010 but was fairly prescient about where social media was heading. The patient was a blogger who documented literally every moment of every day for her followers. She made it very clear she left *nothing* out, from her and her boyfriend's sex life to, eventually, asking for feedback from her followers on whether to get her heart valve replaced with one from a pig or a "vegan" plastic one. She handed the whole blog over to House as soon as he took the case and the team poured through the whole thing. Surely this is proof you're wrong about everybody lying, the team says to House. She's give us her whole life and you still can't find out what's wrong! Spoiler, it turned out the crucial symptom that allowed House to put it all together? Was the one thing she *didn't* include in the blog- Her bowel movements. Shame and stigma around talking about *poop* nearly killed this woman. It was also a detail that should have been picked up immediately by a normal doctor, who would have asked about her bowel movements as part of the standard checklist of diagnostic questions. But this woman was so confident that she'd laid out every relevant detail of her life in her blog, she wouldn't answer those questions, obfuscating what she was actually ashamed of underneath a pile of curated, rationalized, narritivized junk she could pretend was proof of a lack of shame and not simply a skill at creative writing.

When I say "I'd just tell House everything" is ridiculous, I don't just mean "well, because of the way the show works, you HAVE to be hiding SOMETHING." I mean literally, you- because you are a human being- are ashamed of *something.* And because you are a human being, the more info you try to give House the more deeply you will bury whatever it is you're actually ashamed of. And, because of the way the show works, that *will* end up being the key to what's making you sick.

[mothlm]

Transphobes will ask you to definite a woman and then say man is someone who is mean