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Eddie may not have said that he is straight on screen but Ryan has said it in interviews. I don't think he would call Eddie straight if it wasn't true. He would leave it unsaid like Oliver did regarding Buck's sexuality.
Hey Nonnie
I’ve said this several times - but I will say it again. Actors don’t know what direction their characters storylines are going to take - they can only speak for where there character is at at the moment of the interview they are giving. So an actor saying a character is straight means very little - Oliver referred to Buck as straight in interviews in the past - and look where Buck is now!
Plus Ryan has started using gender neutral pronouns in interviews and has talked about his delight at people from all demographics finding things in Eddie that has helped them - and that includes queer people. Ryan also has stated on multiple occasions that he is very much up for queer Eddie and buddie - if the show wants to go in that direction. we have enough subtext and foreshadowing in canon to make the conversations around Eddies sexuality valid. i would also point out that we know that Eddie was going to be the one getting a queer arc in s7 - but that they had to change it to Buck due to the availability of various actors, so to suggest that we are all reading too much into things - when we have plenty of evidence to validate our conversations is disingenuous. you don’t have to engage in those conversations - you can filter, block or scroll past stuff - and leave those of us who do want to speculate and enjoy discussing possible storylines for characters such as Eddie to do so.
We are talking about fictional people remember and so we can discuss whatever we want to discuss about them - it’s literally the purpose of fandom!
#Kym answers things#nonnie asks#I will say it again - the actor can only go with the information they have at the time - which is what Ryan did in those interviews#things can change - stories move on it’s how tv works#why is this so hard to understand#people really need to take what is said in interviews with a pinch of salt - its for speculating over it is not canon#canon is only the stuff we see on screen in the show - and Eddies sexuality has never been confirmed in canon#911 spoilers#eddie diaz#911 abc
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i hate to bitch about this but it’s gotta be discussed.
why is it so hard to write gn readers. like, i just don’t get it. it just cannot be THAT HARD. (check my blog if you want, i’ve written gn fics and none of them have fem/masc terms in them without even needing to be double checked)
and if you’ve had people complaining to you about it, why do you say you’ll fix the issue when you wont?
it’s completely fine if you wanna write for female readers if you’re gonna fail THAT BADLY at writing gender neutral 😭😭 if you’re most comfortable with using she/her pronouns in a fic then GO WITH IT BABES BC THE FIC IS SO GOOD SO LETS LET YOUR PROPER AUDIENCE ENJOY IT
it’s just annoying when you’ve got a dick between your legs but you’re reading a supposedly gn fic after being referred to as princess,my girl, sister and pretty lady for the 100th time.
there should be no reason to write for a gender neutral audience if you can’t stick to it.
i’m not here to shit on anyone, i’m just saying that if you can’t keep your fics gender neutral then don’t write it. if you can only write for your specific gender then go for it! no shame in struggling to write for the opposite gender! just don’t let other people get annoyed reading your works then get pissed when they’re the ones who you mislead and they point it out.
anyways i came here to bitch bc i was stalking a supposedly gn blog with abt 80% of its content containing STRICTLY fem reader when it wasn’t labeled as such. (i’m not even joking, it was full on anatomy, titles, pronouns and EVERYTHING like there was no holding back on the fem aligned reader LOL)
#why is this so hard to understand#gn reader#female reader#fem!reader#f!reader#m!reader#male!reader#male reader#x male reader#genshin impact#tokyo revengers#tokyo rev#pls people take this advice#i’m begging you#i’m so sick of being referred to as a woman when i’m a dude#BE FREE AND WRITR YOUR READERS AS LADIES#PLEASE#SO I CAN HAPPILY AVOID IT#LMAO#to the lovley ladies who label their f!reader fics correctly i love you#and to the gn writers who keep it that way you guys are heroes#a man amongst boys#of the highest order#rant#bullshitting#bitching#venting
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tumblr istg stop trying to hide who i reblogged from. op AND my new internet friend both need to be on the reblog
#why is this so hard to understand#this is the sharing things site#show who i am sharing from!!!#hellsite
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death of the author doesn't mean 'ignore all of their horrible beliefs and actions bc i like the story they wrote so im gonna keep giving them money' it means when an author has published something their original intentions and meanings they put into the work are not final.
reader interpretation can differ from the works intended meaning but that doesn't mean its a wrong interpretation. ffs
#seeing the way some fans have responded to neil gaimans actions and it's like#he is a horrible person who wrote a good story#hatsune miku didn't write it#bad people can make good art#why is this so hard to understand#but this also goes for every other creator who does heinous shit but still gets support bc people ignore it#i'm sick of all these terms becoming popular to describe something and getting changed to some random bullshit#like 'the authors barely disguised fetish' 'a woman wrote this' (piece of emotionally intelligent material)#' this is a male designer that actually loves women'(cute clothes)#like ffs it's just basic 'criticism' with no weight it's just implied shame#death of media literacy
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i’m so fucking sorry. it’s rude to smoke indoors
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Friendly reminder that saying your f*tish blog is "SFW" doesn't make it any less correlated to it... :/ Especially when you're reblogging things from other f*tish blogs? And posting about k*nk stuff? Like???? Just leave my blog, side blogs and posts alone please. There's plenty of other blogs to interact with that have the same stuff you post about. Why do you HAVE to go to mine? :/
Anyways, tickle blogs and sick blogs, bdsm, @geplay, petpl@y, ab/dl, dd/lg, and all others like that EVEN IF YOUR BLOG IS "SFW," LEAVE ME ALONE PLEASE like I'm not asking for much here.. Just because it's not outwardly NSFW doesn't mean it's not related to it, I don't want to know about your k!nks- in a SFW context or not- when I'm literally in the mental state of a kid thanks. 😑
I really don't want to go back to making a mile-long DNI banner, explicitly stating every single little thing. But I will if it comes to it. Because y'all should know better.
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"[a reacast] would not make the inaccurate and stereotype laden characterization of indigeounous South Americans any less unacceptable"
👏THEY👏CAN👏FIX👏IT
👏BY👏HIRING👏A👏REAL👏CONSULTANT
👏HE👏CAN👏BE👏SALVAGED
#my posts#star trek prodigy#chakotay#robert beltran#native american#representation#why is this so hard to understand
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YOU NEED TO KNOW HOW MANY PEOPLE ARE IN YOUR PARTY WHEN YOU GO TO A RESTAURANT
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Why are beachy jewelry brands so averse to making silver jewelry. I’ve looked at multiple brands for waterproof necklaces today and when I filter down to silver options it’s like 1/4 of the original selection
#not all of us are super tan. we can still be about that beach life and be pale bitches#why is this so hard to understand#lilly talks
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can we stop pretending like it’s so super easy for trans men to pass. “oh just put on a baggy shirt and cut your hair-“ it literally doesn’t work like that and I refuse to believe you actually think it’s that easy
#I do as much as I can pre t and I still get misgendered constantly#it’s to be expected and I understand#but I wish people would stop making it out like it’s so easy to pass#bc it’s not!#and when you talk about how easy it is it a) makes people feel like they must not be trying hard enough and that’s why they don’t pass#and b) undermines the difficulties experienced by trans men#trans#lgbtq#ftm#trans man#transgender#transmasc#transgender man#trans pride#donnieisaprettyboy#ftm problems
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i have chronic pain. i am neurodivergent. i understand - deeply - the allure of a "quick fix" like AI. i also just grew up in a different time. we have been warned about this.
15 entire years ago i heard about this. in my forensics class in high school, we watched a documentary about how AI-based "crime solving" software was inevitably biased against people of color.
my teacher stressed that AI is like a book: when someone writes it, some part of the author will remain within the result. the internet existed but not as loudly at that point - we didn't know that AI would be able to teach itself off already-biased Reddit threads. i googled it: yes, this bias is still happening. yes, it's just as bad if not worse.
i can't actually stop you. if you wanna use ChatGPT to slide through your classes, that's on you. it's your money and it's your time. you will spend none of it thinking, you will learn nothing, and, in college, you will piss away hundreds of thousands of dollars. you will stand at the podium having done nothing, accomplished nothing. a cold and bitter pyrrhic victory.
i'm not even sure students actually read the essays or summaries or emails they have ChatGPT pump out. i think it just flows over them and they use the first answer they get. my brother teaches engineering - he recently got fifty-three copies of almost-the-exact-same lab reports. no one had even changed the wording.
and yes: AI itself (as a concept and practice) isn't always evil. there's AI that can help detect cancer, for example. and yet: when i ask my students if they'd be okay with a doctor that learned from AI, many of them balk. it is one thing if they don't read their engineering textbook or if they don't write the critical-thinking essay. it's another when it starts to affect them. they know it's wrong for AI to broad-spectrum deny insurance claims, but they swear their use of AI is different.
there's a strange desire to sort of divorce real-world AI malpractice over "personal use". for example, is it moral to use AI to write your cover letters? cover letters are essentially only templates, and besides: AI is going to be reading your job app, so isn't it kind of fair?
i recently found out that people use AI as a romantic or sexual partner. it seems like teenagers particularly enjoy this connection, and this is one of those "sticky" moments as a teacher. honestly - you can roast me for this - but if it was an actually-safe AI, i think teenagers exploring their sexuality with a fake partner is amazing. it prevents them from making permanent mistakes, it can teach them about their bodies and their desires, and it can help their confidence. but the problem is that it's not safe. there isn't a well-educated, sensitive AI specifically to help teens explore their hormones. it's just internet-fed cycle. who knows what they're learning. who knows what misinformation they're getting.
the most common pushback i get involves therapy. none of us have access to the therapist of our dreams - it's expensive, elusive, and involves an annoying amount of insurance claims. someone once asked me: are you going to be mad when AI saves someone's life?
therapists are not just trained on the book, they're trained on patient management and helping you see things you don't see yourself. part of it will involve discomfort. i don't know that AI is ever going to be able to analyze the words you feed it and answer with a mind towards the "whole person" writing those words. but also - if it keeps/kept you alive, i'm not a purist. i've done terrible things to myself when i was at rock bottom. in an emergency, we kind of forgive the seatbelt for leaving bruises. it's just that chat shouldn't be your only form of self-care and recovery.
and i worry that the influence chat has is expanding. more and more i see people use chat for the smallest, most easily-navigated situations. and i can't like, make you worry about that in your own life. i often think about how easy it was for social media to take over all my time - how i can't have a tiktok because i spend hours on it. i don't want that to happen with chat. i want to enjoy thinking. i want to enjoy writing. i want to be here. i've already really been struggling to put the phone down. this feels like another way to get you to pick the phone up.
the other day, i was frustrated by a book i was reading. it's far in the series and is about a character i resent. i googled if i had to read it, or if it was one of those "in between" books that don't actually affect the plot (you know, one of those ".5" books). someone said something that really stuck with me - theoretically you're reading this series for enjoyment, so while you don't actually have to read it, one would assume you want to read it.
i am watching a generation of people learn they don't have to read the thing in their hand. and it is kind of a strange sort of doom that comes over me: i read because it's genuinely fun. i learn because even though it's hard, it feels good. i try because it makes me happy to try. and i'm watching a generation of people all lay down and say: but i don't want to try.
#spilled ink#i do also think this issue IS more complicated than it appears#if a teacher uses AI to grade why write the essay for example.#<- while i don't agree (the answer is bc the essay is so YOU learn) i would be RIPSHIT as a student#if i found that out.#but why not give AI your job apps? it's not like a human person SEES your applications#the world IS automating in certain ways - i do actually understand the frustration#some people feel where it's like - i'm doing work here. the work will be eaten by AI. what's the point#but the answer is that we just don't have a balance right now. it just isn't trained in a smart careful way#idk. i am pretty anti AI tho so . much like AI. i'm biased.#(by the way being able to argue the other side tells u i actually understand the situation)#(if u see me arguing "pro-chat'' it's just bc i think a good argument involves a rebuttal lol)#i do not use ai . hard stop.
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You don't wish your disability was worse or more visible, you wish your disability was taken seriously. Please stop confusing the two, I guarantee you would not get the support you need JUST by being more severe or more visible. Please listen to visibly disabled people when we tell you it isn't better on our side
#m/cc#mine#I tried extremely hard to word this nicely because I KNOW people don't mean bad and often even know there are unique challenges#and believe me I know the challenges of invisible disability too!!#I have invisible disabilities!#but as someone who has also been at least visibly 'off' since they were 10 I am SO SICK of invisible disabilities being hailed as like#a unique extra oppression that us lucky visibly disabled people don't have to deal with#there are challenges to invisible disabilities that visibly disabled people DON'T have to deal with!#but you need to understand that *the reverse is also true*#there are MASSIVE benefits to being able to lie about your disability for example#or not dealing with the overt ableism that comes with your disability being obvious to everyone#*I do not have the option to pretend I'm not disabled.* that is never an option I have#I walk weirdly. I use a mobility aid now. my speech and face are 'off.' I lean to one side#for a long time I wore sunglasses 24/7 and often didn't make sense. I sometimes can't speak or won't react to others#for the most part people will always know that at the very least something is wrong with me#and more obviously I have people telling me they'll pray for me; telling me I can't do things I'm already in the process of doing;#wanting to shake my hand to tell me I'm an inspiration for not killing myself; giving me dirty looks for existing in public#and yes. I'm aware that this is very much an in-community issue. I know the average abled person doesn't know invisible disabilities exist#that's why there's so much awareness happening for it#but as a visibly disabled person I get SO TIRED of constantly hearing 'I wish my disability was visible :'('#it's just 'I wish I had your disability!' but from other disabled people
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The whole "no gendered pronouns" thing is probably the most commonly known/brought up fun fact of the finnish language, but there's more to it. There's a pronoun distinction of human/nonhuman, and while many dialects don't bother with the hän-pronoun at all, and simply refer to both humans, animals, and inanimate objects as "se", wherever the human pronoun is used, it also encompasses any and all creatures that the speaker considers sufficiently sapient or sentient to be considered "a person". This covers gods and goddesses, humanoid supernatural creatures (with a distinct That Is Not A Person exception for zombies), aliens, and occasionally pets. Everyone knows someone who refers to their dog as "hän".
But the plural "they" also has a distinction of hän/se, with the same logic as he/him - who/whom, making a distinction between "they" who are people, and "they" that are either animals or objects. The dialects that don't use the human pronoun don't make this distinction either, but if someone is clearly speaking in formal finnish that refers to people as hän, but uses "ne" instead of "he" when referring to people, it's a very understated but nonetheless clear way of implying that those people are not people.
So finnish has:
They (singular, person pronoun) They (plural, of people) They (plural, inanimate/non-sentient/degoratory)
#knowing about this kind of subtle nuances makes me understand why anime is so hard to translate to english#like the original japanese might have been like “who are you people (degoratory word choice)” and the person addressed takes offense at tha#and in order to make the dialogue make any sense in english#they'll have to translate it as some shit like “what the fuck are you faggots doing here”#which is out of character and clunky
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I need the types of attraction to become common knowledge in hetero society because when I tell other queers that I'm a homosexual woman but not a lesbian they're like "...oh okay sure" but if I said that to a straight person I'm pretty sure they'd explode
#i like to look at men. i like to kiss men sometimes. i do NOT like to fuck them#why is this so hard to understand
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friend wanted to see my tumblr, and when i told him i can’t show it to him bc it’s basically my personal diary he went “oh so I can’t see it but a bunch of strangers on tumblr can??” he literally does not get me. no one will get me like the people in my phone get me
#It’s just so different#even though it’s public it still feels secret and safe. i feel comfy sharing a lot more on here than I do in my actual day to day life lol#in my head I’m also just speaking to myself 90% of the time which helps#if a friend off tumblr saw my thoughts I’d feel so weird ab it#esp bc they might get the vagueposting about certain situations and tell mutual friends#no thank u. this is for me. I’m not about to start censoring my thoughts bc someone I know knows my tumblr#u guys literally saw me have LIVE BREAKDOWNS#meanwhile I’ll have the worst fucking day in history and tell no one about it. I’m already cripplingly private but way more so in real life#this is basically a low stress journaling outlet for me. it’s so important for me to maintain the separation#like this is actually my diary & has been so handy for letting out emotions / articulating thoughts / staying on track !!#& I’ve met so many kind people on here who actually get me. which is so hard to find irl bc I’m surrounded by pre-med gunners/overachievers#who are by standard not very good w emotion & can be competitive/judgmental. or at least it’s hard for me to be vulnerable in front of them#and I’m part of that crowd so I reserve my emotions only to a handful of very close friends#it’s nice to hop on here and express negative emotions!! or positive emotions!! just whatever I want and it’s low stress and people get me#I don’t have to worry about judgment or competitiveness etc etc#like everyone on here is so kind & nice & understanding. & just a breath of fresh air from the types I run w. it’s just nice to have this#so idk that’s why I think I’ll always be strict about keeping the worlds separate. it just works#p
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