#with just casual sex)

[shalom-iamcominghome]

I've been doing a lot of reflection as of late, especially after this past class.

This past class was about the Torah and Tanakh in general, and the way the rabbi talked about the commandments (specifically the ten commandments) has made me really reflect on how I interpret them, specifically the fifth commandment, or honoring your mother and father.

This is a commandment I have wrestled with for a long time - in fact, it brought me away from g-d at multiple times. I was severely abused when I was incredibly young by my mother, and I used to feel insulted at the implication that I were to honor her while she got to live a better life. It was hypocritical, in my eyes.

But this rabbi surmised that this particular commandment was because parenthood is an act of creation, something that is like the g-d from which we come from. My realization is this: I don't think we're necessarily meant to take even these commandments literally.

I this particular commandment is more of a call to honor creation - creation is a gift, and like any gift, many people simply will not like it and will discard it. The person who abused me created me, but she did not honor creation. She didn't honor me, but I can still honor it.

I have started to honor creation much more. I'm too young, too unstable, not mature enough to be a father (though I fantasize about it), but I create all the time. I create relationships, I create with my hands through crochet. I create memories, I create my world. And I can honor who I am and where I came from that made me who I am. I've been learning one of the mother tongues of my family (Italian, since part of my family originates there) and it was judaism that inspired me to do this.

I don't think g-d wants me to honor my abuser. I think He wants me to remember the Holy action of creation. When I am a father, that act of creation will be Holy, and indeed, I am already joyful about the thought.

I have seen many people struggle with this particular commandment, but I think this perspective helps me personally. I don't think I ever have to forgive my abusers (plural), and I don't think I am commanded to simply because they happened to be family. I am commanded to recognize the holy, to elevate the mundane. In doing so, I will remember g-d. Through creation, I honor g-d and everything he has done for us, for me, and for our collective people.

[muchmossymess]

Why is everyone here so obsessed with sex and romance why can't you appreciate the comedic genius of "rivals who fight about parenting to rile the other up to begrudging coparents who bicker like a divorced couple to actually maybe tolerating the other and the insults are now less spiteful and biting to hells first qpr (queerplatonic rivalry) to hells first qpr (queerplatonic relationship)"

[tesco-finest-aromantics]

the amount of people on that poll who think people use aromanticism as an excuse for commitment issues (or believe that aromanticism and commitment issues are the same thing) is genuinely making me angry. have you people never heard of casual sex? are you against casual sex? would you hate it if someone was upfront that they're not looking for a committed romantic relationship when they want to have casual sex? how is that a bad thing? tell me please

[many-gay-magpies]

god what really gets me about dead boy detectives and what i think i love so much about the show and the relationships in it is that like. the romantic and sexual relationships aren't portrayed as being more unique or important than the platonic relationships. they're all just RELATIONSHIPS.

charles and crystal's attraction to each other and eventual hookup isn't this big end-all be-all relationship that shatter charles and edwin's friendship and draws charles' attention away from edwin; it's just a THING that happens. they're just two people that care about each other and happen to also be attracted to each other, and a hook-up happens, then they decide that neither of them are in the right place for it and it's nothing awful. crystal kisses charles, but it isn't some big spectacle of her declaring her love for him; it's just her saying goodbye and that she cares about him, like her hugs with niko and jenny and her handshake with edwin.

edwin realizes he loves charles romantically and tells him, and charles says he doesn't really love edwin romantically BACK, but it's okay, because they still love each other so much in so many other ways that this one tiny difference could never change them—and it doesn't!! they're still just as close, still care for each other just as much, still SHOW that care for each other just as much. their relationship didn't completely end because edwin loved charles in a way charles couldn't reciprocate, but at the same time it isn't "solved" by edwin getting over it, because there's nothing TO solve. it's just another type of love, added to everything that already exists between them. and they have LITERALLY FOREVER to figure out what it means.

the relationships between edwin & niko, crystal & niko, and crystal & edwin aren't given any less weight for being solely platonic, just as charles & crystal's relationship and edwin's feelings for charles aren't given (that much) MORE weight for being romantic. crystal and charles' conflict in the closet is about EDWIN, about how they're BOTH his friend and BOTH want to get him back; it has very little to do with the feelings between THEM, romantic or otherwise. similarly, the weight of charles' and edwin's relationship isn't diminished in the LEAST by charles not reciprocating the romantic side of his feelings (or SAYING he doesn't reciprocate, at least—we can all argue about the legitimacy of that in the notes).

i'm sure there are more examples than this, as well as probably some examples that CONTRADICT this, but like... by and large, it feels like dead boy detectives is a show where all the relationships are given equal weight regardless of platonic, sexual, romantic, or familial status, and as someone on both the asexual and aromantic spectrums who has struggled time and time again with shows casting out the importance of all other relationships in favor of prioritizing romance, that is INCREDIBLY refreshing to see.

[knownoshamc]

Once they are together, I think Armand and Daniel regularly roleplay (?) that Armand is hunting him down across the city and when he finds him, he pushes him around a little (daniel being like do it harder) before "draining" him and having for once again, the best sex ever

[peculiardiction]

He asked Tim like 7 times if he was too heavy and got a “no, dw!” each time. Tim’s just gonna have to cope at this point.

A timkon prompt fill for dc gotcha for Gaza! I imagine it’s movie night at the tower 😂

[amaranthsynthesis]

Gortash’s plans always seems to involve a great deal of research and preparation, and Ballard enjoys reading more than many but even he gets bored eventually. He might bitch about it, but he enjoys the company more than he would admit—it takes much longer to reach threats of stabbing than it would with anyone else.

[eustasskiddsprosthetic]

I usually don't post wips so openly like this but I have an idea.

What if canon Ace, after marineford, is isekaied to an old-fashioned, coloniser England? He wakes up confused like what the God-fuck happened and it just so happens that he ends up in a noblefamily's courtyard where he meets their youngest son who's his age who reminds him a bit too much of someone very familiar. The guy's name is Sabo too.

As of writing this, the fic is still a nebulous mess in my head but here's what I have.

Ace's immediately interested. The moment he went up to the study to ask for help, everyone just screams how indecent he is because he's shirtless and very attractive. The women blush, which Ace, being a greasy player to some extent, doesn't mind, but then there's Sabo who blushes in the same way. The neurons started activating in his mind. Ace never did it with guys too often but hey, he nearly died! He'll figure it out! Let's Fucking Go!

Sabo's also interested in this sense, "H-how rude! Who's this naked imbecile (Ace's just wearing his iconic shorts and boots)? Is he mad? In this weather? (looks down. Blushes immediately) That's a rather... large... scar........ What kind of w-warrior is he? Where is he from? Roman soldiers were known for being handsome, is he... (he can't believe himself for looking at his tits again) Why is he looking at me? His hair is too long for a man. (Sabo sees his smoky black eyes once more and turns away, out of breath) He's the Devil himself. I refuse to give in to temptation. I r-refuse to sin. I refuse!"

It doesn't end there, though. This hunk of a man gets thrusted to Sabo's care because no one trusts women to keep it in their pants if the Portgas D. Ace with his infinite, maxxed out rizz is right here. Sabo wants to cut his hair but couldn't bring himself to because it's just too beautiful. He simply cuts the fringe and dry-ends off before forcing Ace to shower and change into more appropriate clothing, aka this multi-layered suit that Ace wore wrongly.

Sabo couldn't stop himself from laughing. Ace pouted so much like a grumpy cat. Sabo started coughing and wiped his eyes.

"Why'd you stop?" Ace said. "Laugh more. I don't mind 'cause you're so cute."

Sabo finally sobered up. What was he doing? Acting like some lovesick fool. He never acted that way towards his own fiancé...

He didn't say anything as he helped Ace wear it properly. He couldn't help but feel he's doing something wrong. Ace looked so uncomfortable but it seemed that he understood why he's wearing this. Sabo hid his smile when Ace sneezed. Maybe he wasn't so bad.

When he's done, Sabo thought... Well, Ace is still handsome but he felt like he had taken something away from him, the thing that made him so special to begin with: his freedom. There's some spite in Sabo's grimace.

Sabo never had the chance to even dream of freedom.

[cassierobinsons]

I'm just thinking aloud here but discussions about dean's celibacy in later seasons make me feel some type of way. it's not that i disagree (still haven't watched dabb era) it's that i think carver era kinda made people forget that after hell dean wasn't really having that much sex at all? in that he literally slept with 4 people in the span of 5 consecutive seasons. So when people bring up how chaste dean is in late spn i'm like. well this isn't really new for him, is it? 🤔

[filmnoirsbian]

The thing w the silly "no one does anything on this site" poll post that makes it so funny is that people TALK on here like they do things and then just...don't. And it's fine to not do things! But when someone who has never had sex talks about being a slut or someone who does not interact with their local lgbt community in real life calls themselves a "queer elder" it's just funny to me idk. Not just the "no one does anything" site but the role playing site. But instead of pretending to be a kickass centaur you're pretending to have an offline social life.

[poisonousquinzel]

sobbing bisexually in the club

[merakiui]

OHHHMYMVOSOOGAJD A BIG CATER PIECE IN THE WORKS??? IM SEATED. IVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS DAY 🙏🙏🎉🎉🎉🥳🥳🥳🤲🤲

A BIG CATER PIECE INDEED!!!!! >w< I planned it last year but then never got to writing it. It's inspired by The Wombats's "Greek Tragedy." :D now that the spring months are approaching, I'm determined to write Cater romance!

It's titled "Cater's Greek Tragedy" and it's told in three parts:

Act 1 - The Promise Act 2 - The Penrose Steps Act 3 - The Perfect Greek Tragedy

It's a cute romance story where Cater is a guitarist who plays gigs at bars and you're his roommate and best friend since high school (who reunited with him at NRC after he moved away his last year of high school hehe). The two of you made a marriage pact when you were first years at NRC (for the sake of this story, NRC isn't an all-boys academy), which promised that if you aren't in committed relationships by the time you're out of school you'll marry one another. You've since forgotten about that pact until, one fateful day, you and Cater fool around when you're drunk and he remembers the deal on a whim. You amend the terms because neither of you are ready to settle down yet (especially not with each other! You're just besties!): if neither of you are in committed relationships by next year, you'll look into marriage. Besides, who knows where you'll be next year? Only time will tell. :)

Or: Cater Diamond has been in love with his best friend since high school and has one year to confront his feelings and confess before he condemns himself to the friend zone forever.

[lover-praxis]

casual by chappell roan eats so hard i want to cry during sex to this song

[sensitivehandsomeactionman]

[tiffanyachings]

the problem with spending the better part of a year dissecting concepts of gender/sexuality/romance under lab conditions and triumphantly concluding that all these rules are made up is that it's only liberating until you have to confront that the vast majority of people like to play by these rules

[whenitcomestodeath]

spn 3x12 but just henriksen and dean eye fucking throughout the episode got me screaming by the end of it