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do not ignore the fact that black sex workers are not likely to get the same level of attention as white sex workers. 

do not ignore that black women are a “fetish” while white women are the default.

do not ignore men on dating and sugar sites who say “no blacks”, or on the flip side “i’ve never fucked a black girl.”

do not ignore that curvy black women are seen as trashy, but curvy white women are “pawgs”.

do not ignore that black lips are called “too big”, but on white women they’re “sexy”.

do not ignore that the porn industry turns black sex workers into sex-crazed, exotic creatures, or that it perpetuates the harmful “bbc” stereotype.

do not ignore that studies have shown that black women are viewed as the least attractive by all races of men.

so if you think for even a minute that black sex workers are overreacting when we demand respect, then you’re part of the problem.

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Straight women feel comfortable in gay bars because they precieve it as a place where it's "safe." They presume it's only men who are feminine enough to be "nonthreatening", but not enough to be a freak.

Think of the Modern Family episode where Claire goes out with Mitch & Cam to one of their friends' parties. Since most people there are gay she presumes a man there she met is gay & procedes to start hitting on him & spends the night with him. When she finds out he was straight & he interpretted this all as her being interested she says the line "I thought I was SAFELY objectifying a gay man!" Unironically Modern Family does a beautiful social commentary showing how nonqueer women view the Queer community; it's a petting zoo for them.

The minute someone who breaks out of what they find to be an "acceptable queer" (aka not a highly specific type of cis gay man), suddenly it's an issue. Suddenly the space is no longer safe because a "[masculinizing insult here] lesbian" hit on them. Suddenly they feel unsafe because the GNC people are more than just a man with a limp wrist.

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This is why I hate arguments about how nonqueer women at queer bars are okay but nonqueer men at queer bars aren't.. In actuality, there's issues with nonqueers taking up our spaces for the novalty of 'safe' queerness in general.

I don't think we should be queer testing people, as there is a million & 1 reasons that's shitty, but I do genuinely believe if you want to have a discussion about nonqueers making queer spaces unsafe you need to let go of the 'man is sexual predator Always but woman is okay' mentality, especially how many stories I've heard of gay bars being infultrated by too-handsy of nonqueer women at batchelor parties.

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people need to realize that dissolving the lines between gender also means dissolving the lines between sexuality. you cannot say gender is fake and then say sexuality is strict and rigid.

there are multigender/genderfluid people who are lesbians and gay men at the same time. there are mspec lesbians/gays/straights who have a complex relationship with gender and their sexuality. there are gay men who are women and lesbians who are men because male isn't the opposite of female.

"conflicting" labels are a part of many people's queer experience, because the human experience isnt simple enough to be put into neat perfect categories. if you truly support trans/genderqueer people, you need to accept the fact that gender and sexuality is complex and there will be people whose identities you don't understand

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Reblog if you:

- Are transneutral

- Support transneutral people

- Want transneutrals to be included when people discuss transfemmes and transmascs, and be mentioned more in general

- Just really like animals :3

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Many lgbt teenagers and young adults growing up on the internet today have socially conservative beliefs that they voice at all times that they got from their conservative parents which they’ve never challenged because they think the life experience of being gay or trans makes them politically progressive

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if you can accept that there will be trans men who look virtually indistinguishable from cis women, than you can accept that there will be trans women who look virtually indistinguishable from cis men. either by choice or by circumstance. and if you can't respect them the same as you would anybody else, you need to examine why that is

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and it is similarly bizarre to try and separate trans men's experiences into a trans part and a man part. That's not how people experience the world. There's not a trans part that gets sexually assaulted and a man part that gets refused an abortion, there's one undivided person experiencing both. To ask trans men to defer to some baseline trans-exclusionary concept of manhood in interpreting their experience as trans men is just cruel. They should get to speak as full people.

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hey trans dude. ily + u should stop reading things that people who hate you are writing online. especially the people who hate you but are pretending they do not by obscuring their hatred within pseudo-academic faux-feminist language. go watch a movie. go read a comic. mwah <3

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Gotta say, it's pretty fucking telling how the people on this site who are the most married to the terms TMA/TME, and complain about people "appropriating the mystique of the third-gender trans woman", are the ones most likely to erroneously refer to themselves as "CA(G)AB", a term that belongs to intersex people who were medically altered without their consent.

Kinda feels like all this stringent gatekeeping about who is and isn't TMA, especially directed toward intersex people, is less about fighting transmisogyny, and more about maintaining the position of (typically white) perisex trans women as The Most Oppressed And Vulnerable Trans People To Ever Exist. And even if that's not their goal, their flagrant intersexist behavior means that any claims they make along these lines should be taken with extreme suspicion, especially in regards to what forms of oppression intersex people do or don't face.

(In either case, the claim that gatekeeping who is and isn't a trans woman/TMA "keeps trans women safe" should be seen with the same kind of suspicion as TERFS gatekeeping who is and isn't a woman to prevent men from "infiltrating" their spaces. This is conspiracy theory logic.)

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The thing about being LGBT+ is, at some point in your childhood, no matter how accepting your parents are, at some point, you have to question: “do they love me unconditionally?” And then you have to plan for the possibility hat the answer is no. And that fucks you up. Straight cis people never have to question that.

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WE NEED TO START TELLING PEOPLE ABOUT BIGENDERISM

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Happy pride to the A's of lgbtqia!

To the asexuals

Aromantics

Agenders

You are just as loved here

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not only is it pride month, but it is also mens mental health awareness month

take the time to check in with the trans men, nonbinary men, intersex men, queer men, disabled men, and men of color that you know

let them know that you support them

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Newsflash:

If they don't respect enben, they don't respect any trans people.

If they refuse to respect they/them and other atypical pronouns, they are barely tolerating your typical set.

If they mock nonbinary, genderqueer and GNC presentation, they think your binary trans presentation is a joke.

If they make jokes about nonbinary people, they see your binary transness as a joke.

If they test the waters with exorsexism, they will escalate to binary transphobia.

If they throw enben under the bus, they will throw you under it next.

If they do not stand up for nonbinary rights, they won't care when yours are gone.

If they refuse to acknowledge exorsexism used as a test of what they can get away with, they will not acknowledge the inevitable binary transphobia incoming.

If they allow exorsexist and binarist bills to become law, they will not prevent it when it happens to binary trans people.

If they talk at length about how they hate nonbinary people, they have found a safe outlet to express their transphobia around you.

If they do not respect nonbinary transness, they do not respect your binary transness.

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"Safe Abortion for All.

No Compromise - No Apology"

Print by Bum Lung Press

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-deep breath-

A 'no questions asked' food pantry means no questions asked.

When we're stocking our pantry, we are not looking at a person's clothes or their accessories or what kind of car they drove there in. We are HAPPY to see it BEING USED AT ALL.

I don't know anyone's situation. Maybe they got that designer bag at a thrift shop. Maybe its a knockoff. Maybe it was a gift. Maybe they got it when they had money and now they don't have money. Maybe they're getting stuff for a friend.

Maybe they have plenty of money, don't need to be taking stuff from the pantry, but they are anyway because we said-

NO QUESTIONS ASKED.

Do you know what happens when someone takes from our pantry when they don't need it? We're down one item. But maybe they tell someone that the pantry is there. Or maybe they come back to it when they need it. Or maybe they throw a dollar in the donation box. Or maybe they put an item on the shelf. Or maybe they come to our food drive.

WE DONT CARE.

We don't care who used it.

We care that it was used.

Im not a cop. Don't make me do cop stuff, I wont do it.