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if you are a trans boy, especially a teenage trans boy, i wanted to say that as a trans man in their 30's, you have my deepest respects and condolences for what you may be going through right now.

it has become socially acceptable and basically online custom to bully teenage trans boys & mascs, call them cringy, or excuse misgendering them for whatever reason. people put trans boys on this pedestal of "must perform masculinity and manhood to cartoonish degrees" even though they're still children.

people make trans boys fight for their manhood before they can even be boys. i am sorry people can be so judgmental and harsh on you. you are not wrong for wanting to be a boy. you are experiencing something wonderful. it's okay if you still want to be a boy even if people have treated you poorly, or tried to make you feel bad for being a boy. there is nothing wrong with being a boy.

it's okay if you never socially transition. it's okay if you're afraid to come out because it's not safe. it's okay if you never change your outward appearance. it's okay if you try very hard to pass but struggle to. it's okay if you wear "women's" clothing and shoes, bras, makeup, etc., it's okay if you're gay and love other men. it's okay if you're scared of hrt. it's okay if you don't want surgery. it's okay if you mainly occupy girl's spaces still. people will find every reason to pick these things apart and ridicule trans boys for, but they are all perfectly fine experiences that do not make you any less of a boy. you are the one who is in control of your transition, presentation, and state of being- you should be able to prioritize your safety over the comfort of random strangers who have no impact over how you live your life.

i've been put through this too, but later in life as i came out when i was an adult. people still try to make me feel bad for identifying as a trans man, for whatever reason they have in their head to justify hatred of a trans person. i've had enough. there will never be an excuse for how people try to excuse the infantilization and abuse that trans men and trans boys face.

take care of yourselves, no matter what age you are, if you are a trans boy, man, or masc you deserve to know that other trans men care about you, especially when people are scrambling to find ways to punch down on you. there are people who suck, but there are also a lot of people who care about you. keep your chin up. you know who you are

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Straight trans men are queer enough

Asexual men are queer enough

Aromatic men are queer enough

Aroace men are queer enough

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How are you both transmasc and demigirl /genq? I thought transmasc meant you were transitioning to a more masculine gender

Hello my dear,

Transmasculine simply means that you identify with a masculine gender identity. I think the confusion arises when people conflate transmasc with trans men.

It's kind of like a squares and rectangles situation. Trans men are transmasculine but not every transmasc is a man.

To answer your question,

I am both a demigirl And transmasc, which makes me bigender (which is under the multigender umbrella).

I hope this was helpful 💗

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Master list of all the "our __ experience" lgbtq+ blogs

These are all the active and inclusive/friendly queer blogs I could find. If I listed any that are exclusionist or otherwise bad or are just inactive, please let me know so I can remove them. This list is intended to help queer people find active and inviting communities to participate in and feel safe in. If you know more feel free to add them in the reblogs and/or tell me them so I can add them. Please spread this around, I worked very hard on compiling this list, and this may help people find the community for them here on Tumblr.

🏳️‍🌈 Overall community

@our-queer-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Aromantic and/or asexual

@our-arospec-experience

@our-asexual-experience

@our-oriented-aroace-experience

@our-aroace-experience

@unionize-aromantically

@our-demiromantic-experience

@our-demian-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Gay/lesbian

@our-lesbian-experience

@our-gay-experience

@our-lesboy-experience

@our-gaybian-experience

@our-mlm-experience

@our-sapphic-experience

@our-achillean-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Transgender

@our-transgender-experiences

@transsexual-experiences

@our-transfeminine-experience

@our-transmasculine-experience

@our-trans-youth-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Genderfluid (and related)

@our-genderfluid-experience

@the-genderflux-experience

@our-boyflux-experience

@our-genderfawn-experience

@our-genderfae-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Demigender

@our-demigirl-experience

@our-demiboy-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Agender

@our-agender-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Multigender

@our-multigender-experience

@your-bigender-big-brother

🏳️‍🌈 Nonbinary

@our-nonbinary-experience

@our-genderqueer-experience

@our-androgyne-experience

@our-abinary-experience

🏳️‍🌈 More sexualities

@our-pansexual-experience

@our-bisexual-experience

@our-mspec-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Other/random

@our-queerplatonic-experience

@gender-envy-is

@our-unlabelled-experience

@our-xenogender-experience

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Transfem to Transmasc solitary must exist as much as any trans solidarity must exist.

Protect my boys.

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sometimes u will be the only person fagging it up. sometimes it'll be hard. but u gotta do it. u gotta show all the fags that fagging it up is the way. u must strive to fag it as much as possible. u have a limited time. fag it up and dyke it out

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y'know what? I'm gonna say it

asking if someone is afab or amab is transphobic

the only people who need to know what gender you were assigned at birth are medical professionals and potentially sexual partners. otherwise, there is literally no reason anyone needs to know your agab

"but I have trauma with amab people" "but afab people are annoying" that sounds like a you problem and does not justify asking people what's in their pants. because that is what you are doing – just with politically correct terminology

you cannot call yourself a trans ally and then ask to know what's in someone's pants. end of story

(also? some people aren't afab or amab. neither sex nor gender are binary)

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I was originally planning on holding off sharing this until June, but then decided to hell with that; why wait?

FURTHER RESOURCES:

Intersections: Indigenous and 2SLGBTQQIA+ Identities – this booklet from the Native Women’s Association of Canada is more intended towards 2S folks, but is still a great read for anyone.

Two Spirits, One Voice – This video from Egale is a great, no more comments needed.

A Two-Spirit Journey: The Autobiography of a Lesbian Ojibwa-Cree Elder – This book by Ma-Nee Chacaby can be a difficult and emotional read, but very much worth it.

Becoming Two-spirit: Gay Identity and Social Acceptance in Indian Country – I have yet to read this book by Brian Joseph Gilley myself, but heard positive things about it.

Please feel free to reblog with more suggestions, if you have them!

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80% of "passing" is having enough money to purchase the clothes and services that will allow you to pass. Please stop holding being able to stealth up as the pinnacle of trans achievement. That place belongs to surviving. It belongs to finding joy. It belongs to love and community, not people who are rich enough to have professional makeup artists and tailors.

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The aro/ace community is extremely active on tumblr and I am here for it

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What is sensual attraction? Read to find out more!

This is part 11 of a multiple parts series where we’re exploring a multitude of different types of attractions! I hope you’ll enjoy ☺️

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Hello!

I saw your post where you say you're a "transmasc demigirl" and you're welcome for questions.

Well, that's my question. I'm genderqueer too (transmasculine, nonbinary, genderfluid), but unfortunately I can't understand you. Please answer! :)

Hello my dear,

In essence, I am bigender. I am both a transmasculine person and I am also partially a woman. I identify as a combination of the two. In simple terms, I am a nonbinary person.

I hope this answer was helpful to you.

Love,

Jay 💗

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That is not what this post is saying.

I am speaking plainly about the 'direction' someone is trans.

No group of trans people has inherent power/privilege over another group of trans people.

Trans men are not your oppressors.

Trans women are not your oppressors.

Nonbinary people, regardless of AGAB, are not your oppressors.

It is important to interrogate your own biases towards your fellow trans people.

Oftentimes, a decent place to start would be to make friends with Other trans people. You'll probably find that you have much more in common with them then you realize.

I'm a transmasc demigirl, if you'd like to know more about our community and my experiences, please feel free to leave a comment, send a dm or send an ask.

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pastel dividers

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