#queer spaces

[thedisablednaturalist]

We need to talk about how so many queer spaces are inaccessible and even actively hostile to physically disabled people.

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[roabythecow]

HEY BITCHES, BROS, AND NONBINARY HOES ‼️

ARE YOU A 15 TO 28 AGED WRITER? ARE YOU LOOKING FOR A COMMUNITY OF FELLOW POETS AND WHATNOT LIKE YOURSELF? DO YOU HAVE PETRIFYING LONELINESS? ARE YOU STRUGGLING TO PAY THE BILLS WITH YOUR 9$ AN HOUR?

WELL I CAN SOLVE NOT ONE, NOT THREE, BUT POTENTIALLY TWO OF THOSE PROBLEMS!

Now I know what you're thinking...

I AGREE! 😃 But I assure you, this server is full of pretty chill people, and your typical discord drama is at the bare minimum. Some folks are even so desperate for their drama fix that they make it up when I ask her for a review! ✨️

Thanks Finch, you're really helping our image... /silly

We also prioritize keeping the server small—90 members is our limit—so as not to be overwhelming. We're currently at 45 members (but surprisingly active 🤯), because we took a sit back from advertising since we were comfortable with the size and vibe of our server overall, but we're back at it, and guess what! Since we have a member limit, this is your

"But OP!!! I want to know MORE about this server before joining!! 🥺" You may or may not be saying because you're just so damn impatient and want the link immediately 🙄 /silly

Well, my dear dear Tumblr user, our writing community is diverse, from poets to original authors to fanfiction writers of all genres! And our range of skill levels is just as wide. We have people just stepping foot into the writing scene to folks who've been stuck in the paragraphs for centuries. We chat about our stories, share our work, brainstorm, proofread, and do prompts and sprints. However, I would like to make it clear that our server is more of a writing community, so it isn't as writing-focused as other writing servers out there. I'd say it's 60% fun shenanigans and 40% writing-related. Aside from the writing akin, there's plenty of fandom talk, artwork sharing, fun as hell VCs, movie nights, and speechless music bot VCs if you're feeling extra introverted. /pos

We're also very queer and non-neurotypical up in here. It's a safe space for all races, disabilities, genders, sexualities, and identities. If you're not chill with that, you're not welcome here.

Here are some of our reviews! ✨️

(Please zoom in to read.)

Now my precious ADHD Tumblrina, don't you scroll away just yet if the link doesn't work! You see, because we value a safe environment on our server, we shut down this link once we reach our max amount of members! So please, DM me for a link if necessary, and I'll let you in as soon as there's space! I DON'T BITE! What do you take me for, a horse?

😯 Oh, sorry, didn't see you there, our Tumblr famous server residential horse girl @penciled-palominos

What do you take me for, a toy playing kid?

😯 Oh, sorry, didn't see you there, our Tumblr famous server residential LPS enjoyer @lpsotd

What do you take me for, a crazy gay?

😯 Oh, sorry, didn't see you there, our Tumblr famous server residential men obsessor @lycanboybreakdowns

Crazy how I just bumped into all those famous people on our server... 🫢

We can't wait to meet you!

[skywalkerbootleg]

a lot of the time in online spaces I'm way more surprised to find out people are cis than them being trans

Like oh you're trans I thought we all knew

You're cis?? Like, no gender dysphoria and born with sex characteristics matching your gender identity?? That's wild man I never would've suspected that

[kakuma-queer]

Hello world, reaching to everyone as one of the queer refugees from Kenya Kakuma refugees camp. Life has never been good since we came to the camp years ago in 2019 ,2020 and 2021. Although life is hard, LGBTIQA refugees have continuously joined us in the camp in the latest years leading to a larger number of lgbtiqa refugees in Kenya.

The camp has over 200,000 total number of refugees with just about 1300 lgbtiqa+ refugees. Its just a smaller ratio of lgbtiqa regugees facing persevution from the bigger number of other refugees.

Most of us have fled from Uganda where things turned out to be hard on queer people including death and imprisonment of lgbtiqa people. I call upon everyone tk help and support the the fellow queer people surbive through this trauma. You can’t imagine we have lost friends through death due to homophobia. One of us who was killed badly by setting fire on them did noy live for a month later. When we rushed them to hospital, doctors knew was trans and so devided to delay him and later died. We please need everyone to help. Even contacting UNHCR can help.

Look we have a youtube channel for more information and links like petitions and fundraiser are attached to our youtube channel

Our fundraising campaign, help and donate if you can, if you can't please share, we are currently looking forward to constructing an iron sheet fence as it will improve our safety.

As the leadership team for our group, we estimated it to take $1200. We also love to install a solar system that will cost us $700, will include solar panel, battery, inverter, lights and extensions. Where we shall be able to charge our phones from our premises and also have security lights to avoid attacks at night. and avoid unnecessary movements that also put us at risk of attacks. Please help and support us so that we can improve our safety. With the iron sheet fence we shall reduce on the risks of attacking us by homophobes especially when we are sleeping. I please call upon your support as we shall account for all the money donated to us. Thanks

It takes a good and kind heart to help, you will always stick on our hearts yiu people that make us feel we sre loved and cared about. Sustaining ourselves has failed us. We would prefer having jobs however no one can give a job to a demon like how the call us to be.

Hospital treatment in the government and UNHCR hospitals is hard because of homophobia and delays on LGBT people. For the love and support of one another, we love you.

[lgbtqi-support-equality]

I miss the real life LGBT+ spaces. They felt more uniting, I felt genuine connection and solidarity. Don't get me wrong, online spaces are still great but they often end up emphasising the negatives and amplifying the differences between different sexualities/genders etc in a negative way instead of celebrating what makes us unique. I miss marching with my fellow comrades and feeling invincible. I miss having a physical safe space to be who I truly am.

[balestrem]

Working in diversity and inclusion as a queer person who has been living and moving through queer spaces for half my life has shielded me from a lot of pain and suffering in some ways. I had places to vent, to express and to talk about my experiences. Because now I am in a cis-het world, with less queer people and all of a sudden people are so hesitant to talk and express experiences of discrimination.

It just dawned upon me that I have had a luxury to live and breathe in queer spaces, where my experience of discrimination has always been a non-negotiable fact. It was something that was frequently talked about and quite the relief. Now, seeing closeted queer people struggle to even put their experience of discrimination into words, is just so eye-opening, because they did not have the same luxury as I did.

I see you. I hear you. I am fighting to make your voices be heard.

[alisface]

It's not often that I'll just post something from my Twitter but.... this little interaction has me in some sort of way:

It feels like every 5 years or so someone opens a gay bar here and we all celebrate and it's nice but then it always goes through this cycle. Always. And it sucks, lgbtq people are very tolerated and loved where I lived so it's not like we can't go to all the other clubs and bars and spots and dives. But it's just really nice to have a place where you implicitly feel safe to be you, even if it didn't feel unsafe elsewhere.

I don't know a great way to change this either, the joke name I came up with was what I would hope would be enough but I know it's not. How do you keep a spot in that teir 2? (To be clear I mean for spots that are more explicitly meetup/hookup orientated, very happy with cis straight women coming in to just feel safe and happy in general queer spaces)

Like I just want to feel at ease for once

[whatbigotspost]

A friend sent me this story and it’s a good time for me to ramble on for a sec about how fucked up it is for the exact people who are wreaking abusive control and violence against their LGBTQAI+ children and the community widely are positioning themselves as protectors and the queer community as abusers simply for existing in a way that says, “you can have a happy life exactly as you are.”

Content warning: descriptions of child abuse coming…Most garden variety adult survivors of child abuse like me can tell you that it’s really really often the adults who are screaming “I’m protecting you!!!!!” at kids who are actually the exact person we needed real protecting from. My dad’s version of “protection” quite frequently meant trying to control my every thought and movement while bludgeoning me with an endless onslaught of his interpretation of Christianity as the reason and justification.

His control and violence was excused because it was “for my own good.” He was just “doing his job to protect my soul” or what the fuck ever. I’ll never forget him explaining to my brother and I how we needed “the devil beat out of us” sometimes.

I am certain this is how people like MTG parent.

There’s another post out there floating around right now about how “save the children” has become a wildly effective dog whistle for conservative Christofascists and the like. It’s true and it makes me so fucking mad because what I really really needed growing up (and eventually found, thank god) were queer affirming spaces so I could breathe for a moment and stop hating myself.

I can’t even bring words to do justice to how important 2 particular adults were to me, welcoming me to hang out in homes that became safe havens for me and many other of my friends…places were everything was gay as fuck and I was safe TRULY SAFE. To suggest they were the problem? The groomers? It’s laughable to a degree I can’t do justice.

I wish there was a way we could take the reins of the “think of the children” thing away from Christofascists. It needs to mean “create spaces where kids can be 100% themselves” and YES that will mean lots of queerness because a fucking lot of us are queer. Sure people of all types can be abusers…positioning gay and trans adults as inherent “groomers” is the same old homo and transphobia as ever, repackaged using long debunked stereotypes and outright lies.

My dad was the real groomer in my life. He tried to to groom me to accept violence as a part of love. To become some theoretical man’s good little wife and servant for life. To hate myself so deeply that I’d turn into a broken person like him and have kids I also didn’t want and export my self-hatred to them and so on, forever. Thank god he failed but if people like MTG get their way, they will abuse so many more children who may not be lucky enough to survive it. It’s terrifying and THOSE KIDS deserve and need protecting from her.

[mauros-hlios]

me: so yeah, because i grew up from a fat child into a fat adult, i've been chronically excluded from sexuality as a whole. so when my peers were having their firsts with their significant others, i was being asked out as a joke. and when my friends in uni were getting dressed up and considered sexy, i was "cute" and "adorable" at best. and in certain groups, even nowadays, i have to be super careful not to show my attraction to anyone, because i will be viewed either as creepy for even having a small crush, or like a middle schooler crushing on some famous idol. either way, i am treated like i don't actually have a chance with them (especially if said crush is skinny or fit). and because of that exclusion from "typical" sexuality, i was very early on introduced to online lgbt+ and kink spaces, because these were the few places where i could feel desirable. so the reason i, as a fat and queer person, may be viewed as overly sexualising myself, is because this is my way of healing from the mindset/culture i grew up with.

cashier at KFC who complimented my chain leather garters:

[kaliarda]

[weirdly-specific-but-ok]

hey, it's the anon who asked about jkr. I figured it was like that, but my brain made me need to check. Thank you for answering! i understand what you said about not supporting her, but not letting her take away the good parts of the community. I hope it was clear that i was curious and i mean no shade whatsoever /gen but i realize i may not have worded things well so i wanted to clarify just in case it came across wrong. thank you! (you don't need to answer this, i just wanted to say)

Hey don't worry at all anon maggot!! I'm so so glad that you asked me, and like I said on that post, I understand entirely why you needed to. I feel the same way all the time with creators that I don't know. Well, I'm more of a chaos demon and not a creator here, but the point stands.

And you didn't word anything wrong at all! It was a valid question, and an important one, and you were very polite about it.

Thank you for asking, I'm happy that I was able to help you feel more at ease. Fuck JKR and transphobes. Take all the love. We need more safe spaces, and I hope I can create one. I hope I have.

Ask whatever you feel like, maggots, really. I'll answer the best I can. I mean, as the Good Omens Mascot, and as someone who loves Crowley to death... Ask questions. Keep asking questions. And also suggestions. For Starmaker, keep asking questions, and know that the suggestion box is open.

[imkrisyoung]

This spot is essential for Washington DC's queer community. Please donate and/or share!

[allthecanadianpolitics]

The owner of The Backlot, a popular LGBTQ2S bar in downtown Calgary, is in search of a new location as a development permit application has their current space in jeopardy.

The Backlot has been in its current location on 10 Avenue S.W. since 1996, but the bar has served as a gathering space for Calgary’s gay community for nearly 50 years.

“It’s been a community bar, kind of like a Cheers of the gay community,” Backlot owner Mark Campbell told Global News.

“There’s a lot of people that have, for the first time coming out, have gone to the bar and felt comfortable enough to be express themselves in their true form.” [...]

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Tagging: @politicsofcanada, @abpoli

[artificial-sour-apple-flavoring]

Hey since this is a thing that's happening (tumblr isn't turning a profit and it's going to be left to rot, essentially), can we make a list of safe, online queer (and/or fan) communities