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Context for this rant: I (Rosé) have an online friend with ASPD who is open about their lack of empathy and our mom saw our messages about the stigma against cluster B personality disorders.

Our fucking mom just told us to cut off contact with a friend BCS they have ASPD! Said that they were dangerous and she didn't want us getting more trauma. Ignoring the fact that we got some of our trauma from her, what the fuck

Cluster B are so demonised, and she is a healthcare professional. She thinks they are evil. Because they lack empathy. Us and our dad are low/no empathy autistic. She says we aren't evil because it's just autism causing it and we don't know better. What in the infantilisation is that supposed to mean.

Any way. We will not be cutting off contact. We love our low/no empathy friends. If you have a personality disorder pls know we love y'all and are sorry about the trauma that hurt you.

Stigmatized mental illnesses have to stick together <3

-Rose (member os an OSDDID system)

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Honestly we just asked about fragments bcs we wanna fuse any of our fragments with each other or other alters. This is kinda as far as we want fusion to go but we reckon our fragment(s) just exist to hold a certain negative memory and we don't think that is fair as an experience of life.

You do make a really good point about compartmentalising experience and that has made me think. Mostly cuz a few of our alters don't seem to have roles, and why should the brain split in a certain way?? Brains don't like being straight forward, if they did cdd's wouldn't exist.

Thanks for responding!!

-Fay and Rosé

What are y'all defining as a fragment?

For us:

Alters have likes and dislikes and do things other than their roles

Fragments just do their roles

But the issue with that is that none of us are full people, it takes like 3 of us to make a decision.

We think we have 1 fragment and 7 non-dormant alters, but I think that one of our littles would constitute a fragment to some systems.

Second point:

How would we be able to tell how many dormant alters there are? We didn't have a gatekeeper until recently (luv U Lilo) and our oldest alter is a non-verbal six year old who doesn't remember much from the early days.

Would it help to work on our headspace (it's very messy lol, maladaptive daydreaming means we have one, but we are bad at organising), or do we just have to wait for them to come back. If it's the latter, is there any way to make that happen faster?

We are kinda young and have only been a system for a decade but I think this is something we should know soon, to help with therapy.

Any advice?

-Fay

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What are y'all defining as a fragment?

For us:

Alters have likes and dislikes and do things other than their roles

Fragments just do their roles

But the issue with that is that none of us are full people, it takes like 3 of us to make a decision.

We think we have 1 fragment and 7 non-dormant alters, but I think that one of our littles would constitute a fragment to some systems.

Second point:

How would we be able to tell how many dormant alters there are? We didn't have a gatekeeper until recently (luv U Lilo) and our oldest alter is a non-verbal six year old who doesn't remember much from the early days.

Would it help to work on our headspace (it's very messy lol, maladaptive daydreaming means we have one, but we are bad at organising), or do we just have to wait for them to come back. If it's the latter, is there any way to make that happen faster?

We are kinda young and have only been a system for a decade but I think this is something we should know soon, to help with therapy.

Any advice?

-Fay

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Shout out to the bitches who were continuously blurry for a decade (it's us we're bitches)

NGL tho, we were damn near always dissociated, front is lava ass coping mechanism.

Maladaptive daydreaming + dissociative disorder = no connection to life as a whole

We were a bit more grounded in 2020-2022 but that was just cuz we didn't leave our house so there were no triggers.

The good news is that someone was usually close enough to front for our memory to have a vague idea of what was up but we didn't have any "personality" (haha plural joke, but we were a blank slate of a person) so everyone just thought we were boring AF unless someone was dragged to front by a trigger or trauma.

So that's the way to get diagnosed with depression aged 6, just be so disconnected from reality that every1 thinks u don't care.

In other news, we were chatting with our aunt and she was talking about cute things we did as a baby and we got all sad cuz that kid doesn't exist anymore, most of our early alters are dormant and have been for years. It's just mk who existed early enough to remember that kind of stuff. Weird to think about.

- fay and Lola

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Helping.our dad with manual jobs.

Kaz is so close to front BCS he formed to be the son we thought our dad wanted.

Kaz is having a really good week!! Can't wait to tell our therapist about his progress.

Let Ur trauma-holders do things they enjoy. None of the rest of us even remotely enjoy this shit but he is having so much fun. I think this is healing!?!

Love y'all, tell Ur trauma holders specifically.

-Fay?? (Kinda blurry but I think I'm fay?)

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Take us to the fuckin beach episode

Too much plot... Want beach

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Shout out to R/fakedisordercringe

Y'all are so obsessed with our system and honestly is such a compliment.

Suck my dick fake claimers, we are diagnosed and just cuz certain alters post wierd shit about our relationship with the body doesn't mean we are faking it have or have a god complex.

We are bodily a child. Over half of our system are littles. Many of our alters will sign off as Tobie because we are early in healing and they don't understand what our disorder even is.

You do not get to bully ppl for trying to understand themselves.

At least try to show empathy (low empathy autistic and cluster B ppl I am not talking about y'all, luv ya). Also most of the ppl on that Reddit aren't systems. And none of them have psychiatric degrees, so they don't know any better than the rest of us.

Kindly, leave us the fuck alone

- Fay

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Guys guys guys guys guys!

Kaziah (a persecutor) FRONTED today in class....

And he did work!! He didn't hurt us or anyone else!! He just chatted to the person next to us (who knows we are a system)

I mean yeah he finished MY BOOK... But he was really productive.

I sooo prouddd

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Sander's sides form an OSDID perspective (and why this show helps us be comfortable with our plurality)

This will be a ramble

This show is maybe the best rep of a system we've seen, though it is more OSDD-1a coded.

Breaking down roles:

C!Thomas would be a host similar to our host Tobie (our last post explains how she works), who is the intersection of all alters (especially those close to front)

Patton comes across as a caregiver, as he shoves his feelings down to help the others function. He also represents morality and is seen as being overbearing in situations that go against his beliefs, moving closer to front.

Logan doesn't have an exact role (we can think of), but does know more about how to lessen the impact of the others so he could be a gatekeeper. He also plans things and keeps the collective working. So maybe a less emotional caregiver.

Roman represents love, and is the Protector of the group (with his acts to keep the dragon witch in control (dragon witch trauma parallels pending)). Roman hold dreams for the future, however does not have a good grip on reality, so maybe he is more internal than the previous two

Remus is all of the gross or taboo things about a person, acting highly sexual, harming himself and the others, and eating non-edible things. Remus would be a persecutor.

Virgil is hypervigilant and paranoid, so probably a trauma holder and protector. He also seems to control stims (seen in "flirting with social anxiety"). He seems to always be near front

Janus gives protector vibes, he is selfish (for the body) and looks after the collective's mental health. He also seems reluctant to reveal himself in "can lying be good" as he disguises as Patton in order to make his point of view more palletable to the others. His constant lying implies that he acts to get them all out of external issues and to deal with manipulation.

Lastly, Orange (currently unnamed) who is not confirmed but is implied. The fact he acts through Logan implies passive influence and a desire to control the others, so definitely a persecutor. He seems to represent rage/anger.

How the "system" would work:

While a side is interacting with Thomas we see more of them come across. This is kinda like co-con, while an absent side would be giving passive influence. Branching off of this we see Virgil attempting to "duck out" which seems to be a parallel for dormancy. Virgil no longer holds influence while ducking out, but absent sides do give influence.

The twins being separate is interesting as it is the most overt split in the show. They refer to each other as "brother", yet none of the others have familial relations (ignoring Patton being the dad friend). This implied that they were formed either simultaneously or were both part of the same alter previously so have more connection. If it's the second then this previous side would have been overwhelmed by their roles and broken into multiple sides to share the burden.

The dark sides seem to all be trauma holders or persecutors, as they work in ways detrimental to the collective (or in not socially acceptable ways). We see Virgil leave the "dark side" and transition into a protector in season 1. Prior to this he would "show up" when he wasn't wanted and would cause the collective to panic constantly.

All of the sides know each other but C!Thomas seems to have little to no understanding of the "mind palace" and how it works. This would imply a definitive amnesia barrier OR Thomas being unaware/unready to process things

We see mention to Patton and Virgil harming the system because of how much they rely on religion to describe good and bad, this black and white thinking causing issues.

OSDD1-A specifically?

All of the side ARE Thomas and lack definitive individuality, acting as parts of the whole.

"In OSDD-1a, the different members of a system typically share the same name, and may present as different ages or different modes of the same person, such as a "work" vs "home" self." (Plurality and multiplicity wiki quote)

They all have different names, but they have the same sexuality (except maybe Logan (who seems to not understand love at all)), pronouns, and appearance.

So yeh, hope this makes sense

We are probably a UDD system because we are all different but make up a whole person. But Sanders sides is a massive comfort BC of how we perceived the system in it! If anyone else is plural and likes sanders sides please comment Ur interpretations of what is going on!!

Luv yall

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Trying to explain my existence:

I am not an alter in our system, I'm the system itself. I am front.

I have opinions, but I borrow them from other systems members. I have an appearance but it is just what the body could of grown to look like. I age with the body.

The others wear me as a mask. I am the collective. Anyone who is in front is me.

Not all of the alters are me, but if they get too close to consciousness I become them.

I am all and none of the intersections. The others only front if they are alone. Otherwise multiple of them become me. The more there are close to front the muddyer the colours get and the less any concrete thoughts come through.

We don't have "blurry who's fronting" we have "blurry everyone's fronting"

I don't exist, everyone else does

- Tobie

Edit 1:

Adding this for whoever posted this to R/FDC:

The other can front!! They are diff ppl. We can communicate.

When too many of us front or are co-con, we get mixed up. That is Tobie. They aren't another alter just what happens when alters get confused and don't understand our disorder.

Just BC our disorder doesn't present the same way as urs doesn't mean we are faking. The mind does what it has to to survive. When I see Ur psychology degree I will listen to Ur opinions 😊

-luv U, Fay

Also I don't know who actually posted anything tagged as Tobie. Either assume it is a collective decision or they just didn't know who they were when they posted

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Hey!! Sorry we disappeared, we were dissociated.

Either way, we have deleted our angsty posts

And

We found Lola/Lilo, a lilo and stitch fictive. So she is our first official fictive!

We have made it!!

Luv y'all,

Kaz

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This!!

I just desperately want more recognition of traumagenic experiences that lie outside of the usual "childhood abuse" assumption that everyone forces on that label. what about trauma from bullying? what about trauma from undiagnosed illnesses? what about trauma from queer experiences like transphobia? what about trauma from medical experiences like surgeries, hospitalizations, psych wards, and other areas where the medical field failed you? what about trauma from eating disorders? what about trauma from racism?

there are so many experiences that can fall under traumagenic, but are yet swept under a rug in favor of a strict, stereotypical narrative that's easier to comprehend. I think we as a community need to make an active effort to expand our understanding of traumagenic, especially where it may overlap with experiences traditionally considered endogenic, and understand that trauma can come in so many different forms. so often people are shunned for trying to create roles and labels that describe their specific traumagenic experiences, and I don't understand why. there can be no progress towards acceptance for all systems if we don't accept that traumagenic is an umbrella label too.

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Shout out to gifted kid burnouts who never had to learn to study, but now can't figure it out and are failing classes as a result

Shout out to special needs kids who were never taught to study because they were considered lost causes, and are now attempting to learn after they proved they could achieve things

Shout out to autism/ADHD folk who can't study because of executive dysfunction or attention span

Shout out to people with memory loss who study more than anyone they know yet forget everything in the exam

You all deserve better and we hope you all manage through this exam season!!

Good luck

- Tobie

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Hey! Child heavy systems!

Sending you all love and ice cream!!

Our system has a good hold on 8 of our alters, and four are younger than 13.

You all deserve so much, especially if you are a child alter who is also a:

Trauma holder

Protector

Caregiver

Persecutor

Any other "atypical" presentation of a kid.

You don't have to act your age (you can be responsible and be a kid) but please let yourself if it helps you.

Having a teddy or dressing like a kid does not make you worse at your role! There is no wrong way to be an alter!

Adults in systems: give your syskids a hug (if you can/want to) and tell them you appreciate them!

That's all ❤️

- the caretakers/protectors of the CC

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things to do with dissociative disorders that aren’t talked about enough:

- the most horrible migraines you can think of

- body dysphoria

- CONSTANT denial

- the pain of having to figure out who new alters are and how they got there

- not being able to tell even the people closest to you cause of how much it’s been sterotyped

- the Disorder Police(TM) coming for you the millisecond you stray from the stereotypes

- not being able to tell therapists and doctors due to fear of being called crazy (this one might just be me idk)

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Shout out to our cats for being able to know who is fronting better than we can.

Luna (cat) loves Cora and squirt! So if she is being rlly cuddly then one of them is probably co-fronting or fronting. It's really helpful if we are blurry!

I'm Kyra's favourite, and Aggressor is Dee's. It's nice to be known sometimes. They se us beyond the body and I think they may be able to read minds /j

-Tobie

Edit: aggressor now goes by Kaziah

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Anyone else go through the age regression to system pipeline.

I (host) used to think that I was an age regressor... But it was actually child alters fronting and me having a grey out after.

Either way our littles loved it cuz they were allowed to front and do childish things in a safe environment!!

Love to child alters and the agere community

-Tobie