lefayfolkwitch

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>sword >bits of metal all over me >fuckass haircut >submissive

That's right, technically I'm a knight now ig

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Don't get me wrong, I'm happy and all right now, but I also just felt a wave of melancholy. I love the people in my life, and I'm trying to put myself out there more and more, but sometimes I just feel lonely.

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I really struggle with the constant fear that I'm actually annoying the crap out of the people I think I'm getting along with, and they're just not telling me to be nice. That or to avoid confrontation.

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Sometimes, I seriously question why I still use Reddit. Feels like 9/10 times it's just a shitty environment for disabled people. I stumbled across another sub that's seemingly just making fun of a disabled person and accusing them of malingering their disability, which seems to be a really popular genre on Reddit. I wasn't at all familiar with the person, I just found it disheartening. Obviously, this is a really common problem disabled people face on the internet in general, but it's always struck me how Reddit doesn't even try to hide it. Like, it's not even a niche forum. It's a popular social media site where ableism embedded in the culture. (which is true of the mainstream culture as well, but over the years, I've just found Reddit to be a particularly hostil towards disabled people outside of subs specifically ran by us) Like, some really popular well-known subs are just downright fucking ableist to the core. R/raisedbyanarcissist is a great example. Yet, for some reason, I haven't learned my lesson, and I don't get off Reddit. At the end of the day, what keeps me on there is that there really are some good communities, and in retrospect, Tumblr sucks too.

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Marsha P Johnson with Snoopy

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I'm really trying to be honest with myself and confront my shadows. I do think I identify as demifemme. Especially as a nonbinary lesbian and how femme can describe constructing femininity in a queer way that dissenters men. Due to my own internalized enbyphobia, misogyny, and femmephobia, I convinced myself that the only way I could express queer femininity as a cafab nonbinary person was to identify as a man, which is horrible. There's genuinely so much to unpack there, and I've been working on unpacking that. Through my whole journey as a nonbinary teenager, I felt so much pressure to just identify as a man. When I first came out as nonbinary in 2015/2016, very few people actually took nonbinary people seriously, and there was so much pressure to just be a man.

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if you can't even answer a question like "is this lesbian space inclusive of trans women" without pivoting your response to be about how you love and support transmasc lesbians i am going to assume it's a terf thing

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the wolf girls

(she/they) 🐺🐺🐺

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seems like black trans people are only thrown on the back burner until it's time to use our existence in an argument and then talk over us until we get hate-crimed and killed and then #saytheirname and cycle repeat!

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I picked The Owl House back up today, and I've almost finished watching the series completely for the third or fourth time now 😅

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i am a trans guy but I don't reclaim masculinity in completeness because it's mostly rooted in eurocentrism. black queer masculinity and femininity simultaneously on the other hand is absolutely beautiful and I've been looking at a lot more examples of it, especially with ballroom culture and black gender non conforming queer culture

It is beautiful to be a part of this and put that in my art and myself. i do have to acknowledge that I'm doing the "black person unknowingly is pioneering a new perspective of queers" but like, I rather stay authentic to myself.

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at the end of the day wayyyy way too many of you including other trans people including trans allies are comfortable seeing people who were camab as essentially an entirely different species than people who were cafab with 0 potential overlap in experience. trans and nonbinary people exist in so many varieties; it’s straightforwardly, obviously bioessentialistic and transphobic to assume that people cafab are ‘more queer’ or otherwise ‘allowed’ to do more gender/sexuality exploration than people camab. but this is almost always the implicit assumption on this site that structures all resulting talk, whether it’s the assumption that “nonbinary” must mean someone cafab, or the eternally popular and transmisogynistic fear of the malebodied invader lying about his identity to get pussy. if you reblog posts supporting he/him lesbians then you need to stop shitting bricks and crying deceiver every time you see a nonbinary transfem call himself a boy or do any other shit that you wouldn’t blink at a transmasc doing. stop trying to make gender real and act like we aren’t all just human!!

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I feel like some of you guys think "bad art" is like someone gluing rhinestones to a water melon, or a guy who made his own armchair out of Ohio license plates, or a trashy romance novel where someone says "the blue-eyed one kissed the brown-eyed one," when in reality bad art is a 1000000 Billion Dollar movie where none of the workers got paid and every single creative decision was market tested to see how lucrative of a profit it could foreseeably make to wow shareholders.

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Starting to realize that cis people don’t really know about the detrans movement being a hate movement and so everytime you complain about the detrans movement a cis person who thinks they can talk over you because they were on hrt for a bit goes “what about meeeeeeee im not transphobic!!! Food for thought!!”

Like buddy if you see a trans person complaining about a transphobic hate movement and feel the need to cissplain that not every person who stopped medical transition is bad then maybe you are transphobic!!

I put the adjectives ‘transphobic grifter’ in front of ‘detrans’ for a reason! And that reason is to make it clear I’m talking about the hate movement filled with people calling themselves detrans!!

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For starters I want to clarify that I am very new to this discourse, and by virtue of my understanding only going so far and, admittedly, my lack of experience with regards to most of these things, I am likely very naive.

I've been involved in some discourse about tma and tme as labels and whether or not the distinction they highlight is necessary, and personally i've come to disagree with the use of them. In essence I gather that the intention is to highlight the fact that we as trans women are the primary targets of transmisogyny and thus particularly vulnerable, however i feel like the dichotomy of who is and isnt affected by transmisogyny doesn't really serve that intention that well. I feel that making the distinction of specifically who is and isnt affected does invalidate the experience of people who, despite not being trans women or transfeminine themselves, are and have been targeted by transmisogyny.

On one hand, I get that a lot of the general argument about this gets into the territory of how our unique experiences have been and continue to be invalidated and undermined. And, of course, I feel like it's very reasonable and important to highlight how intensely vulnerable trans women in particular are. Non-trans women among other people can be targeted by transmisogyny, but are only targeted because transmisogyny is hostile to even the concept of a trans woman. On the other hand, I can see how these flaws in the dichotomy weaken could be perceived as weakening our standpoint and, whether intended or not (i imagine not) end up being kind of antagonistic to our peers. Thoughts?

i mean i don't think it's a flaw at all. the difference you're describing is present with every other type of bigotry of -phobia: sure, anybody can be targeted by with transmisogyny as a weapon, but very few people are going to be targetted by institutitonal transmisogyny, which is the specific kind of transmisogyny we are discussing when we talk about TME/TMA. we've been having this conversation for decades -- are kinda faggy straight boys targeted by homophobia??? and the answer is no, right, like whilst they might be punished & picked on for not conforming well enough to cisheteronormativity, a "faggy straight guy" isn't going to be, for example, prevented from marrying his lover.

i do not care if i am "invalidating" non transfeminine people who want to use the transfeminist language we have developed to describe our experiences, nor do i understand why it is transfems' responisibility to share the epistemological way we define our grief just because sometimes other people are mistaken for trannies and mistreated for it. some of us have to be trannies all the time.

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like it's just pathetic that we still have to do this whole pretend-transmasc-lesbians-are-the-most-vulnerable-lesbian-demographic schtick when pound for pound i have faced far less vitriol and exclusion from other lesbians for having he in my pronouns or being agender/transmasc-ish than i have for just having a transfem girlfriend, because even just proximity to/acceptance of transfemininity is far far far more contested by terf type lesbians than any afab gender ambiguity has ever been or will ever be. i do not ever want to hear any affirmations of the "validity of he/him lesbians" or condemnations of their exclusion in a lesbian space before i see actual flesh and blood trans women being supported and included

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fursona ref update since she hasnt gotten one in like a year