do you reckon if Esther knew other witches they'd be showing off their cool and powerful familiars at coven meetings and then they'd all turn to the pathetic little crow that is Monty and go "Esther we love you queen but what is that Sad Thing" and Esther would try and defend her choice like "he's my diversity hire <3"
I think what might actually help the families of trans loved ones is to actually engage with where the trans person is at - especially if the family isn't quite understanding yet. When I came out, I was completely alone in figuring out my manhood. I had peers and I had exposed myself to so many trans people who explored gender, and while it was amazing, it isn't quite the same at times. I grieve quietly, sometimes, about all the missed opportunities that might have just made it easier for my family to have seen how utterly happy I was. It took them a very long time to actually notice that I was happy, especially once I got on testosterone. I'm lucky that they saw that happiness eventually, and slowly accepted it. My manhood is completely detached from their influence, both to my relief and chagrin. It's sad to me that I learned to shave from a kind online stranger, somebody who didn't even have a father and yet, I do. I have a father. I grieve at the loss of a potential shared experience. I grieve about the pain I went through when I was in that stage of transition, especially because it was raw and vulnerable. I grieve that many trans people today are traversing the path I had to, because it's sometimes lonely (even when you do have other forms of support).
It's hard to know that I will never have gotten my sense of being from my family. In many ways, it has severed a lot of connection with them because there were so many times that I was begging them to see happiness when they were focused on the idea that I was almost in a state of purgatory - flesh which felt warm but held no familiarity to them. I don't harbor ill-will toward them, I hope I don't leave the impression that I despise them. I understand what they felt, even if I can't conceptualize it myself. However, it's a raw wound in my heart, and I don't want to leave anybody else feeling that way, either.
Yes, that includes Taylor Swift. Especially after she became apolitical again. Her "activism" was just an era, now she actively hangs out with MAGA folks. She can sue small time Etsy sellers, but Trump apparently can spread an entire fake AI endorsement and she stays silent.
Not that her activism was impactful to begin with. She never said anything regarding Roe v Wade, has never said anything about trans rights, and her "feminism" only came out when it was convenient for her drama. Her LGBTQ allyship and YNTCD vid was borderline offensive in how stereotypical it was, and of course she made their struggles about how hard she has it with her "haters".
She had to call all these people in her Miss Americana to make sure it was okay to speak out, which is just hilarious because an actual ally wouldn't call her PR team, they would speak out because it is the right thing to do. They wouldn't declare themselves on the right side of history and brave for being pro-gay marriage literally over a decade after her contemporaries already stood up for the community (Lady Gaga was openly pro-trans rights at the very beginning of her career in 2009 for example)...
You don't get to declare yourself brave for being an ally when it is over a decade overdue, then renege on your activism and expect everyone to be okay with the fact that you are hanging out with people who support legislation that harms the LGBTQ community. This isn't about a difference of opinion, you don't get to plaster an entire era with rainbows and then be chill with someone who is okay with stripping trans people of needed healthcare and the ability to identify as they see fit.
ETA
She endorsed Kamala, so there is that at least, but she still stays conveniently silent on serious progressive issues and I still have a problem with her supporting people who endorse people who want to end LGBTQ+ rights. To me politics are a moral issue, and even growing up in the rural Midwest, I made a decision to not associate with bigots even if that made my circle smaller.
what upgrade paths do I invest in to be peak ally for the horde of rabid DPS lesbians. Already a support main so I know the general gist of it but unsure what skills to pick. please help
Oh you're gonna want to invest in AOE buffs to incentivize the Lesbians to huddle up and kiss each other. If you're worried about friendly fire I think a few points in Spell Range and Splash Radius would go a long way.
As for effects specifically, I recommend Girl Power which scales with how many women you hit with it, Blunt Mastery (Which for whatever reason actually stacks with the Lesbian's Blunt Mistressy Innate Trait, and Tender Embrace (But only if you have the Wingman skill which lets you cast Touch Range spells through one of your allies.) The specific wording of Tender Embrace means it affects both the target and an adjacent character of their choice (Probably so that it works with the guardian specialty and stuff.)
Lesbians already have a lot of stuff that buffs members of their own class, so I think your most important role is gonna be giving them recharge abilities or bonuses to their healing/blunt damage. If anyone is running a polycule build you should only give them cool down/recharge stuff.