#Athlete is Agender

[lgbtqreads]

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[moregraceful]

don't know what the fuck was going on with my subconscious last night but i dreamt, among many other things, i was reading an article abt cole caufield in the athletic and the writer kept using they/them pronouns for cole?

[gin-juice-tonic]

I've been thinking a lot about gender identity and stuff lately, but to my shame I’m not the most educated person when it comes to lgbt related stuff. Every time I try to search it to learn more I end up freaking out and clearing my browsing history because of the feeling of being watched. I know I’m being unreasonable, but it’s stronger than me. I don’t have anyone to ask about this kind of stuff. Everyone around me is negative about lgbt, I grew up among this negativity. I’m afraid to ask my online friends because I don’t want to seem ignorant or stupid. What have I decided to do? Send an anonymous ask to a stranger about my concerns (sorry about that), whose blog helped me to accept the fact that I might not be who I though I was at the first place. It feels more safe. Back to the point.

As a teen I used she/they pronouns and a different gender-neutral name online for years. I still do it as an adult and now I realise that “she” was more like a compromise for me because it was what I used to be referred as for my whole life, but didn’t feel quite comfortable with. So it’s they/them for me, I guess. Okay. I’ve always preferred to not be related to any gender, but now I see that there’s more to it. I might be a nonbinary, but what if I’m actually an agender? I also consider the possibility of being a genderfluid because one moment I wear a dress and think that it looks good, and the other moment I cry in front of a mirror because of the idea of wearing it. So yeah, it depends on my mood. I don’t know how it works. I’m just so confused. The only thing I know that I’m not comfortable with being referred to as a female anymore. I’ve never really been.

Admittedly, as someone who is binary trans, I do not have a lot of knowledge in this area. I do know what it’s like to not know what you’re “supposed to be” though. And I know it can be frustrating and scary to be lost in trying to figure out your own identity. 

I asked some of my friends, who are nonbinary and genderfluid themselves, and the first thing we all have to say is you should allow yourself more kindness. I am sorry that you grew up around so much negativity. But I want you to know that it’s both okay to feel afraid but also okay to not know everything. If a friend is going to treat you badly for asking questions, they’re not a very good friend. 

One of my friends says the part you said about “making compromises” resonated a lot with them a lot, so you aren’t alone there. As for how you feel in a dress, clothes do not equal gender. You can like how you look in a dress without any of it having to do with girl-ishness. I suggest you try to think about why you like it when you do, and why you don’t when you don’t. My friends also suggested trying other clothes you can express yourself with. Think about why you like them, or why you don’t like them. (Of course, sometimes the answer has nothing to do with gender. I like athletic clothing because they make me look sporty, which is a neutral thing. But it’s good to know what parts aren’t related to gender at all too.) That extends beyond clothes too, any part of your presentation that you think you can play with without getting yourself into danger, you should. 

It’s tempting to feel like you have to scramble to figure out a label. Especially when advice and other people you can talk to can feel sort of “grouped” under them. And there’s a lot of knowledge to be gained that way for sure. But there’s a lot of knowledge to be gained just in figuring out what you do and don’t like. What makes you feel bad, what makes you feel at ease, what makes you super excited. You‘ve got it nailed down that you don’t like being called a female, that’s not a bad start! 

If your friends are people you think are good and kind, I would suggest reaching out to them so that you can explore things a little more with them, considering they know you better than I would. I know it's scary, but there's nothing wrong with not knowing things, and I hope they'd be aware of that too. And even if you call yourself something now and explore more into it, there's no harm if in the future it doesn't fit so good. There's no wrong way to be a gender, and more importantly there's no wrong way to be you.

[birdietrait]

Wesley Ackerman (they/them) for @fizzytoo's cowfolk roundup !

some info 🕺

traits: athletic, family-oriented, bookworm, slob, animal enthusiast

has the bestselling author aspiration

they're an agender lesbian <3

likes: alternative + metal + ranch music, fitness, cooking, fishing and gardening :)

dislikes: egotistical sims, deception, potty humor, pranks and mischief

Wesley was born and raised in Strangerville and moved to Chestnut Ridge with the hopes of adopting a whole brood of different animals, and of starting a family one day.

You can often find them going on jogs, taking care of the garden, or sitting on their porch and working on their book.

(private download)

[ratgingi]

lets GOOOOO juniper's lad squad / band members finally have refs

some of you may recognize the second and third ones, thats bc theyre old fav ocs of mine that i bestowed the highest honor (made into dt chars) these guys and juniper tend to get in a lot of trouble together and also the four of them may or may not be active spreaders of vampire rumors ive decided. tormenting those old men

in order from left to right:

kipper | nonbinary, he/they + aroace - bubbly sunshine guy who was adopted by a bunch of edgelords - he loves fashion and gardening (can you guess his fav thing to grow lmao) - theyre actually the protector of the group, as hes the most confident and courageous in the face of danger. also keeps rocks + bandaids in that bag hes holding so he can play healing or defense depending on the situation - he and ashton are qpps - originally had a normal rotary phone for a head, but they got a cute little strawberry flipphone and then had their head modeled after it bc he loved it so much (the white dots are rhinestones !) - technically lives with his parents still, but they travel a lot for work and are rarely ever in town so he basically lives in a house on his own that they pay for - plays an electronic keyboard

ashton | agender, he/it + ace and demiro - antisocial and mean and cranky - hes selectively mute and if he does speak its usually to inform someone hes leaving on account of them being boring or annoying - its pretty athletic and can do a few different tricks like backflips and stuff - he has a major interest in bugs, especially arachnids, and actually keeps live spiders and scorpions in his head. which is unfortunate considering the Massive Hole. he has a favorite scorpion and her name is glass - it's junipers next door neighbor in the apartments, its parents kicked it out around the same time juniper was showing up in town and a friend of the family it was on good terms with helped it back on its feet - hes not very expressive physically or emotionally unless hes angry - has a huge blindspot on the half of his face with the hole and if you come at him from that side and get hit bc you spooked him he considers it your fault - plays the drums

almagest | trans, he/him + gay - goes by alma for short - stereotypical gamer boy who lounges around a lot and eats almost exclusively junkfood - despite having a keyboard for a head he does not like it when hes called a catboy. he prefers to be called a ratboy as rats are his favorite animal he just wanted the rainbow gaming keyboard for gamer gender swag - he has pretty poor eyesight and bumps into things a lot, and is partially why kipper always has bandaids on hand - technically lives in an apartment with his dad, who kinda sucks, so he spends a majority of his life either with the friend group or crashing at the place of his old babysitter Amora (he stays there so much he has his own room at her place) - technically knows how to make games himself and has made small demos of things for fun, but struggles to keep motivation up too much to fully develop anything - plays guitar (juniper is usually lead, hes usually rhythm)

[dupliciti]

PREFERENCES — SINDAY EDITION.    usfw below the cut! feel free to steal & repost for your own muse(s) .

bold = yes

bold + italics = favorite

italics = maybe or partner dependent

nothing = no strong opinion

striked = never

INCLINATIONS / HABITS.

submissive / dominant / prefers to top / prefers to bottom / likes to switch / heterosexual / gay / lesbian / bisexual / pansexual / asexual / demisexual / enjoys sex with men / enjoys sex with women / enjoys sex with genderfluid , agender , demigender , or non binary individuals / enjoys sex with all genders regardless of identity / enjoys sex with multiple people at a time / enjoys intimacy with women / enjoys intimacy with men / enjoys intimacy with genderfluid, agender, demigender, or non binary individuals / enjoys intimacy with all genders regardless of gender / initiates / waits for partner to initiate / spits / swallows / morning sex / night sex / sex any time / no sex drive / low sex drive / average sex drive / high sex drive / hypersexual / fluctuating sex drive

BODY & APPEARANCE.

slender build / medium build / athletic build / muscular build / curvy build / voluptuous / chubby build / wears boxers / wears boxer briefs / wears lingerie / goes commando / shaves / trims / waxes / goes natural / naturally smooth / cup size a-c / cup size d-f / 1-5” in length / 6-9” in length / 10” or over in length

SOUNDS.

silent / quiet / loud / grows in volume over time / bites hand / bites partner / bites pillow to muffle self / calls out partners name / curses / fakes / exaggerates / prefers a quiet partner / prefers a loud partner / prefers a partner who grows in volume over time / turned on by dirty talk / turned off by dirty talk

TURN-ONS / KINKS.

having their hands pinned / pinning partner’s hands / having own hair pulled / pulling partner’s hair / being watched ( by their partner ) / being watched ( by a third party ) / watching their partner / receiving oral / giving oral / giving praise / receiving praise / biting or marking / being bitten or marked / spanking / being spanked / teasing / being teased / having toys used on them / using toys on their partner / giving anal / receiving anal / choking / being choked / giving vaginal / receiving vaginal / being tied up / tying partner up / being worshipped / worshipping partner / humiliating / being humiliated / degrading / being degraded / knife play / blood play / being pegged / pegging partner / partner wearing lingerie / wearing lingerie / whipping / being whipped / roleplay / titfucking / cockwarming

PLACES.

bedroom / shower / bath / pool / ocean / kitchen / home bathroom / public restroom / car / tent / alleyway / field / forest / university / empty or abandoned building / library / rooftop / terrace / dressing room / elevator / parking lot / museum / cemetery / beach / closet / hospital

[xdemonicheartx]

Ive been struggling a lot with my self image to the point I’m having breakdowns in the mirror. I need help from anyone who can.

I’m AFAB agender/non binary and ive got some gripes about me I want help in altering in any way if I could get help finding resources or workouts or anything that would help me achieve a more masculine silhouette I would kiss you on the mouth (with your consent of course )

I am 24 years old, 5’7”/170.18cm, 195lbs/88.5kg, type one diabetic, neurodivergent (diagnosed ADHD, high suspicion of comorbid Autism though i cannot get an official diagnosis because the waitlist closest to home is a 2 year wait as of 2022) fibromyalgia is also present for anyone who needs any context regarding health concerns surrounding medical procedures they might recommend or suggest

Below are the things I need help in changing as a list with some details surrounding my anatomical structure

My goal is to be completely unsure if I’m a male or female with a look alone but with androgyny that can be a pretty broad area. I know if I gain upper body musculature that can help but I cannot afford a gym membership yet

vvv More below vvv

I have an exceptionally voluptuous butt. Its almost comical to me, I would say I’m slim-thick or pear shaped. Its the type of back end that a lot of cis femme women would covet, its mostly muscle tissue due to years of athletics but theres also scar tissue from years of insulin injections

My hips are VERY wide. Like I said I’m pear shaped, I hate the curvy figure I have and its rounded edges, I have small pockets of fat resting on my hips that only add to the figure

I have a very stubborn hormonal fat deposit on my stomach I want to stop oral birth control which is the most likely culprit but I currently cannot until I can get a hysterectomy

I have a muffin top and artificial hip dips due to fat deposits that I am looking to tame

Chest dysphoria, I don’t have large boobs, they’re a perky B/C cup. I would consider top surgery but I don’t know how to bring that up with my partner. I do use a fytist binder and I love how my chest looks flat/with nice pectoral muscle (even if its smushed boob). My partner loves the way I am shaped overall but I do not. (He/him/they/them bisexual)

Facial features are so rounded and I cant contour to save my life. I know losing weight will be seen in the face first but what else can I do?

Speaking of face I have loose skin under my chin thats not a double chin but any type of glance downward makes a pseudo double chin and I’m incredibly insecure about it. I have a relatively feminine jaw line and I have a jaw exerciser/silicone bite that I need to use more. Are neck tucks something available for me?

I have hooded eyes, they make me look so tired. I know eye lid lifts are a procedure but thats something I would need to save up for and plan for, I am unsure if losing weight would change this

The triceps of my arms feel like they’re on the road to bingo wings/bat wings, I know the tricep is supposed to hang freely when relaxed and not in use but when my arm hands at my side there is a bit of pudge above my elbow that says “body fat” and not soft muscle

I understand weight loss can help with a small handful of these and muscle building can too but there are additional features and traits that cannot be worked for aside from medical intervention and cosmetic electives. I’m looking for workouts, medical procedures and price ranges, shapewear, makeup tutorials, diets that help in weight loss or muscle gain, and literally anything else that might help me feel like this is my body. Its becoming a large hinderance on my mental wellbeing

I really cannot keep dwelling on how my body is wrong when its something I am stuck with for life so all I can do is work to alter it and care for it. However I know these alterations are possible. Ive seen incredible transformations and transitions within the trans community and NB communities and I’m really hoping some of your experiences can be passed onto me so that I can live as myself too

I appreciate those that have taken the time to read this far. Thank you

[sarishim]

NSFW PREFERENCES. / bold: always applies. italics: sometimes applies or partner specific. bold + italics: favorite. strike: never applies. no emphasis: neutral.

INCLINATIONS / HABITS ... submissive / dominant / prefers to top / prefers to bottom / likes to switch / heterosexual / gay / lesbian / bisexual / asexual / pansexual / demisexual / enjoys sex with men / enjoys sex with women / enjoys sex with genderfluid, agender, demigender or nonbinary individuals / enjoys sex with all genders regardless of identity / enjoys sex with multiple people at a time / initiates / waits for partner to initiate / spits / swallows / morning sex / night sex / sex any time / no sex drive / lew sex drive / average sex drive / high sex drive / fluctuating sex drive

BODY & APPEARANCE ... slender build / medium build / athletic build / muscular build / curvy build / voluptuous / chubby build / wears boxers / wears boxer briefs / wears lingerie / goes commando / shaves / waxes / trims / does not shave / does not wax (doesn’t expect his partner to, either) / cup size a-c / cup size d-f / 1-5 in length / between 5-6 in length / 6-9 in length / 10 in or over in length

SOUNDS ... silent / quiet / loud / grows in volume over time / bites hand / bites partner / bites pillow to muffle self / calls out partners name / curses / fakes / exaggerates / prefers a quiet partner / prefers a loud partner / prefers a partner who grows in volume over time / no volume preference / turned on by dirty talk / turned off by dirty talk

TURN ONS / KINKS... having their hands pinned / pinning partner's hands / having own hair pulled / pulling partner's hair / being watched (by their partner) / being watched (by a third party) / watching their partner / receiving oral / giving oral / giving praise / receiving praise / biting or marking / being bitten or marked / spanking / being spanked / teasing / being teased / having toys used on them / using toys on their partner / giving anal / receiving anal / choking / being choked / dirty talk / being tied up / tying partner up / being worshiped / worshiping partner / humiliating / being humiliated / degrading / being degraded / knife play / food play / gun play / being pegged / pegging partner / partner wearing lingerie / wearing lingerie / whipping / being whipped / being edged / edging / overstimulation / anonymous sex / clothed / partially clothed / deep - throating / nipple play / public sex / sadism / masochism / size difference

PLACES … bedroom / shower / bath / pool / ocean / kitchen / home bathroom / public restroom / car / tent / alleyway / field / forest / empty or abandoned building / library / rooftop / terrace / dressing room / elevator / parking lot / museum / cemetery / beach / closet / hospital

[everlastiingiimmortals]

PREFERENCES — SEXY SUNDAY EDITION.    usfw below the cut! feel free to steal & repost for your own muse(s) .

bold = yes

bold + italics = favorite

italics = maybe or partner dependent

nothing = no strong opinion

striked = never

INCLINATIONS / HABITS.

submissive (with trust) / dominant / prefers to top / prefers to bottom / likes to switch / heterosexual / gay / lesbian / bisexual / pansexual / asexual / demisexual / enjoys sex with men / enjoys sex with women / enjoys sex with genderfluid , agender , demigender , or non binary individuals / enjoys sex with all genders regardless of identity / enjoys sex with multiple people at a time / enjoys intimacy with women / enjoys intimacy with men / enjoys intimacy with genderfluid, agender, demigender, or non binary individuals / enjoys intimacy with all genders regardless of gender / initiates / waits for partner to initiate / spits / swallows / morning sex / night sex / sex any time / no sex drive / low sex drive / average sex drive / high sex drive (partner dependent) / hypersexual / fluctuating sex drive

BODY & APPEARANCE.

slender build / medium build / athletic build / muscular build / curvy build / voluptuous / chubby build / wears boxers / wears boxer briefs / wears lingerie / goes commando / shaves / trims / waxes / goes natural / naturally smooth / cup size a-c / cup size d-f / 1-5” in length / 6-9” in length (high end of spectrum) / 10” or over in length

SOUNDS.

silent / quiet / loud / grows in volume over time / bites hand / bites partner / bites pillow to muffle self / calls out partners name / curses / fakes / exaggerates / prefers a quiet partner / prefers a loud partner / prefers a partner who grows in volume over time / turned on by dirty talk / turned off by dirty talk

TURN-ONS / KINKS.

having their hands pinned / pinning partner’s hands / having own hair pulled / pulling partner’s hair / being watched ( by their partner ) / being watched ( by a third party ) / watching their partner / receiving oral / giving oral / giving praise / receiving praise / biting or marking / being bitten or marked / spanking / being spanked / teasing / being teased / having toys used on them / using toys on their partner / giving anal / receiving anal / choking / being choked / giving vaginal / receiving vaginal / being tied up / tying partner up (partner dependent) / being worshipped / worshipping partner / humiliating (partner dependent) / being humiliated / degrading / being degraded / knife play / blood play / being pegged / pegging partner / partner wearing lingerie / wearing lingerie / whipping / being whipped / roleplay / titfucking / cockwarming / shockplay

PLACES.

bedroom / shower / bath / pool / ocean / kitchen / home bathroom / public restroom / car / tent / alleyway / field / forest / university / empty or abandoned building / library / rooftop / terrace / dressing room / elevator / parking lot / museum / cemetery / beach / closet / hospital

[vulune]

𝐏𝐑𝐄𝐅𝐄𝐑𝐄𝐍𝐂𝐄𝐒: 𝐒𝐈𝐍𝐃𝐀𝐘 𝐄𝐃𝐈𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍.    nsfw below the cut! 

bold = yes bold + italics = favorite italics = maybe or partner dependent nothing = no strong opinion striked = never

𝐈𝐍𝐂𝐋𝐈𝐍𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒 / 𝐇𝐀𝐁𝐈𝐓𝐒 .

submissive / dominant / prefers to top / prefers to bottom / likes to switch / heterosexual / gay / lesbian / bisexual / pansexual / asexual / demisexual / enjoys sex with men / enjoys sex with women / enjoys sex with genderfluid , agender , demigender , or non binary individuals / enjoys sex with all genders regardless of identity / enjoys sex with multiple people at a time / enjoys intimacy with women / enjoys intimacy with men / enjoys intimacy with genderfluid, agender, demigender, or non binary individuals / enjoys intimacy with all genders regardless of gender / initiates / waits for partner to initiate / spits / swallows / morning sex / night sex / sex any time / no sex drive / low sex drive / average sex drive / high sex drive / hypersexual / fluctuating sex drive

𝐁𝐎𝐃𝐘 & 𝐀𝐏𝐏𝐄𝐀𝐑𝐀𝐍𝐂𝐄 .

slender build / medium build / athletic build / muscular build / curvy build / voluptuous / chubby build / wears boxers / wears boxer briefs / wears lingerie / goes commando / shaves / trims / waxes / goes natural / naturally smooth / cup size a-c / cup size d-f / 1-5” in length / 6-9” in length / 10” or over in length

𝐒𝐎𝐔𝐍𝐃𝐒 .

silent / quiet / loud / grows in volume over time / bites hand / bites partner / bites pillow to muffle self / calls out partners name / curses / fakes / exaggerates / prefers a quiet partner / prefers a loud partner / prefers a partner who grows in volume over time / turned on by dirty talk / turned off by dirty talk

𝐓𝐔𝐑𝐍 – 𝐎𝐍𝐒 / 𝐊𝐈𝐍𝐊𝐒 .

having their hands pinned / pinning partner’s hands / having own hair pulled / pulling partner’s hair / being watched ( by their partner ) / being watched ( by a third party ) / watching their partner / receiving oral / giving oral / giving praise / receiving praise / biting or marking / being bitten or marked / spanking / being spanked / teasing / being teased / having toys used on them / using toys on their partner / giving anal / receiving anal / choking / being choked / giving vaginal / receiving vaginal / being tied up / tying partner up / being worshipped / worshipping partner / humiliating / being humiliated / degrading / being degraded / knife play / blood play / being pegged / pegging partner / partner wearing lingerie / wearing lingerie / whipping / being whipped / roleplay / titfucking / cockwarming

𝐏𝐋𝐀𝐂𝐄𝐒 .

bedroom / shower / bath / pool / ocean / kitchen / home bathroom / public restroom / car / tent / alleyway / field / forest / university / empty or abandoned building / library / rooftop / terrace / dressing room / elevator / parking lot / museum / cemetery / beach / closet / hospital

[tialinffxiv]

Tia Lin

Name: Tia Lin Race: Viera (born as Moonkeeper Miqo'te) Gender: male Age: 32 Name day: 1st sun of the 4th Umbral Moon (1st August) Height: 175cm City-State: Gridania Class: Red Mage, Sage, Culinarian

Information: (highlight what apply)

Eyes: blue | green | brown | hazel | gray | gray-blue | other Red

Hair: blond | sandy | brown | black | auburn | ginger | grey / white | multi-color | other Rolanberry Red

Gender: male | female | trans | cis | agender | demigender | genderfluid | other | doesn’t like labels | don’t have any definite headcanon either way |

Sexuality: heterosexual | homosexual | bisexual | pansexual | asexual | demisexual | other | unsure | doesn’t like labels |

Romantic Orientation: homoromantic | heteroromantic | biromantic | panromantic | aromantic | demiromantic | unsure | doesn’t like labels | other

Positive Traits: affectionate | adventurous | athletic | brave | careful | charming | confident | creative | cunning | determined | forgiving | generous | honest | humorous | intelligent | loyal | modest | patient | selfless | polite | down-to-earth | diligent | romantic | moral | fun-loving | charismatic | calm

Negative Traits: aggressive | bossy | cynical | envious | shy | fearful | greedy | gullible | jealous | impatient | impulsive | cocky | reckless | insecure | irresponsible | mistrustful | paranoid | possessive | sarcastic | self-conscious | selfish | swears | unstable | clumsy | rebellious | emotional | vengeful | anxious | self-sabotaging | moody | peevish | angry | pessimistic | slacker | thin skinned | overly dramatic | argumentative

Parents/Guardian: mother | father | adoptive father | aunt | uncle | foster | grandmother | grandfather | other

Sibling(s): sister(s) | brother(s) | none | other

Relationship: single | crushing | dating | engaged | married | separated | it’s complicated | verse dependent | other divorced

TRAITS & TENDENCIES

disorganized / organized / in between close-minded / open-minded / in between cautious / reckless / in between patient / impatient / in between outspoken / reserved / in between leader / follower / in between sympathetic / unsympathetic / in between optimistic / pessimistic / in between hardworking / lazy / in between cultured / uncultured / in between loyal / disloyal / in between faithful / unfaithful / in between

ABILITIES

COMBAT SKILLS – excellent / good / moderate / poor / none LITERACY SKILLS – excellent / good / moderate / poor / none ARTISTIC SKILLS – excellent / good / moderate / poor / none TECHNICAL SKILLS – excellent / good / moderate / poor / none

HABITS

Drinking Alcohol : never / sometimes / frequently / to excess. Smoking : trying to quit / never / sometimes / frequently / to excess. Indulgent Food : never / sometimes / frequently / to excess. Splurge Spending : never / sometimes / frequently / to excess. Gambling : never / sometimes / frequently / to excess ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ Tia is a WoL- but he never planned to be a hero. All he wanted was to flip pancakes and fry some delicious coffee, perhaps see some more of the world from time to time. But the fate had other plans~ About his name: “Tia Lin- this is a name given to me by my adoptive father, for reasons. My birth name was Rhati’a Linzeh but I never use it anymore. Just call me Tia.”

Adoptive father, Seeker Miqo’te, decided the old name is too long and will remind him of lost mother. Also, because of being Keeper, Rhati’a would never become a Nunh anyway, even having Seeker as father- therefore it was decided that having “tia'' as a first name is just a great match. About the found family: "I've build this house to be a safe and welcoming place to everyone who needs it. I know too well how it is when you have no one and no place to call home. With time I took in many different people- each of them with own story and baggage of problems. Each of them making their way through life and making it better, with a little helpful push from me. I see them all as my family and that will never change." About his relationships: “My mom was always saying that maybe one day I will also find my very own fire, that will set my soul ablaze. And I did. But it was the fire that scorched me and left me in pain. One that brought lies and loneliness. When I finally opened my eyes and realized how this marriage ruins me and affects my mental health- I decided for a divorce. I loved him, truly... but what I got payed with for that was a torture that I had to finish. Now I've trust my shattered heart to the embrace of a much calmer, caring flame- one like the candle light in the darkness. And it seems we were looking for each other whole this time." About food: pulls out a few meters long list of fav food "But on the first place are fishies! And sweets. I love cakes. And I really love cooking. Nothing says more “I love you” than preparing someone a delicious meal. And maybe spoon-feeding him. Or letting him eat it off your naked bo-- Aaahhh…sorry! coughs and blushes Food is grrreat and cooking is awesome, yes yes." Food is Tia's love language and one of the very important parts of his life.

[queer-advice-hotline]

Ok, are my parents transphobic?

They explicitly said they don't think trans women should be in women's sports (my dad also misgendered an athlete purposelly to emphasise his point on this), said you can identify (they put enphasis on identify) as whatever you want, but you're either XX or XY, some dropped comments I don't specifically remember, but know were made, and ignored me both (first as lesbian, and agender lesbian 2 years later, I identify as triflux lesbian now) times I came out and tried to convince me I wasn't queer.

I am not sure if this can be considered transphobia or if I am overreacting.

(Sorry for the grammar, english isn't my first languange and sorry if this is random)

You’re not overreacting, they certainly sound transphobic.

[itsbuck]

headcanon

as far as buck has always been concerned, they were a straight, cis guy. there was no reason for them to assume otherwise; they really liked girls, & most of their hobbies/extra curricular activities were fairly male-oriented.

but even so, very rarely did evan ever really consider their interests to be male focused. the skateboarding crowds almost always had a pretty even split between guys & girls, & there were plenty of female athletes he went to high school with that could easily hold their own on the football field if they ever chose to join in.

they were just the things evan liked to do, & they happened to be male.

plus, talk of anything queer-related wasn't exactly popular in the bland, mid-sized town of hershey, pennsylvania. especially in the 90's.

it isn't until they join the 118 & grow close with their teammates-- specifically hen-- that they're really introduced to the queer community/culture on a more serious level beyond just knowing someone who happens to be gay. (they've always been an ally, of course!) one day, during a random conversation with the rest of the team, someone across the loft made a comment along the lines of "act like a man", & buck's response to their little group was "you know, i never really understood that phrase. or even 'man up' or any of those phrases." meanwhile everyone else stares at them with various looks of confusion & amusement, before they continue on. "what does it even mean to 'feel like a man'- or a woman?"

the looks became even more confused, & perhaps a bit perplexed, but before anyone could really respond, the alarm goes off, disrupting any further reactions. bobby keeps the talk in the truck on the details of the call, making sure his team is focused & ready for when they arrive on scene. but that doesn't stop the looks shot in buck's direction, even if nothing is said.

on the ride back to the station, everyone is a little worn from the call, & buck is fidgety enough from everyone's earlier reactions that no one brings up the earlier conversation. at most, eddie's knee is pressed against their's, & hen has that sisterly look on her face as she watches buck the entire drive back.

back at the station, hen pulls buck off to the side & quietly suggests they look into the various concepts of gender identity-- "more specifically non-binary & agender, & you might find some answers you're looking for, buck."

jump forward to being back at their loft post-shift, & diving right into a new rabbit hole of research. two days, & a head-full of new knowledge, a few cryptic texts with hen (that they're pretty sure she could see through easily), & almost too much reflection later, buck feels like they've unlocked a part of theirself they didn't even know was tucked away.

those phrases & concepts never made sense sense to them because they've never actually connected with the traditional concepts of male vs female. they don't connect to any gender & are just buck.

non-binary. traditionally masculine aesthetic/presentation. primarily uses they/them pronouns, but is perfectly fine with any others being used by the firefam (but only the firefam, strangers & casual acquaintances better stick with they/them). & completely open to any & all possible petnames & nicknames including more feminine ones (again, only by the firefam & significant others).

[4uru]

the athlete gender thing would suit cordelia really well actually now I think about it. please interview me for your hc

So Ari, i have this hc about Cordelia growing up wearing alastair's hand me downs well into her teenage years, and sona making her finally wear new femme clothes which starts her relization. But she represses it and conforms. Then she decides to cut her hair off, telling sona that its for sports purposes but she really feals comfortable with shorter, masc hairstyles. She is very muscly from her early involvement in sports since she was a wee little child. And she realises that she likes that she is muscly and looks more manly than the other girls around her. It gives her gender euphoria. Around the time she and alastair reconnect and start being honest with each other, she safely explores gender and confides in him about liking the fact that Shes more masc. Alastair being the sassy fucker he is says that "well you never a girl" as a joke. But it sticks with cordelia. And she kind of recontextualizes her life. Realising that she didnt have a concept of gender and what gender binary and structures until she had to go to school and fit into those norms and girly uniforms. She didnt even know what being a girl meant until she realised that she wasnt one, thats why she always had a disconnect with the other girls bc something just didnt match.

Instead of discovering that shes agender by feeling dysphoric, she realises shes agender by feeling euphoria in her masc presentation. Cordelia goes by all pronouns. And still wears dresses and cultural clothes but also doesnt identify as a women. Shes just cordelia who kicks ass.

(All these is taken from my experience as an agender fucker)

🎤*interviewer voice* now how do you think her sports will play a role into all this?

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[writteninlunarlight-years]

Hi! I’d love a BG3 matchup if you have the time and energy! If not, feel free to discard this! I also do matchups, so if you’d like one feel free to send it my way!

Here’s my info:

General: Agender, they/them, aroace but I love hypothetical romances and I’m open to any gender in that case! I can’t say much for my appearance, as I have an issue with perceiving my actual appearance that makes it hard for me to know what I look like, apologies for that one.

Personality: I'm a Scorpio, INFJ-T, and in general I'd say I align with those assignments. I'm extremely introverted to the point of being asocial. I spend most of my time by myself, and if I could I'd do everything on my own, since I'm stubbornly independent, and very cautious around people, even those I know well. Despite this, I'm not unfriendly, I just have a really hard time connecting with others due to my social anxiety. I really appreciate people who go out of their way to connect with me, and I make friends with people quickly when I get the chance. Once I get comfy I become very blunt and humorous. I tend to say and do as I please, though never to the detriment of someone else, as I tend to put other's needs above my own. I'll talk for hours about my interests and passions, and I'm always up for a challenge. I also have a very strong moral compass, and I refuse to compromise on it. I try to be kind above all else, especially to those who seem to be in a rough place, as I haven’t always been treated kindly, and I want others to feel loved. I’m known for giving great advice and being a good shoulder to cry on, but I don’t let others take advantage of that. I do well in emergency situations, especially when leadership is needed, but I also tend to crumble under mounting stress, and lash out when upset. Overall I'm determined, creative, and compassionate, but also stubborn, judgmental, and fearful.

Likes: I love horror media and anything deemed unsettling, since things that make me uncomfortable fascinate me. I love animals (especially tarantulas and spiders) and nature, and I spend a lot of time drawing and painting the world around me and taking walks on sunny days. On that note, I’m an explorer, and I tend to get into spaces I shouldn’t be if only because my curiosity got the better of me. I enjoy composing, playing, and listening to music, especially instrumentals, rock, and soundtracks. I also play video games, especially RPGs and FPS games. I’m a boxer and archer, and while I don’t like athletics and sports that much, climbing, running, and adventuring is always fun for me, especially with friends.

Dislikes: Inconsiderate people, especially when they’re not aware of how they’re inconveniencing others. Trutthfully, I can be very judgemental and picky with friends or associates, and if someone annoys me even slightly I tend to disregard them. I also dislike those who are arrogant and cruel, and I have a particular distaste for seafood and being touched.

What I look for in a partner: Someone who is kind and understanding of my flaws, and especially someone with a good sense of humor. I feel like I don’t truly connect with people until we laugh about something together. I value honesty and communication as well, so someone who isn’t willing or can’t be open and vulnerable with me is a no go. As pessimistic as I am, I also believe in doing good and making other people’s days a little bit brighter if possible, so I couldn’t be around a cynic or someone intentionally cruel.

Fun Fact: I like to read medical textbooks, and I find visiting cadaver labs and watching medical procedures thrilling.

~~~~~ MATCH UP ~~~~~

I now present to you your math; they are funny, kind, compassionate, and a person always looking for a good time-----

Karlach

~~~~~ HEADCANON ~~~~~

Karlach would 100% be okay with being the instigator of all your interactions.

She will sit down with you, and if you ask her, she will describe how you looked in her eyes to help you understand what she sees.

She loves to make you laugh—not just any laugh, a true deep belly laugh. She will do anything to know she has made you the happiest she possibly can.

Karalch went through years of solitude as Zariel's forced right-hand woman, so she understands the need for space and being hyper-independent.

Karlach will always let you lead until you ask her to help you. She knows your morality aligns with her, so she never questions you.

Once Karlach gets her engine worked on and can touch people again, she finds every reason to have a hand, tail, or piece of herself touching you.

She never judges you if you fail or mess something up, she is right there softly comforting you and ready to assist you in anyway necessary to fix the situation.

~~~~~ BLURB ~~~~~

After days of intense terrain and countless enemies, the group rests. With no town or tavern in sight for miles, it was time for good ol' outdoor camping. As everyone set up their tents and cots, the sun started to set past the horizon. Food was served and drinks shared, and many retired for the night, ready to rest for the next steps in the adventure. All who stayed awake with the moon was Astarion on the night shift, you, and Karlach. You and Karlach had an exciting companionship; nothing felt forced or overwhelming. She always attended to your every need and desire as you had them, making you feel light and warm in her presence.

As if feeling you think about her, she made her way over to you, sitting down on the log you were on gently. "Heya love, what's on your mind tonight?" You smiled languidly at your partner and sighed contently. "You know Karlach ever since we got your engined tuned you have been a lot happier, it honestly makes me happy as well, seeing you finally have a life outside of hell fire." Karlach smiled softly at you, enjoying the compliment. She looked towards the sky, leaning back a bit. You also turned your head when you felt something gently wrapping around your arm. Looking down, a dark red tail had laid claim to your wrist.

Laughing gently, Karlach's attention was brought to where you were staring. She ignited slightly, not before removing her appendage first. "Sorry, when tieflings get happy, our tails do weird things." You let your lover cool down before gently grabbing her tail and wrapping it back around you. "It's okay; I like it; it makes me feel like you are always there with me." Karlach smiled wider and moved closer to you. Once in arms reach, she wrapped you in a gentle hug. Pulling away from the embrace, she placed a chaste kiss on your lips.

~~~~~ EXTRA ~~~~~

(One night, just outside of town, your group found a hot spring. Ready to relax for a night and clean yourselves off, the group decided to take turns in the pool of water.)

Shadowheart: This is amazing, honestly. It's just what we all needed, really. I could live in this forever if you let me.

Lazel: This isn't even remotely as hot as some of my mother homes in the astral realm. It feels almost as if we are in a warm bath.

Y/N: This is a nice reprieve from the outside world. We may be on an adventure, but our health should also come into play.

Karlach: Yes, this is worth the pit stop; I have to agree with Lazel. It isn't all that hot. Anyway, I will return to the guys and make sure they haven't scourched our dinner tonight.

(As Karlach leaves the pool, a noticeable temperature shift occurs)

Shadowheart: Well damn, no one tells the boys our little secret.

[everlastiingiimmortals]

SEXUAL PREFERENCES | JING YUAN

bold = yes / bold + italics = strongly agree or favorite / italics = sometimes or partner dependent / nothing = no strong opinion / strike = never, disagree, or not applicable

INCLINATIONS / HABITS.

submissive / dominant / prefers to top / prefers to bottom / likes to switch / heterosexual / gay / lesbian / bisexual / pansexual / asexual / demisexual / enjoys sex with men / enjoys sex with women / enjoys sex with genderfluid , agender , demigender , or non binary individuals / enjoys sex with all genders regardless of identity / enjoys sex with multiple people at a time / enjoys intimacy with women / enjoys intimacy with men / enjoys intimacy with genderfluid, agender, demigender, or non binary individuals / enjoys intimacy with all genders regardless of gender / initiates / waits for partner to initiate / spits / swallows / morning sex / night sex / sex any time / no sex drive / low sex drive / average sex drive / high sex drive / hypersexual / fluctuating sex drive

BODY &. APPEARANCE.

slender build / medium build / athletic build / muscular build / curvy build / voluptuous / chubby build / wears boxers / wears boxer briefs / wears lingerie / goes commando / shaves / trims / waxes / goes natural / naturally smooth / cup size a-c / cup size d-f / 1-5” in length / 6-9” in length / 10” or over in length

SOUNDS.

silent / quiet / loud / grows in volume over time / bites hand / bites partner / bites pillow to muffle self / calls out partners name / curses / fakes / exaggerates / prefers a quiet partner / prefers a loud partner / prefers a partner who grows in volume over time / turned on by dirty talk / turned off by dirty talk

TURN - ONS / KINKS.

having their hands pinned / pinning partner’s hands / having own hair pulled / pulling partner’s hair / being watched ( by their partner ) / being watched ( by a third party ) / watching their partner / receiving oral / giving oral / giving praise / receiving praise / biting or marking / being bitten or marked / spanking / being spanked / teasing / being teased / having toys used on them / using toys on their partner / giving anal / receiving anal / choking / being choked / giving vaginal / receiving vaginal / being tied up / tying partner up / being worshiped / worshiping partner / humiliating / being humiliated / degrading / being degraded / knife play / blood play / being pegged / pegging partner / partner wearing lingerie / wearing lingerie / whipping / being whipped / roleplay (ikyky) / titfucking

PLACES.

bedroom / shower / bath / pool / ocean / kitchen / home bathroom / public restroom / car / tent / alleyway / field / forest / university / empty or abandoned building / library / rooftop / terrace / dressing room / elevator / parking lot / museum / cemetery / beach / closet / hospital