#Compromise

[zoofzoofxx]

„OH MY GOD THAT’S JOOST KLEIN!”

(pt.1?????)

Pairing - Joost Klein x Fem!reader

Summary - As you and your little sister walk home, you notice a commotion near a car where a group of people is shouting excitedly. Your sister catches the name of a famous singer and eagerly wants his autograph. However, Joost seems more intrigued by you and proposes a compromise.

Genre - Fluff

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"Thank you very much,” I heard my sister express while embracing me. We were presently walking home; the evening was approaching, and we still had quite a lengthy distance to my flat. Several months back, I turned 22 and purchased a lovely apartment and moved out from my parents. My sister recently turned 16, so I invited her to my flat for the weekend, to go shopping, and then enjoy a delightful dinner as a gift. We were discussing the time my sister prefers to depart tomorrow because the journey to my parents' home is rather lengthy. Suddenly, we heard a cluster of individuals shouting and congregating near a rather luxurious car.

"What is happening back there?" my sister asked, wanting to go and see, but I grabbed her arm. "Let’s just go," I said while pulling her.

“JOOST CAN I HAVE AN AUTOGRAPH?!” “JOOST KLEIN PLEASE SIGN THIS!” “SMILE JOOST I’M MAKING A BEREAL!!!”

"Wait, was that Joost Klein?!" In a matter of seconds, my sister was by the car, fangirling like the rest of the group.

"Lorelei, let's just head back, I'm exhausted," I expressed, pulling on her jumper. The surroundings began to darken, and I had forgotten to bring a coat or a hoodie, assuming we'd return home early, but the chill was intensifying by the minute. I started to rub my hands together to generate some warmth. Lorelei continued to call out for the Dutch man who was sitting in his car, disregarding my words. I let out a sigh and decided to wait for her to meet Joost before we could head home. As time passed, the crowd dwindled, with many leaving, yet a few lingered. Eventually, it was Lorelei's turn, and she seized my wrist, pulling me along for moral support.

"HI JOOST, I’M SUCH A BIG FAN!" my little sister exclaimed. Joost chuckled at her excitement until his friend nudged him and pointed directly at me.

“Ey zij is echt mooi! (Ey she’s really beautiful!)” His friend grinned at me. I felt puzzled, so I returned the smile. Joost gazed at me, and we locked eyes for a moment before he looked away.

“Inderdaad. (Indeed.)” Joost said while nodding to his friend and then turning back to me.

"Feeling chilly?" the blond guy inquired, swinging open his car door and walking towards me. As he towered over me, he took a cigarette from his pocket and ignited it. He took a drag, glanced away, removed the cigarette from his lips, and exhaled the smoke. Then, he locked eyes with me, placed the cigarette back between his lips, and waited for a reply. I was at a loss for words. In the background, I caught my sister's amused chuckle, and I noticed a few onlookers capturing this moment on film.

“I’m not cold.” I say looking away. Joost didn’t hesitate to grab my hand.

"False. Your nose is pink and your hands are chilly. And I saw you rubbing your hands and attempting to heat yourself up," the blond man remarked as his strong Dutch accent was evident. He chuckled, unzipping and removing his coat, then passing it to me.

"I-I can't accept that," I stammered, motioning for him to put his jacket back on, but he remained still. My sister gently nudged me, signaling to take the jacket. I glanced at her, seeing her thumbs up, and suddenly, it felt like I was back in high school chatting with my crush and getting support from my best friend. Joost nodded for me to accept his jacket. After a moment of hesitation, I finally took it. He blew the smoke in another direction, placed the cigarette back between his lips, and helped me zip up my jacket. The scent of his expensive cologne filled my lungs. He turned to my sister with a smile clapping his hands together.

“Sooo… You wanted a picture and an autograph?”He inquired of her, and she enthusiastically nodded. He strolled back to his vehicle while his friends chuckled. He retrieved a sheet of paper and a pen, passing them to my sister.

“Can you write your sister her phone number?” He said gazing at me, giving me a wink as I averted my gaze sensing that my face would blush a light shade of pink. My sibling didn't even pause. She penned down the phone digits and aimed to pass it over but halted him.

"I want a hug too," she utters, and he chuckles.

"Let’s compromise, will you write her name and surname for a hug?" He said pointing at me, as I could hear his friends laugh, and I buried my face in my hands due to embarrassment. I could also sense the excitement among Joost's supporters who were laughing heartily.

"Of course! Her name is Y/n!" She mentioned writing something down and passing the paper and pen to him without any delay to offer her a significant, extended embrace. I caught her whispering something, and he burst into loud laughter. I simply grinned, relishing the sight of my sister's joy. Joost murmured something in return, and Lorelei stepped back and approached me. She began to quietly murmur something in my ear.

“No way-.” I said backing away and furrowing my brows.

"Please for my birthday!" She pleads, casting me those adorable puppy eyes.

"No Lorelei, that's an excessive request," I utter firmly, feeling utterly exhausted.

"Please." Joost emerged alongside my sister, giving me pleading eyes. I turned my head and exhaled deeply.

"What will you receive in exchange?" I inquire, exhaling and turning towards my sister.

"A meet and greet for an hour after his concert," she says, pleading with me and giving me those puppy eyes. I sigh and walk over to Joost, who's already lowering himself to my height. I glance at my sister, who's holding her phone out, waiting for the perfect photo opportunity. I just shake my head no, and she pouts. Looking at Joost, I notice he's smiling, his cigarette is gone. As I get a closer look, I realize he's actually really handsome. He gives me one last look and winks. I give him a light peck on his cheek, leaving a faint pink mark. The people around us go wild, especially his friends in the car. I glance at my sister, who's snapping a picture. I furrow my brows and turn back to Joost. His expression is gentle, and he's blushing, as am I.

"You smell pleasant." He chuckled, and I playfully hit his shoulder.

"Lorelei, go get the autograph and the image, and let's head back." I express, glancing at Lorelei as if nothing has happened. My sibling nodded, and a short while later, she bid her final farewell. Joost walked towards me, coming closer with outstretched arms for an embrace. I embraced him, then stepped back and started unzipping the coat Joost had given me.

"What are you up to?" He inquires as I glance up at him.

"Returning your coat. I'm warm, and it belongs to you," I mention, but he took my hand halfway and zips it back up.

"Take it, please, I insist." He casts those pleading puppy eyes once more. I exhaled in surrender, feeling weary and not in the mood for a conversation with anyone at the moment.

“Jij bent echt schattig. (You are really cute)” he said and I tilted my head to the side in confusion and he grinned. Embracing me once more and walking back into his car.

“Ik hou van jou! (I love you!)” Lorelei mentions, and Joost chuckles while glancing at the paper my sister handed him earlier.

“Ik hou van Y/n. (I love Y/n.)” He speaks, and my sister shrieks and pinched my arm while I remain confused. I simply grasp my sister's shoulder, and we depart. Glancing back one last time, I notice Joost Klein still gazing at me with a smile. He winks, offers a small wave, and raises his phone, indicating that I should check mine. I acknowledge with a nod, thumbs up, and a wave as we turn the corner..

After a few minutes of silence I heard a phone notification coming from my phone.

“Send me a message once you arrive home safely with your little sister.”

I passed my phone to my little sister so she could check the message, and she burst into screams of excitement once more. After what seemed like an eternity, we arrived at my place. Then, I heard yet another notification, this time from Instagram.

“@joostklein ✓ started following you.”

As we stepped into my apartment, the initial thing Lorelei did was play the track "Buurman Uit Berlijn" by Joost Klein and MCR-T. I strolled into my room and overheard my sister say:

"Y/n, remember to reply to Joost!" I just sighed and took my phone, sending him a brief message saying: "we got back home alright, appreciate the autograph and photo with my sister."

In less than 10 seconds, Joost replied, saying: "I have a lipstick mark on my cheek, thanks for that and the hug. You smell really good. If I were you, I'd check the jackets right pocket. I left a little surprise." With my toothbrush in my mouth, I headed to the living room, picked up the neatly folded jacket, and looked through the pockets. It was a letter that said ‘Y/n’ I opened it and inside were 2 passes for the Eurovision Song Contest… I almost chocked on my toothbrush, quickly grabbed my phone, and messaged Joost: “When did you slip those in!?” I hit send quickly and immediately got a reply: “When we embraced. Give one pass to your sister. I'll cover the flight and hotel, unless you'd like to stay with me in the same hotel room ;)” I knitted my brows in confusion. I hastily texted him: “I'm truly grateful. Goodnight.” And received a swift response: “Slaapzacht schat. (Sleep tight darling.)” I just left him on read going into sleep thinking about the kiss with Joost.

A/n- HELP THIS WAS MY FIRST STORY EVER ON TUMBLR DON’T HATE PLS 😭 HAVE A NICE DAY YA’LL 😊☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️

#JUSTICE FOR JOOST

[chumbyy]

[fortuneaday]

[incognitopolls]

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[kingoftheu]

Rambling bit about the politics of Conclave incoming.

Namely the opinions of the vast mass of unarmed Cardinals who are doing the election. There's a saying that "he who enters the Conclave a Pope leaves a Cardinal," the frontrunners never win. There is also a tendency to "follow a skinny pope with a fat one," ie follow a reformist with someone less likely to rock the boat.

You see this clearly with Bellini, who is an unabashed reformer and a frontrunner, and who goes over like a lead balloon immediately.

However this leaves Tedesco as the obvious frontrunner. And this Conclave, appointed by a reforming Pope, is not that conservative. So the rest of the movie is defined by the desperate efforts of the College of Cardinals to find ANYONE but Tedesco.

Adeyemi is Conservative yes, but LOOKS like a modern choice (perception is important) and even if his social views are reactionary he at least represents a vision of the future that isn't tied up in Europe and past glories. But then the sex scandal hits.

Tremblay is next. Moderate enough, well connected. Would be an ideal compromise candidate to avoid Tedesco. But then oops, he did a Simony. So he's out.

And oh shit, Tedesco is giving a crusade speech. There is a very real fear he may be able to ride the backlash. But remember, the moderate mass of Cardinals wants ABT (Anyone But Tedesco). So this new Cardinal pops up and gives a speech that calms things down. But even better, because he's so new, he's never staked out any controversial positions. He's been doing good ministry work in conflict zones, which means he hasn't had any time to say anything about women in the Church or Mass or any of the other minefields. Hell, he's been blandly voting for Lawrence rather than politicking and offending anyone else.

I'm skeptical that the Old Pope had planned every step of the Conclave, these things are hard to control even when you're alive. But he did make sure to roll grenades under terrible possible candidates. But you'll note he never raised a finger against Tedesco. He did that all on his own. If anything he's a useful Boogeyman to spook the Moderates.

Lawrence is the next compromise candidate. Liked, continuity respected for his diligence. Sure he doesn't want the job but hey, by this point they're all a little stir crazy. And he isn't Tedesco. But then the bombing hits.

Benitez is the perfect blank slate. The perfect compromise. Sure he shut down Tedesco, but everyone hates Tedesco. You can project anything you want onto him. If you're liberal, he's backed Lawrence and spoke about tomorrow. If you're conservative he's Adeyemi without the baggage, outside the incumbent reforming curia, why not take a swing on him? It's not like he was public about Lawrence And if you're an amoral schemer, well he's a neophyte easy to manipulate.

The Perfect Compromise

[forlornalbatross]

Dakyō

[literaryvein-reblogs]

When your Character Needs to Compromise

Compromising in romantic relationships - finding the middle ground between you and your partner’s wishes, habits, or preferences.

Compromise means partners come together for critical decision-making around how they will live together, spend their time, or accomplish chores.

Sometimes, couples can deduce compromises on their own, arriving at win-win scenarios.

Sometimes, they will seek out couples therapy to work through how one partner expresses their needs and responds to their partner's needs.

Examples of Compromise in Relationships

There are various ways to practice compromise in relationships. Consider the following examples:

Split up the house duties. One partner might cook, and another might do the dishes. One may make the bed if the other vacuums. Divvying up chores can help show there is equality in a relationship.

Participate in each other’s hobbies. Practicing hobbies together can help build experiential trust. Partners should feel comfortable pursuing individual interests, and they can also include their partners in their hobbies to make it a shared experience.

Take turns with caretaking. Taking care of children or older family members can strain healthy relationships. Take turns with caretaking responsibilities.

Travel in ways that are good for both parties. Everyone has travel preferences. Some people like relaxing vacations by the beach, others prefer exploring a new city or doing outdoor activities like camping and hiking. Plan a holiday that can accommodate both travel styles, or rotate what kinds of trips you take. Solo trips can also be suitable for some fresh air and time apart.

Communicate clearly about money. Some homes are two-income households; some are one. To ensure that finances do not strain a relationship, it is essential to communicate about expenses and limits on spending.

Compromise in relationships is key to each partner’s happiness, well-being, and mental health.

Compromising is a way to respect your partner’s feelings, bringing you closer and enhancing mutual trust.

Seeing things from your partner’s point of view can also increase your empathy and understanding of each other.

Compromise also has personal benefits: When couples lead from a spirit of generosity, they can support each other when either partner needs care.

Without compromise, couples may find themselves drifting apart.

A lack of compromise can lead to bitterness; one member of the couple might feel like their partner is stubborn and selfish.

This can also make a partner feel used and undervalued, which is a red flag in relationships.

Source ⚜ More: Notes & References ⚜ Writing Resources PDFs

[lorenzonuti]

Field of vision compromised.

[thepersonalwords]

Do not compromise on the quality and your customers will not negotiate on the price.

Amit Kalantri

[bethanydelleman]

im curious about what you mean when you call "compromise" a likely ahistorical concept in that post about caroline bingley. have you posted about this before? it's one of those tropes that's almost like furniture in regency setting fic and literature - id never really considered that it wasn't accurate (at least broadly)

I wrote a whole article about it!

The biggest problem with the trope is that authors rarely consider the power dynamics of the compromise, which is roughly equivalent to a shotgun marriage today. One of the most sensible compromises I've seen is in Bridgerton, surprisingly, because a male relative of about equal status used an actual gun to try and make the compromiser marry his sister. If the female doesn't have a powerful or willing male relation, who holds the shotgun?

Another big problem which comes up a lot in fan fiction is lowering the bar of physical contact. In Bridgerton, Daphne and Simon are fully making out, in a lot of Chinese dramas they lock drunk/drugged up, opposite sex people in a room for an entire night and then let servants "discover" them in the morning. That's very compromising! Yet, you'll read some historical fiction/a lot of fan fiction of a woman doing something as innocent as tripping into a man's arms or being alone in a room with them fully clothed and people scream, "Compromise!" It's just silly. Jane Austen has men and women accidentally alone frequently and no one ever gets married from it.

"Compromise" is a modern term for a trope, I've yet to see it in a single contemporary novel from the 1800s, and while I am certain that shotgun marriages happened throughout history, I'm also pretty sure they didn't happen as often or as innocently as a lot of historical fiction suggests.

[stoicmike]

If you love someone and want to spend your life with them, there are always things about them you’re just going to have to live with.  -- Michael Lipsey

[abwwia]

Harmonia Rosales (b.1984) Compromise, 2019, oil on canvas, 24 × 24 inches

[entrevenas]

@entrevenas

[shrinkrants]

A 2016 piece from Rebecca that she says, and I agree, is still relevant:

"...we get this hopelessly naïve version of centrism, of the idea that if we’re nicer to the other side there will be no other side, just one big happy family. This inanity is also applied to the questions of belief and fact and principle, with some muddled cocktail of moral relativism and therapists’ “everyone’s feelings are valid” applied to everything. But the truth is not some compromise halfway between the truth and the lie, the fact and the delusion, the scientists and the propagandists. And the ethical is not halfway between white supremacists and human rights activists, rapists and feminists, synagogue massacrists and Jews, xenophobes and immigrants, delusional transphobes and trans people. Who the hell wants unity with Nazis until and unless they stop being Nazis?"

[pratchettquotes]

Having washed and dressed in his own private bathroom,* Moist went to see his wife, practising his smile on the way and endeavoring to look cheerful. You never knew with Adora Belle.** She could be quite acerbic. After all, she ran the whole clacks system these days.

Terry Pratchett, Raising Steam

* Separate bathrooms of course being the key to any happy marriage.

** "Spike" to her fond husband. Her brother had called her Killer, but he meant it in a nice way.

[literaryvein-reblogs]

I’ve seen your post on how to compromise in romantic relationships, do you have one on how to compromise in platonic and familial relationships?

Writing Notes: Compromise

in Platonic & Familial Relationships

People with a compromising conflict style often try to resolve conflict by proposing seemingly equal compromises, such as meeting in the middle between two extreme positions or making a significant compromise just to move forward. Although a compromising conflict style can move a conversation forward, the solution may not address root issues, making this style unstable over time.

Compromise is essential in any relationship, particularly during conflict. Each partner must consider giving something up of similar value so that they meet somewhere in the middle (Grieger, 2015).

Encourage bouncing ideas off each other until both parties find a win for both of them. Capture the following:

What is the disagreement about?

What does a win for each person look like?

Brainstorm ideas that could lead to mutual satisfaction.

Often, resolutions to conflict and disagreement feel like a win to both parties; this is a win–win situation. The goal should be for mutual satisfaction.

The more individuals have a relational focus (i.e., a greater use of “we”) while narrating their experiences of compromise with family, the better psychological health they will experience (Lin et al., 2014)

The Conflict Management Styles

Include accommodating, avoiding, collaborating, competing and compromising.

People tend to have a dominant style.

The Thomas Kilmann conflict mode instrument, or TKI, is frequently used in conflict resolution training and identifies 5 distinct modes that people use to handle conflict (Thomas & Kilman).

Understanding your conflict handling style may help you handle future conflicts more effectively.

Compromising - usually indicates the person who is compromising is at the mid-point on the assertiveness scale and the mid-point on the cooperativeness scale.

That means that the compromiser tries to find middle-ground by taking care of his/her needs as well as the needs of others.

The compromiser does try to cooperate but not at his/her personal expense.

The compromising style shows a moderate concern for self and others.

Even though you may often hear that the best way to handle a conflict is to compromise, the compromising style is not a win/win solution but a partial win/lose.

When you compromise, you give up some or most of what you want.

The conflict gets resolved temporarily, but lingering thoughts of what you gave up could lead to a future conflict.

Compromising may be a good strategy when time limitations or conflict prolonging may lead to relationship deterioration.

Compromise may also be good when both parties have equal power or other resolution strategies have not worked (Macintosh & Stevens, 2008).

Compromising may help conflicting parties come to a resolution, but neither may be completely satisfied if they each had to give something up.

Compromising Style: This style aims to find an expedient, mutually acceptable solution that partially satisfies both parties in the conflict while maintaining some assertiveness and cooperativeness. “This style is best to use when the outcome is not crucial and you are losing time; for example, when you want to just make a decision and move on to more important things and are willing to give a little to get the decision made,” Dr. Barbara Benoliel, a certified professional mediator and mitigation specialist, says. “However,” she adds, “be aware that no one is really satisfied.”

People often get accommodating and compromising confused.

Accommodating means sacrificing your needs/wants/desires for what the other wants without them giving anything in return.

When you compromise, both parties give something and gain something.

A negative of compromising is that it may be used as an easy way out of a conflict.

The compromising style is most effective when both parties find the solution reasonably agreeable.

Example: Rosa and D’Shaun could decide that Casey’s allowance does need to be increased and could each give her $10.00 more a week by committing to taking their lunch to work twice a week instead of eating out. They are giving up something, and if neither has a problem taking their lunch to work, the compromise is equitable. If the couple agrees that the 20 extra dollars a week should come out of D’Shaun’s golf budget, the compromise is not as equitable, and D’Shaun, although he agreed to the compromise, may end up with feelings of resentment. Dialogue may assist this couple to find a win-win outcome.

In the Workplace. Compromising is a conflict resolution strategy in which you and the other party willingly forfeit some of your needs to reach an agreement.

It’s known as a “lose-lose” strategy, since neither of you achieve your full goal.

This strategy works well when your care for your goal and the relationship are both moderate. You value the relationship, but not so much that you abandon your goal, like in accommodation.

Example: Maybe you and a peer express interest in leading an upcoming project. You could compromise by co-leading it or deciding one of you leads this one and the other the next one.

Compromising requires big-picture thinking and swallowing your pride, knowing you won’t get all your needs fulfilled.

The benefits are that you and the other party value your relationship and make sacrifices to reach a mutually beneficial resolution.

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Hope this helps with your writing!