#Exceptions

[sizzlingsandwichperfection-blog]

bro is twitter that dead

Twitter is much worse than merely dead.

I'm not sure you've ever been in this situation, but once someone who'd caused me a lot of trouble and pain and fear and torment died. And after they died, I thought, "Oh, thank goodness. Now I am free." But actually I was not free, because the trouble and pain and fear and torment were still present, even if the person was past. And then it was in some ways worse, because I realized that the trouble and pain and fear and torment were not contingent upon the life of this person; those feelings could survive even the person who caused them.

I know this is not entirely relevant to your question; it is only to say that twitter is not dead, and even when it is dead, it will still be capable of causing harm. Anyway, this is not the kind of stuff that I, as a coffee company who is not an individual, usually talk about. But it is late at night on a Thursday, so we're making exceptions.

[momentsbeforemass]

In name only

In today’s Gospel, Jesus warns about opposition. About the pushback that always comes whenever we try to live our Faith.

Some people love the pushback that comes with division. They’re addicted to casting themselves as heroic figures taking a stand against…something.

So they use their beliefs as wedge issues to create it.

Weaponizing their faith to separate people (even fellow believers) into supporters and opponents. Us versus them.

Purity testing so they can brand people as “Christians in name only.”

That’s not what Jesus is talking about. How do I know this? Two big reasons.

First, purity testing is idiotic. Because, as St. Paul tells us, “All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.” None of us can pass the test.

We don’t like admitting it, but none of us deserve any of the graces that God so extravagantly pours out on us. None of us are good enough, on our own (hint – what was Good Friday about?).

God’s extravagance flows out of God’s love for us. Not out of any merit we might think we have.

The most common response to this by fans of purity testing? The silly (and unbiblical) practice of comparing sins.

Claiming that someone else’s sins are worthy of damnation. While smugly lying to ourselves about how what we’re doing is no big deal. Probably not even really a sin. 

C.S. Lewis rebuts this nonsense brilliantly in the Screwtape Letters.

“It does not matter how small the sins are provided that their cumulative effect is the edge the man away from the Light…Indeed the safest road to Hell is the gradual one – the gentle slope, soft underfoot, without sudden turnings, without milestones, without signposts.”

The other big reason? Today’s Gospel is part of a larger teaching. The same one where Jesus commands those of us who would follow Him to “Love one another, as I have loved you.”

Sort of the opposite of weaponized faith and wedge issues.

Because “Love one another, as I have loved you” is missing something. Something that we all too readily read into it – Exceptions. Qualifiers. Disclaimers.

The way we live our lives? It’s like we think it says, “Love one another, as I have loved you, except for ___.” And then we fill in the blank with whoever we’re playing us versus them games with.

Why? In a word, pride. The oldest and dreariest sin.

The one that always ends up with us worshipping ourselves.

Whenever we start smuggling in exceptions. So we can feel better about ourselves, by pretending we’re better than someone else. We’ve fallen victim to pride.

And if we keep going down that road?

We’ll soon find that we are the Christians in name only.

Today’s Readings

[aspd-culture]

are there any specific terms to ASPD that are important to know? like narc crashes/high, bpd euphoria, depended person, favorite person, and so on?

The only one that I can think of at the moment in Exception. They are not unlike FPs in BPD necessarily, but they are kinda a similar concept with opposite presentation. Afaik, in BPD an FP is where you will see heightened/exacerbated symptoms. In ASPD, however, Exceptions are where, for the most part, we see the least symptoms on a typical day. We may have the desire to be around them, have some social instincts in reference to them, and even experience empathy and/or remorse when it comes to them. However, when we are in a flare, many times our Exceptions will be the main target of our stress/anxiety/fear of people and therefore may deal with the brunt of the flare. This can look like breakups, cheating, lying - sometimes just for the hell of it - picking or escalating fights, violence, etc. That’s because we are most vulnerable with our Exception/s (for those that have them), and we feel the risk of that when our symptoms are flaring. Further, our Exception/s will *notice* the flares more because whilst most people see us with fairly intense symptoms on average days, our Exception/s go from having a nearly typical relationship with us to seeing us as the rest of the world sees us and then some.

Aside from that, I can’t think of any terms specific to ASPD, but if there are more please leave them in replies/reblogs/tags/etc so I can see them too!

[mx-kamisato]

YO

[pompadourpink]

Les adjectifs irréguliers

Amitié, f (friendship) - amical-e

Ancêtre - ancestral-e

Automne, m - automnal-e

Avarice, f (miserliness) - avare

Bête, f (beast) - bestial-e

Bravoure, f - brave

Comédie, f - comique

Contrefaçon, f (counterfeit) - faux/fausse

Corruption, f - corruptible

Côte, f (coast) - costal-e, littoral-e

Déité, f (deity) - divin-e

Doctorat, m (PhD) - doctoral-e

Doctrine, f - doctrinal-e

Espoir, m (hope) - espéré-e

Été, m (summer) - estival-e

Étudiant-e (student) - estudiantin-e

Faim, f (hunger) - affamé-e

Fleur, f (flower) - floral-e

Grèce, f (Greece) - Grec/Grecque

Homme, m (man) - masculin-e

Humour, f - humoristique

Jour, m (day) - diurne

Jumeau/melle (twin) - gémellaire

Hiver, m (winter) - hivernal-e, hiémal-e

Île, f (island) - insulaire

Lait, m (milk) - laitier/tière

Livre, m (book) - livresque

Lune, f (moon) - lunaire

Moyen-Âge, m (Middle Ages) - médiéval-e

Nuit, f (night) - nocturne

Or, m (gold) - doré-e

Palais, m (palate) - palatal-e

Paradis, m - paradisiaque

Pâques, f (Easter) - pascal-e

Printemps, m (spring) - printanier/nière

Roman, m (novel) - romanesque

Séduction, f - séduisant-e

Soif, f (thirst) - assoiffé-e

Surprise, f - surprenant-e

Turquie, f (Turkiye) - Turc/Turque

Vent, m (wind) - éolien-ne

Verdure, f (greenery) - verdoyant-e

Vierge, f (virgin) - virginal-e

Voisinage, m (neighbourhood) - vicinal-e

Voyelle, f (vowel) - vocalique

[pratchettquotes]

"'Tis not right, a woman going into such places by herself."

Granny nodded. She thoroughly approved of such sentiments so long as there was, of course, no suggestion that they applied to her.

Terry Pratchett, Wyrd Sisters

[fieriframes]

[What are we gonna make? On exceptions and anomalies rather than on reality. Pine nuts and raisins in this? Yes.]

[eric-sadahire]

I will never jog.

Unless I'm 5 minutes away from a liquor store that closes in 2 minutes.

[gentlebyte]

Training is learning the rules, experience is learning the exceptions, wisdom is learning the reasons

Unknown

[hualianisms]

verified ways to donate to gaza directly

[this post is outdated. up-to-date version here.]

Donate to a Palestinian family directly:

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Help provide tents:

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Food:

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Water (*urgent and crucial!)

Gaza Municipality: The official Municipality of Gaza is doing vital, life-saving work to rebuild the water pipes in Gaza City to restore access to clean water & waste management services for the people of Gaza.

eSIMs (*very urgent):

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Crips for eSims for Gaza: donate any amount to this team of volunteers who pool funds to buy & maintain gaza esims regularly (see their financial accountability document).

Medical Aid:

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international charities: Palestine Red Crescent Society, Palestine Children's Relief Fund, Medical Aid for Palestinians

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Organize or help to run an online/irl event to raise funds for Palestine

Boycott

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Contact your reps

Educate yourself & others both irl & online

Daily clicks on Arab.org

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(longer masterpost of all ways you can help)

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Last updated 3/6/2024 with Gaza Wound Care & We Feed Gaza. Wanted to focus on Palestinian-run grassroots initiatives that will actually reach Gazans on the ground, so all of these except eSIMs, PCRF, MAP are by Palestinians. Donating to international orgs is not ideal rn as aid is still being stopped at the border. Please focus on Palestinian-run initiatives on the ground in Gaza.

Remember, small donations really do add up. Any amount counts, even $1!

[froody]

“can straight men be romantically and sexually attracted to men?” sure, I’m not a cop

[butchfalin]

the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again

[aspd-culture]

ASPD + DID culture is meeting your host's Exception and just not getting it. What's the big deal about this person and why do you guys believe they're someone worth suffering for

I am honestly very glad you said this because it's something I've been thinking about recently. It's a different alter out than the one who runs this blog, and I was wondering if it was possible for us not to share the same Exceptions.

Any disorder that affects the neurology and/or development of the brain (including ASPD) is shared by all alters. Technically, every one of us has ASPD, although our host is considered a "symptom holder", so we all have the capacity to have Exceptions. And yet, I just do not understand his main Exception at all. But he loves him, so here we are.

[cafffine]

be pro-aging but wear sun screen. sun protection is not beauty industry propaganda it will save you. wear it. or else.

[fairycosmos]

[runawaymarbles]

the "is it ok to have sex when your kids are in the house" thing is so funny to me because like. if you have lived with both of your parents at the same time there's a 99.5% chance they have had sex while you were in the house. if you co-slept then your parents probably had sex while you were in the same bed. this is the gender neutral bathroom debate all over again.