#Overcoming Ego

[whisperingwisdom]

CAREFUL: EGO is your worst ENEMY, How to let go of your EGO

[littlebellesmama]

There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

Not knowing something can feel uncomfortable. It might even feel embarrassing, especially when you’re surrounded by people who seem to have all the answers. But the truth is, there’s no shame in not knowing. In fact, admitting that you don’t know something is one of the most honest and brave things you can do. It’s a powerful life lesson that opens the door to growth, learning, and…

[futurefatum]

January Forecast: Extremely Intense Healing - Kyle Cease

2025 is a portal for healing! 🌟 Join @KyleCease on Jan 25th for a live event to align with love & let go of the past. #2025Awakening #SelfLove #Meditation

Published on January 5th 2024 by @kylecease ABOUT THIS VIDEO: The video titled “January Forecast: Extremely Intense Healing” by Kyle Cease discusses the spiritual and emotional challenges and opportunities of the current era, with a focus on preparation for 2025. The speaker emphasizes the importance of “filling your spiritual bank account” through practices like meditation, self-love, and…

[compassionmattersmost]

Interfaith Harmony: Ganesha, the Universal Remover of Obstacles

There is an ancient story, older than memory, that speaks of a gentle presence who stands at the threshold of each journey. He is called Ganesha, the remover of obstacles. In Hindu tradition, he is worshipped as a friend and guardian of beginnings, an embodiment of wisdom and gentle strength. His form is unmistakable—an elephant head, eyes deep with understanding, a body both round and rooted, as…

[inspirespirit-with-lety]

Overcoming Ego for True Happiness - Tips and Insights

Introduction: Ever caught yourself in a moment where you just can’t let go, even when you know you’re in the wrong? Or perhaps shied away from a brilliant opportunity because, deep down, the fear of failing was just too overwhelming? Well, you’re not alone. It’s moments like these where our ego often takes the driver’s seat, steering us away from potential happiness and growth. This blog dives…

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Ignoramus (rushed don't look at it too closely 🌷🌷)

[moonshynecybin]

Pecco: marquez's arrival could be a disaster

I'm beating marquez with the same bike

Marc: I wish pecco would win the world championship 😊😊😊🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰😍😍😍🥳🥳🥳

yeah i will say i think pecco ABSOLUTELYYYYYYYY sees it as a personal little mindgame. which is really fucking funny if marc for once DOESNT !

[compacflt]

I just wanted to say as someone who has stumbled across your blog and has read your Wednesday wips and posts about anything topgun related that your thought process and consideration of mav and ice, specifically their political beliefs and relationships with their own identities, is honestly so impressive and cool. You have brought such realism and life to these characters which is just so refreshing to see. idk i just wanted to express how cool and awesome i think that is

Because of the thought into these characters does it make it difficult to like them or understand them if you have differing opinions from them? for me personally i feel like if i were to ever actually have a convo with ice or mav regarding identity politics i would actually start to lose my mind (like how one feels when your dad or fun uncle talks for too long at thanksgiving dinner). If it does make them difficult to like, does that make it difficult for you to write them sometimes?

oh yeah! i think, my ice i really empathize with & really love & really could get along with, once he grows out of the sexism of his teens & twenties, but my maverick drives me crazy. someone sent in an ask a while ago that was like “WHY is cyclone simpson your one true love??” And it’s because i too would absolutely hate maverick & hate working with him lol. people who are overly cocky & un-self-aware & a bit self-centered make me CRAZY. (narrator voice: compacflt is a hypocrite as all these things also apply to compacflt.)

Politically… It’s difficult to say. no one really wants to hear the intricacies of one person’s political journey, which is why i won’t give you mine, but suffice to say—since the start of the russian invasion of Ukraine, and my semi-concerted effort to learn more about the political landscape of modern warfare, my own personal beliefs have shifted a whole bunch. definitely aided in that shift by my top gun fic project that specifically aims to understand the conservative straight-passing male mindset as it relates to military matters… there are many end goals to a project like mine, but one end product is a filter you can take away and hold up in front of your eyes and see the world through it. When writing from the eyes of a conservative straight (passing) white man, your priorities totally shift. I had to write from the perspective of someone who doesn’t care about identity politics. Because they don’t! A core tenet of conservatism is very proudly not caring about that stuff, and being very annoyed when people (usually left-of-centers) make that stuff very visible and want you to care about it! “Don’t shove it in my face,” etc., etc. Don’t force me to care about this taboo, private thing I really don’t care about. It violates my freedoms, or whatever, to be forced to care—or even bear witness to—stuff that i don’t care about. Etc. And then, to be nominally a part of that community that you really, really don’t care about, and then to be told that you have to care about it because of your publicity… people asking you to be proud of something that has had a negative connotation for much of your entire life… that’s not a transformation that happens easily.

Jesus, I could write an essay about this. I have, several times by now in responses to asks over my blog. But there is so much that I could talk about. I think… I really worry that some of my writing falls into the first of the below categories:

I really try not to romanticize conservatism in my writing—I tried to show that ice and mav’s happiness is the price they pay for their conservatism. They’re actively choosing to be unhappy—but because they prioritize their honor over everything, due to EXTERNAL PRESSURES they cannot control, and which I think are often ignored in the fandom space for one reason or another. The fact of the matter is, in 99% of IPs, characters prioritize something other than their sexualities. It’s never Maverick’s personal identity that is at stake in either Top Gun or Top Gun: Maverick, because he has built himself so impermeably masculine that there are no grounds upon which to question his personal identity. He just isn’t thinking about it. He’s thinking about how to get into Charlie’s pants, how to win the Top Gun trophy, how to uphold his promise to Goose, et cetera. If he’s fucking guys on the side, it’s because he wants to and because hes maverick and he does what he wants without thinking about it—that’s the whole point of his character, from a story-construction standpoint. That’s his archetype. He’s a renegade maverick superstar who is both thoughtlessly brilliant and thoughtlessly dangerous. He’s thoughtless. His priorities are to survive and to look cool doing it, and that’s it. He is a savant in the Naval Air Force, where honor is your lifeblood, who feels he has been dishonored by his own family name, and who willingly joined the conservative post-Vietnam Navy right when/after Ronald Reagan was elected President, and who wears cowboy boots and who disrespects women to their faces, and who is eager to get into altercations with Soviet-Chinese-DPRK-X-second-world-country-coded-but-EXPLICITLY-Soviet-manufactured-Mikoyan-Gurevich-MiG-28s(-F-5s-painted-black)… I’m sorry. In my opinion, the conservatism is baked into him as a character. I find it extremely difficult to separate him from his conservatism, because in some ways his patriotic conservatism is his raison d’etre. IMO if you take that away from him, he ceases to exist.

Same thing with Ice and his unwillingness to openly rebel or go against the grain. That is his whole reason to exist in the story at all. I know that I’m saying this in a fandom space where the whole point is to change characters & put them in different situations (fanfic) but… in kind of a perverse self aware way, as in I know I sound ridiculous and pretentious, i guess i don’t really understand an impulse to change the core tenets of a character irreparably in fanworks. We are shown that ice always goes by the books in TG. Then we are shown that he achieves the fruits of that labor (four stars) in TGM. So he is rewarded for never rebelling, whereas Maverick, who always rebels (but NEVER in a way that challenges his personal identity), has stagnated in the ranks at full-bird O-6. And that’s Ice’s character. That’s what he’s there for in the story—he’s a tool to show us the value system of rank and prestige you earn by following the rules of the Navy. Why take that away from him? That’s his priority! Canonically, that’s his priority and reason for existence! And historically the way to achieve that priority is through conservatism.

And you ask me if it’s hard to like my ice and mav. Yes, but that’s not my choice. The movie already did that for me. They are not, I’m sorry, likable people. I am not a straight white conservative male writing about straight white conservative men to validate my own beliefs—I’m a queer AFAB person of color writing about straight white conservative men because I want to understand the limits of their conservatism. What they do and do not care about, and what it takes to make them care. And from what we are shown in TG… ice and mav would not care about ME. At all. And they would not want to be forced to care about me. Ice’s casual careless dismissiveness… “the plaque for the alternates is down in the ladies’ room…” mav following Charlie into the bathroom… turning the key in the ignition and driving away while pretending not to hear her… “what?? i can’t hear you! 🙉” … they do not care. They have no desire to care.

Again. Maybe I subscribe to a very very old-school and labored and pretentious ideology when it comes to writing… I know a lot of people write just to have fun. I do not. I wish i could, but I don’t. And when you’re not writing to have fun, you don’t have to like the characters you’re writing about. They’re nothing more than tools at your disposal to get your point across more effectively. No, I don’t like them! Of course not! My ice is cruel and cowardly and careless and hypocritical and subservient and weak, and my mav is demanding and dangerous and dismissive and oblivious and so, so, so unbelievably bitter.

And that’s what my story needed, to get my point across. So, shrug. My point was my priority. I don’t care too much about the characters themselves.

Re: icemav & identity politics. Part of hopefully selling this story is the attempt at empathy for the conservative male, to bring this discussion back to the top. Why write fiction at all if you’re not going to write about people different from you, and why write about people different from you if you don’t want to understand them? So… part of trying to understand them was to understand and have empathy for this shift in priorities. Conservative guys do not want to care about labels, or sexual orientations, or, God forbid, discussion of their gender identities. I can kind of see Ice tolerating it by the end… but, there are limits. Again, it’s supposed to be private. I think he’d chafe against getting labeled gay—he wouldn’t want to be called the first gay compacflt, or SECNAV, etc. He can’t say, “i slept with like a hundred fifty women before I even MET the ONLY man ive ever slept with,” because that’s like intensely private personal information!! No one deserves that information, but people still want to call him gay, even though in his head he really is not!!!! Again—from the conservative perspective, it’s a public imposition of left-wing, overly sexualized, too-neat labels and politics onto an area of life that has typically been kept private and respectable—I don’t agree with the conservatism, but I can at least empathize with it. Pre-Maverick’s death (pre-coming to terms with it), it would’ve been shameful & embarrassing to him; but even after coming to terms with it, it’s still not something he “takes pride” in. I think he thinks of it like this—most people aren’t proud of being straight. Like, it’s weird if you are. Same thing with being proud of being white, etc. Why be excessively proud of things you have no control over? Why not take pride in your ACTIONS—for instance, his career that he has actively sacrificed so much of his pride for? I can really empathize with that thought. I don’t necessarily agree, but I get it, especially in his professional circumstances, where he has so much to be professionally proud of, and yet people keep wanting him to publicly care about this private part of him he has no control over and can’t change.

Maverick though. I think he’d be actively hostile about talking about it in public. He Does Not Care. he does not want to care. It’s all an insult. They call him the first openly gay Ace cause he’s married to another man— “okay, but, like, I’m not. Stop calling me that. Neither of us are. Oh my god we have slept with so many women. Stop calling us that.” Ok then what do you want us, the press corps, to call you? First openly bisexual Ace? “No that’s worse!! That’s a word some teenager made up and doesn’t mean anything!! I’m sixty years old stop asking me to talk about this stuff im too old.” What do you have to say to LGBT kids who want to go into the navy? “😎👍 there’s a place for you etc etc. Let’s go back to talking about all the planes I shot down.” Maverick does what he wants without thinking about it. That’s the core tenet of his character. Very conservative. Don’t ask him to care too much.

Idk. No I don’t like them. But I understand them, if that makes sense. Like their conservative anti-label logic does make emotional sense to me. So that’s part of what I took away from this project, for better or worse… probably worse: I understand why conservatives don’t like the modern over-publicity of sexuality. They don’t care and they don’t want to care. And because they are small-C conservative, my ice and mav still don’t care lol. So, yeah. It doesn’t make them hard to write, because thats why I wanted to write them in the first place.

[cosmicrhetoric]

the girls night energy of the seven is so infectious that im spiralling bc of how long it's been since ive been in a club bathroom

[mc-critical]

2.02 (26) / 2.16 (40)

[bluespring864]

Part 4: On negative emotions not being hostile, and overcoming your ego.

Novak Djokovic, Vice Sports interview (2019) in Serbian (with English subtitles)

[lizard-speed]

I have a lot of Thoughts™️ about the idea that other ghosts (besides the Captain) are queer in some way so I shall talk about them because it is late and I am procrastinating sleep!

As much as I understand making characters queer is fun/can be liberating for people I’m not a huge fan of it when it comes to ghosts? I feel like it diminishes the Captain’s story as someone who has to come to terms with his own queerness and the love he had for Havers. Obviously having help from someone to talk it through would be beneficial but I feel like having another character be queer would draw the focus away from that storyline and give a sort of unintended rivalry/competition to the Captain coming out— a kind of “well I was able to accept myself as queer before you did and I came from a more closeted time than you did!”. I guess it would work for Robin but I don’t think it would have the same impact since a) it would be played off for comedy but b) Robin doesn’t have the same relationships to society and expectations that the Captain does.

The only character I could see it working for (and actually the only character I have a gay headcanon for) is Mary. Her whole arc is about freeing herself from the chains of people’s expectations of her and the cruelty they brought upon her. Especially in her friendship with Annie I can see that working as a possible romantic outcome of Mary realizing that she’s no longer bound by the constraints of the men of her time and she’s allowed to be who she wants to be without being accused of anything

[magnoliamyrrh]

i dont know how this didnt hit me before

if you have a really intense trip, ego death sort of trip, and im talking very, very intense like, high doses tripping absolute balls, something that can happen past the point of feeling like youre dying, is that you feel like you have died, and are being reborn over and over and over again - not always a bad experience, sometimes beautiful sometimes painful but always very exhausting, inexplicablely overwhelming, and v often some level of scary even when u get used to it

except that experience of dying and being reborn and dying eternally, infinately, seeing, being, all these lives, realities, possibilities, isnt the full ego death (which some think it is); its a partial sort of view and understanding, its still another form of being stuck in the loop. the way to make it stop and get out of the loop is to manage to fully kill your ego, and then it stops and you just become part of the singularity, at rest, at peace, eternal love like nothing else etc etc

....... aint that like. exactly what moksha is. spiritual liberation from the cycle

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Truth was never meant to make you comfortable, unless you stand in the middle of it with acceptance.

Shannon L. Alder

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