#emotional release

[pawism]

Commander: You're letting me borrow Scruffy? Won't that be a bit tight? Taimi: He's roomier than he looks! Why don't you take him out for a spin?

[wisterianwoman]

When I was in counseling as a kid and even going through cognitive behavioral therapy, I thought I was doing everything I could to heal. The truth is that I was only treating the symptoms of my unhealed trauma and unresolved feelings: anxiety, stress, emotional outbursts, destructive behaviors, and so on. I wasn't being taught how to feel, express, and release my emotions; I was being taught how to understand my past experiences, think about them differently, and rationalize my way to functioning. This is known as intellectualization: a coping mechanism wherein reasons and logic are used to avoid the discomfort that comes with genuine feeling.

[divine-mystic-princess]

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[chillwithnea]

[kindnessisstillhere]

But solid in my hands

Pain echoes through me,

Consumes my every thought,

But the needle is solid in my hands.

I want to scream, never speak again,

To hide away from everyone,

But the fabric is gaining its shape.

It's all about creation, distraction,

Putting energy into something real,

Something needless but solid in my hands.

[rhielizabethj]

You’ve trained me well. You stripped away my confidence, my back bone, my spirit and left me broken. Where did the pervious version of me go? I was healing, I was happy I was full of promise. Now I’m left shattered, confused, raw.

Everytime you told me I was stupid, I was the problem, everytime you would yell at me, slam doors in my face. Every time you’d diminish me to nothing I started to believe it. I’m left sitting here wondering what is so wrong about the person I am? Was I not loveable? Was I not good enough? Was I not worth working through your own trauma so you could show up in a healthy way for me? I feel unworthy of love, I feel like your words and treatment have rewired my brain. Everything you said to me feels like truth now, even though there’s a tiny piece of me screaming trying to make my brain understand it’s not the truth.

Little by little your abuse had its desired effect on me. I feel scared, I feel out of control. I feel like crawling back to you would be so much easier. We could pretend things are healthy and fine, you would probably be so nice to me at first. Saying how much you missed me, saying how sorry you are how you’ll change. It could be a few good months, maybe you’d be able to fill my cup up halfway before you switched and decided to smash it. We could play pretend and it would feel safe again, if only for momentarily.

But I think it’s safe to say we both know nothing will change. You fill my head with your distorted version of reality, lies, you make it seem like you want to change that you want to be a better man. You speak this into existence but the follow through is never there. It’s just another form of manipulation so you don’t have to face the pain of being alone. You twist into your distorted version and I start to believe it. I believe it because I want to be with you. I want to grow old with you, I love you. But then you yell at me, or block me from leaving our bedroom and I come crashing down to reality, I am forced to see things for what they are. They aren’t healthy, my feelings aren’t safe, this is not a safe environment to flourish with you.

The path I’m walking is unknown but there’s promise and hope. For once there’s hope, I know things will get better for me. I know day by day I’m healing. Every conversation I have with my therapist, best friend, people who have been in similar situations brings me to a place where I’m seeing through your façade of lies. I’m realizing the things you said to me and the way you treated me was wrong. You might never see your behaviour for what it really is, it’s hard to face the truth. Rose coloured glasses have been your vision for you to long. I tried to take them off and hold your hand, I tried to help you see the flaws and toxicity. I tried to hard to make things healthy.

Someone who comes from a place of love, compassion and kindness knows your actions are wrong. You don’t get to put your hands on someone and down play it, you don’t get to choke me and say I was drunk. You don’t get to blame my self defence as the problem. You don’t get to yell at me or continuously throw insult after insult at me. Your emotional abuse is quite literally that. It’s not love, it’s not kindness. You have that in you, I’ve seen the man you could truly be if you just committed to getting help, therapy, an outlet for your anger. You broke me down with every nasty thing you said to me, and now I wonder if this was your plan. Break me down so badly I become quiet and hide how you treat me. I think you hoped I’d stay this small accepting your crumbs when you felt like I was worth loving and when I wasn’t I was then punished with your acts of verbal abuse. You might not have left black eyes or broken bones. But the vile things you said has now imprinted on my soul. You’ve left a permanent scar in my heart and I’m so scared I’ll forever accept abuse with the next person I love. I’m scared that the impact you had on me will be permanent. That I’m tainted. That I’ll forever be apologizing for something that wasn’t my fault. You said I apologize to much but in an environment that made me feel like I was the problem, in an environment where it’s easier to just agree what more did you expect?

I don’t think I have ever been called so many names in the time span of two years. In two years I went from being the most amazing person, the most caring, most loving. You said you loved me so much that I was your light. But then you blew that light out and still expected me to guide the way. You wanted me to be your rock, but instead I became an actual rock. You hardened me, I shut down and grew a hard shell around me to protect me from the mean things you’d say.

I’m not a bitch, I’m not stupid, I’m not a cunt, I’m not crazy, annoying or unattractive. Im not ugly, I’m not a shitty friend, I’m not worthless, I’m not any of those things you said to me. You will never put your hands on me again, you will never smash a door into my back, or slam it in my face, you will never lock me out of a room or balcony again, you’ll never yell at me infront of my children again, you’ll never treat me like fucking scum in front of my friends again. You’ll never tear apart my relationship with my mom or family again. You’ll never isolate me, you’ll never make me feel like I have no one again. You’ll never bash my pervious relationship with my children’s father again. You’ll never bash my body or personal hygiene again. You’ll never tear apart my sexual acts again. You will never be able to treat me like that again. I’m realizing I won’t be someone you can keep in your back pocket for later. I won’t be here to see you continue to make the same mistakes with someone new, I won’t watch the new girl become “the problem” I won’t be here because I deserve better.

I was becoming a pathetic puppy dog chasing after you, you truly did train me well. Even after being broken up for a month and a half I’m still accepting you blaming me for everything. I’m still allowing you to be hot and cold with me, I’m still allowing you to ignore me and then gaslight me like none of this is happening. I’m still allowing shitty treatment and why, because you’ve trained me well.

I will always love you, I will always wish I was important enough to you to receive an apology, ownership for how you treated me, changed behaviour. But you’re not ready to see, you’re not ready to admit that maybe the abused became the abuser. I love you, but I love myself enough to let it all go. I love my self enough to release me from all of the pain, the broken promises, the abuse.

[healthyselflovetips]

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[angelaeleni]

Your sensuality, feeling the beautiful sensations present in and on your body, can be a powerful channel of your divine feminine energy and can become a means for purging pain and trauma.

[indepthstore]

[harmonyhealinghub]

The Emotion Code: Unlocking Emotional Healing for a Happier Life

Shaina Tranquilino

January 22, 2024

In our fast-paced world, it's no surprise that emotional baggage can accumulate and weigh us down. Unresolved emotions from past experiences can hinder personal growth, relationships, and overall well-being. However, there is hope on the horizon – Dr. Bradley Nelson's groundbreaking book, "The Emotion Code," offers a powerful solution to release emotional energy blocks and restore balance in our lives.

Understanding The Emotion Code: Dr. Bradley Nelson, a renowned holistic physician and chiropractor, developed The Emotion Code as a method to identify and release trapped emotions stored within the body. According to his theory, unresolved emotions create energetic imbalances or "trapped" emotions that disrupt the flow of vital life force energy.

Using muscle testing techniques (kinesiology), Dr. Nelson helps individuals discern the specific trapped emotions they carry within them. These could range from sadness, anger, fear, and guilt to even inherited emotions passed down through generations. By identifying these emotions with precision, individuals can then proceed to release them using simple yet effective techniques outlined in his book.

The Power of Energy Healing: "The Emotion Code" embraces the belief that we are all energetic beings connected by an invisible web of energy fields. This understanding aligns with ancient healing practices such as Traditional Chinese Medicine and Ayurveda.

By accessing this subtle energy system believed to underlie physical health and wellness, The Emotion Code empowers individuals to address both mental and physical ailments simultaneously. It aims to establish harmony between mind and body while promoting natural healing processes.

Benefits of Releasing Trapped Emotions: 1. Improved Mental Health: Releasing trapped emotions frees up space for positive thoughts and feelings by removing emotional burdens carried from past traumas or negative experiences. 2. Enhanced Relationships: Emotional baggage often affects how we interact with others. By clearing trapped emotions associated with relationship issues, we can foster healthier connections and experience deeper intimacy. 3. Physical Healing: The mind-body connection is undeniable. Releasing trapped emotions may alleviate physical ailments such as chronic pain, migraines, digestive disorders, or even autoimmune conditions. 4. Increased Emotional Intelligence: As we become more aware of our own emotions, we develop a heightened sense of empathy and understanding towards others – an essential aspect for personal growth and harmonious relationships.

Practical Application and Accessibility: Dr. Nelson's book provides step-by-step instructions on how to identify and release trapped emotions using muscle testing and the power of intention. While seeking professional assistance is beneficial, "The Emotion Code" allows individuals to practice self-healing in the comfort of their homes.

Additionally, Dr. Nelson offers certification programs for those interested in becoming Emotion Code practitioners. This ensures that individuals receive guidance from trained professionals who can help navigate the intricacies of emotional healing.

"The Emotion Code" by Dr. Bradley Nelson is a revolutionary approach to emotional healing that empowers individuals to take control of their well-being. By recognizing the impact of unresolved emotions on our mental, emotional, and physical health, we can break free from the shackles that hinder personal growth and happiness.

By embracing this holistic method, one can embark on a transformative journey towards releasing trapped emotions, restoring balance within oneself, and ultimately living a more fulfilling life. So why not explore this powerful technique today? Your emotional liberation awaits!

[bodyalive]

A new study finds the key role of bone in regulating the fight or flight response. In response to alarm signals from the brain, nerves within bone release osteocalcin, which immediately lowers the parasympathetic "brake" and lets the fight or flight response take over!

https://m.phys.org/news/2019-09-bone-adrenaline-flight-response.html

This research is no surprise to anyone that studies or works with fascia, the connective tissue network of the body that is especially dense around the muscles. Fascia is known to play a huge role in the fight or flight nervous system and is also continuous with bone.

Although we think of bone as "solid," 20% of it is actually water, and electrical charges and movement of this water transmits mechanical messages through bone, just like it does through fascia. In fact some scientists call bone "mineralized fascia."

According to a recent review article, "bone is part of the fascial continuum...that constantly transmits and receives mechano-metabolic information." https://www.cureus.com/articles/16943-bone-tissue-is-an-integral-part-of-the-fascial-system

It is fascinating to see how scientists are unravelling the complex interplay between the nervous and musculoskeletal systems!

[Dr. Ginevra Liptan]

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Fascia stores about 20% of muscle force contraction. Certain "fascial springs" (Joseph Schwartz's terminology) are concentrated in the Achilles tendon, IT band, and lumbar aponeuroses. I add the thoracic and occipital aponeuroses to the fascial spring concept and put it all together into the Posterior Fascial Line. The Posterior Fascial Line both prepares and enables the body for the fight, flight, or freeze physiological responses.

Freeze is a tricky one to see; it is a stiffening of fascia which eventually becomes a numbing or lack of proprioception in it. But there are loads of nerve endings in fascia, especially where it connects to bone (periosteum). There are more nerve endings in fascia than in our sense of sight. Fasciacytes are also prevalent in fascia. They make the hylauronic acid that bathes fascia so that it can glide and move in layers. Long term compressed or "frozen" fascia has lost some fasciacyctes, and with that a lot of proprioceptive awareness.

There is a 4th response to trauma called "fawn", which means excessively seeking to please your abuser (and thus escape trouble). That appears to be a more behavioral rather than physical response, but if I were to hazard a guess about its impact on the body, I would put it into the stiffen and freeze category, since appeasement of others means one must absorb their wrath when appeasement fails, especially when fleeing is impossible.

In all cases, fascial release work can really create an opportunity for "emotional releases". Be gentle and careful when they occur on your table. You are not trained to know the difference between a "release" and an actual collapse. Also, you are not entitled to the client's story, so don't probe for your own interest. A qualified therapist would simply direct the client into feeling their own body's strengths and capacities in the present time, while acknowledging that the emotional release is about something in the past.

[Barbara Sharp Lmt]

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[The fasciacytes: A new cell devoted to fascial gliding regulation] on fasciacytes.

https://www.fasciaresearch.com/.../InnervationExcerpt.pdf [Robert Schleip on fascial mechanoreceptors and their potential role in deep tissue manipulation.]

I found this study that acknowledges that fascia has a role to play in muscle force production, but is non-committal as to how much. They admit being limited in how much "in vitro" measuring can go on due to ethical concerns working with live people (and animals). 

[https://www.sciencedirect.com/.../pii/S0021929023001446]

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https://www.sciencedirect.com/.../abs/pii/S136085921300082X has more research links for anyone interested in pursuing this further.

[st-a-y]

New year truth spilling happening ?

[behaviorgirl]

I don’t know how we move on from this. how can a person grow with their grief and not be anchored down by it; to not drown.

Sometimes it feels like there is no pain left to be felt, yet there’s always more.

The pain…he is a constant. Even when you feel like he is distant, he is there in the shadows. Lurking. Waiting. Waiting for a moment of happiness, of joy, of anything but his seemingly selfish grasp.

Then, I realize, the pain is really only memories, moments, snapshots forever sketched into my mind. A reminder of the sweet; wholesome; caring; funny; self-conscious; intelligent; anxiety-filled; short fused; courageous; selfless; overthinking; humble soul that no longer is on his earth-bound journey.

I’m waiting for the memories to no longer have the grayscale filter and turn back into the bright, vibrant, beautiful pictures they once were. Yet, that time will not come. The pictures may turn brighter, they may turn vibrant once more but they will never be as they were. They will have an unknown gloss to them; as if edited by the pain and grief.

The beautiful part? These memories are mine. These sweet now painful, moments, snapshots are mine. They will never be taken away. I will hold them close to my beating heart as long as I can bare; they belong to me. How lucky am I.

So how do we move on?

How do I grow with this grief?

I may never know.

[wisterianwoman]

How to Feel Your Feelings: From Body Awareness to Emotional Release

For a long time, I held onto my pain like a trophy, thinking that it made me who I was. I now realize that my pain was only weighing down who I was and limiting my ability to express myself fully. Let's talk about How to Feel Your Feelings.

Learn to let go, and how to feel your feelings. This article discusses practical insights and empowering tools to identify, express, and release your emotions, unraveling the secrets of self-compassion and the art of letting go. Wearing Pain Like a Trophy I held onto my pain and trauma for 25 years. I didn’t know I was doing it. When people would say to “let yourself feel,” I thought I was…

[chillwithnea]

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[shinylights]

do ya think after a big show where there’s big fan light projects that louis just has a little cry once he’s on the bus & decompressed from all the adrenaline?….. cuz i would 😅