Successfully just prioritized my own mental health and quit my retail job!
I did it scared and alone and crying and full of compulsive shame, but I survived.
Some context:
I found my mom passed out on the floor the other day and it turns out she needs a heart stent for a 90% blocked artery. Untreated it would have ultimately led to a heart attack. I know I'm not the only person who's found their mother unconscious on the floor but I can't imagine it's easy for anyone.
She's doing good right now though! She's expected to make a full recovery, but the emotional toll plus CPTSD made the situation so much worse for us. It also triggered a huge breakdown ( or suspected autistic burnout ) that has left me unable to continue my retail job. That and far too many problems with the job itself. I was already pretty sure about quitting, but this for sure sped it up.
Anyway! Time to look for remote work. Again...
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I’m making a webcomic adaptation of The Hobbit! It’s an epic cool passion project that incorporates as much of Tolkien’s prose as possible while also being my own take on the story, it features a variety of different art styles to represent the worlds of different characters in Middle Earth, it’s over 100 pages long already, the art/writing keeps gradually improving over time, and you should follow it! Like, comment, and subscribe! *dabs*
Okay I admit I’m awful at ‘marketing.’ But my point stands! Follow for queer Tookish antics over the Edge of the Wild.
You can keep up by following me here at @retellingthehobbit on Tumblr. This blog posts a new 10ish-page-long chapter once a month (on the 13th), as well as assorted WIP art :3. The first chapter on tumblr is here. (I started out posting on my main @secretmellowblog, so the earlier chapters were posted there instead.)
However, I personally recommend keeping up with the comic by bookmarking it on ao3 here or subscribing on Webtoon here.
This keeps all the chapters neatly organized in one place, and also sends you an email notification whenever it updates, which is helpful because I don't update weekly :). I currently update monthly, on the thirteenth day of every month.
Thank you for reading, and I hope you enjoy!
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Meta - John's Chosen Name vs. Sarah's Chosen Name
Choice of self, choice of identity and goals/principles, it's a running theme in Malevolent.
I tallied up how John and Arthur refer to her after learning that she went by Sarah, from Part 7 when that's revealed up to Intermezzo (Part 40.5) .
John gets her name right 1 time. He fucks it up 15 times.
Arthur gets it right 5 times and fucks it up 16 times.
In total, after learning that her name is Sarah, the boys call her Sarah 6 times, and they call her Amanda 32 times.
I didn't break it down by episode, but most of the time anyone gets her name right, it's directly after getting it wrong and then correcting themselves.
"My name is Amanda Cummings; however, since I was young, I've always gone by my middle name, Sarah." -Part 7
All these themes about choosing your own purpose, defining yourself, defining your life, surviving even when it's hard, figuring it out as you go and getting through... they don't apply to Sarah. She's dead, and most of the world just calls her by her legal firstname. John and Arthur know what name she wanted to be referred to as, but they usually can't be bothered. They never correct each other and only occasionally catch themselves when they get it wrong.
That's a bummer!
I have advice for remembering new names (and/or genders; this usually comes up with trans people ime): practice. Sit down and practice your language skills regarding the person. It's not enough to have good intentions; it's not enough that you know you respect them and their identity. Your language parts of your brain are wired the way they're wired after weeks, months, years of the other way. Practice will deeply rewire them. Intentions are important but they're not enough.
EXAMPLE:
You know 👷♂️ as HE/HIM PATRICK. One day, 👷♂️ said, "I want to be known as SHE/THEY JAMESINE." The language centers in your brain for 👷♂️ are hooked up to HE/HIM PATRICK. Intention and a bit of thoughtful gender meditation will probably reroute most of your HE/HIM feelings about 👷♂️, but if switching people's name/pronouns is something you struggle with, only practice will get your language about 👷♂️ to where it needs to be if you want to avoid really bumming her out. So, practice sentences about 👷♂️ SHE/THEY JAMESINE, especially if and when you catch yourself getting it wrong, whether that's mentally or verbally. Write them on paper, think them in your head, and say them out loud. You need to work new verbal pathways that associate 👷♂️ with JAMESINE and SHE/THEY.
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So tonight I ended up getting really sucked into 7’scarlet an Otome game illustrated by the fe three houses illustrator chinatsu kurahana, where the first character I romanced is the guy who is not only voiced by subaru mr ensemble stars but sounds and acts exactly like subaru - but less normal…………
He even looks like subaru. HIS DAD IS DEAD TOO. This is crazy.
The story so far is surprisingly tense and creepy at times. I was really drawn into the mystery but also every characters natural voice acting and dynamic with each other. It’s really good so far guess I gotta 100% this one…
There’s even a guy who kind of acts and looks like chiaki ensemble stars. This game really combines my interests lol
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