#a lesbian and i'm sticking to that

[buffy-annes]

Missy Peregrym as Hayley Graham in STICK IT (2006)

[nighttimenothings]

it's so easy to find someone attractive, but it's harder to find someone who's in tune with their emotions and knows how to regulate it?? like finding someone emotionally stable, or at the very least, knows how to communicate what they need is so very difficult.

not saying i'm the perfect example of that, but just Trying is enough, you know? being unable to communicate or being mature about what you need and can give a partner is the quickest way to turn me off, honestly. it's just so simple and clear-cut to me, and when someone else can't meet me there, it's just immediately a no from me.

it's not my job to fix someone or change them. i mean, yeah, i can communicate how i feel with someone, but if they can't or won't address the issue, i just don't feel like it's worth sticking around. my mental health deserves better. *i* deserve better.

i think about this a lot actually, and it all comes back down to, like, the bare minimum. people settle for the bare minimum literally every single day. i hear "oh, but they're nice and funny" all the damn time. okay??? and??? so your partner is playing limbo with a bar in hell. good! great! but you deserve so much more than that?? why should you be settling for less??

every and all relationships are a two way street. it's a give and take system. you should be able to talk to each other, and if not, that's something to reflect on.

[cutecats789]

Currently playing Tales of Vesperia, and was anyone gonna tell me that Rita is super gay for Estelle, or was I just supposed to find out myself?

[owlsundermybed]

'Bury me next to you in an unmarked grave, Joy. We knew that was the only hope we ever had–that we would live to see it through...and pray for our own cessation. Oh, we'll still hate each other my dear, we have hated each other too long and too passionately to stop...but my bones will rest easy next to your bones.'

[al-the-remix]

Years pass but people still remain gross about WAGs. And now they dress it up with “intellectual” terms like industrial complex and post-colonial supremacist whatchamacallit. Give me the messy puck bunny blogs at least they’re open about hating WAGs.

Yeah, I can't say I have many complex things to say on the topic, except that that dialogue has been in this fandom forever (all fandoms forever; tumblr, the birthplace of the 'not-like-other-girls-girl') but it's especially bad in rpf and I'm exhausted of reading the same tired iterations on "well, I could NEVER understand how another woman could live like that--" STOP. Just stop it, it's not your life, and it's likely never going to be your life, for all the aforementioned unfair reasons. You don't have to compare yourselves to them constantly. It doesn't make you lesser or them better for being (presumably) born into a more privileged circumstance and it doesn't make them lesser and you better for achieving some enlightened pearl of knowledge.

The puck bunny blogs irk me just as much, and if you find one better than the other I guess it's more a question of what rolls your stomach more: spite or smugness. But in my opinion, calling Kathy an ageing escort that Sid pitty dates is just as nauseating as talking down your nose about her like she's some ignorant waif that cant make her own decisions about her life or her relationship.

Yes, the NHL is an intrinsically racist, misogynistic, homophobic, capitalist, fatphobic--and all the other bad terrible things--nightmare creature whose ailment runs all the way up to the giant sucking malignancy attached to its heart that is Garry Bettman and Bill Dayley, and further, to the executives that they shill for, and even further back to the time period, tenets, and culture that the sport was founded on. Remember, this is the same organization whose administrative and players (retired and current) repeatedly spit in the face of their teammates who've suffered chronic and debilitating injuries, and continue to mock journalists and veterans who try to bring those issues to the forefront, stating that the injury is worth it to win -- (or that the possibility of injury is worth it, considering these comments so often come from players that are still relatively hale).

Hmmm, sounds incredibly familiar to the position the NHL takes on another rampant issue in the sport: sexual assault.

There's a reason why the NHL is falling behind in popularity (and in value) compared to other sports organisations and it's because they cling to their archaic values and methods and flat-out refuse to let them go -- and thus attract players and administrative and fans who find all that entails appealing. It's not everyone in the sport obviously but it's a large enough faction to keep things stagnant -- just go take a look at Ian Kenedy's twitter page and start scrolling through the replies to his tweets if you want a taste of what we're up against here.

If you want to do anything, ANYTHING AT ALL to help improve the hockey culture, there are multiple avenues to explore that might actually make a difference --first of all getting involved in your community not just the internet community-- in chipping away at who this game attracts, how they see themselves, how they see others, how they see hockey players, and how those hockey players see themselves and others. Those avenues do not include dunking on wags. I get it, they all look the same, haha. it's weird, their children and husbands can't tell them apart, hahaha. There, I said it too and now I never have to hear that fucking joke again. Move ON.

I understand that the lines between reality and fiction can blur easily when it comes to rpf, but making actually, completely serious judgements on other people's private emotional lives and relationships is completely out of the realm of reality. You can't know, you can never know completely. It can be difficult enough to identify these things when it comes to a friend or a family member how are you possibly going to make a pronouncement that someone's relationship is stale or without intimacy or connection when literally have no idea who they really are? I've been stalked and I've had people write fanfiction about me and I can 100% say that what they gleamed of who I was and what my life was like from the outside did not run true.

Analyzing those aspects and their intersexuality is worthwhile -- if anyone has an actual interest in these topics I suggest reading: Wille O'ree's biography, Bern Saunder's biography, Fred Sasakamoose's Call Me Indian, Black Ice: The Lost History of the Colored Hockey League of the Maritimes by Darril and George Frosy, On Account of Darkness by Ian Kennedy, Why I didn't say anything by Sheldon Kennedy, Crossing The Line by Laura Robinson, Major Misconduct by Jeremy Allingham, Finding Murph by Rick Westhead -- There are more than that if you're willing to dig for them ... but especially after the back to back Kyle Beach and Hockey Cannada lawsuits I've just had it to up to here with the takes about the ~uwu poor hockey men~~ and their repressed homosexual longings and lack of overall male intimacy and companionship --- who do you think is doing said repressing?? THE HORRIBLE UWU MEN. (Said in exaggeration and jest but also not fucking really.) They are victims unto themselves. 99% refuse to speak up or do anything about the inequality, harassment, and overall intrinsic issues in the sport, the ones who bravely do are shunned by the others who refuse to help themselves or others. They don't see themselves as emotionally underdeveloped manchildren stranded on the frigid island of masculine solitude and arrested development. They like their lives, they don't care about what kind of impact that lifestyle has on other people (or on the environment or on the economy). They like their cookie-cutter world, conservative sandbox and comfortable wealthy liberalism... and most of all they like their hot blond skinny wives and they don't care what sort of social constructs have led to them pursuing a very specific type of woman. The vast majority of them have zero interest in having their eyes opened to a more complex and diverse worldview and it's not the fault of anyone but themselves, least of all the women who get pulled along in their wake.

[inkyu]

Hey remember a few seconds ago how I said i'll doodle June Egbert? well here it is now because I'm impaient DFKGBDJHFGB

(this is my second time drawing June, my frist one is unpublished and will never see the light of day unless someone asks to see her X.X)

[mad-raptorzzz]

[ID: Three sketches of a LeafWing dragon Sundew and one sketch of a LeafWing dragon Willow from Wings of Fire. The first Sundew has standard proportions, but is buff and strong. The second Sundew is very blocky in shape and is very buff. The third Sundew is smaller and lanky, wiry in build. Willow is fall and elegant, almost like a unicorn. /End]

I did the thing. I do really like buff rectangle Sundew a lot. And may end up adopting her as a final Sundew design. But also imagine short queen Sundew and Willow having to bend down to giver her smooches. Because that's great.

[formerweirdgirl]

old screenshot but holy fuck the audacity? "convinced her she's still a valid lesbian and its transphobic not to date me"

[sidheboggle]

so basically u believe lesbians cant be fags because fag means "mlm" but it literally doesnt. give me one source where that is said

Nah nigga miss me with this discourse 😭😭😭 do what you want forever I'm not your mommy or daddy, and as a bisexual person the last thing I want to do is impose like. Rules onto other people. I don't care. I'm secure enough in my sexuality that someone using Special Words "wrong" means nothing to me.

However, what I am saying (assuming this is about my tags on the "fagdyke as an identity has morphed into a sign of being homophobic/transmisogynistic rather than just another way of being") is that there are a lot of people who are fagdykes on this site but seem to kiss the memo on uh...what a faggot is. Yes, lesbians, and bi women as well, can be faggots-ask any transfem/transmasc person who are part time dudes/women or identify as men and women...ask ME, if you want. But its really weird to see people identify this way piss and shit and moan about gay men+gnc men+trans women+really any amab/masc/transfeminine queer sexuality or just not participate in faggotry at all yet call themselves this.

I guess my point, and many people's point is that why identify this way if you have no cocksucker tendencies+you can't be normal about other cocksuckers/people who identify with being a faggot, which is half the label. It's very tiresome trying to meet others like you and they're a masc/butch woman that thinks fagdyke is a variant of butchness where you win lesbianism but now you call yourself a new word when it's more about (in MY OPINION-everyone sees it differently) identifying with both gay men and women in some way and expressing yourself in that way, hence the mishmash of slurs. The last thing people need is trying to find others like them just to be hit with the "I hate faggots they're all predators and oppress me and make me and my wombyn sisters feel unsafe" beam when visiting a so-called fagdyke's blog.

If anything, I'd rather get an ask explaining that than an ask accusing me of being a gatekeeper. Do what you want forever. What I want to know is what the appeal of this label is to people that have all dyke no fag in them AND disgust for faggy people and trans women. Like why do this. Lol

[starry-skies-116]

iiiiiit's Lumity hours y'all and my brain is rotting from the sweet fluff that is cute and authentically written queer couples right now!

so my headcanon is that Luz isn't 'dumb' or 'dense' or 'oblivious' for not recognizing Amity's crush on her until they both cross the threshold of reciprocated romantic affection. My headcanon is that Luz can recognize social cues, sarcasm, body language, etc. when it's used on other people FROM other people (hence why she knew Huntlow was a thing when they returned back to BL in S3)... it's just that she can't recognize those same things when they're used on her.

And another part of it is she's probably been rejected from so many relationships by her peers due to her neurodivergence, so she's adopted the mindset of 'people don't really like me, and even when they do they only just tolerate me' and is genuinely surprised when she learns that "oh my gosh oh my gosh oh my gosh Amity actually LOVES me romantically and wants to commit to a relationship to me as?? *checks notes* as... G-GIRLFRIENDS!? She LOVES me? ME, of all people? Sounds fake imo but k-" Like, I guarantee you she was the kid who got fake 'asked out' as a practical joke played on her by her peers because "haha dumb nerd kid nobody will ever love you" and Amity straight pulled out a powerpoint slideshow and said "here's 100 reasons why you're deadass w r o n g b i t c h"

[makiruz]

Oh my god, this fucking asshole, @ms-hells-bells (it's okay she blocked me for exposing her), has multiple posts and discussions insisting that Caster Semenya is actually male and was raised as a man; because she wore boy's clothes as a child and feels more comfortable with boys and men and finds women attractive even though she is a woman; she calls it "male socialization" but normal people call it "being a butch lesbian"

(for the record, she openly identifies as a lesbian)

[ladyseidr]

the fact that i've unironically been thinking for months abt how i don't write enough wlw ships ( or ships w/ my nb muses! ) nowadays compared to mlm and m/f like—

[circus-clownn]

GIRLFRIENDS

the one with the pink hairs name is rosemary<3

and the other one I'm leaning to Roseanne, but I guess if anyone has ideas

I might also draw body references for them (tattoos, scars, shapes)

they love each other

[antiyourwokehomophobia2]

And what is the reason 😭

Context: Anon is asking me why it's harder for my gf to convince me to watch dungeon meshi over hazbin hotel.

It's because Dungeon meshi heavily triggers my gaybait senses. I don't know if it's the content in the actual manga or the fandom acting like lesbian intent is actually canon when it's not or both, but I don't want to get invested in a show where I hope and hope (and get baited into thinking) that two prominent female characters end up together, just to have my hopes dashed. I'm honestly super tired of stories where lesbian couples/subtext are dangled in our faces as a "ha ha" as if the idea two characters could actually be gay is laughable and something to only ever tease people with but never make canon.

[nexus-nebulae]

muffy you're not my helper anymore you don't have to wait for me here every day,,,,,

[your-mothers-wife]

I want to write one of those books where a woman marries the king just to kill him, and instead of the cliche "Wow, he's not as monstrous as I thought" and decides not to kill him, I will write a book that deceives the reader into thinking it to be the cliche, when instead I will have her go through with her plan and murder the king, then run of with her bestie handmaiden and they get married. I think that will be a much better alternative.