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aena-blue · 3 months

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Manifestation - The Train Analogy (Bridge of Incidents & Wavering/Doubting)

Hello everyone! This is another short post to cover a simple topic under the umbrella term manifestation to hopefully shed some light on the topic.

Today I will be sharing with you an analogy regarding the bridge of incidents (BOI) which also covers when you are wavering & doubting. This analogy came to me during a meditation today and I found it to be helpful so I thought I would share!

During a meditation today my higher self, or higher consciousness, however you want to think of it, spoke to me and told me that when I have a desire, the desire becomes my destination. To reach my destination, the Universe puts me on the fastest train possible there.

What this train is, depends on your self concept, what you believe is possible, and what you believe is possible for yourself to achieve and experience. If you have little to no resistance towards your desire, the Universe sticks your ass onto a bullet train (super fast trains in Japan if you haven't heard of them!).

Now, when you are wavering and doubting the outcome of your desire, this is like a stop along the way to your destination. When you doubt, you get off at a station that is before the end of your destination. Standing on this platform, you now have a choice. You can remain here and choose to not continue on your journey to your desired outcome, or, you can get your ass back on the train. The choice is yours.

Sometimes you may stop for a while on this platform because you recognise that your ass was on a slow moving train from the 1800s. So maybe you pause for a bit, and work on your self concept. You clear out the blockages and resistances that is slowing you down. (Note that I said slow you down, but not stopped!). Now that you are ready, your new train rolls into the station and it is a much quicker one!

Sometimes, doubt only lasts for a little while, and you are able to get back onto the train towards your destination quickly.

The beautiful thing about this analogy is that it shows your wavering and doubt as simply temporary stops along the way, you always have the ability to get back onto the train and reach your final destination, your desired outcome.

The train, even if slow, will still move towards it. Anything you desire, you can have. The only thing slowing your down is your own beliefs about the possibility of you having it. Erase your fears, worry and doubts through self concept work, and things will move much faster. And even if you still doubt from time to time, you can always get your ass right back on that bullet train towards your desire. So just lean back, relax, and keep your mind focused on the end, on your destination, the Universe will take you there in the fastest possible way.

I hope that this was helpful! :)

I now offer email coaching on my Etsy Shop: https://aenabluetarot.etsy.com/ for anyone who needs help, assistance, guidance or just a cheerleader for their manifestation journey.

You can email me or use the “ask me” function for anything that might be on your mind, or on your heart. I am here for you all, always. Please note that the Ask Me’s are only open for dream interpretation, general questions or advice at this time.

Please consider supporting my intention & affirmation art business in return for my time and energy by making a purchase or sharing my shop on any of your social media, every page click helps my business grow and I appreciate all of your support.

You can get a sticker for about $2 and if you make a purchase and send me an email to let me know what you bought I will happily give you a free 3 card reading for a question of your choice or 1 free email for manifestation coaching, regardless of the cost of your purchase! 🧡

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Much love and light to you all and to the universe 💛💜

~ Lady Blue 💙

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aena-blue · 3 months

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Hello everyone! This is another short post to cover a simple topic under the umbrella term manifestation to hopefully shed some light on the topic. Today I am posting a short little video about the most helpful thing I learned from the Law of Attraction.

As a side note, the book I am referring to is called "The Astonishing Power of your Emotions" by Esther & Jerry Hicks

I now offer email coaching on my Etsy Shop: https://aenabluetarot.etsy.com/ for anyone who needs help, assistance, guidance or just a cheerleader for their manifestation journey.

If you'd like to donate to my channel/blog I gratefully receive energy donations via Paypal, every little helps! 🧡

For anyone that feels so inclined I do have an Etsy Shop for tarot readings.

Much love and light to you all and to the universe 💛💜

~ Lady Blue 💙

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aena-blue · 4 months

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Hello everyone! This is another short post to cover a simple topic under the umbrella term manifestation to hopefully shed some light on the topic. Today is just a light-hearted video about a story I read on Reddit regarding manifestation.

I now offer email coaching on my Etsy Shop: https://aenabluetarot.etsy.com/ for anyone who needs help, assistance, guidance or just a cheerleader for their manifestation journey.

If you'd like to donate to my channel/blog I gratefully receive energy donations via Paypal, every little helps! 🧡

For anyone that feels so inclined I do have an Etsy Shop for tarot readings.

Much love and light to you all and to the universe 💛💜

~ Lady Blue 💙

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aena-blue · 1 year

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Manifestation - Whatever You Say Goes

Hello everyone! This is another short post to cover a simple topic under the umbrella term manifestation to hopefully shed some light on the topic.

Today’s topic is simply: Whatever you say goes. What do I mean by this? Well, this is YOUR reality, it is your creation, you get to make up some, if not all of the rules of your creation.

There are many different techniques one can use to help direct their energy, their intentions, thus manifesting specific outcomes, but what works well for one, might not work as well for another. You have to find what works best for you.

At it’s core, manifesting is easy and effortless. If you have no contradicting thoughts or beliefs, it can be as easy as deciding that you are someone different or that you have something you didn’t have before, and it appears in your reality at record speed. It is about shifting from a version of yourself that does not have your desire, into a version of you that does.

My sister gave me a good example of a simple manifestation I did that has had long term beneficial results - when I quit smoking. I was a smoker for years, had quit a few times but picked it back up every time. Then one day I decided I didn’t want to be a smoker anymore, I didn’t identify with being a smoker, I didn’t want to be unhealthy and I did not want to smell bad. It was simply not who I was. So I just quit. Cold turkey, and that was about 14 years ago now.

Now that was easy because I did not want to be a smoker anymore and I had never identified myself as someone that was addicted. But when manifesting is made easy, that’s how quick it goes. From one day to the next, you become another you, the you that has your desire. The first step is to decide what you want. Decide what you want and make clear why you want it. Now, make it clear who the version of you that has your desire is. What does this version look like, talk like, dress like, think like, act like and feel like? If it’s for a specific person, what does the partner of your specific person look like, think like, act like? The answer should be mostly exactly who you are, with one key difference, the version of you that is already in a relationship with your specific person doesn’t think and feel from a place of lack. The version of you that is with your person probably feels calm, secure, knowing that they are texting you any minute and asking you out on a date, right?

Cultivate that version, in any way that works for you. Be it via scripting, visualising, self-hypnosis, meditation, affirmations or a combination of several things. Through out the day, either affirm or think ‘from the end’, from the version of you that has your desire. Play with your mind, your imagination, take pleasure and joy in it.

You want to be filthy rich? Throughout the day, think about all the things you are going to be buying, all the vacations you will be taking. Imagine yourself on a sunny beach with your favourite drink in hand, taking it easy and relaxing.

When you practice the above techniques, and use your imagination to your advantage, over time, the new thoughts become natural to you and become your true self. Once you truly believe in the version of your reality you want to create (some people state 51% belief is all you need) over the one you are currently living, then your reality and your life will change accordingly. It is only a matter of time before your desired reality shows up in your current physical experience. But in a way, it is already here right now, the 3D that is reflecting your experience usually just takes a minute to buffer and load your new programming.

To return to the topic, whatever you say goes. You decide what is the best way to get there, what works best for you. You decide the rules. You decide there are no setbacks. You decide there is no going back. You decide there is no failure. You decide that you can never get it wrong and that you are always getting it right. You decide that you know how to get there, easily and naturally. You decide that this is your life, so you create it, however you want. You decide.

I now offer email coaching on my Etsy Shop for anyone who needs help, assistance, guidance or just a cheerleader for their manifestation journey.

If you'd like to donate to my channel/blog I gratefully receive energy donations via Paypal, every little helps! 🧡

For anyone that feels so inclined I do have an Etsy Shop for readings.

Much love and light to you all and to the universe 💛💜

~ Lady Blue 💙

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aena-blue · 2 years

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Timeless General Reading All Signs - Words of Encouragement From Spirit to You

Hello everyone! It's been a minute, I thought that a general reading might be helpful to the collective at this time :) Feel free to suggest a topic in the comments or send an ask me if you want to be anonymous! Remember that these are general readings and it may not resonate for everyone so take what does, and leave what doesn’t.

Libra: The Fool walks his own path, but he is happy, so who cares what other thinks? You do you Libra, do what makes you happy, even if you have to walk alone on your path for a while. Because doing what makes you happy is what's going to allow your desires to flow to you!

Gemini: Spirit is highlighting money, finances and career in your cards and is encouraging you to take back control, or try to be more in control in this area. As you work on your financial success and abundance, this will open up the door for love to flow through. Don't ask me how it works, but it will, (well actually I have a few explanations, send me an ask me if you want to know!)

Aquarius: This is a very specific message so may not resonate for a lot of you. I'm seeing a recent break up or split in the cards and Spirit wants you to know that this period of sadness, of being alone, is exactly what was meant to happen for you at this time. Trust the process, you will heal and your desires will manifest. Not to add insult to injury, for any Aquarius that are currently in a relationship, on the flip side, I see very positive energies for you and possibilities of deeper level of commitments such as marriage etc.

Scorpio: I'm getting quite the dual message for you similar (but still very different) from Aquarius (and also Gemini I suppose) and that is as things are moving forward and progressing in one area, I see upheaval and change in another. But this change is 100% a good one. So any rocky roads coming up, know that it's all part of your journey towards your desires, you will still get what you want at the end.

Cancer: I almost made this general reading based on the Death card due to the energies of change that I've been picking up on strongly especially today but I didn't and here we are, all the readings seem to speak about significant shifts and changes and yours is no different Cancer. I see a period of not necessarily sadness but also not really satisfaction, a bit of uncertainty, not knowing what to do, what to choose, where to go, what to create, who to be with. Spirit wants you to know that you do not have to make any decision right now, and that any decision forced will quite frankly not be very good. So take some time, take a time out, and let the answers come when they, and you, are ready to hear and act upon them.

Pisces: I see a lot of shifts in the energies of your reading too, but not action. In fact, Spirit is calling you to surrender to non-action. There are so many things and parts moving around at this time, but none of them you have to control or try and influence. Take some time, chill out, so many things are working out and falling in place for you :) If you are waiting on a contract of some kind (work, a house, marriage etc) I see this happening without you having to worry or lift a finger to make it happen! (Although of course, file any papers that you need to!)

Taurus: You have the most interesting set of cards so far my dear Taurus. I feel that Spirit is encouraging you to speak your truth. It may be scary, or there may be some backlash, but it will be worth it. Don't hold back how you truly feel my dear Taurus, your truth is valid and deserves to be heard.

Virgo: You feel stuck because you are resisting change. This is perfectly normal but Spirit wants you to know that your negative thoughts, fear and doubts, are real to you, but only serve to hold you back. This change is worth it, it is, it will move you closer to your truest deepest desires and happiness. Trust.

Capricorn: I sense that people are causing you some pain, heartache, or worry (will be different for all of you), and I get the sense that you have this feeling of not knowing why. Why are they doing this, why are they acting this way? Unfortunately you may never know but Spirit is trying to encourage you to not take it personally and to work on soothing and healing yourself from it. Let someone else's shitty energies be their own, there is a reason why this is happening, a bigger picture to it all. This is temporary. Trust.

Leo: Slow your roll Leo. I feel your enthusiasm, your eagerness, your willingness for things to happen. And things are working, progressing, they are. But there is not a whole lot you can do at this time, focus on good times and not much else. Everything else will flow and fall into place when you focus on having fun :)

Aries: Sad times inspire good times. Without the sadness, you would not feel as good when the good times do come back around. Try to remember that, that the sadness serve a purpose, don't judge it. Your difficult days inspire positive days with ease and flow with time. I see you feeling unsure on what to do now, how to change or fix things. Don't try to be ready before you are ready, and you will know when you are. But when you are ready, I see love and good times coming back to you, easily and effortlessly.

Sagittarius: What is right for you, will be for you, will happen for you. Similar to Pisces, Spirit is indicating that you can rest now, for Spirit is on the case. All you have to do is to remember how worthy and valuable you are, for you truly are, when you are able to hold and maintain that energy, everything else falls into place, easily and effortlessly. Spirit surely has a plan for you, and I see the wheels turning and good things coming your way :)

I hope this helps and resonates.

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If you’d like to donate to my blog I gratefully receive energy donations via Paypal, every little helps! 🧡

If you’d like to purchase a tarot reading from me you can do so on my etsy shop.

Much love and light to you 💛💜

~ Lady Blue 💙

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aena-blue · 1 year

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Manifestation - Energy Force vs Energy Flow

Hello everyone! This is another short post to cover a simple topic under the umbrella term manifestation to hopefully shed some light on the topic.

Duck analogy incoming. So as per a previous post, all is energy, you, me, everything in the Universe, all energy, all energy vibrating and all connected, always, at all times.

When you think about something, you are focusing part of your energy towards that thing. Now if I would ask you to think of a duck, (assuming you have neutral feelings and beliefs regarding ducks), you will think of a duck, easily, effortlessly, without emotions tied to it. Just a duck. Make it any duck you want. Now your energy is directed towards the experience of seeing a duck. Now you and the duck have established an energetic connection. Because energy always flows in both directions. Sometimes you only have to think about it once, but sometimes a few times will do the trick. So think of a duck a few times a day for a couple of days. This is energy in flow, it is easy and not forced, it just is.

If you do this it won’t take long before you start seeing ducks everywhere. Some will say they were always there and you just didn’t notice, because you weren’t thinking of ducks. But it does not matter, what matters is that your thoughts create your reality, and by thinking of ducks, you are now seeing ducks everywhere. You have manifested the experience of ducks via energetic flow which is the energy of allowing. Now all manifestations can be this easy.

Now energy with force would be similar, but you are forcing yourself to constantly think of ducks, and you actually don’t like ducks all that much, or ducks remind you of a bunch of negative feelings that you carry inside. Maybe you don’t feel worthy of seeing lots of ducks. Whatever it is, it makes your thinking of ducks to be a strenuous exercise, it is forced. Because you only needed a small amount of energy directed towards ducks, but you used a lot of it, now there is excess energy.

You will probably still start seeing evidence of your manifestation, there will be more ducks in your life experience, but it is more likely to be chaotic or sporadic. Perhaps someone will throw a duck in your face, or you will see the most amazing beautiful duck one day, then no ducks for 10 days, which will make you sad and miss that one beautiful duck that you did see, and you’ll start to wonder why you only saw the one duck. That one little evidence of your creation. It’s because you tried too hard, because you used too much energy, and that energy has to go somewhere and that energy seems to just go in circles. You are still thinking about ducks, but not from a place of flow and allowing, thus the experience does not flow easily into your experience.

Does this duck analogy make sense? Manifestation is simple, and calling things into your experience, is simple, in it’s essence. You do not need to use a lot of energy, and you do not need to force it.

Now the human condition obviously complicates this, because we often do have feelings, strong feelings, for what we wish to manifest. But that often leads to excess energy bouncing around in your experience, and it tends to get destructive.

I highly recommend meditations and mastering emotional self regulation in order to experience a more peaceful life in general, but also to help detach, remove desires from pedestals, to manifest from a place of calm and ease.

What you desire, desires you. What you want, wants you. There is no need for force. Your person wants to be with you. The money wants to be in your bank account. If you can accept this truth, then manifesting becomes that much easier, and faster too.

I now offer email coaching on my Etsy Shop for anyone who needs help, assistance, guidance or just a cheerleader for their manifestation journey.

If you'd like to donate to my channel/blog I gratefully receive energy donations via Paypal, every little helps! 🧡

For anyone that feels so inclined I do have an Etsy Shop for readings.

Much love and light to you all and to the universe 💛💜

~ Lady Blue 💙

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aena-blue · 2 years

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Red Flags - Episode 01: Communication

Hello all you wonderful souls and beings. I started writing a blog post a while ago to discuss the various red flags I failed to see or acknowledge in a past relationship. The post got very long very quickly so I figured it might be best to give each red flag it’s own ‘episode’ in order to be able to have a more general talk and discussion about it. As I finished this post I realised this too got really long but it is an important subject so I hope it will resonate.

I find that too many people, like myself, find themselves blindsided by emotionally abusive individuals and I think the best way to fight back is to spread awareness so that hopefully someone else will think twice and walk away before any significant damage has been done.

Note that all my posts will tend to be general and that exceptions always apply, but there is never an exception or acceptable reason for someone to treat you badly. Use your own discernment, trust your gut instinct and intuition, your body will often alert you to danger before you have become consciously aware of it, learn to listen to yourself <3

I thought that ‘Communication’ would be a good starting point as it is a very wide and broad topic but definitely something to pay attention to. I’m going to try to stick to some more subtle communication red flags as it’s easy to recognise that something is wrong when someone is outright telling you horrible things, but know that I understand how hard it is to wake up and leave even when the abuse is so obvious, the cycles of abuse and trauma are always difficult to break regardless.

So these are some maybe not so subtle in hindsight communication red flags, most of which has been directly lived and experienced by myself so I will be the first person to admit how easy it is to fail to recognise these and/or brush them away.

The inconsistent communicator.

When you first start meeting someone there would normally be some kind of adjustment period as they (and you) are fitting a new person into your/their life. This should be a gradual process (moving too quickly is going to be a separate post so stay tuned for that). So at the beginning there may be a period of time before you settle into a rhythm of your communication, which time a day you may be texting and calling each other and which days you have stuff going on (night class, childcare, gym etc). Some days you and they may have more time on their hand than others, so far perfectly natural and normal. Assuming you in these times schedule and actually spend quality physical time with each other, no biggie. Same goes if your person is not big on ‘online’ communication but make time to see you ‘offline’ on the regular, that is usually not something to be too concerned about (but remember, exceptions always apply)

So where does the red flag in inconsistent communication come in? Well these are all the times your person seem to suddenly vanish of the face of the earth while in the middle of texting you. They will usually not explain this behaviour or say something that doesn’t actually explain it. Examples from my own life includes a lot of texts (after 1-2 days) saying how they slept for a really long time. Now I know that no human (unless sick) sleeps for 24-48h, so obviously this was not the reason they suddenly stopped texting me and took a day or two to reply. But being the overly nice chill person I was, I let it slide every time. Any attempt to question this would only lead to one of two things, a second convenient explanation (excuse) or some kind of passive/aggressive defensive response.

Note that of course a person can’t always be available and will sometimes fail to text you back the same day but this is not what this is referring to. You should be able to recognise and feel within yourself when this happens for it will be frequent (a pattern) so the norm rather than the exception. The purpose this serves is to manage and set expectations. Assuming you put up with this crap, you will be conditioned to know that at any time you may stop receiving responses and to not ‘fuss’ about it. The communication part of your relationship will seem to be always only on their terms, and that’s not right.

(Basically with all of the red flags I will go through, they serve to break down your standards and boundaries, often subtly and gradually, to condition you to put up with all of their crap so that the relationship can be more or less completely on their terms)

You will primarily see these patterns with people who tend to only or mostly be texting you and are not making plans to see you regularly. A person who appears to be keeping your relationship, budding or more established, in the realm of texting you is NOT (and this sucks to hear) that interested in you and are certainly not investing in you in the way they should be at this point. I know there are some of you that will read this and try to argue against this statement for the person you know that does this to you, does it for some other reason. They are just that busy or ‘insert any other reason here’. But the truth is, as stated in my previous blog post, if they wanted to, they would. And if they’re not even trying, just cycling the same excuses on repeat, then you know, deep down you know, that they’re not choosing you. (And I certainly do know first hand the pain of that so I love you and I trust that you will learn to put yourself first before any other person like this ever again).

Ask yourself genuinely and honestly, do you want a textationship? If not, then you might want to start considering moving on as there are certainly plenty of people out there who would want a relationship in person with you.

Now back to the post. So a person who is very unreliable when it comes to their communication with seemingly no reason is a RED FLAG when this is someone you are dating or in a relationship with. There will certainly be times when your person is communicating with others but there really is rarely any good reason to drop a conversation for 1, 2, 3 or 5 days especially without offering any sensible explanation. Any person who is essentially ‘bread crumbing’ you with their communication is not very invested in you even if they are in a relationship with you and this should not be ignored. Do not accept crumbs leaving you starved for the cake. There is no cake. The cake is a lie.

‘Love bombing’ in the context of the inconsistent communicator

Love bombing is also going to be a separate post but love bombing in the context of the inconsistent communicator is definitely worth a mention. So your person drops off the texting for a day or two, three or five, then reappears with a sweet text, a little random compliment? RED FLAG. This text is meant to lower your guard, for you to forgive their inconsistent non-investing ass, and for you to respond sweetly in turn. Who the hell when disappearing for several days doesn’t turn around and say “Sorry I didn’t message you last night/last couple of days - insert sensible reason here -” but instead says something like “You’re pretty” or similar. Um. I’ll tell you right now, that’s not normal. (Exceptions always apply!). Same goes with the person who has no problem declaring they miss you or have missed you when you haven’t seen each other in awhile then turn right around and stay inconsistent and don’t make efforts to make plans to see you again with the old “I’ll let you know”. All of this can be considered frosting, it’s sweet, it tastes good, but it is not the cake and the cake is what you want and deserve. (Credit to Mirax for the frosting analogy) Anyone who seem to be keeping you almost at arms length with their inconsistency especially if you are in a relationship/dating, they don’t miss you they miss whatever it is that you provide for them and how you make them feel. Now this is a tough pill to swallow, trust me I know. But the way you make someone feel (and the opposite is true in reverse) is the single most important thing in any connection. How do they feel when they are with you? Do they feel loved, taken care off, spoiled, appreciated, sexually attractive? Etc. If you make them feel this way then of course this is something they are going to want, and want more of. Unfortunately this is not a measure of how much they love you. You can be (and you probably are!) one of the greatest people on this planet, but that does not mean a person will love or fall in love with you. The worst thing about this is of course that these people will take advantage of all the wonderful things you provide, knowing full well you love them (or you think you do) and desire that in return, without loving you back in the same way.

So the single most important question you need to ask yourself in any connection, romantic or otherwise, how do they make you feel? Insecure, crazy, unvalued, unappreciated, not chosen/not a priority etc?

Do you feel loved? If the answer to that is only sometimes and occasionally, it probably isn’t love. If all the other times you feel like sh*t essentially, then it definitely isn’t love, even when it feels like it. I promise you I know that it feels like it, but it isn’t love. True love between two people is never one sided.

A relationship needs to add value to both parties (value is not just money) and both parties need to feel fulfilled and have their emotional needs met. If you are left with less then I hope that you take some time to re-evaluate your situation and re-invest your time and energy into things and people that gives a better return.

You can email me or use the “ask me” function for anything that might be on your mind, or on your heart. I am here for you all, always. Please note that the Ask Me is only open for dream interpretations, general questions and personal advice at this time.

Please consider supporting my intention & affirmation art business in return for my time and energy by purchasing or sharing my shop on any of your social media, every page click helps my business grow and I appreciate all of your support.

You can get a sticker for less than $2 and if you make a purchase and send me an email to let me know what you bought I will happily give you a free 5 card reading for a question of your choosing regardless of the cost of your purchase! 🧡

If you'd like to donate to my channel/blog I gratefully receive energy donations via Paypal, every little helps! 🧡

For anyone that feels so inclined I do have an etsy shop for readings or if you prefer I now also have an email where you can send requests for readings or for anything you'd like to share etc: [email protected].

Much love and light to you all and to the universe 💛💜

~ Lady Blue 💙

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aena-blue · 2 years

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Excuses Reasons and Apologies (A short story based on a real life experience)

She had a rough past. Not that it matters. The details of her life aren't important. What hell she came from, got into, or went through. No, her life before doesn’t matter.

It started out small. His actions had reasons. They always did. There were reasons for every word. For everything said and everything not said. For every time he walked away. For every time he kept her waiting. For every conversation he ended while she was talking. Her voice cut out, her words unheard. There were reasons.

"Boys aren’t very good at expressing their feelings". "He just doesn’t know what to say". "He is having a hard time dealing with his emotions". There were so many reasons. No excuses. Reasons. She made up so many of them. He never said anything.

One of the biggest reasons was her. She pushed too hard. She wanted too much. She said something stupid. She upset him. She, she, she. She did all these things. So there was always a reason. Never an excuse, only a reason.

Even at the start it didn’t feel right to her. But she ignored her feelings. It was made easy with all of these reasons. Eventually they became boyfriend and girlfriend. He would be so sweet, so sweet. But she would say or do something to disrupt the peace.

Reasons turned into apologies as she kept making them. “I’m sorry” she said every time he hurt her. Yelled at her. Hung up on her. Walked away from her. “I’m sorry” she said as he ignored her for hours. She begged. She pleaded. She bargained. “I’m sorry” she said.

Soon every single day was all about the reasons, the reasons that turned into apologies. He said nothing. It started to consume her. The fight to not be the reason. She felt a sick sense of satisfaction every hour she did not have to apologise. But it wasn’t happiness. No. She sacrificed all her time, her emotions, her strength, to keep the peace.

It felt so good every time he sounded happy. She clinged to that feeling because it felt like success. Because it felt like an accomplishment. It was a high from being good, for doing well. But it never lasted.

One word. One wrong move and it all came crashing down. “I’m sorry” she said as he insulted her. “I’m sorry” she said as he hung up the phone. There was always a reason, and he let her know that. If she hadn’t… all those things she did that upset him.

Even her apologises upset him. Saying sorry, trying to explain, trying to understand. She used to ask “Why?” but she learned that the ‘why’ was always ‘me’. She was the reason, so she kept making the apologies.

Do your research about emotional abuse, gas-lighting, narcissism (overt & covert), trauma bonding. I love you and I believe in you.

Please consider supporting my intention and affirmation art business in return for my time and energy by purchasing any of my designs or by sharing my shop on any of your social media, every page click helps my business grow and I appreciate all of your support.

You can get a sticker for less than $2 and if you make a purchase and send me an email on [email protected] to let me know what you bought I will happily give you a free 5 card reading for a question of your choosing regardless of the cost of your purchase! 🧡

If you’d like to donate to my blog I gratefully receive energy donations via Paypal, every little helps! 🧡

If you’d like to purchase a tarot reading from me you can do so on my etsy shop.

Much love and light to you 💛💜

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aena-blue · 2 years

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Red Flags - Episode 02 - Love Bombing

Hello all you beautiful souls. I am finally writing (and posting!) my red flags series for romantic connections. Even though this is meant to be a spiritual blog, one should not ignore the very real human experience we are all having on a daily basis.

One thing I did not mention in the first episode which I want to address is this: Just because a person is abusive/toxic, doesn’t mean that they are necessarily doing it on purpose. Often we can fall into the trap of insisting that a toxic/abusive person isn’t actually a bad person, because we see all the nuances of this person, we may see their kindness, what a good friend they are etc. Humans are nuanced, unless someone is a straight up sociopath, they will have good qualities too. There are many reasons why a person might act the way they do, but please do not ever let this be a reason to excuse a person who is acting in this type of way and please try to not let this be a reason to allow a person to treat you poorly. Their issues are their own, whatever they may be or however they may express themselves in connections. It is not your job to try and fix and change this person, and you probably can’t no matter how hard you try. Change, just like happiness is an inside job and it is up to the individual to work on making these changes.

Now back to today’s episode, love bombing.

Love at First Sight - Sounds like a Dream, but is it Real?

I think most of us have had that fairy tale fantasy of love that is fast, almost instantaneous, but in reality, this is rarely the case. Love and attachment is something that tends to grow over time, even with people we don’t like all that much, (consider the saying “they grew on me”). Now feeling a spark with someone is something that I believe to be real, but attraction (the spark) isn’t the same as love, being in love or falling in love. Neither should chemistry be confused with compatibility (but that is a different topic all together). Therefore, when someone is expressing an excessive amount of affection and adoration for you at an early stage, this should be considered as a red flag.

Love bombing in its simplest form is when someone gives you a lot of compliments and show you a lot of interest in the early stages, they may want to see you almost all the time, they will tell you how amazing you are, how different you are. That you are not like anyone else they have ever known. Which, if we are being honest with ourselves, how would they even know that if they have only known us for a couple of weeks (or less)?

As amazing and beautiful as you are, which I am sure is the truth, an emotionally stable person does not tend to get so enamoured and swept up so hard after just meeting and knowing you for a day, a week or just been on one date (or even before the first date in some cases!). If someone is showering with you with compliments while hardly knowing you, it is probably not all that sincere. It may actually feel real for the person doing it. But the person doing this is very likely projecting their romantic fantasies onto you, as an almost empty canvas they are throwing paint on. It is rarely based on who you actually are, and often based on who they want you to be, which obviously isn’t fair to you at all. The Double-Sided Mirror - Love Bombing Works when you Want it to too

Now this kind of projecting can easily go both ways, as I said before, most of us long for love and connection, and can easily fall into the trap of wanting to believe in the romantic fairy tale to the point that when someone shows this type of exaggerated interest in us, we want to believe it’s real, and that we finally get to have this fairy tale whirlwind love and connection. This is equally unfair, because just as this person barely knows you, you barely know this person. If you recognise yourself in this behaviour, please remember to take a moment to stop and pause and ask yourself, is this realistic? Now this is a boring question I know, because the romantic fantasy is so much better, but it is an important question none the less. Would an emotionally stable person profess their love for you on the second date? (Or any other way too early time frame?)

As exceptions always apply and you may even know people who had a very quick paced relationship that isn’t toxic, it is important that you listen to your own intuition and what you’re feeling from the connection and the other person. Red flags never come on their own, so pay attention to the overall picture and all of the small details to make your own judgement. Don’t be afraid to tell a person they might be moving too fast, that you would like to slow things down or that you need more time before you are comfortable reciprocating.

Related to Love Bombing - Over Agreement

Love Bombing isn’t just compliments or saying I love you way too soon. Love bombing can also take the form of agreeing with everything you say and being into all the same things you are into. (Usually only at the start of the relationship/dating however). It is great when we meet a like minded individual and I had this experience with a now ex of mine. I found it so amazing (and so great!) that every time I told them of an interest of mine, they said they were into the same thing. I really thought that I might have met ‘my person’, the one that is just for me due to how similar we seemed to be. This couldn’t have been further from the truth. As it turned out, a lot of the things they said they were interested in, they had little to no interest in at all. They faked liking a lot of things. This is of course done to create a bond/attachment and to further attraction.

Once you wise up on the fact that they are not in fact into all the things they claimed, chances are that you are already so attached/in a committed relationship with them that you will stay with them regardless. Basically with all of the red flags I will go through, they serve to break down your standards and boundaries, often subtly and gradually, to condition you to put up with all of their crap so that the relationship can be more or less completely on their terms.

I hope this post has been helpful and informative. If you want to share your thoughts or your experience with me you can leave a comment or you can email me ([email protected]) or use the “ask me” function for anything that might be on your mind, or on your heart. I am here for you all, always. Please note that the Ask Me’s are only open for dream interpretation, general questions or advice at this time.

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Manifestation - Layers of Belief - How to make them work for you, and when to conform to the 3D

Hello everyone! This is another short post to cover a simple topic under the umbrella term manifestation to hopefully shed some light on the topic.

Today I am finally talking about layers of belief. There is definitely more that could be said but here's my initial thoughts on it!

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aena-blue · 4 months

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Hello everyone! This is another short post to cover a simple topic under the umbrella term manifestation to hopefully shed some light on the topic.

I now offer email coaching on my Etsy Shop: https://aenabluetarot.etsy.com/ for anyone who needs help, assistance, guidance or just a cheerleader for their manifestation journey.

If you'd like to donate to my channel/blog I gratefully receive energy donations via Paypal, every little helps! 🧡For anyone that feels so inclined I do have an Etsy Shop for tarot readings.

Much love and light to you all and to the universe 💛💜

Lady Blue 💙

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Did I make the right choice in ending my relationship?

Hello and thank you for your question!

Yes.

I hope this helps and resonates.

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~ Lady Blue💙

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aena-blue · 1 year

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Hello lovely 🦋, I was just wondering what kind of messages my guides have for me at the moment.

Hello and thank you for your question!

The message I have for you is very clear. Focus on the good stuff and where you want to go, and what you want to experience on not what was and have been lost or what is undesired at this time.

I hope this helps and resonates.

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~ Lady Blue💙

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aena-blue · 2 years

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Hi Anea, I would like to ask something.

I have a childhood friend that I have since lost contact with over the years, but we grew up having parallel lives.

We also have a very strong energetic connection and many past lives together and we hang out together in dream time to relive the good memories.

Nothing bad happened between us, we just lost contact and went our separate ways, but I would really love to reconnect with T and have him be a part of my life again. How do I do that?

Hello and thank you for your question.

Well I don't believe you can ever force an outcome, but you can certainly ask the Universe for what it is that you desire, and if it is in alignment with what you truly want in your life and in the best interest for your highest good, I believe the Universe will deliver.

I watched a video yesterday that I believe came across my path just so that I could answer your question today: visualisations or daydreaming, reliving your good memories will attract this person to you. Just do that, or you can write down your favourite memories with this person, and when you do, really feel the good feelings you felt when you were with that person. Writing gratitude lists of everything you like and adore about this person might also help shift the energies towards your desires. Or of course, do all of the above.

And when you feel you have done enough, (remember what I said first, desires cannot be forced), don't do anymore. Let it go. It should all feel really natural and 'flow'. Then as long as you have the tiniest bit of faith or belief that the Universe will respond and deliver to you your desire, it will come.

I hope this helps and resonates.

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~ Lady Blue💙

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hi lady blue. i am drawn to c like there is a purpose we met. but i don’t know what that purpose is, if any. wondering if there are any messages for me at this time about the connection in general or where it might go. thank you for all your guidance and beautiful energy. you are a beautiful soul. xx

Hello and thank you for your question and your kind words The cards are indicating that there is something in C's behaviour that consciously or subconsciously reminds you of a behaviour or trait that you also possess. You are drawn to C because you want to understand this behaviour or trait. And also that you want to accept this part of yourself that you see in them. I get the sense that this may have something to do with aloofness, emotional distance or being emotionally held back in some type of way? Whatever they are holding in and holding back, resonates with a part inside of you that is also holding back. Through knowing them, you will know yourself better, and through that understanding, you will find more joy, happiness and acceptance for the future.

I hope this helps and resonates.

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aena-blue · 2 years

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Hello! Just wondering if the person I’m with right now is really the one meant for a long committed relationship. In the beginning things were really great but I’m starting to see him in a different light, we’re not seeing eye to eye too much. Not sure if this will pass or if I’m making a mistake waiting to see how things go.

Hello and thank you for your question.

Please read to the end, for this might sound rude for a minute. Does it matter? If this is your person for the long term or not. The reason I ask is this: right now there is no past and there is no future, there is only the here and now, the present. So the only thing that matters is now.

So what I want to ask you is, how are you feeling right now? You don't have to make a decision about what to do with this person right now, you just have to feel good where you are standing right this very second. You can change your mind tomorrow. How are you feeling and what do you want to do about it today? Don't rush the answer or the solution, it will come naturally if you don't force it. Just try to relax and be present in the moment, and if being with this person is making you unable to do so, then yes, this is not your person. But if you can find peace and acceptance in this moment, while still being with them, they may still not be your person, but it won't really matter because you will be at peace. What is meant for you will never pass you by, as long as you're content, you are not wasting time. Having said all that however, the cards are giving me the biggest 'nope' I have seen in a long time. This is probably not your person and what you felt was infatuation at the start, and as it simmers down, well, as you may have experienced, it's not really what you want.

I hope this helps and resonates.

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If you’d like to purchase a tarot reading from me you can do so on my etsy shop.

Much love and light to you 💛💜

~ Lady Blue💙

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