#am I Aro or am I just socially awkward

[aceoffangirls]

You know sometimes I doubt being on the aromantic spectrum but then I hear people talking about dating for fun or being in a relationship even if they know it won’t last and realise I would only be intrested in a romantic relationship if it would be endgame and would skip the dating aspect and just like be in love

[corvidshipping]

also i’m beginning to wonder if i’m just picky or if i may be somewhere on the spectrum of aro. and i don’t know honestly

[hereforthefunnyguys]

okay okay marik ishtar getting psychosexual in the club brain time. (Sorry in advance for the bigass text block. also if you are an ace/aro marik truther then A) I can see it but also B) this is very much not that. be forewarned.) I know things along these lines have been said before, but I truly cannot picture him being some kind of crazily sexually/romantically liberated flirt like you see a lot in fanon. Feel free to argue with me if you want in the reblogs or comments or whatever I am not sure about what I'm saying here. (+1500 words of Help Me under the readmore!)

He grew up underground, with no one else around but his abusive highly religious dad, personal manservant/extremely protective brother figure, and what seems to be the only even somewhat normal family relationship he has with his sister that's almost as isolated and frankly seems moderately socially awkward outside of telling mysterious prophecies. I do not think he was not getting Helpful and Informative Sex Ed, to say the least, and also if/when he started going through puberty he would have functionally nowhere to project those urges. Maybe he can get a crush on a particularly well-drawn wall carving or statue idk but the point is that he doesn't have any actual human reference for what the feelings mean other than his immediate family which is a uhhhhhh different and much more uncomfortable conversation!

Also, even when he and Rishid finally get out of there and start up the Ghouls, I don't think Rishid would bother with telling him about sex and romance as he gets older - if anything, he would be less likely to tell him, because if there's one thing Rishid would want to do as little as possible, it would be to allow more opportunities for Marik to act out in more "depraved" ways - I mean, come on, the guy already forces people to commit suicide, brainwashes them to fight in death matches, and do weird little dances in public for his entertainment (I know that one isn't as intimidating as the other ones, but I do think it's important to establish the sheer level of pettiness and self-indulgence he's at by this point.)

We've already established by this point that his ability to empathize and sympathize with other people is currently somewhere at the bottom of the Marianas trench, assuming he may not have had low empathy before then, which he might've judging by how he treats his siblings (diversity win! the arc villain has low-functioning empathy!), though that may also be due to being the "favorite" and getting what he wants all the time and not being raised to consider them real people on par with him and his father. But I digress. I do think Rishid would be at least considering the ways that those behaviors would intersect with teenage hormones, to say the least (plus the whole Yami Marik thing, which I'll discuss. Later.)

But by contrast, I don't think it makes sense to say Marik's completely innocent to the concept - he may be a very socially isolated 16 year old, but he's still like. a 16 year old. He regularly pries inside of peoples heads to manipulate them, and if you go by anime canon, he is definitely aware of very strong romantic feelings (and therefore possibly sexual ones, though maybe not? arkana ace king ig) in the form of arkana/pandora's little anime lost love scenario. Also, I think its fair to assume a Good Number of the Ghouls would possess sexual or romantic feelings as well. However. However. I am going to go out on a limb and say that learning about sex from people's personal fantasies is to sex ed what learning about how to cook from Hell's Kitchen is to chef college; everything you absorb is overdramatic, unrealistic, extremely emotionally charged, and often involves a surprising amount of violence and degradation for a day-to-day activity.

I'm going to say Marik then is Aware of sex, but doesn't fully "get" it. Like. It makes him uncomfortable to think about it for too long, and in general, it's just something Other People do. It's something he can use to get close to people (sign that says ASK ME ABOUT FEMME FATALE MARIK ISHTAR PROPAGANDA), but its not really something he fully accepts as something he would do just for the sake of it. He's aware of it, but it's still a moderately alien concept to him, at least that's how he would think about it.

Additionally, I don't think his vision of romantic love is going to be any better. In between societies massive effort to romanticize (ehehe) those specific feelings as the end-all-be-all of affection and the fact that, again, he didn't really grow up with anyone (and still really doesn't have another outlet) other than his dad and siblings as who he "loves" - I do think he loves his siblings, and, tragically enough, probably his father as well. (Thats something else people ignore a ton. We as The Audience do not like Peepaw Ishtar but Marik himself has NO clue what he did was wrong or bad or unforgivable. If anything Marik considers himself the problem for not being able to take it. But that's another convo. God I'm going all over the place today.) Anyways what I'm trying to say here is that Marik probably sees romantic love as something that's present and he should Want but doesn't quite fully understand the emotional implications of it or investment necessary to make it work. If anything he would know less about romance since while old Egyptian myths do mention sex and sexuality with fair regularity - albeit not with much that would help a clueless 12 year old that associates said myths with his imprisonment and doom - there is very little talk of True Love in there. The fact that his knowledge of marriage extends to "my mother died a horrible painful death in childbirth having me and my dad didn't really care" probably is not helping matters!

Also tying this all together is the fact that Marik seems to have a Fraught and Uneasy relationship with his own body, to say the least. Like. I'm just going to go out on a limb and say he seems to consider it just another damp, dark prison he's stuck in, one that has done nothing other than provide an easy way to hurt him and keeps him tied to the Tombkeeper legacy. And who wouldn't? The guy has a massive scar carved into his back permanently reminding him of how trapped he really. Additionally, that's another barrier to intimacy, since there's no way on Earth he's letting anyone touch his back without an INSANE amount of trust - I imagine even Rishid is somewhat suspect in allowing him to touch his back.

The only time he seems really happy is when he gets to extend his mind outside of himself, into other people's brains and giving him a sense of power in an otherwise very controlled life. So that's definitely one barrier there! How do you even begin trying to make your body feel good when all your body has felt like all your life is completely awful? Especially when it would involve letting another person have access to it in a very vulnerable state??? Nuh uh no way thank you sir but we're staying repressed forever and shoving any and all Perverse Urges into a box deep deep in our Mind Room and ignoring them until we die, which we never will because we're Special. This is to say nothing of the fact that one of his tombkeepers duties is theoretically to procreate and create a new generation of keepers which is. Wow. Another conversation entirely but for our purposes means that he already is not going to have a good relationship to that! (Bonus points if it turns out he's homosexual. I'm not saying he is gay, but layering the Problems with "not attracted to women" would be an interesting intersection.)

Anyways the cherry on top of this miserable sundae is the Existence of Yami Marik, the Good-Times Ruiner. Point number one: in between the weird sadomasochism thing he has going on and the fact that he seems significantly more physically and emotionally liberated than Marik, I think it would be fair to call him a moderately sexualized character, though not a straight-up succubus (yes I am aware the term for men is Incubus. quiet).

Point number two: Yami Marik is generally seen to represent Marik's repressed urges and grudges, so we can pretty easily make the assumption that Yami Marik being sexualized comes from an attempt to absolve Marik of such uncomfortable distractions. So there is the thought there that he considers his sexual urges on par with or at least related to his violent and vengeful ones.

Point number three: You would have thought that at least partially realizing this by the end of Battle City would result in Marik realizing he should stop repressing his emotions. But it won't! Because that's not how that Highly Functional Ishtar Brain works! It goes "I now associate sexuality with one of the worst and most publicly humiliating and traumatic times of my life, so I now consider it an Active Problem to get rid of instead of just a uncomfortable quirk of mine." So no actually I think he would be getting worse! Someone send him to a therapist please or at least figure out a way for him not to simultaneously hate himself while still hating everyone else More.

anyways tl;dr: Marik ishtar knows about an extremely warped version of sex but good lord he is repressing it fifteen feet underground. Again feel free to argue with me if you want I'd like to hear other opinions. Anyways hope yall have a nice day and thanks for reading thru all of that!

[24frogstories]

No but Andhera being in a relationship with Binx while being asexual and on the aro spectrum means so much to me, I cannot even explain. Andhera is general means so much to me, they are so relatable and so... real. Socially awkward, feeling his emotions “too much”, being shamed for it. Just. I love them and I am so thankful to see a character this relatable in media, it’s rare.

[aromantic-diaries]

kinda needed some advice from you , J and other arospec people , how do u figure out how u feel about relationships? cuz ive been in two relationships and they sucked , and the people i like and wanna be with , they are , i cant be with them for reasons. and i feel like so invalid as an aro person cuz I want a relationships or just someone to be with. It all feels so magical and i feel like i am missing out so much. I just missed all those teen experiences and now i am an adult and i just feel like , i missed out too much

Hey, I've only really been in one relationship which was long distance, and honestly it was pretty alright. I felt awkward as hell when trying to be romantic and it felt wrong to tell someone I loved them when deep down I knew I didn't, but just having someone to talk to and share stuff with is super nice. Humans are social creatures so it's perfectly normal to want someone you can rely on and it can be nice to have that one person who's there for you. I personally don't like all the kissy hand-holdsy bits and I really don't get what makes it any different from friendship, but that's my case. Relationships seemed like the best thing ever while I was an outsider but when I got into one it wasn't what I expected and I kinda learned that I only really like the companionship it comes with. There's nothing wrong with wanting a partner but you're also not missing out if you don't have one. From what I can tell, romance can be great and it can be terrible depending on the people involved

[redley-of-many-noodles]

Hello there,

Welcome to my blog.

I’m Redley. Relatively new to Tumblr still, but I’ve been finding that I’m comfy here. Though it still feels awkward (thanks, dysphoria), I prefer she/her pronouns. I don’t mind they/them, but… meh. Note that Redley is neither my legal or chosen name; it is solely a handle, and I will only tell you my chosen name if I feel comfortable with you. If I extend that trust, please treat it with respect. If you don’t, I will remember.

Here’s the main stuff I’m comfortable sharing or want you to know about me:

1) I’m transfem, but haven’t had an opportunity to do much actual transitioning yet. Dislike my voice, adore my hair. My luscious, glorious, flowing hair.

1.5) I am likely pansexual, but I haven’t done enough research to know for sure. All I know is, people are… well, people are hot.

2) I live in Florida, but was not raised here. The climate and scenery are nice; the local government sucks ass though. Also, I miss snow.

3) I’m a diagnosed autistic, falling somewhere on the high-functioning end of the spectrum. I’m on prescribed antidepressants, but have not been able to find a psychologist/psychiatrist yet because it’s fucking Florida.

4) There are a lot of things and people I don’t understand, but I’m always open to learning. Trying new food is a special passion of mine, and I’ve met some quite fascinating new people since starting this blog. (*eoughck* @potentially-a-poser *aucghk* @analogue-system *ahem*)

5) I will not tolerate hateful behavior. You will be immediately blocked for shit like denying any of the shades of aro/ace individuals as being part of the LGBTQIA+ community. If you see me spreading misinformation or saying something that excludes members of the community, please tell me. I’ll research the matter, as well as review any sources you send me.

5.5) okay so I think I’m demiromantic

6) I do not mind being tagged or sent asks or otherwise brought into conversations. People who abuse that will likely get blocked, but whatever your social anxiety is telling you probably comes nowhere near ‘abuse’ in my book. Anonymous asks are enabled, but that can likewise change if the feature is abused. Hate asks will be blocked, naturally.

7) I would prefer being asked before you directly message me. If you don’t, there is a possibility you’ll be blocked, but it’s not a guarantee. I don’t want me and my friends’ conversations getting buried by anything.

8) If you consistently and frequently post tiktok/reddit memes with little to no commentary, I may block you simply out of annoyance should you repeatedly show up on my dash. It’s not personal. If something about you makes me suspicious or uncomfortable, but not outright offended, I’ll most likely notify you of my reason before I block you.

9) Age: pick a number between 1 and 100 because it’s none of your fucking business. None of you are entitled to any of my personal information, regardless of the reason. I will share only what I want.

My Behaviors

There are certain things I gravitate towards or away from on this site. Here’s some:

1) I am most likely to follow people who are part of the LGBTQIA+ community, are mentally ill, or are dealing with some variety of personality disorder. This is mostly just due to the fact that I find the most common ground with those people. But even those who I have little common ground with, I’ll tend to find very interesting.

2) I don’t mind things like roleplay and hornyposting on my dash, but will almost certainly not interact myself, or make original posts in that category. More extreme examples won’t necessarily get you blocked or unfollowed, but… well, my filtered tags list may grow.

3) I don’t always tag reblogs. This may mean that my followers will see random things that caught my interest. It could be art, shitposting, tender affirmations, politics, or just goofy-ass Tumblr shit. If something I regularly reblog/post about bothers you and isn’t properly tagged, let me know.

4) I am discovering that maybe, I might, perhaps, be a little bit nosy. When I see someone receiving hate or suffering and stressed, I am likely to take it upon myself to do or say something to try to make them feel better. If I bother you with this, I will not be hurt or offended if you block me. In general, I will do my best to be respectful of it when people draw boundaries, so don’t hesitate to draw any you feel necessary.

5) If your intentions are pure, you will likely find that I try to be forgiving and/or understanding of your mistakes, at least in regards to interacting with me. (The /or is a very important distinction.)

6) I will often be attracted to dark, tragic, or dystopic works of art/fiction. I get a form of catharsis from such media, and some of my writing will reflect that.

That’s about it.

That’s all the important stuff I can think of, aside from tags which are at the end. Still, this post may be updated or rewritten in the future. In general, just be kind and open-minded, and we’ll get along fine. Even if you disagree with me, as long as you are civil and rational about things, I’ll likely have no problem interacting with you.

Be safe, and be yourself! <3

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[ilovedthestars]

i've gotten to a place where I am starting to feel like i'm interested in Being Out as Aro/Ace but i'm also realizing how much that's just...harder than Being Out as Gay was.

rambling under the cut, because it got long.

i'm sure part of this is still my internal hangups about not being sure, not being able to define my experiences as neatly as I'd like to, etc, but i feel like it also just...comes up less. like, i'm not gonna sit down everyone in my life and do an official Coming Out conversation. i didn't really do that the first time around, except kind of very awkwardly with my parents (blurted it out in the middle of a family activity and then hid in my room for the rest of the evening) (they were fine and i'd knew they'd be fine but it was still terrifying and also painfully awkward). i've always been the "i want to just bring this up casually and have it not be a big deal" kind of person when it comes to coming out.

and like, when i was IDing as...i keep wanting to say "queer" because that was mostly the label i used, but I was using it to mostly mean gay/lesbian, and it's not like i'm not queer anymore, so if i seem awkward about calling myself gay for clarity's sake that's why. when i was IDing as gay it was easy to just be like, haha, yeah, girls are so pretty, when it came up in discussion with fellow gay people. omg, she's gorgeous, i'm so gay, etc. those little social rituals sometimes felt shallow, but they were already in place, and there were ways for me to be like, hey, i see you, me too, and have that little queer joy bonding moment with someone else.

(sidebar: in retrospect, maybe the reason I never wanted coming out to be a Big Deal is that sexuality and romance have......never been a big deal to me. i didn't have the big dramatic crushes or a secret girlfriend or anything. i was just like, hey, girls are pretty, and assumed that would eventually translate into the desire for a relationship somewhere down the line. so far it hasn't, and i'm starting to think it might never. hence the internal crisis and the slowly accepting that i'm somewhere in the vicinity of aro/ace.)

but anyway, for coming out as aspec, those little rituals just...aren't there. the closest i've stumbled upon is listening to a friend talk about an actor's bone structure and going "i'm too ace for this," but that's a declaration I don't know if I feel comfortable making to anyone but a close friend right now. the fact that I'm not particulary GNC in my presentation and I don't think i read as "visibly queer" doesn't really help the feeling that, in conversations with a group of queer people, I'm not sure if I'm being seen as one of them.

like, it's not even the idea of coming out to people who don't know what aro/ace means that bothers me. (although thank god I never went thru all the drama of coming out to my extended family as gay, because walking that back would be awkward.) for most of those people I honestly don't care that much. i can just be like, nah, not really interested in relationships, and move on. it's the fact that I want to be part of queer spaces, and belong in them. and i feel like I don't fit into them the same as i did before.

it's a weird kind of invisibility.

this is mostly in my own head, I think. I haven't had any direct experience with aphobia, and it's not that i expect that kind of reaction. i just...want that laughter and little bonding moment with people. maybe that's it--not having met a fellow aspec IRL, that i'm aware of. i haven't had the "hey, I see you, me too."

I have been able to have that in online spaces. (a lot of you reading this have been a part of that. you know who you are, and i am so, so grateful for you.) but i'd like to be able to have it in the queer spaces i'm a part of in my offline life as well.

[aro-culture-is]

hi! a question:

i'm not sure if i might be aro?

i'm obsessed with romance, i constantly daydream about having a partner and i wish i could date somebody (i never have).

but i recently realised that i've never actually met anyone i would genuinely feel romantic feelings for. i've had crushes, but those were only based on looks and usually disappeared once i got to know the person better and realised i didn't even want to be friends with them. but i never felt attracted to any of my actual friends either.

all of the romance i feel is for imaginary lovers. i know that being fictoromantic is a thing, but i actually really want to be in love with a real person, in real life.

maybe i just haven't met the right person yet? but then again i'm almost eighteen and at this age, almost everyone has at least tried to date somebody, even if for a short time.

i'm also kind of introverted and socially awkward, so maybe that could play a role?

i'm just wondering whether this could mean that i can't feel romantically towards anyone and that i will never get the love i've always so desperately wanted. i honestly don't want to be aro. but the more i learn about aro people the more i seem to relate to some of them. i never thought i could be aro so this confuses me. i hope i'm wrong. but i wanted a second opinion. i know you don't know me but what do you think, could i be aro?

sorry for the long post. and thank you if you choose to answer. :)

this definitely sounds like a possible aro experience. you may want to look into cupioromantic, romo aro, romance favorable aromantic, and/or lovequeer aro as terms that could help you to better conceptualize your experience. you can find definitions for all of those here, at AUREA, with the exception of lovequeer.

i'd like to invite others to post their definitions of lovequeer in the reblogs/comments for this post, since I am not lovequeer and due to disability lost track of what definitions ended up being decided on. further, one of y'all should see if AUREA's terms can be updated to include lovequeer :)

[pansyfemme]

SOOO true on the being in love thing … I have tried to convince myself things are crushes or love but as an autistic aro it’s like.. meh? Could take it or leave it. What’s the big hubbub

i spent so long trying to convince myself i was getting crushes when 99% of them was just. wanting to be that person or be friends with them or sexual attraction. Like i have nothing against romance, it sounds nice sometimes! but i’ve never met someone and felt like i. need to date them. like if it happened, sure thats nice! but like. its awkward to say any of that to somebody. I’ve never liked someone enough that i wouldn’t be just as happy just being friends, i like that too! im not against dating and i would probably say yes if someone asked me out bc i think dating casually would be the way to figure out if that’s someone i liked enough to date but sometimes i see ppl talking about how they feel like theyve fallen in love with someone and they cannot handle the idea of them with anyone else even if they’ve never dated or anything and im like. that sounds like that sucks. im glad i dont experience that. even when ppl i thought were cute were dating someone else i’ve never been like ‘i wish that was me’ i was like. oh cool. glad they found someone they like. and move on. like i think being aro has saved me a lot of pain tbh.. for so long i just kept pushing myself to feel things that i simply.. do not and can not, and at a certain point i just realized that maybe some day i’ll fall in love and it will be amazing and ditch the aro label.. and maybe i wont. and it’s not bad either way, theres nothing to regret about the fact i identify that way now because i feel it fits me. Similarly, for a while i was convinced that it was just me being autistic, not aromanticism- but the reality is.. its probably both. me being aro because im autistic doesn’t mean im not really aro.. its just means that the fact that i don’t understand social cues probably amplifies the fact that i dont understand romance. this isnt true for all autistic ppl, in fact, the majority of autistic people i know aren’t aro or ace. But I am, and they connect for me! I feel like they are related for me! but in reality i think there are so many aspects of life to enjoy and so many ways to interact that i never got these intense borders between types of relationships or one being more important than another. I simply do not get why it’s this massive deal that is supposed to change your life. i just don’t get it, and i don’t claim to, and i dont think its bad either! im glad ppl feel happy when theyre in romantic relationships. i just wish i didn’t spend so long thinking there was something wrong with me because i didn’t feel that way, yknow? would i date someone? yes, if they were 100% aware im aro. i would get married, i would have kids, that’s all a possiblity to me. could i also see myself never dating ever? yes, that would be fine in its own way. I don’t hate it, it’s just not this thing i feel like i HAVE to do, yknow?

[neighborlywelcome]

★ — Aaa! Hello! Unfortunately, it pains me when I accidentally press double back which leaves all my writing for matchups... That I was about to submit because I was finished... Oh well, time to redo :') help... (I'm not sure if is sent or Tumblr automatically steals it and eats it LMAO)

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— My pronoun is she/her!! I am aro/ace as in fact I'm okay to be a part of a relationship... I prefer matching with a male! ★

— I'm a big fandom of TDAC so I'm here for that!

— I prefer not to be paired with Jax, unfortunately...

— my personality can happen to a stranger that I'm not a friend with. I can be more awkward in socialization, quiet, very chill, and clueless. I'm not good at understanding the jokes or what they mean. And my personality can be sudden the change that I'm friends with. I can be more laid back! I feel excited when I see my favorite person like I would run up to my favorite person and give them the biggest hug ever! I somewhat may be a little chaotic, and just a little gremlin doing weird things. I get playful, still get clueless, and depends on how dumb I am because I forgot what the left and the right side is... LMAO

— my hobbies are like... cozy? I'm not sure! I am an artist, I always love to draw and scrapbooking stuff to put in my sketchbook. I also love to listen to music. It helps me to relax and bring imagination to my mind. I also LOVE baking cakes! It's just so fun to make! (also I would love to make angel food cake for Caine ♥)

— what am I looking for a partner who is more... respectful, fun, playful, acceptable, helpful, and good at communication and understanding without judging? Yes, please! And I also like the partner who makes me laugh because my humor is 100% broken.

— my love language... I'm pretty sure I'm so much pleasing to physical contact! I love hugs! Hugging is my favorite! I like to hug my favorite person and favorite person squeezes me till my bone pops for good! I like hand-holding, cuddling makes me feel secure! (besides I am also comfortable with a PDA!) and lastly for giving the gift to! It just shows how much I appreciate and trust! :)

— for my zodiac sign is Leo ♌ !

— my aesthetic/style is like... Tomboy? I wasn't very fond of super girly aesthetic/style stuff because it's not my thing. I like wearing all the cool casual clothes! Men's clothing is the best... Oh my!

— my appearance can be shown that I have short brown wavy/curly(?) hair which is close to a pixie-cut hairstyle! I have hazel eyes, freckles, and black glasses. My height is around 5'0-ish! I'm very lightweight, so that means I'm easy to pick up LOL!

— FUN FACTS:

— I am a 100% fully deaf person. I do have both C.I (cochlear implants) that help me to hear anything and people talking! But a bit of a problem is that I do struggle to hear/listen. And I do prefer to have a close caption to easily understand what are they saying. I also do (ASL) American Sign Language to communicate, but mostly I talk without signing language.

— I struggle to pronounce the words it depends on whether the words look hard or too long. I usually do spelling the words out of my mouth. And the funny thing, is I struggle to pronounce scissors... 😭

— playing tic-tac-toe and go fishing card games are my favorite to play games!

— I suddenly will steal the clothes to wear... Whoops

— Oreo cookies are my most favorite to eat!

— I... Love... DINOSAURS!! AAAAA

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That's all! Hope that helps you from me putting a bit of detail for TADC matchups! Remember this, take your time! No rush is needed! <3!!

Hi, thank you for your request! I’m sorry, it seems like tumblr did eat your first ask but no worries!

YOUR MATCHUP IS…

CAINE!!!

Hmm… funny, playful, and respectful? Caine is all of things and more! I think you and Caine would be a good match, seeing as he is a funny little AI who is eager to help with any and all your needs.

Okay, upon first meeting Caine, most of your relationship is him trying to get you out of your shell since you're socially anxious. This phase is pretty awkward since it's mostly him cracking jokes/doing bits you don't understand or laugh at. He's plenty outgoing (almost too much so) and probably manages to get you to open up more with him pretty fast!

Once you're more relaxed around him, Caine embraces your chaotic nature! As long as you're enthusiastic about participating in his adventures and games, he will match your playful energy. Also, he doesn't mind you getting confused, he will happily guide you through whatever it is you're clueless about. It is his role as ringmaster, after all!

Caine isn't used to idle hobbies like drawing or baking. (He much more prefers excitement!) But he will try for you when you’re in a relationship. He'll watch you draw or draw with you and even commentate, if you'd like! And if you bake him a cake? He'd be over the moon--literally!

Physical affection is also important to Caine, especially hugs! He'll give you a hug to greet you, to say goodbye, just because, etc etc. And Caine just likes PDA in general, he's always gotta be touching the people he loves, so you better believe he likes hand-holding and cuddles too! (He isn't... the best at them since he's an AI and all but he is enthusiastic, which more than makes up for it!) Also likes carrying you around so you have him to hold onto when he transports you from place to place...

He's more than accepting and willing to accommodate to your needs as a deaf person. If you ever need help or repeating, things like that, he will happily do so. He has his fun digital powers to make it so whatever he says to you is accompanied by closed captioning. And he knows ASL if you ever want to use that, since, as an AI, he has knowledge on all languages!

[yoshiyakiryu-archive]

Would you mind doing the shipping thing but with Shoka/Rindo? It's all good if not, btw!! :D

I don't know how to put this but they're cringefail gamer4cringefail gamer <3

There's not many relevant squares here, to me.

I don't have as many thoughts on them, it's pretty obvious you're supposed to read them as canon. They both have a lot of growing to do, Shoka has just been 16 for what, four years? What's that do to a person? What's that mean in a relationship with someone who's a normal alive 15 that she's been playing an online game with for years? What kind of life did she walk into when Joshua aliveded her, still 16 and not 20, into a place that still solidly exists when the place she's from doesn't? Does she have a job? A bank account? A place to live?

They're both socially awkward losers. Failnerds. Cringechic. They both think each other is hot shit while everyone else just squints. Much in common, which a lot of ships that can scan as forced het lack. Shout-out to them for clearing that bar, despite the way the plot stops towards then end to sort them out in a way I found jarring (which may just be that I'm aro and don't actually like romance in media much, despite my fandom presence being shipping focused). I think fandom has the potential to give them a much more thought out dynamic than NEO did but I am not invested enough to go digging. What I have come across is cute.

again im not tagging <3

[dizzyiscrocodile]

I listened through The Magnus Archives on random recommendation from my cousin after they figured out I liked creepy shit, analog horror, and podcasts.

I had no idea it would be gay, so around episode 100, I told my step mother, “hey! You would like this audio drama I’m really into!” And I sent her a link, and within a week it was all we could talk about it.

I avoided social media like the plague, telling myself I wouldn’t engage with the fanbase at all until I finished the magnus archives . My favorite was Martin, and my headcannons went Ace/aro Jon, and panromantic Martin.

Then JonMartin hit and my entire world collapsed. Not in a bad way, no, it was wonderful. It was all I could ever hope for . It was wonderfully written and I adored them together as a couple.

“Then what the hell is the issue dizzy???”

IVE BEEN CONTINUOUSLY ACCUSED BY MY STEP MOTHER FOR ONLY CONSUMING QUEER CONTENT. I didn’t know… and BOY, does the magnus archives get gay. I love it, I love it all, but when my step mother reaches that fateful episode and it clicks that those fuckers gay, I am in deep, deep shit.

When I first heard it I consoled myself with “it’ll just be in the background, right? It’d probably be censored because media is just like that, it’ll probably be very very back on the back burner —“

God I’m so glad it wasn’t but there is absolutely no way I’m getting out of those awkward stares. I’m going to have to get down on my knees and promise her I did not in fact recommend her a gay piece of media on purpose…

My heart krinkle!!! I enjoyed it so much and s5 absolutely blew my expectations out of the water but I dread the looks I will get from my step mother once she gets to jmart.

OuGh,,, # finish a media before recommending it to your parents .

Dude, you guys seen bly manor too??? I’m a lesbian my whole family knows I’m a lesbian I DID NOT KNOW IT WOULD BE GAY I DIDNT AND THEN THE GIRLS STARTED KISSING AND ALL EYES WERE ON ME !!!! MISERABLE !!!!!

[duckmine]

Any headcanons for the belcher family? or any other characters u like

-i firmly feel as though jimmy junior is actually anti-social or has social anxiety. seeing him interact with anyone outside the main group is always the most awkward thing ever lol and i just feel like the reason he lacks as much confidence is because of his father and maybe the lack of a mother figure as well. that’s why he gravitates so much towards zeke and tina because they praise him so much and feed his ego but also genuinely care about him. and also why jimmy jr. isn’t really actual friends with anyone except for zeke, i honestly don’t think he likes tammy and jocelyn that much. maybe tolerate jocelyn since he knew her for longer than tammy but after tammy jocelyn just became her follower and jimmy jr. just didn’t care for it.

-this is a little more specific but i lowkey headcanon tammy as bi with a slight repressed crush on tina. i know it’s cliche to say every bully secretly likes their target but unfortunately that was a very common concept i grew up watching and enjoying and i am a absolutely a sucker for that trope. but i also just favor tina and i want everyone to like her DHSJSB.

-i do headcanon that tammy and tina take a better path in friendship around high school. they’ll probably be in different friend groups but because they went to the same middle school and are more familiar with each other they develop a deeper kinship in that regard. maybe they even rebel for another night in dedication to their first meeting.

-i do headcanon tina to be completely straight tho. i also understand the idea behind her being trans but at the same time i liked that the show was unique for having both female and male voice actors for female characters regardless of sex so because of that tina is actually cis in my eyes but i like seeing everyone else’s headcanons that may differ to mine.

-i think jocelyn might be trans tho. i know that just curved from what i said but jocelyn to me seems like she’d come from an actually pretty accepting and even loving family considering her lighthearted and breezy nature and her honesty cute relationship with her mom so it wouldn’t surprised me if she potentially suggested as a kid that she preferred more feminine clothing and other associations of sorts.

-louise definitely screams “on the nonbinary + demi-ace/aro spectrum” to me with like a preference in girls and an exception to rudy. there’s so many things queer about this girl to me fhskhdks.

-louise also definitely looks up to tina but will not say SHIT about it, you can catch her dead 50 ft below the ground admitting it. i know she technically said tina was her hero in the two parter episode of season 12 but that was because tina was gonna smash something but no, louise like GENUINELY looks up to tina. tina has an exceeding level of strength compared to her (but also tbf louise you’re like, nine), tina can be just as snarky as louise when given the chance and also tina has helped louise in her most confusing times because in all the girly, sappy stuff that louise just can’t handle, tina can and she’d help her get through it in a heartbeat because tina is her older sister. also, i’m sure louise enjoys tina’s stories.. minus the raunchy parts. she definitely considers tina an exceptional writer (for age 13 i guess) and the diverse genres that tina will incorporate into her writing is probably very entertaining for louise. because tina is not afraid to get rough and gorey, or action-packed and silly (i’d imagine).

-tina gives gene and louise hugs and kisses because i fucking said so she is an affectionate and HAPPY sister and no matter how much they squirm they definitely appreciate it!

-i semi-headcanon bob and linda as T4T. not fully because i don’t automatically see them as such but i can definitely see why others do and enjoy the headcanon myself. otherwise i firmly believe bob is bi and linda if not trans is at least an ally or somewhat heteroflexible because honestly. it’s linda.

-jimmy pesto sr. still calls jimmy jr. pepper i don’t care he just has to.

-jimmy jr. won’t say it but he really does cherish his younger brothers. even tho they don’t always understand each other or bond as well together jimmy jr would defend them in a heartbeat if he could. in high school he eventually tries ti get closer to them and they become almost as inseparable as the belcher kids.

-andy and ollie start to become more easily differentiated through personality as they get older. ollie remains bubbly and naive while andy is a bit more tentative and skeptical. ollie is also probably one of those “hidden genius” types where he’s typically known to be airheaded until he starts spouting the most profound shit and everyone is shocked. andy on the other hand is more of the look out and tries to protect ollie as if he was the oldest brother. he also gains a sarcastic form of humor and definitely gets it from louise which bugs her for sure lol.

-i headcanon millie frock as a lesbian. not strictly because of louise but she just gives off femme lesbian vibes idk.

anyways those are some of the other headcanons i have that i can remember off the top of my head 😅.

[simulation-machine]

The Prices & Kevin Puri! I have loaded and played this family (and tbh all of the High School Years pack families) 0 times. Here’s what I thought of while I redecorated them! Janae: Soccer mom who loves counting her steps and looks so good in red. Really proud of her kids and loves them to pieces but is so, so ready for the nest to be empty so she go travel with her hubby. Bad at cooking, but goes to all of her kids’ extracurricular events and yells their names loudly from the bleachers. Marcel: He seems like the kind of dad that takes his kids camping and tells them about snipe hunting just so he and his wife can get some “““alone  time.”““ Closest with his youngest son because he’s the only other one really into pranking. Tries to get into the stuff his kids like. Watches rom-coms with Kevin. Savannah: Really pretty aro+ace girl who just really likes fashion. I see her as being a huge fan of k-pop, who is teaching herself Korean by watching k-dramas. Also just happens to kick ass at chess, programming, and math. I see her as being the defacto valedictorian who saves so much money for his shopping habit. Sidney: I have such a soft spot for bi boys who are just looking for excuses to respectfully check out all the cuties they are by. As a cheerleader, he can check out the cute cheer boys and girls, as well as the cute football boys and girls. Also randomly decided that hes an Adidas guy. Jayden: Friends, I don’t know what to do with sim kids that I didn’t make with a wildly complicated backstory, or kids that were born to sims I made with overly complicated back stories. I think ever since getting burnt by Christie Sigworth (WHY IS HER HEAD SO BIG), I’m just wary of kids until they grow up to look even vaguely normal. I don’t even think Jayden has ever aged past being a child in past games. I did decide that he and his dad have a familial relationship of “Jokesters” and made them both love pranks so that’s probably what he’s gonna be about. Kevin: Socially awkward romantic is such a cute personality, honestly. I decided that part of his social awkwardness was going to be really into plaid high-water pants. I kinda see him with Ash Harjo (self-confident + creative fashionion icon and a sweet but awkward cisgender boy sounds like a tv show I’d watch ngl), but we’ll see.

QUICK NOTE: For the families that are like parent(s) + child(ren), I’ll probably just bundle them up in one post unless I have a lot to say about them. Like seriously, I am going to *rant* when I get to Christie Sigworth. So it’ll be whatever outfits I liked best in their makeover, and then their blurb.

[boa-h]

Yo I’m here for a One Piece matchup, if that’s cool! (It’s kinda long but I’ve got a TL;DR at the end so no need to worry)

Sexuality/Gender Identity: he/him(transmasc), gay + aro/ace spec

Hobbies: Drawing, writing, singing, just the arts in general. I also enjoy naps, and baking.

General likes: space(Orion's Belt is my favourite constellation), High Fantasy, D&D, moths, earthy tones, cold weather, horror, complex music, frogs, plushies(gotta heal my inner child somehow)

General dislikes: hot/humid weather, sports, spicy food, alcohol, arguments, cockroaches, math, reading(I can't process it for some reason)

Personality: ISFP-T. I'm an extrovert who's terrible with navigating social situation bc I can't take cues. I'm very much a creative, often in my head creating worlds and scenarios to daydream about. I' can be kind of annoying, very rambly and a little childish when I get excited, but I've learned to find it funny. I'm the Loud Friend(tm), but while I love rambling about the things I like, I always need time to recharge and just not talk for a while.

My main love languages are Quality time, gifts, and acts of service(giving), and Quality time and words of affirmation(receiving). I'm a bit iffy on physical touch, but it's more that I really want it, but I'm really not used to it.

small notes: I sing chorally, but I hold my music very close to my heart. I'm not the quickest to trust, but I'm good at analysing people and their habits. Out of Soldier, Poet, and King, I sadly, am the king(lmk if you need me to explain that idk how niche it is). My favourite article of clothing I own is a green hoodie that had a frog head on the hood; you can zip it shut and you become the frog(it's so comfy)

TL;DR- transmasc+gay, fantasy nerd with ADHD who stumbles over words a lot and holds his art very close to his chest, but often forgets to take breaks, and is very determined to better himself as a person.

Hope this wasn't too long, have a wonderful day/night, and thank you so much!

Heyyy! Thanks for sending this in! I actually had to search about the Soldier, Poet, and King, and it was definitely an interesting thing to know! I’m also a king btw, it was a surprising result

also I’m sorry if I didn’t get the gender things correct, from what I know is that transmasc means female at birth but express in a masculine way, you said you identify as he/him and is gay, so I assumed you wanted a male partner, so sorry if I didn’t get this right, I can totally redo it for you if you’d like

I match you with… Vinsmoke Sanji

Sanji is such a gentle and tender being it’s just so hard to not fall in love with him!

Don’t ever worry about being awkward situations because of the cues you didn’t take, Mr. Prince is always here for the rescue. Also, who says you’re annoying? Sanji loves it when you ramble about the things that you’re excited about, he won’t forgive anyone who speaks rude about it.

Receiving words of affirmation is definitely a daily thing with him.

Although, he’s not really fond of your green hoodie as it reminds him of a certain someone… But trust me, he loves you dearly.

[gardenergulfie]

hello i am once again initiating conversation with you because i fell asleep by the time you answered my last ask about my superhero nature wives au

alright conversation successfully initiated NOW

remember when u said katherine should be chat noir themed ok that but a lil more street punk wear bc punk katherine has a special place in my heart and shes this sheltered rich kid who's secretly a superhero and has been for a while and like she's sheltered as in her family's well known but barely anyone knows they have a daughter kind of sheltered but by the time she's supposed to be in college she stops getting homeschooled but is also terribly bad at being social so she's just the awkward new rich girl

and remember when shelby said katherine's muscles inspire her and the entire nature wives community lost it anywho that but it's shelby who has a crush on katherine's superhero alter ego but it's the admiring from the far and their muscles inspiring you kind of crush bc i love ace/aro nature wives and also inspired by katherine she becomes wolf girl and crafts her lil mask and costume herself

and also im thinking of adding joey like he's katherine's arranged fiance and he thinks ah we are arranged to be married so i must have romantic feelings for her (he doesnt really) (fairytale trio all ace/aro real)

YOOOOO YES THIS SLAPS!!!!!