#and I’m kinder to myself

[hotvampireadjacent]

My tits looked nice here or something idgaf. My hair looks nice too

[lazlolemur]

read stone butch blues and we both laughed in pleasure back to back and received several mental illnesses and had to draw my beloved oc to cope

Klyde Kaisyrr (He/She)

[http-byler]

☆ SMILE! ☆

[soulinkpoetry]

Self-love is less about the ability to withstand loneliness or establish independence and more about awareness and acceptance of our incompleteness. It’s about letting others love us even when we feel unlovable because their version of us is often kinder than our own.

• — Esther Perel

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[abigail]

december I am going to be gentle with how I speak to myself.. december I will have warm cosy drinks and wear the scarf my grandma gave me.. in december the world turns tones of blues and whites and the earth hardens and hides the greenery and the paths become icy so it’d difficult to move and continue and I struggle.. to get to the bus stop… but once I am there I just have to wait, sometimes it’s late but that’s ok it still comes y’know ?? and I have my scarf and my gloves and my book to warm me while I wait.. and then I join the others who all likely struggled to their stop too,, but there we all are, reading our books, wearing our gloves and scarves.. and when I get home I will eat hot soup. december I just want to be soft. I want to be warm and I want to be gentle and kind.. to myself and others….. I want to feel at peace I suppose

[starbuck]

crazy how i can be so stressed and upset and then suddenly i remember that *I* am in control of my emotions and then i can physically breathe the stress out of me and i’m fine.

[ajokeformur-ray]

I’ve started trying to speak gently to myself.

Like when I’m rushing home after work getting stressed about how I have to shower, make dinner, do the dishes, before I can even think about studying and then before I know it, it’s bed time and I have work tomorrow and -

I’ve started trying to be gentle in my thoughts immediately after the rush of anxiety, like,

“Okay, I’m anxious about everything I still need to do today. But it is only X time and it doesn’t take long to make dinner, honey. No, you can’t skip, food is fuel and if you don’t eat, you’ll fuck yourself over and get madder at yourself. It’s okay, baby, breathe, you have time, I promise you do. It’s okay, just focus on X song and you’ll be home before you know it, it’s okay, you’re okay.”

Is it silly? Maybe, but it DOES help me to calm down, so…

[cherry-pop-soda]

i refuse to let anyone tell me i’m unlovable or broken or too much anymore and that ESPECIALLY includes myself. i’m done with my own shit

[bobasthrone]

Tbh for years and years I’ve been imaging my seIf lnsert completely different from me: Less physically/mentally dlsabled

And rn I’m thinking.. how would my f/0s treat me if they met me now? How would they help me out? The very idea makes me a bit insecure BUT it’s also making me feel really happy. I just know they’d treat it with respect and take me seriously!!

i really should try to incorporate my dlsability in more of my art.

(Also yea I tried to covertly censor some words - I’m just trying to avoid potential ablelsts/non followers as much as I can)

[nat-seal-well]

I am so tired of hating my body and I am deciding to embrace it and love it instead and nobody can stop me

[soulinkpoetry]

Self-love is less about the ability to withstand loneliness or establish independence and more about awareness and acceptance of our incompleteness. It’s about letting others love us even when we feel unlovable because their version of us is often kinder than our own.

• — Esther Perel

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[mangosorbetter]

I have a new brain trick that has been helping me this week.

I tell myself: “I don’t dislike myself enough to treat me this way”

And it gives me enough momentum to take care of myself, instead of continuing to hit the self destruct buttons

[pears-palette]

Sometimes I gotta remind myself that life isn’t a stats game. It’s good to not become stagnant, but I don’t have to “make up” for perceived faults.

I don’t have to learn all these fancy recipes to hope someone will overlook my fat body.

I don’t have to be absolutely perfect in my work and hobbies to make up for not being great in other areas.

I don’t have to always be forgiving so my existence is easier for someone to swallow-

I don’t have to mute myself in fear that the slightest objection will be met with abandonment.

I want to grow and learn and be a well rounded person for myself. The attributes I’ve been conditioned to be seen as flaws could be why I’m endearing to someone else. It’s all subjective.

[myname-isnia]

Idk why I thought the new year would suddenly bring immense change to me as a person, it was such a childish belief, I can’t believe I let myself fall for it. The years go by but I remain the messed up anxious wreck who starts crying the second she’s left alone with her thoughts. The new year won’t change anything, nothing will

[bugdotpng]

pre-move recap:

post-move recap:

2023 was overall a pretty good year! i learned a lot about myself (got that ADHD diagnosis that made everything make sense lmao), got 7 tattoos, and went to tons of concerts, museums, performances, art galleries, etc.

in between all the fun, it was the year i finally addressed my burnout and started slowing down and setting boundaries at work. i ended up with the healthiest relationship i’ve had with my job in a while. AND i recently launched one of our largest (if not THE largest) projects to date. it was also really important to me that i move to a new city this year and even tho i struggled to adjust in the beginning, i’m so glad i followed through on it and i love where i live.

i’m utterly exhausted after this year but i think i’m starting 2024 with a good mindset and a stable head on my shoulders (for the first time in a while lmao). best wishes for 2024! 💃🏽

[ladyddanger]

I think something this fandom could learn is acknowledgment . Like as in the ability to say I see your anger and it’s justified but this not an effective way expressing that feeling. Instead of mocking or villainizing people