#and loveless aros and lovequeer aros and nonpartnering aros

[aroreanimator]

i like seeing aros who have totally different experiences with attraction and relationships <3 rejoice in a diversity of perspectives and a collaborative and respectful community

[st-ivangeline]

one of the symptoms of Borderline is lack of sense of self, the wording of that always confuses me, but i know the feeling

i always feel this emptiness in my gut and for as long as i can remember i’ve been trying to fill it,

i’ve gone back and forth with things like religion, gender, and orientation for so long

i’ve labeled my gender everything under the sun and tried every pronoun and name and nothing feels right nothing fills the hole in my chest—i’ve recently settled on genderqueer as kind of a label/unlabeled, my gender is queer and that about what i know

the one thing that gives me a little hope that one day i’ll finally feel at peace about some of these things is the fact i’ve identified as aromantic for several years now, despite going thru a couple partners all who told me i can’t be aro if i’m dating them or felt offended about it, even when i was partnering and wanted desperately to feel loved by a partner being aromantic made sense—i really don’t feel romantic attraction, i tried to convince myself i was somehow attracted to my previous partners to make them feel better but i wasn’t

being aromantic and learning about amatonormitivity , relationship anarchy, loveless and lovequeer, etc is continuing to make me feel at peace with myself and my life ,

even tho i still struggle with the labels such as loveless vs lovequeer , partnering vs nonpartnering, whether i feel other attractions such as sexual platonic or alterous attraction, my constant is aromantic,

sometimes i still feel confused, uncertain , and uneasy about the labels i choose, i’m still learning to be comfortable in the questioning and learning to be okay with not knowing

[aromaniacal]

Genuinely think that love is a social construct much in the same way gender is.

Our concepts of what is or is not romantic, our nebulous definition of love as everything and nothing all at once? It's societal! We made the idea of "Love" up ourselves!

That's why it's so confusing trying to find a standard definition of love!! It is a concept created wholly by humans, by society.

And because love is made up, is a social construct, you can come up with your own take on it yourself. Queer it, remove yourself from it entirely, pick and choose which parts of it you keep.... Get funky with it!!!!

It's so refreshing knowing how bullshit it is and how, much like gender, you can just do what you want

[faggot-friday]

happy aro day of visibility to!

loveless aros

lovequeer aros

aroallos

aroaces

aros in relationships

aros in qprs

nonpartnering aros

aros who experience romantic attraction sometimes

aros who never have and never will

gay and lesbian aros

straight aros

mspec aros

trans aros

cis aros

romance repulsed aros

romance favourable aros

romance neutral aros

aros who ship

aros who don’t

aros who are good at relationship advice

aros who when asked for advice spin a wheel in their brain with the options “talk it out” and “dump his ass”

religious aros

aros of colour

disabled aros

neurodivergent aros

non-sam aros

aros in the closet

aros who are still working thru all that stuff

aros who are questioning if they’re aro or not

aros who have known for ages

all aros!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[the-fear]

For Aromantic Visibility Day, I want to share my respect and praise for:

aros, arospecs, aros who rarely/weakly feel romantic attraction, aros whose romantic attraction grows or fades, aros whose romantic attraction spikes or fluctuates,

aros who previously felt romantic attraction but no longer do (for no reason, for nebulous reasons, or for specific reasons such as trauma), aros who never felt romantic attraction and never will, aros who may feel romantic attraction in the future, aros who look back on their “crushes” and realised those feeling weren’t romantic at all

aros who desire a romantic relationship, aros who don’t, aros who are indifferent, aros who are completely averse or repulsed

aros who feel romantic attraction only to fictional characters, aros who only feel romantic attraction to themselves

aros in romantic relationships, aros in non romantic relationships, aros who are nonpartnering, aros who are polyamorous, aros who use relationship anarchy to define their relationships

aros who enjoy the idea of romantic relationships but would not have one themselves, aros who do not want their romantic attraction reciprocated, aros who do not feel romantic attraction until someone else feels it first

aros who enjoy reading about romantic relationships, aros who write romantic relationships, aros who wish they could find anything other than romantic relationships in media

aros who are allosexual, aros who are neutral on sexual attraction, aros who don’t factor in their sexual attraction, aros who are ace or acespec, aros who are aplatonic or aplspec, aros who are anattractional, aros who are aspec in a multitude of different ways

aros who are loveless, heartless, lovequeer, amatopunk, voidpunk and several other “punks” relating to their stances on the idea of romantic attraction and love

you are all amazing people and you are not “broken” or “wrong” for not conforming to society’s amatonormative values. You are you, unique and marvellous, and that is what matters

[aroapl]

Shoutout to ALL aromantics! To aroaces, aroallos, neu aros, nonsam aros. To loveless aros and heartless aros. To lovequeer aros, lovelustic aros, arolovic aros. To aplatonic aros, afamilial aros, analterous aros. To nonaesthetic aros, asensual aros, anattractional aros. To aroqueers, unit aros, primaros. To romo aros, partnering aros, polyamorous aros. To nonpartnering aros and nonamorous aros. To polyplatonic and polyerosis aros. To romance favorable, romance indifference, romance averse, romance repulsed, and romance ambivalent aros. To arospecs of all kinds and questioning aros. To aros who love being aro and aros who still have a hard time with it. To aros that are out, loud, and proud, and aros that are closeted. To gay aros, straight aros, bi aros, and aros of every identity under the sun! To aros all over the world! Shoutout to aros!! You're all so wonderful!

[arotechno]

the conflation of loveless with nonpartnering and lovequeer with partnering (etc.) comes from conflating love with "deep" connection and deeper connection with partnership.

this is the same reason people STILL falsely call qprs "deeper than friendship" or on a sliding scale between friendship and romance.

there's this idea that, like, the more you love then the deeper your connections with other are, and then surely you must be partnering, because those are the "deepest" relationships. and then the reverse, that if you're loveless then you must only have the most superficial relationships with other people, and no partners because that's an inherently "deep and loving" relationship. and then, of course, there's the moralizing angle: that loving more deeply makes you a better person, and that otherwise you must be lacking in something fundamental, rather than just connecting with other people and the world and your emotions in a different way.

i don't know if i'm making sense but i'm tired of other aros continually finding new ways of reinventing amatonormativity. please relinquish the idea of love as aspirational or a moral virtue. lovelessness, lovequeerness, nonamory, partnership, none of these things have some kind of checklist. they are words we created to talk about different aro experiences. no more false binaries please

[dyketubbo]

you are so felt and heard 🤝

handshake with the most tired expression on my face ever. its so exhausting for any nonstandard aro out there its crazy. it feels like the whole "'theres too much of x!' what where can i see it" thing when people act as if somehow romance repulsed nonpartnering aros are at the forefront of fucking anything. as if theres a drought in content of aro characters who still get partners in some way. as if not caring for shipping in the "characters snogging each other for the sake of it" way (or hell even at all) is this taboo way to think and youre a fucking freak of nature if you want aro characters who dont end up in romantic situations just because theres some people who are actively unpleasant about it

and its especially exhausting in the mcyt fandom. 90% of this fandom (and most fandoms are like this really) is completely hostile to any aromantic person who doesnt fit the idea of a Good Aro, one who lets people call qprs "platonic soulmate headcanons" and is just as into shipping as your average allo and feverently fights off all the nasty loveless heartless freaks who still dont care for the "love is what makes the world go round" narrative even when it isnt romantic, looking their fellow aros in the eyes and telling them to sit down and be quiet because how dare we "assume love is automatically romantic, dont you ever think about aromantic people?"

at some point it stops being about what characters this is even expressed through (qjaiden already has a platonic/maybe qp partner anyways, jaiden the person not as a character is very into the aroace people still love their friends and family narrative and i could not and would not want to tell you whether or not she would give a shit about people shipping her character) and just starts being an exhausting pattern of how people act about aro issues in general. about aro characters, about aro people who dont fit an acceptable mold, whatever.

like. idk. why does it matter so much to still be able to fit aro characters into this ship focused mold, or to have this strict box of "you should only stray away from shipping if the person/character is romance repulsed". it doesnt actually matter to people if jaiden is romance repulsed or not. not to the people who are saying that she is, not to the people that are saying that she isnt. not even in general really. im starting to run out of words to explain what i mean but you see how tiring it is, yeah? youd think if the whole "you can still love your friends/family!" narrative actually mattered to people theyd be satisfied just leaving qjaiden out of shipping. not because shes romance repulsed but just like.. for the sake of leaving aro/aroace characters the hell alone sometimes. leaving aro/aroace people the hell alone sometimes

at some point im just gonna start hcing random characters as being nonpartnering aros and all these freaky "ouuhhh how could you live without love" microlabels that even other aro people hate like aplatonic as a way to bat people away from me if they cant be normal about it. nonpartnering loveless aroallo qtubbo is real to me now. aplatonic luzu. lovequeer philza. heartless bobby etc etc what the fuck ever. who is anyone to tell me no

[saffigon]

shoutout to alloaros, shoutout to loveless aros, shoutout to aplatonic aros, shoutout to loveless aplalloaros, shoutout to nonpartnering aros shoutout to romoaros, shoutout to nonsam aros, shoutout to aromids, shoutout to lovequeer aros, shoutout to aros in qprs shoutout to the aros that have never seen themselves represented. that's practically the whole community, but yk we're important and we're a very diverse bunch enjoy your week

[aro-and-tired]

Aromantic prompts

In honor of Aromantic Awareness Week, I have put down a series of prompts you may use for aromantic themed fiction, fanart, or other creations. I’ve organized them into various categories for ease of navigation and so that you can easily skip certain sections if they upset you. I hope someone will find this list useful, no need to credit me if you do want to use any of these prompts.

Also, I apologize if I don’t have a prompt about your specific identity, I tried to give a variety of prompts but I only had so many ideas.

Under a cut because this is a pretty long list!

General Aromanticism

Character A is aromantic. Show what they value in life, which people are important to them and what makes them happy.

Character A is a loveless aro. Show what this means to them and what bring them happiness other than love.

Character A is a lovequeer aro. Show what this means to them and what love is to them.

Characters A, B, C, etc. are all aromantic and decide to create an aromantic support group at their school/college/workplace. How does it go?

Character A is romance repulsed, and has had to spend the day witnessing romance happening around them. Finally they get home, where their partner/pet/hobby helps distract them.

Character A has decided to dress all in green to show their aro pride. This may or may not be a good idea, depending on how many clashing shades of green they are wearing.

Character A comes out as aro to the people around them. How do the other people react? Did they know about aromanticism?

Arospec Identities

Character A and Character B identify with different arospec identities, and argue about whose pride flag is prettier.

Character A is demiromantic. Character B is freyromantic. The two of them like to say that they trade romantic attraction as they get to know people.

Character A is quoiromantic or nebularomantic. They ask some alloromantic friends to explain romance to them, hoping it may help them distinguish various feelings. Every answer they get only works to confuse them more.

Character A is arospike and goes through a few days of very intense and unexpected feelings for Character B before their attraction fades once again.

Character A is greyromantic. Everyone else had their first crush as teenagers, they get to have theirs in their thirties.

Character A is cupioromantic, and daydreams about what they would like in a romantic relationship.

Character A occasionally experiences romantic attraction, but they are also romance repulsed. How do they navigate this area?

Character A is aegoromantic and is so excited about having found the best fanfiction of their OTP ever.

Character A is idemromantic. How do they decide whether they are feeling romantic attraction or not?

Character A is lithromantic. They have a crush on Character B, and at one point came to the conclusion that maybe B liked them back. B later clarifies they don’t actually have romantic feelings for A. This is the most relieving moment of A’s life.

Character A is a bit of a labels hoarder. They identify with multiple arospec identities. Show how these various identities come into play in their life.

Self Discovery

Character A finds out about aromanticism. They realize the identity (or a more specific arospec identity) fits their experiences perfectly. They are relieved by realizing here are other people like them.

Character A finds out they are aromantic. They share this with Character B. After a while, B goes to A to ask for more information, as they think they may be aromantic as well.

Character A and Character B don’t know they both are arospec (they may not have found out, or they live in a setting where the word aromantic doesn’t exist). They talk about their common experiences with not understanding romance.

Character A remembers an event from their childhood, realizing that that was a major early sign of being aro.

Nonpartnering

Character A has just moved into their dream house. What is it like?

Character A explains to someone how they can be happy and fulfilled without a romantic relationship.

Character A is nonpartnering, but they still want to have children. How do they go at it?

Character A and Character B are both nonpartnering, and they bond over their mutual disinterest in relationships.

Character A is a nonpartnering aro, while their friend Character B is a partnering aro. They have different goals in life, but they still support each other’s choices.

Queerplatonic Relationships

Character A finds out about QPRs. They knew their relationship with Character B was different than what they had with other friends, and now they wonder if they were in some kind of QPR without realizing it.

Character A and Character B are in a QPR. Character C and Character D are also in a QPR. The four of them go on a double platonic date.

Character A has multiple QPRs with other characters. Show the differences in their various relationships.

Character A and Character B used to date, but it didn’t work out. However, they work out very well as QPPs.

Character A wants to ask Character B to be their QPP, but they don’t know how. Shenanigans ensue as Character C tries to coach A on it.

Character A is aro, Character B is allo. B has romantic feelings for A, but they still think a QPR is by far the best choice of relationship.

Sexual Relationships

Character A is a virgin, and asks their friend Character B to help them out.

Character A and Character B are both curious about a certain kink, and decide to experiment with it together.

Character A and Character B are in a non romantic, committed D/s relationship. Show how it works.

Character A goes through mating cycles of some sort. Character B is their go to sexual partner for these cycles.

Character A enjoys having no strings attached on night stands. Show how a night out goes for them.

Romantic Relationships

Character A is grey or demi and has developed feelings for Character B. They want to act on it, but don’t know how. Their alloromantic friend Character C tries to help them.

Character A is dating Character B when they realize they are aro, and confess it to B. B at first is confused, but as they do research they realize that they are aro as well.

Character A and Character B are both romance favorable aros, but they have never dated. They decide to go on a few dates together to see what romance is like, and realize they enjoy doing romantic things with each other.

Character A is alloromantic and has romantic feelings for Character B, but never did anything about it since they knew B is aromantic. B is romance favorable, and when they find out A is attracted to them decides to try asking them out.

Character A and Character B get married for tax benefits.

Arophobia

Character A’s family is unsupportive of their aromantic identity. They reach out to their friends instead, who help them cope.

Character A has internalized arophobia. Show how they overcome this and learn how to embrace themselves.

Character A is romance favorable, and thinks this means they can’t be aro after all. How do they realize that they are as aro as anyone else?

Character A feels broken due to being romance repulsed. How do they learn to accept themself?

Character A is a celebrity and constantly asked about their love life in interviews, or subject to rumors about who they may be dating.

Character A feels ashamed because they are alloaro. How do they overcome this shame?

Tropes, the Aromantic Version

Enemies to Friends. Show how passionate nemesis go from hating each other to thinking the other is actually nice to hang out with.

Character A and Character B fake date in order to make someone’s family happy. What they learn from this experience is that dating sucks.

Dystopian soulmate au. Soulmates are actually something engineered by an evil entity or government in order to enforce some form of population control. Time for our aromantic heroes to rise against them.

Character A and Character B are nobles whose family put them through an arranged marriage for political reasons. A and B at first don’t like each other, but they then become friends or QPPs.

Character A and Character B somehow acquire a baby. Time for them to learn how to co-parent.

Character A is hurt. Their friend Character B takes care of them and helps them heal from what happened.

There was only one bed. Guess they’ll cuddle all night long.

There was only one bed. Guess they’ll fuck like rabbits.

The villain of your story uses the Power of Love to fuel their evil spells. Only your loveless hero can save the world.

Omegaverse, but make your pack be platonic.

5+1 Scenarios

Five times Character A thought they were feeling romantic attraction, and one time they realized it was a different type of attraction.

Five times Character A didn’t feel romantic attraction, and one time they did.

Five times Character A tried to ask Character B to be their QPP, and one time they managed to do it.

Five times Character A thought Character B had a crush on them, and one time they found out B had a squish on them.

Five times Character A pretended they weren’t romance repulsed, and one time they told others where they could put their romance.

Five times Character A decided not to act on their sexual attraction, and one time they did.

Five times someone asks how Character A can be happy without a partner, and one time when we see how happy they are.

Five times Character A failed at having a romantic relationship, and one time they realized they didn’t need one after all.

Five times Character A thought everyone else felt the same way they did, and one time they realized that no, they are very aromantic, alloromantics definitely don’t see the world like they do.

Five times Character A picked a crush because everyone else had a crush and they felt they needed one too, and one time they didn’t.

Five times Character A had to explain what aromanticism was, and one when they didn’t need to.

Worldbuilding

In your fictional world, does the word aromantic exist? If not, what language do aromantic people use to describe themselves?

In your fictional world, is there an aromantic community? Is it well established? What is its history?

What are your fictional society’s view on romance?

Does your fictional society allow for committed, non-romantic relationships? If so, what kind?

Imagine a fictional society where amatonormativity doesn’t exist.

Imagine a fictional society where romance as we intend it doesn’t exist.

[unknown-lifeform]

It’s Aromantic Awareness Week which means I am going to be aro on main and as a small challenge to myself I’m going to look at assorted Final Fantasy VII characters and make headcanons for what flavor of aro they would be if they were aro

Cloud: aromantic and romance indifferent. He doesn’t care about romance either way. Gay as in sexually attracted to men. Also probably feels tertiary attraction, like maybe queerplatonic? I feel he would be down for a queerplatonic relationship but he wouldn’t know how to get one.

Aerith: romance favorable aro. She’s never felt romantic attraction but she’s pretty down for romantic relationships. Also aroallo as fuck, she’s bi and she’s gonna mingle.

Tifa: another romance favorable aro, maybe cupioromantic? Cupioromantic and demisexual. Pretty sapphic. Lots of aesthetic attraction for ladies. She’s also very much interested in having a queerplatonic relationship.

Barret: greyromantic, he was only into his wife but man was he into his wife. Romance favorable as a whole, he’s the guy who thinks romance is cool he just doesn’t participate often. The ultimate wingman, has a lot of opinions about love and relationships and he’s gonna lecture you about amatonormativity.

Nanaki: I’m gonna go ahead and say Nanaki’s species doesn’t have romance. He’s not involved in all of this.

Cait Sith: he doesn’t have romantic attraction but not because he’s a robot. Reeve could have totally programmed romantic attraction into him, but Reeve is also aromantic and so why the fuck would he make his catbot alloromantic?

Vincent: I would say greyromantic? With a talent for using all of his romantic attraction in the worst situations. Also somewhere on the asexual spectrum. Generally I don’t think Vincent would label himself specifically aside from vaguely aroace.

Cid: romance repulsed aro, possibly nonpartnering. Fuck romance all his homies hate romance. All he needs in life is machines, tea, and this pointy stick he found. Also asexual.

Yuffie: aromantic but also doesn’t really identify as aro because she hasn’t put thought into it yet. Like she’s 16 and busy being a ninja, I think anything revolving around romance hasn’t occurred to her yet.

Sephiroth: quoiromantic. He doesn’t know “romance”, he doesn’t get “love”. He would do well in a queerplatonic relationship because that’s a more vague kind of relationship with vague rules that he can just vibe in, as opposed to everything that is happening with romance.

Zack: idemromantic and full of love. Basically he has a lot of love to give to everyone and he’ll decide later what kind of love it is. He’s also pansexual, and also feels various other assorted attractions. Romance favorable, very into relationships of various kind, very lovequeer.

Genesis: loveless aro. Like. Obviously. But I also think in general he has the attitude to identify as loveless as an explicit fuck you to society. He’s also bisexual.

Angeal: cupioromantic and I think he’s very likely to go through internalized arophobia. He’s the kind of guy who gets dreams of having a family later on and realizing he doesn’t feel romantic attraction would upset him. He’d want a romantic relationship but be hesitant because he would be insecure about not feeling the same way as his partner, but he’d be very good in a queerplatonic relationship.

Tseng: his attraction has been classified.

Reno: he’s aromantic and pansexual and voted most likely to talk shit about alloromantic constantly. He complains loudly and all the time about romance. Thinks breaks up are funny.

Rude: aromantic, romance indifferent. He just doesn’t care but he will bitch with Reno.

Elena: freyromantic purely based on vibes. I don’t know it just fits her. Doesn’t like romance. Honestly the Turks are just the romance is gross squad.

[aspecvldweek2022]

Aspec Voltron Week 2022

Aspec Voltron Week is a week dedicated to celebrating Aspec headcanons for characters from Voltron: Legendary Defender. Each day of the week includes 2 (or more) prompts for creators to choose from.

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dates and prompts

February 27: Love / Loveless / Lovequeer

A day to show that love comes in several forms for different people, and sometimes not at all. This day is to show and explore those different types of/lack of love.

February 28: Relationships / Nonpartnering

The days prompts are to explore relationships—whether they be romantic, queer-platonic, alterous, etc; or someone's choice not to have them. You can also write about the relationships someone has with their friends and/or family, and how it relates to their aspec-ness.

March 1st: Trope Subversion / Free Day

Trope Subversion is for taking tropes or AUs and 'commandeering them' to better fit aspec identities (ex: soulmates, unrequited, etc). Or, you can use the free day option.

March 2nd: Discovery / Self Acceptence

This day is to show what it’s like discovering you’re on the aspec, and/or coming to terms with it yourself through the Voltron characters.

March 3rd: Coming Out / Affirmation

Coming out is something a lot of the LGBTQ+ community does, but for this prompt, you’re able to focus specifically on what it’s like coming out as a specific aspec identity: the questions that are asked, the things people say, and more. Affirmation is, “to say that something is true in a confident way,” (Merriam-Webster).

March 4th: Community / Diversity

A day to celebrate the aspec (or the entirety of the LGBTQ+) community and/or the diversity within it. There are so many more identities on the aspec than just ace and aro and we want to celebrate those through aspec headcanons you have for Voltron characters.

March 5th: Celebration / Pride

Dedicated to celebrating aspec identities and/or finding pride in your identity.

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