#and validation is just a number

[breezypunk]

How do you get so much love for your Cyberpunk 2077 screenshots? I spend hours posing, setting up lights etc etc but I get 0 love. Ok, I'm definitely not a professional photographer, but 0? Teach me, plsssss.

Oh my goodness, I need to gather my thoughts for this because as someone whose struggled with this for a long time, I understand 100% how you feel right now and I just want to give you a bit of advice.

I'm not a professional either, and what I mean by struggle is that when I first came into this fandom I came in with nothing. I hardly got any notes or any recognition for my posts as well.. Granted I was on console and console users sadly don't get the love they deserve, and I think they deserve just as much love if not more from people, and that doesn't happen, it's a fact.

When I started using mods and got on PC, I still barely got anything, and it started becoming a struggle for me because I fed off of validation and approval from others, and that is something I still struggle with to this day, maybe not as much, but I def still do and I think most people in this fandom do. No one can say they don't crave validation, we ALL do, if we didn't we would post n o t h i n g. And while I do agree that we should post for ourselves, we also post because when we do something we are super proud of, we want others to see it and enjoy it as well and there's NOTHING wrong with that at all. We reblog our things multiple times to push it out so other's can see (and because the algorithm truly sucks, just my opinion).

I was desperate for validation because I craved interaction and friendship, that's all I ever wanted, and I wanted to bond with people I have the same interests in and because of my desperate need for it I made enemies, still to this day. It only makes you feel icky on the inside when you're constantly trying to appease others, and while it's normal to want validation, it's not normal to only do it for that and that alone. I don't know who you are anon, and I cannot "teach" you, simply because what you're doing right now is good enough, not even good, it's great & regardless of how many people interact with your VP, you are good enough and you shouldn't stop, because if you love it that's the #1 most important thing. But also don't be afraid to reblog your stuff! Reblog it as often as you like.

Also, P.S.. I am still not always proud of what I do. I still get a little envious, it's human nature, I'm on a shitty laptop with horrible graphics and I can't do much with it, but I love taking VP, it's a passion and I will do it no matter how it looks. You should do it too, the best part of doing it is doing it because you enjoy it with no regrets. Sometimes this fandom will make you feel like you have to be the very best or at the very top for people to interact with you or enjoy your VP/art, and sometimes that's true, mostly it's true... but there are still good people here who genuinely appreciate all forms of VP, whether it's console, modding, gorgeous lighting, no lighting at all, etc. It's all beautiful, and at the end of the day, that validation is gonna come and go anyway. But you will continue to look at your art and go "yeaaaaah, I did that :)"

So please don't feel upset for getting "0" love, cos I promise someone loves it.

[nerdyrevelries]

"autistic people don't pay taxes" factoid actualy just statistical error. average autistic person pays their taxes every year. Elon Musk, who uses autism to justify Nazi salutes & loopholes his way out of millions in taxes, is an outlier adn should not have been counted

[junkdrawerfan]

People are way too harsh about Bruce being a “hypocrite.” Being a parent is hypocritical. You do things and realize they’re bad and tell your kids not to do them. And even if you, as an adult, recognize your behavior is bad and harmful and toxic and you continue to do it, that doesn’t mean you should allow or want your kids to do that behavior.

If your parent smokes and tells you not to smoke, they’re not a hypocrite. If your parent drinks too much coffee but warns you against caffeine addiction, it’s because they’re living with the aftermath of bad decisions. If your parent chooses a dangerous job where they could die violently and painfully but wants you to chose a different career path, it’s because they love you.

So if Bruce is advising caution and self care and limits that he won’t give himself, that doesn’t make him a hypocrite. It makes him a parent.

If his kids call him a hypocrite and complain that Bruce will work 16 hour days but won’t let them, that makes them dumbass kids who will have the realization the day they have kids.

It’s called family, my guy.

[kinky-cas]

i really do think that pretty shortly after they got together, dean and cas would have a conversation about the fact that yeah the sex is new, but honestly? they’ve been living as committed monogamous life partners for years. when they’ve fought and grieved and coparented and leant on each other, they’ve done it like spouses. their relationship looks more like an established and stress tested marriage than it does anything else, all that’s really missing is a pair of rings and making that promise explicit. so they say their version of vows right there in the kitchen, get rings, and keep on living their lives like it’s any other tuesday.

[irrevocablecondition]

day 1837273728844 of trying to get my passport delivered and i have stuck post-it notes with arrows on throughout the building with the first one saying "mr postman for robyn, please follow me" and the last one on my door saying "YAY! YOU MADE IT! knock here for your prize"

if this does Not work i give up

[stagshipping]

i wish the tiktok proship community was more like the tumblr proship community, bc on tiktok it's all 13 year olds trying to be as edgy as possible. im so sick of every post being "bandit 🍇s bluey but she likes it" like i doubt that you even ship that you're just trying to post the most vile "headcanons" you can come up with. proship just means "ship and let ship", it doesn't mean you HAVE to post dark headcanons about children's media. also the fact that most tiktok proshippers are around 13- there's no space for adults? as far as ive seen anyway.

[katescribblesabit]

I love that one moment of yesterdays stream where Lukey asked Sneeg what his deal was and Sneeg just says:

well im trying to mind my own business, but them my friends tell me they are being surrounded by green team and if I could come over to watch that would be great, and then I show up, and you guys flew like scared little shrimps

and Lukey just goes: wait that makes sense. AJKFHAHAH-

[inexplicably-spookified]

grah

[saetiate]

sorry to write yet another vanilla sex fic where the character is completely and utterly in love and devoted to you. will happen again

[satoruxx]

“if you wanna return to the past we’ll rebuild our old house and move in together. and if one house isn’t enough, i’ll build you a whole maze. i’ll decorate it with everything you could ever want. it will be the most beautiful, stunning garden you’ve ever seen.”

caleb i love you so bad....

[taibobo]

every time i go on twitter and my friends talk to me about self ship stuff that happens there (because i don’t publicly post self ship on twitter, or do a lot of public posting at all) i always am like. Thank god i am not allowing the devil into my heart and posting there. I’m sorry.

[n0pr0mises]

ino is the kind of guy who is so excited to get your pants off and when he finally does and puts you face down ass up before freezing. both his hands are gently holding the sides of your ass and he's silent for a minute, making you nervous and wondering what's wrong before you hear him whisper reverently "wow..."

he feels so blessed and because you're blushing and burying your face in your arms, you don't see him look towards the ceiling, dramatically (and very quietly) saying "thank you thank you thank you-"

[aquanutart]

Nyaha~! Caught in my electroweb! ♡

[ganondoodle]

tbh the two biggest fears i have about making the totk rant video (that i really do want to make) is 1. not actually making it bc i want to do alot of things and start them and cant get them done (yippie mental health) 2. it somehow getting seen enough i will be targeted by mass harrassment campaigns (which almost cost me my life once before ... and while i have grown i also think my support network is worse then back then)

i keep thinking about it and really wanting to do it and its important to be present and open about you and your values especially in this current climate- but i am, unfortunately, very afraid, some of it may be le anxiety but i also know what unhinged people can do to you if they believe you deserve it, whether that is actual bigots or angry gamer bros

[bl-inded]

Unpopular Opinion Time!

Jun is right.

Okay! Okay! Put the pitchforks down! I'm not saying what he did was right, but I still think he has a point.

Thame is a 100% green flag. He's absolutely sweet, extremely adorable, and he always makes it a point to make Po feel important. And i fosho believe that for they are good for each other and deserve the best! They are endgame in my heart too!

Buuuut! I think Jun sees things in Po that he isn't even ready to see in himself yet. Idk if Jun likes Po romantically or not, and I'm not gonna speculate (though the delicious angst of that! Oof). I also think it doesn't matter because what we all should be focusing on is that he cares a lot about everyone, and he definitely cares about Po and Thame.

And for some reason, he has this screwed-up logic that making himself the bad guy is the best way to resolve the situation. He did it when he wanted Thame to escape the slave contract and go to Korea, and he's doing it now by making Thame and Po confront their feelings (I bet he probably did that when Dylan and Thame were getting close too 🤷🏽‍♀️ coz let's be honest Dylan- also very rough around the edges).

Now, I will always be a Jun defender. But, we as the audience know what happened to Po in his previous relationship that neither Jun nor Thame know (I don't think, correct me if I'm wrong). And Thame is perfect! But Jun puts in the effort to make Po feel like he's smart, talented and capable- Granted it's by scolding and teasing him- but it's still true.

I love love looovveeee the air hockey scene. Like so many things about it hit!! But I love it when Jun switches sides from being the red flag villain, back to Thame and Po's friend. Oooooooof.

Like, yeah. He's done playing the bad guy because the situation is resolved. Thame might think they both have an equal chance, but Jun knows that that's simply not true. And now he knows the right thing to do, so he does it. He concedes.

I know ThamePo is endgame. I accept it! So tell me WHYYYY!?

Tell me why this scene makes me hurt?!?!

I'm not going to speculate if Jun liked Po romantically. But I'd be damned if I let people go around calling Jun "annoying" and "unnecessary" without saying something about it. Because I think he is doing the best he can for those he loves the way he knows how. It's screwed up, but his heart is in the right place! And the minute he gets told there is a better way to help, he does.

Remember that scene in ep2, the whole perspective switch we got about him being Thame's number 1 hater? He's that kinda guy and I love him!

[purpurussy]

everything Dan said about labels in BIG was so extremely real and personal to me and people really gloss over a lot of it sometimes I need to talk about it more about it when I'm not exhausted