#aplspike

[squidfreak]

Aplspike

An aplatonic label defined as someone who usually feels little to no platonic attraction, but occasionally has rare, sudden, and intense spikes of platonic attraction for a short amount of time, before returning, just as suddenly, to one's normal amounts of aplatonicness.

Apljump

An aplatonic label defined as someone who usually feels platonic attraction, but occasionally has rare, sudden, and intense spikes of total or near total aplatonic feelings for a short amount of time, before returning, just as suddenly, to one's normal amounts of platonic attraction.

[ryanyflags]

Aplatonic (apl for short) flags part 1 :3 ⭐️ (This set uses yellow, there's another set that uses green+blue+purple for apl instead.) (Due to the image limit, this is split into 4 posts.)

I noticed some a-spec flags were missing tertiary counterparts, so I made some. Some of these flags have already been made before, so they're not all original (I still wanted to have all the flags together in a set, and all in the same res).

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greyplatonic | demiplatonic | aegoplatonic

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non sam apl (1) | non sam apl (2) | neu apl

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aplvoid | aplflux | aplspike (1)

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aplspike (2) | apljump | dark greyplatonic

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light greyplatonic | atomoplatonic | delloplatonic

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fictoplatonic | cupioplatonic | bellusplatonic

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reciproplatonic | lithoplatonic (1) | lithoplatonic (2)

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frayplatonic (1) | frayplatonic (2) | apothiplatonic

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orchidplatonic | myrplatonic | aplflexible

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I'll also note that some of these terms can have multiple names, with the "platonic", "aplatonic", & "apl" part being interchangeable. This isn't applicable to every term though. I also chose not to list everything to try to keep it brief. So for example, greyplatonic can also be called greyaplatonic and greyapl.

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[A-spec flag sets masterpost]

[allegoriesandepithets]

Large Pixel Size -Spike Flags

[PT: Large Pixel Size -Spike Flags]

Acespike ~ Arospike

Aplspike ~ Aqpspike

Analtspike ~ Asenspike ~ Anaespike

Definition: One who usually feels no [attraction type] attraction, but occasionally has sudden spikes of [attraction type] attraction for a short amount of time, before returning to one’s normal amounts of a- [attraction type].

I slightly altered the original colors of the atertiary flags to better match the aro and ace flags.

All flags are 3000x2000 pixels.

@tertiary-attraction-archive @orientation-archive @radiomogai @liom-archive @imoga-pride

[tokyoghoulaspecs]

Hide + Aplspike

Aplatonicspike: An aplatonic who usually feels little to no platonic attraction, but occasionally has rare, sudden, and intense spikes of platonic attraction for a short amount of time, before returning, just as suddenly, to one's normal amounts of aplatonicness.

[pride-hearts]

Aplspike Hearts

[aroworlds]

[image description: six different cartoon-style bunting graphics, featuring six pride flags hanging from a brown rope. The flags are rectangular, finishing in a chevron shape, and have rows of brown stitching across the top of the flag and along the bottom of the chevron. First image in each set shows the flags with the topmost stripes facing the left; second image shows the three right-hand flags flipped, so all topmost edges face away from the centre of the bunting.

The first flag on each banner is an aromantic spectrum identity and alternates with the corresponding asexual spectrum pride flag. Banners in descending order: apothiromantic and apothiplatonic, aroflux and aplflux, arospike and aplspike, caedromantic and caedplatonic, greyromantic and greyplatonic, quoiromantic and quoiplatonic.]

Aromantic and Aplatonic Bunting

Flags: Apothiromantic and Apothiplatonic, Aroflux and Aplflux, Arospike and Aplspike, Caedromantic and Caedplatonic, Greyromantic and Greyplatonic, Quoiromantic and Quoiplatonic.

For flag creator posts, please see @aroflagarchive​​.

[mogai-headcanons]

icon id: 20 icons in 10 pairs. in each pair, both icons have the listed flags in order in the background and the left icon has an image of the listed character with a white outline and a black shadow. end id.

banner id: a 1500x150 teal banner with the words ‘please read my dni before interacting’ in large white text in the center. end id.

Arven from Pokemon is a demiplatonic greyplatonic aroace autumnaesic trans guy who uses he/him pronouns!

Nemona is a questioning aspec adjectogender person who uses she/her and any neopronouns!

Penny is a latenightoceanic nonbinary lesbian who uses they/them, she/her, and star/stargazer pronouns!

Kieran is an alterhuman dragonlink arretaromantic omniromantic platoniromantic asexual transmasculine aceboy who uses he/him and they/them pronouns!

Carmine is a bisexual nullpronominal girl who is fine with she/her auxiliary pronouns!

Lacey is a panromantic asexual cutegender cutecollector demifeminine acegirl who uses she/her, star/starry, stel/stellar, ca/cak, and des/sert pronouns!

Crispin is an aplspec aromantic asexual androgyneutral enboygirl who experiences alterous attraction and uses he/him, they/them, and she/her pronouns!

Amarys is an afamspec arolovic nebularose transfeminine autigender person who uses she/her pronouns!

Drayton is a dragonkin aplspike bisexual transmasculine dragonex verdeboy who uses it/its, he/him, dra/gon, and fi/fire pronouns, but is fine with any pronouns besides they/them!

Perrin is a gay trans man who uses he/him pronouns!

dni link

[xxhot-rotxx]

never heard of aplatonic before, if it doesnt bother you would you share ur experience? I would like to understand it better google doesnt help much

Oki doki!! So, I can only speak on my own experiences, as I am platonic positive, but I lack a drive to make friends or have any platonic attraction. I do have people who are friends but I see them more as familial myself!

I personally am AplSpike where I will very rarely feel platonic attraction towards someone.

When I was younger and to this day, I never really cared for making friends, or anything like that. I just don't have it LMAO

It's similar to the fact I'm aromantic yet I'm romance flux (repulsed, neutral to positive in actions and threshold) and hilariously being in a polyamorous relationship.

Pretty much how I care, bond, and love others is more like a secret third thing I can't really explain into words properly except for familial. My partners are my spouses, and my friends are my family! I hope this makes sense!

[askanaroace]

i'm questioning whether i'm aplspec - aplspike, i think? maybe - but mainly, i am non-sam aroace, and i don't experience any romantic or sexual attraction. my friends, while acespec, do, and date.

my best friend recently got into a relationship and i feel insane because it makes me feel like i'm being left behind. it seems to be an alloromantic expectation that partners always come before friends.

as silly as it sounds i was listening to a reddit story where op was acting out of jealousy of their friend leaving them after they got into a relationship. while i recognised that it was an excessive reaction, it didn't occur to me once that op was in love with their friend; all of the commenters said they were, and that they were an asshole, because partners come before friends. but if i'm the only one that won't have a partner, does that mean i always come last?

again here - i think i might be aplspec, because i'm not sure whether or not what i feel towards my friends is "love" or not - perhaps some kind of deep attachment? the best friend i mentioned previously helped me through a lot of stuff so it would make sense. at times i definitely feel more obviously apl than others but i've never spoken about this with them for fear of their reaction.

am i overreacting? what do i do about these feelings? even if i don't love them, am i still wrong for feeling like i'm getting left behind? I don't know how to make sense of these feelings, i just don't feel as important anymore and I don't want lash out on them because of my own issues.

Yes, in amatonormativity, people are pressured and expected to treat romantic/sexual partners ahead of friends and friends do become a bit of an afterthought, unfortunately. I'm very sorry you're experiencing this now!

Since your friends are ace themselves, it feels worth it to actually bring this up to them and have a discussion. Before you do, I would consider what actions they've done that trigger these feelings of abandonment/loneliness. Do you hang out less? Do they no longer casually contact you? That way you can have specific things you can ask if they'd be willing to focus on with you.

I think it can kinda be extra tough to date as an ace but you feel really double the amount of pressure to adhere to amatonormative standards in order to be accepted and please your partner. You're already treated like you're somehow disadvantaging or even abusing your partner for being ace, so you can tend to hyper-adhere to amatonormative standards like upkeeping relationship hierarchies. But a conversation might make them realize the harm of this and that they don't have to do this. People worth dating wouldn't ask them to sacrifice their happiness.

As for always coming last, that is going to depend on your circle. There are absolutely people out there being relationship anarchists and working on breaking down these walls! Or maybe you'll happen to find a non-partnering friend or two! It's not an absolute guarantee that you'll always come last. A lot of people will unfortunately probably treat you that way - but there's people out there who won't, as well. I wouldn't just completely give up. Keep advocating for yourself and building relationships with folk who are willing to stand against these norms and value non-romantic relationships more similarly to you! And no, it's not an asshole move to expect to be treated with consideration by your friends! I spend a lot of time on reddit and the aspec communities there are pretty darn good - but by and large, reddit is really a cesspool for some of the worst and most stereotypical ways of thinking. I would not turn to reddit (especially relationship forums) for any sort of reality check or validation.

As for aplspec - there's a lot of different ways to be apl. There's actually two main definitions for being aplatonic, so there's a lot of flexibility in you getting to determine how you feel and if the label helps you or not. Also, if a label even just mostly feels right to you, feel free to use it! Humans aren't clear cut or black and white. There's a lot of room on a lot of spectrums. It's okay to have "exceptions" to the labels you use. I think if apl helps you understand and make room for this difference in the way you feel in regards to friends than other people tend to, then that's what the label is for. Also, aplatonic is about platonicism at its core. There's some aplatonic people who feel like they skip the friend-ness and go straight to being family with some people. They're still apl. You can be apl and have some sort of strong feelings or attachment towards those you're close with.

As for overreacting - feeling feelings is not a reaction. It's an innate response to a variety of internal and external stimuli. Feelings are just information. So having feelings cannot be an underreaction or an overreaction. Feelings are a part of how we decide what actions to take, and it's actions that have positive and negative impacts. So what you need to weigh is: what do you want to do with these feelings? Sit with them and think about them longer? Talk about them? Talk about them to a queer-friendly therapist? Talk about them with your friends? Talk about them with a queer support group? Make changes to the way you build your relationships?

It's okay to feel your feelings and live your life. In general, I hate the term "overreacting". It tends to be a way to gaslight people out of advocating for their own happiness. People are often shamed for "overreacting" by others in their life who don't want to have difficult conversations or take into consideration their feelings. It's always people either in toxic situations or in marginalized communities asking themselves "am I overreacting and being too sensitive?" and never the others asking themselves "am I being too insensitive or even controlling?"

You're allowed to want to make of your life what you want to make of it. That's not a bad thing. Your happiness and fulfillment matters. You should get to build a life with people who want similar things as you. You deserve a place to get to make room for your feelings and make decisions to build your life in a way that would make you happy and comfortable. You deserve to exist, difficult and intense feelings and all.

Having a conversation is not lashing out. It's okay to talk about your feelings with others and ask for what you need. It's okay to walk away from people, too.

[mlm-foxboy]

Sideblog to talk about my lgbtqia+ identities.

Names: Poe, Chiko, Byakko, Niko, Foxy

Pronouns: he/him, it/its

Lgbtqia stuff: Gay, mlm/nblm, trans man, aplatonic(greyplatonic, aplflux, aplvague or aplspike possibly?)

-18 years old

-Alloromantic and allosexual(I think)

-Autism, ADHD, social anxiety, depression, BPD, ARFID

-Alterhuman, @ninetailedyokai is my alterhuman blog. I'm a therian, holothere, otherkin, theriomythic, fictionkin, otherhearted and transspecies(not the radqueer term), antis DNI

-Shinto practitioner, Inari faith, Shinto sideblog: @byakkokitsune

-I'm also a Lokean, separate from my Shinto practice

DNI:

-LGBTQIA+ phobic in any way

-Ableist in any way (believes in 'narcissistic abuse', finds disorders 'scary', hates those with paraphilic disorders, if you believe in thought crimes ect)

-Anti alterhuman

-Syscourse blogs

-Pro-contact big 3 paraphilias

Writing DNIs are boring, I block freely

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[i-love-my-trans-body]

Flag redesigns; All my -spike flags!

I wanted to put all the flags in one place, so here they are. I originally designed just the acespike, arospike, and aroacespike flags, but I wanted to complete the set of common attraction types. As for flag meanings...

The white stripe represents the absence of attraction. The other stripe colors specify attraction type, with the pale top stripe representing weak attraction, and the saturated bottom stripe representing strong attraction. The pink diamond represents the “spikes” of feelings themselves.

Definitions:

💜 Asexualspike (ace-spike): An orientation in which someone usually feels little to no sexual attraction, but occasionally has sudden, intense spikes of sexual attraction for a short amount of time.

💚 Aromanticspike (aro-spike): An orientation in which someone usually feels little to no romantic attraction, but occasionally has sudden, intense spikes of romantic attraction for a short amount of time.

💙 AromanticAsexualspike (aroace-spike): An orientation in which someone usually feels little to no romantic or sexual attraction, but occasionally has sudden, intense spikes of romantic or sexual attraction for a short amount of time.

💛 Aplatonicspike (apl-spike): An orientation in which someone usually feels little to no platonic attraction, but occasionally has sudden, intense spikes of platonic attraction for a short amount of time.

🧡 Asensualspike (asen-spike): An orientation in which someone usually feels little to no sensual attraction, but occasionally has sudden, intense spikes of sensual attraction for a short amount of time.

🩷 Anaestheticspike (anae-spike): An orientation in which someone usually feels little to no aesthetic attraction, but occasionally has sudden, intense spikes of aesthetic attraction for a short amount of time.

🩷💛 Aqueerplatonicspike (aqp-spike): An orientation in which someone usually feels little to no queerplatonic attraction, but occasionally has sudden, intense spikes of queerplatonic attraction for a short amount of time.

🩵 Analterousspike (analt-spike): An orientation in which someone usually feels little to no alterous attraction, but occasionally has sudden, intense spikes of alterous attraction for a short amount of time.

[ryanyflags]

Aplatonic (apl for short) flags part 3 :3 🍏🟩🟦🟪 (This set uses green+blue+purple, there's another set that uses yellow for apl instead.) (Due to the image limit, this is split into 4 posts.)

I noticed some a-spec flags were missing tertiary counterparts, so I made some. Some of these flags have already been made before, so they're not all original (I still wanted to have all the flags together in a set, and all in the same res).

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greyplatonic | demiplatonic | aegoplatonic (1)

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aegoplatonic (2) | non sam apl (1) | non sam apl (2)

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neu apl | aplvoid | aplflux

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aplspike (1) | aplspike (2) | apljump

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dark greyplatonic | light greyplatonic | atomoplatonic

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delloplatonic | fictoplatonic | cupioplatonic

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bellusplatonic | reciproplatonic | lithoplatonic

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frayplatonic (1) | frayplatonic (2) | apothiplatonic

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orchidplatonic | myrplatonic | aplflexible

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I'll also note that some of these terms can have multiple names, with the "platonic", "aplatonic", & "apl" part being interchangeable. This isn't applicable to every term though. I also chose not to list everything to try to keep it brief. So for example, greyplatonic can also be called greyaplatonic and greyapl.

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[A-spec flag sets masterpost]

[all-aspec]

Could you do aplatonicspike and fictoplatonic apples too?

These are the flags btw:

AplSpike:

Fictoplatonic:

🍎Here you go! Hope you like them!!🍎

[aplatonic-alpaca]

[ID: A flag with a thick light yellow stripe, a thin white stripe, and a thick yellow stripe, with a skinny pink diamond in the center. END ID]

I recently figured out I’m aplatonic-spike, so I wanted to take the a-spike flag redesigns by @i-love-my-trans-body and make one for aplatonic-spike.

[mcbannerprideflags]

Aplspike Flag & Shield

Flag & Shield white banner light grey per fess light grey per fess inverted pink lozenge yellow fess

[aroworlds]

[image description: six different cartoon-style bunting graphics, featuring six pride flags hanging from a brown rope. The flags are rectangular, finishing in a chevron shape, and have rows of brown stitching across the top of the flag and along the bottom of the chevron. First image in each set shows the flags with the topmost stripes facing the left; second image shows the three right-hand flags flipped, so all topmost edges face away from the centre of the bunting.

The first flag on each banner is an aromantic spectrum identity and alternates with the corresponding aplatonic spectrum pride flag. Banners in descending order: abroromantic and abroplatonic, apresromantic and apresplatonic, askepsiromantic and askepsiplatonic, arospike and aplspike, frayromantic and frayplatonic, greyromantic and greyplatonic.]

Aromantic and Aplatonic Bunting

Flags: Abroromantic and Abroplatonic, Apresromantic and Apresplatonic, Askepsiromantic and Askepsiplatonic, Arospike and Aplspike, Frayromantic and Frayplatonic, Greyromantic and Greyplatonic.

For flag creator posts, please see @aroflagarchive​​.