#caedromantic

[aro-culture-is]

Probably-aromantic culture is coming out of a terrible no-good experience with hetero-amatonormavity and coming out of it with a really messed up sense of romance, but feeling like I am actually happier with a "broken" sense of romance and would never want to ever "get better", but also feeling guilty about it because I am both afraid of appropriating aromantic experiences and afraid of being judged for never healing

I mean, it is not like just right before the trauma starts, I was already a full-blown relationship anarchist who literally went "oh I have a crush on him but let's be friends because I don't want to be in a romantic relationship"

<2 you're welcome to the community. if it helps to know, there are literally specific microlabels for this, documentation by the lovely folks @aromantic-aurea

Acoromantic*

Describes a person whose negative experiences with romance have alienated them from their alloromanticism.

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Caed(o)romantic*

Describes a person who used to experience romantic attraction, but no longer does due to past trauma.

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[tansypawz]

hey guys happy pride month

as you all may know, im caedosexual. if you dont know what that means basically i am asexual due to trauma [there are aro/aroace versions of this label]. im not ashamed of this identity, but you know what i AM ashamed of ? THE FLAGS. THEYRE SO ASS. IM SO SICK AND TIRED AND I MADE A NEW ONE [GREEN AND BLUE VARIANTS FOR CAEDROMANTIC AND CAEDAROACE FOLKS RESPECTIVELY]

the colors also have meaning !!!!!!!!!

dark red - trauma red - grief and anger and all the feelings that come with being Traumatized lighter red - properly processing trauma and acceptance of caedo identity [when i slowly realized i was caedosexual i felt ashamed because i was "feeding into" the stereotype that ace people are "broken" or wtv. but if your asexuality/aromanticism is caused by trauma thats totally valid !!] white - healing from said trauma shades of purple/green/blue - the vast ace / aro / aroace spectrums. encompasses sex/romance favorable, indifferent and repulsed individuals, and everything in between

i wish all those who identify with these labels a happy pride month, and a safe recovery from their trauma. youre not alone in this, and you will find people who love you for who you are, who will love you how you should be loved.

[pridewishes]

♔ || KOMI SHOUKO ICONS

250x250 || caedromantic || bordered circle

like / rb + credit + read dni if using

requested by anon !!

[our-arospec-experience]

Some Arospec Identities:

This is a list of some Arospec identities! It may be incomplete, and I am not an expert, so please let me know if there are any mistakes/identities you want added. :D

Aromantic: experiencing little or no romantic attraction to anyone; not having romantic feelings.

Aro flux: someone who fluctuates between experiencing romantic attraction and not experiencing it, and/or experiencing romantic attraction to different strengths.

Abroromantic: a fluid attraction, that can mean a fluctuating attraction between genders and/or on or out and/or throughout the aromantic spectrum, to some it's just one or the other, and to others it's both. (explained here by an abro person)

Akoiromantic/lithromantic: an individual who experiences romantic attraction but has no desire or need to have their feelings reciprocated. Sometimes an akoiromantic person’s attraction may fade if a romantic relationship is established.

Alloromantic/zedromantic: someone who does experience romantic attraction. An alloromantic person may be allosexual as well, but not necessarily. This identity is not on the aromantic spectrum.

Cupioromantic: someone who does not experience romantic attraction but has a desire to be in a romantic relationship.

Demi(a)romantic: someone who only experiences romantic attraction after establishing a strong emotional connection to someone.

Frayromantic: someone who experiences romantic attraction, but this attraction fades after getting to know the object of attraction.

Grey-(a)romantic: someone who sometimes, occasionally, or rarely experiences romantic attraction. The attraction they experience may be weak, or it might be infrequent. Also used as an umbrella term for all romantic orientations that fall between alloromantic and aromantic.

Quoiromantic/WTF-romantic: someone who finds romantic attraction confusing, or cannot differentiate between platonic and romantic attraction, or is unsure of whether they experience romantic attraction. It can also mean someone who feels like the concept of romantic attraction doesn't apply to them.

Nebularomantic: is a neurosexuality specific to neurodiverse individuals, and it falls on the aromantic spectrum. It's a label for individuals who have difficulty telling the difference between romantic and platonic attraction specifically due to their neurodivergence (or can't tell the difference at all).

Caedromantic: having been able to experience romantic attraction in the past, and not experiencing romantic attraction any more, with the feeling that the romantic attraction was taken away/destroyed or left because of a traumatic experience.

Aegoromantic: Someone who is aegoromantic enjoys the concept of romance but does not want to participate in actual romantic activities. An example of this would be an aegoromantic individual enjoying watching a romantic show or reading a romance novel. However acting out these romantic stories in real life would not be appealing to an aegoromantic person. An aegoromantic individual would typically not desire a romantic relationship.

Apothiromantic: individuals on the aromantic spectrum who consider themselves to be romance-repulsed, are called apothiromantic. A romance-repulsed aromantic is repulsed by the idea of romance all together. Like with any romantic identity, apothiromantic individuals can have any sexual orientation. Their aromantic identity is not directly connected to their sexual identity.

Arospike: is an aromantic orientation on the aromantic spectrum. This identity is for those who usually do not feel a romantic attraction. Sometimes however, an arospike can experience a (rare) sudden spike of aromantic attraction that will last for a short amount of time. After this they will return just as quickly, to aromantic.

Autoromantic: is a term for individuals who experience a romantic attraction (exclusive or not) towards themselves. It can occur in different forms, such as: fantasizing about a romantic relationship with yourself. Or, as described above: feeling little to no romantic attraction to others but being able to feel romantic attraction to yourself.

Bellusromantic: defined as someone who has interest in (certain aspects of) traditional romantic behaviour such as holding hands and cuddling. However, a bellusromantic would not experience romantic attraction and does not want an actual romantic relationship. So they keyword here is ‘interest’. The interest is there, but a bellusromantic can’t and wouldn’t want to put it into practice.

Fictoromantic: falls under the aromantic spectrum as they do not experience romantic attraction to (real life) people. Fictoromantic is a term used for individuals who experience romantic attraction exclusively towards fictional characters. Fictoromantic is also known as fictonromantic.

Myrromantic: Someone who identifies as myrromantic is on the aromantic spectrum but might feel confused as to where exactly, as they can experience multiple aromantic identities at once. They can also rapidly fluctuate. As an example: a person who considers themself to be both demiromantic as well as grayromantic. This might be confusing to some, which is why myrromantic can be a more comfortable label to identify with.

Recipromantic: (also known as reciproromantic) someone who does not experience romantic attraction until they know that the other individual is romantically attracted to them first.

Requisromantic: someone who experiences a very limited, or no romantic attraction and interest due to some form of emotional exhaustion. The reason of emotional exhaust may have many reasons such as (bad) past experiences dealing with romance or other emotionally draining reasons.

Amicusromantic: means you don’t have romantic attraction to someone unless you form a platonic bond/ friendship with them.(explained here by an amicusromantic person)

Uniromantic: also known as oneromantic or unianthroromantic, refers to someone who feels romantic attraction toward one person and one person only for advanced periods of time, or perhaps one’s whole lifetime.

Desinoromantic: when one does not experience full-on romantic attraction, but a romantic attraction akin to "liking" someone rather than "loving" them

Idemromantic: when one experiences no notable internal differences between platonic and romantic feelings, often categorizing relationships (and feelings) as platonic or romantic based on external factors.

Alicoromantic or Agnoromantic: someone who knows they are somewhere on the aromantic spectrum, but their romantic orientation does not fit in any aromantic spectrum label.

Iamvanoromantic: the desire to not show romantic affection to someone but you may have the desire to receive some (via @/aroace-safe-space-for-all)

Placioromantic: you don’t have the desire to receive romantic affections but you do have the desire to show some (via @/aroace-safe-space-for-all)

Arohaze: alabel for an arospec individual who’s other orientation(s) are in between or both allo and ace/void. source

Apathromantic: Someone whose orientation form of "romance indifferent" which can also be used as a title. It does not distinguish if the person does or does not have romantic attraction, but just that they are indifferent in receiving it or acting it out. Source

Loveless Aromantic: describes someone who is on the aromantic spectrum that is in some way disconnected from the concept of love, does not feel love, may doubt that they feel love, or rejects the idea of experiencing love. source

Lovequeer: someone who fully rejects the concept of “love” as society applies it for romance, and to redefine the word around oneself and the types of love neglected by amatonormativity. source

Subtiliaromantic: someone who experiences zero romantic attraction.

Non-SAM aro: an aromantic individual who doesn’t use the Split Attraction Model, aka the SAM.

Again, tell us if there's any we can add/ have got wrong (probably tell mod ozzie, he's the one that updates it)

[maybe-yagami]

3 am and i have successfully solved my identity

[noahizslay]

happy aromantic spectrum awareness week to all:

• aromantic people

• grayromantic people

• demiromantic people

• aroflux people

• lithromantic people

• frayromantic people

• arospike people

• arojump people

• desinoromantic people

• caedromantic people

• aegoromantic people

• cupioromantic people

• orchidromantic people

• bellusromantic people

• myrromantic people

• fictoromantic people

• all other arospec not mentioned before

y'all are so valid and i love y'all so much! hope y'all a really good time celebrating our beautiful existence and fuck amatonormativity!

bye my dear humans! 💚

[gluttonyedits]

themed pride flags: sparkly caedromantic - for those who identify as caedromantic and view themselves as sparkly or with sparkles

[vernalloy]

happy pride month im sending my power to all of you whose queer identity is affected or caused by trauma

[oil-bh]

THEY MADE HOLLYBERRY COOKIE CAEDROMANTIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I ALREADY HEADCANONED HER AS ARO THIS IS EVEN BETTER. DURING PRIDE MONTH!

[eqho]

YOU ARE STILL ARO/ACE IF:

- you experience rare romantic attraction

- you experience rare sexual attraction

- you experience romantic/sexual attraction but do not desire a relationship

- you don't experience attraction but desire a relationship

- you feel tertiary attraction AND sexual/romantic attraction

- you used to be in relationships and had attraction, but don't anymore

- you have libido, enjoy sex, etc.

- you are completely repulsed

- your aro/ace identity/intensity fluctuates

- you don't know how to label yourself

- you don't want to label yourself

- you enjoy romantic/sexual content

- are aro/ace due to trauma

- are indifferent rather than repulsed

- you use multiple labels

- you feel romantic/sexual attraction, and fantasize about being with that person, but wouldn't actually date them or do things with them

- you are aro/ace but identify with another label off the aspec

- you crush on people, but it stops there and you don't wanna date!

- you fantasize about sex/romance, not just fictional but in real life, but once it's about to happen or it comes up, you don't actually want it

- desire a relationship but can't feel attraction

- can't differentiate between attractions

- can't differentiate between attractions due to being neurodivergent

- are on the aspec due to being neurodivergent

- you have 'contradictory' labels

- you feel non-tertiary attraction sometimes but don't use a label that describes that, just using plain old aro/ace instead! keeping it simple :3+<

- if you identity as aro/ace!!

Made this post bc of my aroace crisis and feeling kinda invalid/left out being grayromantic asexual but still experiencing rare romantic attraction (please ask for more to add to the list!)

THIS IS TO ALL MY ORCHIDROMANTICS/SEXUALS, GRAYROMANTIC/SEXUALS, CAEDROMANTIC/SEXUALS, APOTHIROMANTIC/SEXUALS, LITHROMANTIC/SEXUALS, MYRROMANTIC/SEXUALS, DESINOROMANTIC/SEXUALS, REQUISROMANTIC/SEXUAL, RECIPROMANTIC/SEXUAL, CUPIOROMANTIC/SEXUAL, ANGLED AROACES, IDEMROMANTIC/SEXUALS, NEBULAROMANTIC/SEXUALS, NOVIROMANTIC/SEXUALS, PLACIOROMANTIC/SEXUALS, FRAYROMANTIC/SEXUALS, DEMIROMANTIC/SEXUALS, ZINNIAROMANTIC/SEXUALS, ICULAROMANTIC/SEXUALS, AMIDS AND ANYONE ELSE WHO FEELS LEFT OUT.

AS AN ARO/ACE PERSON, IF YOU ARE ON THE SPECTRUM, STOP INVALIDATING PEOPLES' IDENTITIES. WE NEED ASPEC SOLIDARITY, NOT DISCOURSE. IM NOT SAYING "oh, just tolerate them! we have bigger problems than.." NO. ACCEPT THEM. SUPPORT THEM.

(Ily also just aroaces that are more recognized, but I want the people who feel left out to know they're loved)

OP rarely feels romantic attraction but only uses aroace to describe their identity! I used to use grayromantic but less labels :3

[polygamousfistingchaos]

Schizottractional / Autittractional / Antisocittractional / Conducttranctional

Schizottractional: When your experience on the anattractional spectrum is tied to/caused by having schizophrenia spectrum disorder.

Autittractional: When your experience on the anattractional spectrum is tied to/caused by having autism spectrum disorder.

Antisocittractional: When your experience on the anattractional spectrum is tied to/caused by having anti social personality disorder.

Conducttractional: When your experience on the anattractional spectrum is tied to/caused by having conduct disorder.

[arospec-positivity-memes]

Hai :3

I'm Autumn :D

I'm Eliraleanic (they/them) and aromantic/aegosexual, and ive made this blog with the goal of spreading memes and positivity, ill be posting a combination of memes i find online, memes sent in by you all through the submissions button, and positivity posts/reblogs of positivity posts :3

If you have any questions about me, this blog, or my perspectives on being aro, feel free to send an ask! I love yapping and answering questions :D

[blkvxmp]

spencer or zach, he/it/vamp/lurk, gnc transsexual fag ♱ prnpage ♱ rentry ♱ muttfail on sp ♱ hoard

yo, i'm spencer. i'm an autistic plural boything who loves girls and dudes, mainly dudes. think of me as the flamboyant gay man, lesbian in theory scared to practice, emo drag queen. girlie in a gay way, fagirl if you will. i love being a goth girl but don't get it twisted, i'm a boy despite my desire to be the typical girl. please don't use she/her on me. uhm other stuff is uhhhh.. i'm intersex, i LOVE body mods and bats, ginger ale and metal/rock carries my soul, and i'm the co-host of a system. my dude casper (a member of my system) might come on here from time to time but he's not much for publicity despite his big mouth. if you couldn't tell, i'm a vampire kin along with a ghost, zombie, werewolf, and banshee kin. i'm also a monster lover so there's that. i'm mixed ethnicity and i'm racially black. my fav bands are msi, ac/dc, mcr, evanescence, slipknot, deftones, blink-182, weezer, and limp bizkit. i believe in god but not organized religion, but idc what religion you follow as long as you aren't an asshat. no real dni but i ask heavy ns/fw accounts to not interact with me, it makes me mad uncomfy. that goes for sh/ed blogs, heavy political based blogs, and just the basic dni stuff. if i don't vibe with you i'll just block, and if you're confused, you can reach out, but depending on the reason i blocked i may ignore you.

i curse, i try not to but it gets annoying trying to be pg. i do art and i'll post some once i can. i identify as nb and genderfluid as well. i'm afraid of spiders and deep water, plus some irrational stuff like church bells, alpacas, and pigs, i don't need trigger warnings for them since i really only get scared seeing them in person, but i ask that you trigger warning trypophobia, videos involving deep sea creatures meant to scare you, emetophobia, and videos that play the toll of a church bell since the sound scares me. i'm also afraid of the dark, ironic for a vampire i know, so please trigger warning scary videos related to having things follow you in the dark. i have trauma around unwanted advances and flirting so PLEASE don't do that, it really messes with me. you can call me pretty/handsome or whateva but please don't flirt. please use tone tags. i'm in a system of over 100 so like if i seem grouchy for no reason it's because i literally have over 100 roommates talking all at once. if you'd like to be moots, don't hesitate to ask! i may be socially inept and anxious for literally no reason but i love meeting people who have the same interests as me! but i am painfully shy so keep that in mind. more may be added.

vamp divider

[jamiieeez]

Neurorose

Neurorose is when someone is both neurosexual and neuroromantic.

I made a neuroattractional flag some time ago, the flag is here[link]

Caedrose

Caedrose is when someone is both caedosexual and caedoromantic.

Caedattractional

Caedattractional is where someone feels that one was previously able to experience attraction, but that ability was lost due to trauma or negative events.

Here[link] is the link to the caed(o) flags.

[our-arospec-experience]

My questioning caedromantic + loveless aro experience is being completely unable to picture myself in any kind of loving relationship (romantic, QPR, close friendship, etc) and barely knowing what love is. Because I grew up convinced my parents didn’t love me. And I’m wondering if I’m a loveless aro now or if I’m just the worst stereotype of a loveless aro who needs to be fixed and then I’ll understand love.

You never need to be fixed. You are valid, and so are your feelings, no matter how they came to be there or what you went through to make you that way.

[q-u-i-n-a-s-i]

Medusa-/Me-

Medusa-, or shortened as Me- is a trauma exclusive identity that involves having a lack of, or difficulty maintaining attraction to men due to trauma. Someone who is under the medusa- umbrella may have tertiary attraction towards men, but may experience repulsion or lack of desire to act on this attraction.

Anyone of any orientation with this experience may identify within the medusa- umbrella. This label is entirely self-indulgent, as it matches my own experience in regards to trauma involving men.

The colors of the flags are inspired by the Greek figure, Medusa (whom this label is named after), a figure that has been widely reclaimed by sexual trauma survivors, and the PTSD awareness ribbon. Do not change/redesign my flags. These colors do hold a purpose.

Me- is pronounced as "muh."

Medusarose/Merose - Lack of, or difficulty maintaining romantic and sexual attraction to men due to trauma. Someone who is medusarose may have tertiary attraction towards men, but may experience repulsion or lack of desire to act on this attraction.

Medusaromantic/Meromantic - Lack of, or difficulty maintaining romantic attraction to men due to trauma. Someone who is medusaromantic may have tertiary attraction towards men, but may experience repulsion or lack of desire to act on this attraction.

Medusasexual/Mesexual - Lack of, or difficulty maintaining sexual attraction to men due to trauma. Someone who is medusasexual may have tertiary attraction towards men, but may experience repulsion or lack of desire to act on this attraction.

Medusaroseflux/Meroseflux - Fluctuating lack of, or difficulty maintaining romantic and sexual attraction to men due to trauma. Someone who is medusaroseflux may have tertiary attraction towards men, but may experience fluctuating repulsion or lack of desire to act on this attraction.

Medusaroflux/Meroflux - Fluctuating lack of, or difficulty maintaining romantic attraction to men due to trauma. Someone who is medusaroflux may have tertiary attraction towards men, but may experience fluctuating repulsion or lack of desire to act on this attraction.

Medusaflux/Meflux - Fluctuating lack of, or difficulty maintaining sexual attraction to men due to trauma. Someone who is medusaflux may have tertiary attraction towards men, but may experience fluctuating repulsion or lack of desire to act on this attraction.

This identity is not for people who weaponize bioessentialism against men or masculine individuals. There is a difference between having a trauma response and assigning morality to gender.