#bad roommates

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[aradiamegido]

hey uhhhhhh

so i don't really know how to do this, but if you see this post, will you listen to this band? my friends are in it and i think it would be neat if they broke 100 listeners on Spotify :)

the music itself is punk with a heavy emphasis on swearing. i really like "Fuck You" bc it is something i would scream at old bosses of mine if given the chance

thanks y'all

[oracle-cassandra]

So, because of the current state of the usa economy I have to live in an apartment with (2) roommates. We each have our own bedroom, bathroom, and pay our own separate portions of the rent and bills.

It started out with two of us in this three bedroom apartment. Recently, like as of last week, a third girl moved in. Tell me if I'm jumping the gun by already getting ruffled the wrong way after coming home and finding out she's been using my pots, cooking utensils, and took some of my dry food after I kindly told her that I "don't share anything that goes in your mouth." Tonight, she says that she remembers me saying she could use my stuff.

Is it going too far that I've written my name on everything that's mine in the kitchen?

Before the third roommate, things were peaceful and chill. Now, there's more food left on the table and counter, more mess on the counters. She says that she moved in without pots, pans, and such. And that's fine and all but still don't use mine. My stuff is expensive

Plus, what really rubbed me the wrong way even more is that she says she's scared to talk to me when this is literally only the second time we've spoken, and the first time she was laughing, making jokes, and visibly calmed. I haven't raided my voice or had an attitude. Also, when I walked in the kitchen, i recognized my pot on the stove and sinply asked her "Is thst my pot?" And she says that's accusing her.

She's a Black girl (22 years old, I think) adopted and raised by two White mothers, so I'm starting to think she got some of their racist thinking of seeing color first (of thinking Black people are automatically aggressive and violent)

But really, am I going too far writing my name on everything?

[mixedbag-o-beans]

sometimes i remember that my roommate sophomore year of college tried convert me (an openly queer ex-catholic) and my best friend (a practicing buddhist) to catholicism. it just makes me giggle. homegirl would try to read the bible to us like a bedtime story.

id just be laying in my bed staring up at the ceiling like

[blondefoxmedic]

All my lavenders died. Thanks for nothing roommates...

[a-witch-called-cottage]

I hate to do this because I HATE asking for help but here we go….

So, I thought the whole mess with my old place was settled, but apparently one of our ex-roommates left a huge mess in the basement and the yard (which the neighbor decided to add to) and the company that owns the property billed us all for cleaning it up, but the roommate’s gone and run off, and none of us can get ahold of him, so we’re stuck with a $1,200 debt that we can’t pay because two of us lost our jobs (one of them being me), but if we don’t pay in less than a month, we get sent to court. I’m already dealing with my partner’s stuff (he got detained on bs charges while protesting a tent ban in our city and is still awaiting court) while trying to find a new job and taking him to his appointments for his two chronic illnesses. I made a gofundme, so if you can help, please do. If not, send this to someone who can.

[cat-chthesehands]

I am in my day to day life, kinda shy but with adhd volume control issues, polite, good-humored, charitable, kind, and I edge away from people who speak violently.

The maiming I wish upon my boyfriend's housemates lately is uncharacteristic of me and burns hot and i would never act on it but i mean several things i say about them so so so so so so so so fucking much.

[iero-daydreams]

Finally getting out of a really terrible unsafe environment because of a violent psychotic roommate !!!!! Gonna be able to have my own space and not have to worry about eating in my room and my stuff getting broken or the place burning down! 9 months of hell are almost over and I can breathe and sleep again :))))

[chicagolonely]

12/26/2023

Unfortunately, my roommate came back today from being gone for 4 months. I got so used to living alone that I don't want to live with someone anymore. We are polar opposites to the point that we make each other uncomfortable. I only know this because she told me. One week into living together, she told me that my healthy lifestyle makes her feel bad about herself. She's made off handed comments about me not being home much, having lots of things, being clean, and "responsible." Her words. She says these things and follows them with how she's the opposite and then apologizes when I never said anything. It never bothered me until she started making these comments. I know it is not a me issue, but it triggers my people pleasing nature. I dont like that I make her feel bad. It makes me feel bad. I can't wait till my lease is up....

[unhingeduninvited]

so my roommates kinda... went behind my back and signed a new lease for next year without telling me so... the living situation is kinda not great right now... why do all of my girl friends end up leaving me...? pls i want women in my life

[yikesforever]

We have had friends living our extra room for about 4 months now. They have taken out the garbage maybe twice, swept maybe twice and cleaned the whole kitchen maybe once. But they do cook every night out all their trash on our kitchen table everyday and their dogs do hang out in our house during the day. So you tell me how that makes any fucking sense to not atleast do a little cleaning.

Sure they hand wash their dishes but not all the time. I guarantee we've done their dishes, at the very least put them all the way or thrown away their trash or anything else. I also dont think theyve paid us rent in two months but I don't want to bring that up. Cause they are my partners friends not mine and it feels like overstepping but they are overstepping her kindness. And honestly if this is how they treat our house I don't fucking know if I want to go to their house when they do move out. Like your not gonna take out your trash or vacuum the floor or any of that.

And on top of all the this the wife doesn't work. She is home ALL day every day. She doesn't do shit. Doesn't have a remote job. Just I don't even fucking know what she does honestly but it's not cool for her husband when he's coming hom late nope he gets taco bell FOR BOTH OF THEM when he comes home at 11pm. Like they are something else and I am so excited for them to move out November 1st.

[mayhapsyourmom]

The actual worst kinda of people:

Roommates who have romantic time while their roommates are in the room

[jigglypuffinvirtualparadise]

Hey also my roommates blast their tv volume at 1am. How am I supposed to empathize with this situation? What am I supposed to do here to empathize?? How do I be the bigger person in this situations? Someone please help me. Because I genuinely want to empathize but all I feel is hate. Idk if people talk enough about toxic roommates. But #toxicroommates should definitely be a hashtag. Inconsiderate, manipulative roommates. One of a kind. Are there any tips to empathize with these kind of people?

[broken-hearts-and-unsent-letters]

My friend really hurt me. She’s been in my life since we were kids but I’m debating on if it’s time to end our friendship. We had been planning for months to get an apartment together and at the last minute she’s decided she’s gonna take an impulsive year long trip to Hawaii instead. I’m just really hurt and she’s kinda fucked me over and this isn’t the first time. Not to mention she owes me a couple grand. I’m just done and I don’t want to be done but I think this is my last straw

[calipton]

i love that i was gone 2 days and my roommates (2 grown ass adults) managed to attract bugs by just not cleaning anything. dirty dishes in the sink, random wet towels in the bathroom, cluttered table, counters/surfaces all gross. clean dishes left on the counter so ill probably have to rewash them.

they use the fact that they have jobs as excuses for never doing anything around the house, but i know when i finally get a job ill be able to handle all the house chores and a job. bc adults do noth, even if they dont want to.

[jude-thedude98]

Have pity for yourself;

I hope that the demons you decide to let out

Are the exact causation of insufferable suffocation

Defined as alone and abandoned.

Maybe then you will understand me.

Do You Hear Me Now?

By Mr. PoetAll