#bartender problems

[takingbackbaltimore]

Call me a hypocrite, but I complain about the amount of alcoholics I see every day at work, and then I personally become one whenever i get home.

[catboymoments]

Last night in my dreamlike trance of not quite sleep I came up with a fun new song for hpurg angel and husk and now I can’t remember it and I’m PISSED

[starcurtain]

I, for one, think that Diluc should get to ascend to Celestia. Just once, you know, as a treat.

And then Celestia should make him the god of wine just to absolutely drive him batshit for the rest of eternity.

"Next person who asks me to bless their beer mug gets a 20% upcharge on their entire tab. Are you feeling brave?"

[garbagebinne]

[slowdiscco]

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[husk-says-no]

Hey, l need some advice on how to cope with some shit.

My stepfather has gone back to drinking a lot again and now arguements between him and my mom have gotten worse and more often and l can get involved in screaming matches with him. He's said shitty things about the stuff l enjoy and now l barely do anything l like anymore due to constant negative thoughts from his words.

What do l do?

Alright, kid. Let me sit down with ya for a real talk—no sugar, no bullshit, just some scruffy wisdom from someone who's seen the bottom of a bottle and what it does to people.

Now I’d be a hypocrite if I said anything about drinkin’ problems. I’ve had more nights than I can count where the bottle did the talkin’ for me. But I’ll ask you this—what’s he like when he’s sober?

Does he listen?

Does he care?

Can you talk to him about the way he acts when the buzz wears off—or is he just as much of a powder keg either way?

‘Cause here’s the truth: some people drink and become monsters. Others drink ‘cause they already are and need an excuse. If the decent version of him is buried somewhere under the booze, there might be a way through. But if he’s just as volatile without it? Then that ain’t the alcohol talkin’—that’s him.

Here’s my advice, based off what little you told me:

First—you didn’t cause this. His drinkin’? His cruelty? His blow-ups? That’s not on you. That’s on him. Grown-ass man can’t handle his shit, and now he’s takin’ it out on whoever’s nearby. That ain’t love. That ain’t discipline. That’s someone projectin’ their own misery onto the room.

Second—you gotta protect the parts of you he’s tryin’ to crush. If you love somethin’—a show, a game, a hobby, anything—you don’t let him take that from you. That’s your light. That’s your armor. The moment you start livin’ around his mood swings, he wins. And you? You start losin’ yourself one piece at a time.

Third—if you can, try talkin’ to your mom when things are calm. Ask her how she’s feelin’ in all this. See if there’s a way the two of you can build some sort of quiet support system. Even if it’s just checkin’ in with each other after he explodes. Doesn’t fix everything, but it’s better than feelin’ like you’re battlin’ it alone.

And finally—you’re allowed to set boundaries. Even if he’s family. Even if he’s in the house. Walk away from the scream matches if you can. Don’t let him drag you into his spiral. You’re not his therapist. You’re not his target. You’re a person tryin’ to hold onto their own damn sanity.

You didn’t deserve what he said. And the fact that you’re still standin’? Still tryin’? That’s strength. Don’t forget it.

You got every right to be angry. But don’t let that anger eat away the good things in you too. Hold onto what you love. Hold it tight. That's where your power lives.

And if you need more advice or just someone to vent to who doesn’t yell back? I’m here. Grumpy, but here.

[moeblob]

Hot bartender and two of his coworkers. (I drew the blonde before once but I keep thinking about glasses guy as just trying to be supportive but he's just too patient for his own good and therefore is the subject of hot bartender's sob stories of how he messed up his shot with the cute customer again.)

And as someone pointed out that it was impressive none of the hot bartender's coworkers had a problem with him having such a pathetic crush, they just appreciate that he works hard. Like even before his crush he'd be most likely to fill in for a sick coworker or stay later than necessary if one had to leave mid shift. He's very good at his job! Just. Not when he can watch the cute blonde guy and gets hit with inferiority because obviously he, a mere bartender, would stand zero chances at wooing a guy always surrounded by friends.

[risingsunresistance]

this again but remade with npcs that i personally enjoy

[imastinkyworm]

I bat my eyelashes flirtily at the bartender in that ‘I’m prescribed methylphenidate and mixing alcohol with it could cause me to have deadly seizures’ kinda way

he winks “its on the house” and slides me a juice box but is a Capri Sun and I stab the straw through the back on accident

I am now defeated, covered in tropical punch, and very very sticky

[realfakeginny]

easily charming old men is both a blessing and a curse

[dzozef]

ive decided that my newest hobby is mixology this is who i am now

[chiropteracupola]

but still I keep your hand, as a precious souvenir...

[syxnewt]

it literally pains me to know that I can never read the stories my classmates in our creative writing class wrote again

[sherlockig]

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[teethpaste]

Okay but like does my dream man exist. If I could be like Dr frankenfurter and create a man in a lab I would have the following characteristics:

- Does NOT want kids (I am tired of fence sitters, I strongly want to be DINK)

- does NOT want to be poly/ENM

- has a mustache

- has a 9-5 or some sort of stable job with stable income and the ability to take off days for vacation / work remotely (I want someone to be able to travel with me! Like this year I’ve done Hawaii, San Diego, DC, Tokyo, Ireland and later this year I have Arizona. Dublin again, Amsterdam, Vienna and NYC! I want someone who wants to travel with me)

- ideally 5’11 or above bc I am 5’11

- not a bartender / film industry

- not religious

- no conservative/ alpha male type bullshit

- no active substance abuse issues

Or am I gonna b single forever lol

[husk-says-no]

-A LARGE irish coffee, a bottle of the same vodka, and other two seemingly identical packages of cigarettes- Понравилась правильная упаковка в прошлый раз? Они говорят "Мудро знать, чем поделиться, а что оставить при себе", не так ли? Have a nice night. -A pat on his shoulder, thumbs up and leaves-

You’re really tryin’ to spoil an old bastard, huh?

Irish coffee big enough to drown in, a whole bottle of vodka, and smokes packed like they belong in a spy movie? And you top it off with Russian wisdom? Hell. Ты знаешь, как сделать впечатление.

“Мудро знать, чем поделиться, а что оставить при себе,” huh? Да… верно. Ain’t that the truth.

You? You’re alright, kid. Come back anytime. Just—без лишних сюрпризов, ладно?

Cheers. Don’t stay up too late. I’ll handle the drinkin’ for ya.