#friends are important for mental health

[gildedoak]

Episode 7: Beignets!

I rewatched S2E2 of Helluva Boss ("Seeing Stars") and got hit with that BANGER of a line from Loona about dads having issues and messing up all the time but still caring. VIVZIE, I am sensing a THEMEEEEEEE.

And thank you for all the lovely comments thus far! I'm so tickled to see how many folks connect with this, whether you're from the American South or not. Food is such a core love language for so many people.

SOUTHERN COMFORT FOOD SERIES Chicken and Waffles Sweet Tea Peach Cobbler Hushpuppies Crab/Crawfish Boil Gumbo (plus character notes!) Beignets Part 2 Fried Catfish Shrimp and Grits Cornbread Pecan Pie Biscuits and Gravy

Description under the cut!

[IMAGE DESCRIPTION: Radioapple comic

PANEL 1: (Lucifer sits atop a barstool-like chair on his balcony at the hotel. He's curled up in on himself, quietly crying with his head in his arms as he slumps over the marble balustrade and his tail curled around his ankles.)

PANEL 2: (Alastor gently sets a large platter of fresh beignets next to Lucifer's arm, and Lucifer glances up, looking miserable.) Alastor: (offscreen) You're not a bad father, you know.

PANEL 3: (Alastor strikes a jazz-hands pose as a canned laugh track emanates from his cane.) Alastor: Granted, YES you did fail spectacularly! You fail A LOT. But...

PANEL 4: (Closeup of the lower half of Lucifer's face as more tears fall down his cheeks.) Alastor: (offscreen) ...you're consistently, SINCERELY trying. And that is incredibly important.

PANEL 5: (closeup of Alastor's right eye in profile) Alastor: It's certainly more than my father ever did.

PANEL 6: (Alastor reaches over and places a hand on Lucifer's, which is still clutching at his upper arm. Though we can't see Lucifer's face, he's sitting a little straighter, looking up at Alastor.) Alastor: (offscreen) Or yours, for that matter.

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[the-jesus-pill]

Here’s a friendly reminder!

You are allowed to say ‘no’.

You are allowed to hang up the phone.

You are allowed to ignore calls.

You are allowed to delete emails, texts and messages.

You are allowed to ignore the doorbell.

You are allowed to decline invitations.

You are allowed to lie about why you can’t / won’t go. 

You are allowed to refuse gifts or give them away.

You are allowed to prioritize yourself or your friends over family.

You are allowed to leave. 

You are allowed to leave without saying goodbye. 

You are allowed to withhold politeness to those who disrespect you.

You are allowed to express your anger.

You are allowed to shut someone out. 

[whoblewboobear]

I’m gonna take Kipperlilly from some of yall 👀 you can like a villain without trying to clear their name. She objectively is a murderer and a villain this season. It does not make you a “””””bad Person””””” if you like her. You do not have to try and age her down or make her out to be innocent or gentle or sweet or misunderstood. You do not get to use her mental health to excuse her actions either.

At this point, a lot of these post are getting into slippery slope territory, especially concerning mental health. You can be mentally ill and still understand right from wrong. Infantilizing people struggling with their mental health can cause harm. There are mentally ill people that can/will/do go their entire lives without blaming and trying to harm others because of what they’re going through.

Like I feel like we’ve officially hit Joaquin Phoenix Joker levels of ‘we live in a society’ discourse. Yes, there are things that suck and living with mental health issues and having that make your life harder sucks. But then funneling that feeling of unfairness and frustration into harming other people is not okay or justifiable. It’s a clear sign that someone went untreated or their mental health was not taken seriously enough soon enough.

There are a lot of young and impressionable people in the d20 community (a community that is overwhelmingly very supportive and cognizant of mental health) that will see the KLCK discourse and take some of these things to heart. Please be mindful in what you post. She is a fictional character and in context of the story, instead of getting further help or seeking better treatment for her mental health, she chose to harm people. Some responsibility does fall on her in that regard. Not all, but some. There is a point where things get very concerning when you become a danger to yourself or others, Kipperlilly is in that place to be very clear. She needs help.

Yes she is underage, and I do think Jawbone has a heavy responsibility to either reach out to her parents to report her behavior and figure out a treatment plan for her immediately. This never happened, even when she admitted to wanting to kill Kristen. She continued on, untreated and without her rage issues not being fully addressed. Then she murdered someone.

Infantilizing Kipperlilly to absolve her of her wrongdoing isn’t the convo we should be having. Figuring out where she falls on the morality scale does nothing, she’s one of the villains of the season, by that metric, she’s not a great person (not because of her rage disorder, because of her actions.) There are complexities to her. The conversation we should be having is why not a single faculty member or adult that interacted with her and witnessed this behavior didn’t say “woah hey, let’s pump the breaks and get you assessed for a few things and get to the root of what’s going wrong.”

When you see someone struggling, reach out, assess the situation. If you’re an adult and are in a position to help, don’t hesitate to do so or notify a parent or guardian in their life so they get them help. If you’re underage and see a peer struggling, check in and if something sticks out to you as concerning, reach out to an adult that can help or find someone to help. Don’t enable violent or harmful behavior. /Please/ that person can end up hurting themselves or someone else.

[fluffydice]

In all seriousness I think Saiki is a really good example of a person who is passively suicidal in a relatively normal setting. Especially someone who’s young and growing up under poor circumstances (his powers, etc.) Obviously people don’t actually have psychic powers, but a big thing about the media is that at the end of the day, Saiki is really just a normal kid. Having a show where the main character is depressed, yet this isn’t the main focus of the plot or his character, makes it one of the best representations of clinical depression for me personally.

[midnights-dragon]

“this too shall pass” i mutter to myself during the worst period of my life (it still shall pass)

[tuliptic]

🐇 Best Way To Show Yourself Love

We have been talking about love and since Valentine’s coming up, why not we talk about loving ourselves? Have we thought of how to show ourselves some love? And in what form?

Close your eyes, meditate on this topic and ask yourself the question: What is the best way to show yourself more love? Breathe in and out, make sure your mind and heart is calm. Then, open your eyes to see which pile talks to you the most/draws you in the most. Once you’ve found your pile, scroll down to the respective parts to see what are the messages for you.

Pile 1    -     Pile 2

Pile 3    -     Pile 4

Disclaimer: This is solely for my entertainment purposes. Take only whatever that you feel like it. If it doesn’t resonate, it’s okay to just drop it. That aside, I do not consent to my work or images used here to be used by third parties on this platform or other websites.

Decks used: Luna Cat Tarot Deck (Major Arcana), Linestrider Tarot Deck, Sweet Dreams Oracle Deck, Starcodes Astro Oracle Deck.

Pile 1

Main theme of querent - The Fool, The High Priestess

You're someone young in energy and yet has an old soul at the same time. You're probably someone who has tapped into your spiritual abilities and has been using them subconsciously. There’s some form of learning I’m seeing? There’s a chance that you’re also learning some stuffs of spirituality and learning to be more in tune with yourself.

What do you need in terms of love - King of Swords rx

You need rationality and structure, you need things that are concrete, you need stability instead of flightiness. Some form of maturity, some mature energy. I have a feeling that some of you may be Saturn dominant as well. There’s also some sort of empathy and compassion that you need due to the over rationality that you have.

Why do you need those needs fulfilled - Four of Swords

You’ve been deprived of love for yourself. You’ve been giving out love until you’re nothing but an empty husk. You need structure for yourself, so that you won’t over give until you’re empty, and that you need people to love you too, you need those compassion directed towards you. You’ve been so, so tired of giving and giving, never receiving. So it’s time that you learn how to set boundaries.

When, especially, you need to love yourself more - The Magician

When you want others to love you. Lemme explain. When you want people to love you, when you wanna “manifest” love into your life, it’s a sign that you’re not loving yourself enough that you want to rely on other people to love you, to validate you. It shouldn’t be that way. You should love yourself more, and other people will follow suit to love you when they see you loving yourself, knowing that you’re worthy of love. I hope I’m making sense here.

How can you love yourself more? - Four of Wands rx

Be in harmony with yourself. I know it’s difficult but this is something that takes a long time as it’s a lifelong process (I say as though I’ve been through an entire lifetime). But for real, face that fear in you, nurture your inner child, celebrate every small wins, etc. Start from something small, as every small wins will build up to a huge win. Know that you’re on the right path and believe in yourself.

What will it be like when you’ve loved yourself more - The Hierophant

You’ll be more grounded and less flighty. You’ll learn how to look at things from various perspectives and learn how to nurture yourself better, starting with yourself. For some reason, I’m also seeing that people will respect you more? Maybe cuz of the boundaries you’ve set, maybe because you’ve learnt to pamper yourself and work on yourself more instead of focusing on others? Either way, the change in you will be evident that people’s view on you will change. But most importantly, the change in you will be evident to you as well, where you’ll learn how to focus on yourself more.

Advices for you - Five of Wands rx

Release whatever tension that’s within you. It’s not easy, so let’s start with remembering that life is not a competition, that there’s no need to keep rushing and comparing with other people. There isn’t a necessity to keep running away from conflicts. Avoid what can be avoided, face up what needs to be faced. Just listen to your heart, it’s stronger than the anxiety you have in you.

Extra card - Three of Cups rx

Spend some time for yourself, meditate if needed. There’s a huge call for independence for this pile. Maybe some of you have been relying on others, some have been relying on substance/alcohol. But most of all, most of y’all have been relying on external validations, as mentioned in the above sections. Let your dreams guide you, inspire you, let your heart show you the way. Find the missing piece in your heart and accept limitless joy into your life.

Overall energy - The Empress, Wheel of Fortune

There’s fear I see in this pile, where you’ve been waiting for The Fated Time to save you out from your problems and all. There’s a need to nurture yourself. Your higher self is calling you to connect with them and they want to help you to nurture yourself. Dreams may be significant so focus on them, do not fear the dreams and the mysterious notion behind. 

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Pile 2

Main energy of querent - Chariot rx

There’s some form of stagnancy here, like you’re standing at a crossroad and you have no idea which direction to head. There’s no strength nor will nor balance in you, and there’s some form of flighty energy where you just wanna charge without thinking, but there’s also a rational energy stopping you, and now you’re at a stalemate.

What do you need in terms of love - Seven of Cups rx

You need some form of personal alignment, you need to readjust and find the values you stand for, and live with it. You still don’t know the values you wanna hold on to, your baseline, and you need to spend time to find them. I feel that messages around you are important, like the Universe is guiding you to find your values. It’s like trying an error, where you notice something’s wrong when something off happens, and you’ll go “Oh that’s a red flag for me.”

Why do you need those needs fulfilled - Two of Cups

There’s a need to nurture yourself and to be in harmony with yourself. This card to me is a couple card, so there may be a reason that you need those needs fulfilled so that you can find the other half you’ve been craving. Always, and I mean always, love yourself first, then only you can attract someone of your mentality and someone who can reciprocate the energy (in this case, reciprocate your love to them).

When, especially, you need to love yourself more - The Fool

Everytime. The Fool is a card that talks about new beginnings, and he’s always on a journey to meet the various cards. So yeah, you need to constantly love yourself, you need to constantly remind yourself that you’re worthy of love. Know that whatever that happens around you is planned, it’s like a divine timing, where everything will happen in place.

How can you love yourself more? - Eight of Pentacles

Aim for more variety, expose yourself to various things, various skills. The more things you learn, the more interested you become, and you’ll realize how amazing you are. Especially when you’ve learnt to master a certain skill. There are people around you who support who you wanna be and they share your values. I feel that this is a very pleasant card cuz it’s not only you, but there are people around you who fully support you.

What will it be like when you’ve loved yourself more - Four of Pentacles

You'll be more self assured, like there’s some form of stability and security for yourself. You’ll be able to hold on to your values and for some reason, I see spending on yourself more? Like, you’ll learn to pamper yourself more instead of pampering others. It’s not really a bad thing but just be aware to not let yourself be isolated from your social circles, and to also treat others nicely too.

Advices for you - Ace of Cups rx, Five of Swords

Right now, you’re probably experiencing an unhealthy uhhh bunch of emotions. There may be some hold back or over venting your emotions over a situation to a close one. It’s difficult to balance out and you constantly feel defeated over that particular situation. It’s high time for you to take charge of your emotions and to not let it rule over you. Worry not, it’s time for you to heal and move on, and things will move rather fast compared to what you originally expected.

Overall energy - The Lovers, Death rx

I have a feeling that some of you are questioning relationship related items. Maybe the unhealthy bunch of emotions mentioned earlier are due to this? No matter what it is, you’re currently unable to move from it. There’s some form of past that is linked to this issue that is haunting you, making you unable to move forward. However, things are bound to change. You’ll need to learn how to let go. With the help of your dreams, know that you are ready to make changes towards a new you.

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Pile 3

Overall theme of querent - The Chariot

Unlike Pile 2, your energy is fast forward. You’re prolly the type of person with the motto “Do first, think later”. You charge ahead fearlessly, you love fearlessly. You do it because you know that others won’t do, and even if it may harm you. You’re going forward at a fast pace without looking around much. You probably should slow down and also consider some other options as you’re traveling on your way, so you can make the choices that will benefit you the most.

What do you need in terms of love - Three of Swords rx

Healing is needed in terms of love. You’ve been through too many hardships and that has kept you on your toes, that has made you work for others to earn their love. This should not be the case. People who naturally love you will love you for who you are. You don’t need to earn their love and respect. You are already deserving of love, and you need to learn that.

Why do you need those needs fulfilled - Nine of Swords rx

To release yourself from whatever dark thoughts that have been haunting you. It must have been tiring, lonely and cold to walk on this road alone. You have never been selfish for yourself, always have been working and wanting the best for others. This has thrown you into some turmoil and has been making your mind wander around to the negative side more. Do know that your vulnerability shows how human you are, and you should allow it to honour your inner grace, wisdom and beauty.

When, especially, you need to love yourself more - Nine of Cups

When you need emotional fulfillment. The cards are all linked together from the various sections. You have been deprived and now, you need to love yourself the most when you want yourself to feel full of love. No greater love comes from within you. Your guides have been sending various messages and hints to you to tell you to love yourself more when things have been difficult, to pamper yourself more. Have you noticed the things that you wanted are on sale? It’s time for you to get it!

How can you love yourself more? - Knight of Wands

Go on an adventure, have a change of pace, see things from some other point of view, enjoy and let yourself be impulsive at times. You need to start to take action to change your life for the better, and it’s all up to you. No one can make you change, no prep talk would be able to do that. It has to come from within you, that you need to let go of whatever burden that’s holding you back and let yourself be free, to go and do whatever you’ve wanted to do.

What will it be like when you’ve loved yourself more - Strength

You become stronger. No I’m not talking about the physical sense of being stronger, I’m talking about the mental and emotional state of you getting stronger, more at peace and more affirmative with yourself. You have more claim, more power over yourself, over your own emotions. You control your emotions, you’re taming the lion, not letting the lion of emotions rule over you.

Advices for you - King of Cups rx 

There are themes of self sabotage that I’m seeing here. So take this as a warning to be conscious of what you’re doing, to make sure that you’re not treating yourself unfairly. There may be times where you’re extremely moody but know that those times will pass. Love others by loving yourself. Stop self-sabo. I don’t know what else to say cuz that particular theme is just screaming out at me.

Extra cards - Death, Four of Swords rx

Change is needed. You’ve been stagnant for so long and that’s doing you no good. You’re no longer in your comfort zone, you’re in your mold zone, because you’ve been there and have not moved a little bit at all. Which calls upon change, change in point of view at least, where you move from one place to another and to have a different view, to have a different experience, to experience wonder, delight and joy. 

Overall energy - Strength, The Empress

Strength has appeared again and this time, it’s paired with the lady who tames the fiercest beasts, the Empress. There’s a feminine strength to this pile’s energy, where you’re in tune with your feminine energy and know when to use it. You also know how to let yourself be surrounded by those who share your visions and values, and you also support them. There’s some Moon energy as well here so some of you may be Moon dominants.

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Pile 4

Overall theme of querent - The Fool rx, The Sun rx, The High Priestess rx

First of all, Pile 4, are y’all okay? The cards legit flew out and it made me go 👀. Have y’all been reckless recently? I have a feeling that y’all have been doing shit on impulse and then regretting it and then doing it again just because. There’s also some risky yet withdrawal kinda energy here and I certainly hope that none of you are doing substances or unhealthy habits or addictions like please. (I feel like I’m calling out myself)

What do you need in terms of love - Knight of Swords

First thought is words of affirmation. Love letters are something you’d die to receive. There’s a huge mental energy that’s here, giving me the feeling that you’d prefer intelligence over emotional sensitivity. But then this card here is telling you that you need patience, compassion and kindness as well, else everything will not be balanced. Love comes in a full package, where everything needs to be present to make your heart feel full.

Why do you need those needs fulfilled - Five of Pentacles

The feeling of being all forlorn and forsaken have been looming over you. You’re probably someone who has lost faith. You can only help yourself to push yourself out of this state of grief, pain and loss. I think it’s cuz you’re going through something tough and hence, you’ve been relying on external things to help you cope with whatever you’re experiencing. You need people to be patient with you, be kind to you so that you can have that spark of faith back again.

When, especially, you need to love yourself more - Six of Swords

When you’re transitioning into a new phase of life. You need that courage to move from this phase of… Slump into a new and brighter place. And you need to give yourself time, allow yourself to be vulnerable to be able to heal and move on. Know that you yourself create peace, prosperity and joy in your life. You are in charge of your life, you are the one who’s gonna decide when you’re gonna move into that new phase, where will that new phase be.

How can you love yourself more? - Four of Cups

Contemplate, evaluate, meditate. Contemplate on your visions, on what you want; evaluate yourself to see if you’ve been working towards what you’ve wanted; meditate to let your heart be at ease. You can also surround yourself with those who support your vision and share your values. Self introspection is required, but having a community that supports you to be better is equally important.

What will it be like when you’ve loved yourself more - The Hanged Man rx

You’ll be able to move on from whatever that’s holding you back. You’ll be learning to see new things from different perspectives and get moving, awakening with a feeling of being energised and you’ll be able to begin your day with gratitude. You have the ability to spring to action and to move on, but it’s entirely up to you if you wanna do it or nah.

Advices for you - Ace of Swords rx

There’s a lot of clouds being around you, hindering you from obtaining your inner clarity. This card is here to tell you to think twice or thrice when you’re about to do something, to define your goals. Check for any disturbances that may be preventing you from achieving mental clarity and happiness. Let your thoughts to flow and maybe write them down with the various methods, 5W1H or the various Whys to get to the root cause of a particular thought or emotions.

Overall energy - Judgement, Two of Swords rx

There’s some form of fear of judgement that I’m seeing here. There’s some form of indecision here, where you have no idea you want to spend that energy and time to change, or you wanna continue to be in your current state. In the case you wanna change, I’d suggest you to start by getting into the kitchen and making yourself a simple meal, where it can symbolise you moving from the old to the new.

[gunsatthaphan]

I’m not equipped—

[h0estar]

no bc why is my love for bakugo slowly resurfacing...

[sweetlullabyebye]

Every day I wake up and remember Liam Dunbar was underdevelopped by the showrunners

[syls-chaos]

This is your reminder that you are worth more than disrespect.

[borderlinebelle]

to: the girls, the gays, the theys, the dads, the sads, the mads, the masses…

ALL WEEKEND LONG: reblogging emotional gemstone posts from the version of me on tumblr in 2012🙂 Reminisce with me lovers. It’s been over 10 years of girlblog.

Live-blogging on tumblr live whenever all weekend, let’s be mutuals, pls let’s chat, pls let’s invite MORE friends.

Reblog! JOIN the convo, favorite my stream, get updates when I start a stream! and keep an eye out for us to hang out this weekend 😈

👻

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lets get this bread: Let’s get weird but in an appropriately unhinged way. thanks for your support.

[raininyourblackeyes]

My cousin, a published writer, a well-known poet in my country and a literature professor, for whom I've always been no.1 support ever since her first attempts at writing in high school, told me that I must stop writing as a hobby because that's her thing and since I'm writing fantasy mostly my writing could never have any important artistic value anyways.

[midnights-dragon]

casual reminder that if people don’t put in any sort of effort in a friendship or relationship, they aren’t worth your fucking time. you deserve better.

[scaryinclusive]

NEURODIVERGENCE INFO RESOURCES!

by @scaryinclusive.

topic: bipolar disorder. symptom discussed: mania & hypomania.

bipolar disorder is complex, due to it being diagnosable and able to be experienced in varying ways. it's absolutely not as simple as "up and down moods" and it can come in differing levels, intensities and symptoms - all of which can have an impact on day to day life. bipolar disorders are categorised as disorders that are associated with episodes of mood swings that can range from depressive lows to manic or hypomanic highs.

it's important to note that what is significant about bipolar depression and manic behaviour is that it's regularly confused for other, similar but not the same behaviours. for example, it's not unusual for people to get bipolar disorder and other neurodevelopmental disabilities or personality disorders confused due to bipolar's manic / hypomanic episodes being tied to high energy, reduced need for sleep, loss of touch with reality and elevated moods. it's necessary to remember that they aren't the same, however.

here are the other known types of bipolar:

bipolar 1 - manic episodes ( lasting at least 7 days, nearly every day for most of the day ) or manic symptoms that are severe enough for the individual to need immediate medical care. depressive episodes can occur as well, though not always and aren't required for a diagnosis. if present, these typically last approx. 2 weeks.

bipolar 2 - a pattern of depressive episodes and hypomanic episodes. hypomania differs from mania in that it is less severe. depressive episodes are required for a diagnosis, you do not solely experience hypomanic episodes and it's important to distinguish the difference between feeling "sad" and the depressive lows of bipolar. i can write a separate post on this, to better elaborate.

cyclothymia - recurring hypomanic and depressive symptoms that aren't intense enough or don't last long enough to qualify as hypomanic or depressive episodes and thus people should avoid referring to them as such to avoid confusion. ( essentially, unspecified bipolar disorder. )

due to society's desensitisation to the word "mania," it is often played down, minimalised and trivialised. as is depression. so let's go over what mania is, with bipolar 1, and compare how bipolar 2's hypomania differs to this. mania & hypomania are both described as a change in mood and / or emotion, energy or activity level. type 1 mania is more severe than 2's hypomania, meaning a change relating to mania will likely be extreme, wherein hypomania will potentially be just a change - this does not minimise the impact or possible intensity.

for example, manic individuals might make extreme decisions in an episode, such as spending an extreme amount of money over a very short period ( life savings, maybe thousands, i've seen examples of buying a horse, buying a house etc ), leave a significant relationship or make an impulsive decision ( typically very unusual for the individual to do outside of mania ) that leads to the damaging or breaking of a relationship, not sleep for days at a time or go with the absolute minimum of sleep for months.

with hypomania, individuals might still make impulsive or impactful decisions, but they won't be as severe and aren't usually extreme. examples might include not sleeping for a small period ( days or minimal sleep for the period of their hypomanic episode ) due to racing thoughts, high energy ( wanting to go for a run or exercise, wanting to clean ) impulsivity or irritability, making financial decisions that could be harmful like spending a few hundred or around a thousand on a new hobby or line of work that you'll likely lose interest in after a few days or months, plan an expensive or thrilling trip and not go or go when you can't afford to. these are just examples and these symptoms look different for everyone. but it's important to note that it's not the same as "dyeing hair a wild colour" or "overspending once on a meal."

equally, it's also possible to have mixed episodes with both bipolar 1 & 2, where depressive symptoms and manic or hypomanic symptoms occur at the same time. you might have racing thoughts and feel you're having really great ideas but can't get out of bed or don't feel there's any point in pursuing them, or might be acting in an impulsive, potentially harmful way due to mania while experiencing depressive thoughts or passive suicidal ideation. it's also possible to experience "rapid cycling," which is where four or more episodes of mania, hypomania or depression occurs within a 12 month period. ultra-rapid cycling is where you experience mania, hypomania or depression more than four or more times within one month with cycle lengths being days, a week or as frequently as every 48 hours. some even experience these mood shifts every 24 hours or, at the absolute maximum, hourly.

treatment involves a varied support system of medication specific to your needs and therapy. it's important to note that bipolar disorder is due to a chemical imbalance in the brain, capable of being triggered by your environment, stress, emotional instability, physical illness, lack of sleep etc. identifying triggers can be very useful for some individuals to avoid or better manage their bipolar episodes. i also want to state that it's next to impossible to self-regulate during episodes, other than by having a routine and not straying from it which can equally seem impossible in the moment, and suggesting that someone try and wind down from an episode ( aka a literal chemical imbalance in the brain ) is immensely unhelpful. oftentimes, you have to just see them through.

bipolar is often misdiagnosed, and if you feel you're suffering from it i highly suggest looking into a diagnosis. by misdiagnosing yourself, it's easy to add to the stigma and trivialising of bipolar symptoms, especially by labelling behaviours as hypomanic or manic when they aren't. if you're unsure, i find watching and digesting details from videos on youtube helpful, recorded by those with a diagnosis explaining their symptoms or actively showing footage of them experiencing their symptoms. it helps set the bar essentially for just how extreme and / or intense these behaviours and mood shifts can be. lots of disorders and disabilities can mimic these symptoms, and hypomania can also be a symptom of other health issues. what can be helpful is recognising a pattern and the timeline of your symptoms. mood journals / diaries are useful in noting mood shifts, triggers, timeline and how extensive the moods can be.

bipolar is life-long, not something that can be treated entirely or stops after a while. 'moods' today are typically associated with feeling angry over something, or feeling sad or happy, and moods more often than not don't last more than a few hours or at most, days. if your moods change very quickly, and there's a noticeable extremity to them, or if they last for long periods of time and are very intense, but change quickly, it's worth looking into more. even if it's not bipolar, something more might be going on that you're unaware of.

what can misdiagnosis mean? something else might be happening to or within your body and mind that, without the correct treatment, could get worse or remain untreated. a 2018 review found that up to 40% of people with bipolar disorder are misdiagnosed.

things commonly misdiagnosed as bipolar:

major depressive disorder.

schizophrenia ( especially due to the delusions and losing touch of reality that can come with bipolar disorder. )

anxiety disorders.

borderline personality disorder ( overlap in mood swings, emotional dysregulation and instability, potential impulsivity. )

narcissistic personality disorder ( overlap in delusions of grandiosity being confused for mania-like symptoms. )

attention-deficit / hyperactivity disorder ( overlap in impulsivity as well as feelings of proactivity, restlessness and brain fog. )

substance abuse disorder / addiction.

hyperthyroidism.

here is a link to a website detailing research, studies and further helpful information relating to the misdiagnosis of bipolar disorder. and here is a useful link detailing what can cause hypomania and mania as a symptom, with or without the connection of bipolar.

it's important not to misuse the terms "bipolar", "depression / depressed," "mania / manic" and "hypomania / hypomanic." the confusion, lack of education, trivialising and desensitisation of these words means people are missing out on potentially life-altering diagnoses and treatments, or out outright being misdiagnosed altogether. they are not "moods" that you experience after something a little frustrating, disappointing or overwhelming. they aren't to be confused with feelings of happiness, sadness or anger. bipolar is invasive, disorientating, complex and ( regardless of severity ) can be impactful towards day to day life, finances, love life and friendships, general safety and care etc.

if you suspect you experience any of these symptoms, it's really important you seek help. you might feel it's of no concern to you right now, that it'll get better, that it's not as bad as other people's or even that it's of great benefit or help to you, but it can get worse and there are ways to manage it in a safe, stable way for optimal functioning. your safety is important, as is the safety of those around you.

i'd appreciate no one adding to this post but you're more than welcome to reblog. instead, if you have something you feel could be a beneficial addition, send it over to my asks! i'd like to avoid the risk of misinformation being spread where possible.

[vraska-theunseen]

google how to not be sosososo anxious all the time. its not even like stress that motivates me to get things done it's just like. i make a mistake and misunderstood instructions in class and my teacher is like "you were supposed to figure out precisely where 180 was before taping the draft and punching your marks" when i like an idiot guesstimated it and after a moment of me going "oh..." bc its something i can't fix bc i've already punched in all the holes on the part he's like "i think you'll be okay" and goes back to what he's doing and then for three hours im like he's so annoyed with me i bring things to him too much and ask him too many questions and make the stupidest mistakes every day he hates me. i ask a friend something and they don't respond because they're busy or forget about it or don't see it or any number of other reasons and then a couple weeks later i send them something else and they don't respond for a few hours and its enough time for me to convince myself i said something a while ago that they took offense to without realizing and they're ignoring me and i send another message saying "are you mad at me did i do something can you tell me what i did so we can work it out" and he's like "what?". a friend posts about people treating them badly in a way that's clear they're talking about a specific phenomenon or person and im always like omg are they talking about me did i do something bad and not realize it... and its someone i talk to so infrequently and casually it obviously would not be a concern or someone i've known for so many years that they would obviously come to me if there was any conflict that arose. help

[project-sekai-facts]

on your last post you said you want wxs to get closer as friends and not just coworkers. Aside from l/n (because duh) would you consider the other groups to be friends?

of course, all of the groups are friends, i just pointed out wxs there because out of all of the groups, their friendship is most strongly connected to their work. which fair enough, they all like theatre outside of just working in it, but quite a lot of their meetups outside of work are still to do with work, usually planning shows or whatnot. that's not to say they don't sometimes just do stuff together even when work isn't involved, it just seems to be less than say, MMJ or VBS, even at the point where we are now.