#fuck the gender binary

[thermodynamic-comedian]

officially identifying as some guy. you wouldn't try to gender just a random guy, would you? i'm literally just some guy. unbothered. serene. living my life. what's gender got to do with it? nothing! just let a guy live!

[catfood-sounds]

Been feeling like I have to stop using they/them because it's just turned into another gendered pronoun when like...I explicitly need something that's not. Fuck you if you just treat nb as "quirky third option," because that third option is like always quirky girl too.

I just want to be allowed to reject the whole fucking construct of gender. That's the point. I don't get it. It's not a fucking trinary.

Fuck everyone who's made me increasingly uncomfortable with what's supposed to be a gender-free word. I don't want to use it/its or neopronouns either (though I have absolutely no problem with them I think they're just not for me). This is infuriating.

[ineedhjalp]

Oh yeah i’m AFAB

Assigned Feral at Birth

[catgirl-catboy]

Things cis people (or people you think are cis) should be able to do without judgement or repercussion:

legally change their name

Crossdress

Fuck around with pronouns

Wear makeup

wear their hair in any style they like

Have surgery

Have any hobbies they like.

Gender doesn't equal presentation people! The only definitive way to know how someone identifies is to fucking ask them.

[house-rat]

It is hard being an agender person in a gendered world. I love reading and learning and surrounding myself with different experiences and perspectives. I love reading diversely. But it is a hard experience knowing that the only books that acknowledge your existence are the ones explicitly about you. That the vast majority of stuff out there isn’t made for and doesn’t care about people like you. I hate the resignation of knowing that most books, progressive and feminist as they may be, will still more likely than not default to the age-old “men and women”.

I hate the dysphoria of reading about men’s history and women’s history as if those are the only two histories that ever existed, reading about narratives of the male body and the female body. Where does my own body fit into all this?

I hate the dissonance of knowing that a topic pertains to me, of knowing that I am assumed to be part of the group, of having to implicitly misgender myself through identifying with certain experiences.

I am tired of the quiet violence of erasure. I am tired of being misgendered by omission.

I just want to be able to partake in media without having to set my own integrity aside in order to do so.

[ceo-of-sloppy-men]

My presentation has nothing to do with my pronouns, and everything to do with the fact I dress like a ferengi going to a rodeo

[dulcedebusse]

my main career goal is to convince my cis coworkers I'm AMAB enby rather than AFAB so their dumb biases make them interrupt me less

[dogwolf2112]

Colour Analogy for being Non-Binary

Trying to catgorise everyone into 'male' and 'female' is like trying to categorise every colour into 'red' and 'blue'. If I pointed at the colour yellow, and asked someone to categorise it into 'red' and 'blue', then they'd probably be confused. "But it's yellow," they'd probably say. "It's not red or blue."

If I did the same with purple? "It's a mixture, it's both!"

White? "It's neither. It's just white."

Orange? "Well, it's not red, but it has red in it...?"

Pink? "It's pink, but maybe that's a light red? I don't know??"

How about colour-shifting paint? Green? Brown? Black? Clear?

None of these can be categorised as "red" or "blue" because that's not what they are.

It's similar for us enbies - we can't be broken down into "girl" or "boy". Some of us aren't either, we're something else. Some of us are both, like purple, all, like black, none, like white, or don't even have a gender (being clear). Some are fluid between genders, like the colour shifting paint.

And like no colour is inherently superior, no gender is inherently superior. We're just different people with traits that are different but not worse or better.

Just as paintings need all colours of the rainbow, so too do we need all kinds of genders to make the brightest tapestry.

[emrysvenus]

Tumblr i love you but i need the hashtag agender to be colorful like the aromantic or asexual ones heehee /lh

[it-them-ace]

Me: Fuck The Gender Binary!!

My boyfriend, Colin, who is 100% cis: Fuck gender, I'll give birth.

[imkrisyoung]

As I was practicing drawing today, I started to feel like a fraud or an imposter because I’m a trans guy and I love to draw. In fact, I love visual art in general. But art and creative interests aren’t what society associates with men, and I don’t have a lot of other “masculine” interests either, except for maybe science and tech stuff. I’ve always loved science.

I still have a lot of dysphoria surrounding my body as well as how I’m perceived socially. I still don’t want to be called a woman or people calling me she/her because that’s just not me.

Then as I progressed further into my drawing, I started to think real hard about a lot of things: How did certain pastimes, interests, traits, gender roles, etc, become associated as either masculine or feminine? Who came up with this binary? And how did this gender binary continue over the course of history?

I realize now that I’m not as binary of a trans man as I thought I was, but I’m still a man. I tried to fit into the gender binary mainly for safety reasons. Years ago when I was still figuring myself out and publicly expressing who I was, some asshole doxxed me on the evil Kiwi Farms website, and so I was afraid of further harassment from other trolls.

I’m a nonbinary trans man. Transmasculine and demiboy are also ways of describing myself. I still primarily use he/him pronouns, but they/them works for me too.

[diagnosed-bastard]

I’m doing human genetics in university and would love some sex-genetics related scientific journals if anyone has them?

As a trans person myself I would love to more accurately define what science has to say about sex and thought, hey, my local weirdos, my little blorbos might know a place.

[sapphicspinningpoleproject]

On Binaries in Explicitly Queer Space

(the explicit is a pun! cuz sex! tee hee. ik its dumb.)

Goliath's is the only Bathhouse located in all of the city of Calgary! It's been there since 1987, and has been "serving the gay community for over 30 years." The bathhouse has been looped into conversations of The Toronto Bathhouse Raids/Operation Soap, and as a queer Albertan I think it's important to look for the kinda queer culture I'm researching in my own home city.

Despite being a mlm-focused space, I personally think Goliath's also connects to the theme of binary representation in queer bathhouses, bars, exotic dancing and sex work. For example, currently, Goliath's policy on allowing Transmen and women (note, no mention of nonbianry folks...) is " all members [...] must have M or X under gender on your identification and we ask that you be Masc presenting when you check in."

Obviously, this limits trans and genderqueer clientele significantly. Alberta has never been the most inviting to trans and queer people, at least not in my experience or the experience of people around me. However, the recent rise in transphobic legislation that aims to prevent people from gender-affirming care (medical, legal, social) makes policies like this even more exclusive. It speaks to a pervasive cisheteronormativity within gay nightlife that erases the most important aspects of queer desire, to me; that everyone can be a part of it.

The history of queer spaces, rights and liberation is rampant with trans-exclusionary discourse, unfortunately. Though I will be focusing on sapphic/ wlw experiences moving forward, I wanted to highlight the still present discrimination of trans and genderqueer people. Trans women and people are obviously a part of the sapphic and wlw communities; Goliath's in particular was just a directly relevant and personable example of dichotomous narratives in queer spaces.

Source: “Welcome to Goliaths” Goliath’s– Calgary, 2024 Goliaths, March 26 2024, https://www.goliathsyyc.ca/

[prettyqueerandpolyglamorous]

could online stores please stop categorizing things by mens/womens/childrens and just categorize by adults/childrens

like mens/womens can be subcategories but like. why do I have to wake thru childrens shoes just cuz I wanna see what both the mens and womens sections have to offer

[twisted-bee]

someone was talking about girl math in my maths class the other day i feel like humanity has reached a new low

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

not yet my friend, we still need to outlive jk rowling