#gaygirl safe

[frostytundra01]

So I've known for a while that my identity is a sort of complicated mess. Like my sexuality is simple, I'm gay, I like men and all of that but my gender is a complex mess. It's filled with tens of fluid pronouns, quite a few static genders and a core of both xenogenders and just- male. But I've grown pretty confident in that and over time going from a snobby kid in truscum circles to this queer mess I've sort of mellowed out and stopped giving a fuck about what people identify as.

But being like this you sort of have to be aware of exclusionists and the mess that entails. Honestly though for stuff like neopronouns and gender that train has already started to die down. Like sure, there are a lot of assholes getting pissy about it but most of the people I know are fine with that stuff and aren't going to bat an eye. Like sure, trans stuff is still a nightmare and I'm not going to pretend it's not, or that it's not getting worse, especially for trans women but in the trans community itself and among a good amount of other queer people neopronouns and fringe identities are growing to be less of an issue. I can introduce myself to people with my full set of pronouns and have my list in a full pronoun page and I generally don't get harassed because people as a whole are getting better about this stuff.

Because of this and because of being more aware of this than other people I tend to pick up on other things that exclusionists do target. Mainly anyone using the 'wrong' sexuality label. While for most people new labels and new niche identities are fine, when someone has a complicated gender alignment it gets tricky when they identify as gay or lesbian. Though admittedly it usually turns up with lesbian more than often because just like with the truscum movement it tends to be us trans men cannibalizing the most.

Now for someone who's uninformed I get why this all may seem ridiculous. With such confirmed definitions how can a man be a lesbian or a woman be gay (in a non all encompassing term)? But I think a lot of people miss how important these communities can be for trans people. While I know for a lot of people this also has to do with how gender collides with sexuality and you can't discount that just because you want to be an asshole but even without that why are you trying to take people from this groups that are way safer for trans people than straight ones? When we're all facing such hard times I don't get how people ignore how devastating it can be to be driven away from these communities. Many trans men who like women or trans women that like men started in these communities and a lot of them hold on to that attachment. It's cruel to take that away just because you think those labels don't fit that person.

I think some of the same can be said for m-spec lesbian/gay people. Looking beyond the fact that sexuality is a spectrum people can fall in and out of and the fact that historical presidents exist these communities have a lot of overlap. Sure unlike with trans people they might not have fit into these communities at the start and it's not the exact same situation but these communities are still important spaces for a lot of people. When someone needs to fit in other spaces with people that have a queer attraction to men or a queer attraction to women I know these terms can be useful and while I can't say I know everything about them I still respect the hell out of them.

Beyond all of this I think the rigid separation and enforcement of labels can hurt the community more than ever help. At the end of the day we're all queer and while labels can help in confirming yourself and who you really are I don't think they should be small clubs and groups so separate from all the rest. I know from someone who has a collection of genders that's niche and probably has like 1 or 2 other people using some of them if that sort of means nothing. Obviously with a rift like that I'm not relating to anyone but I still feel it's a pretty lonely way to go about things. I just think it's better to accept people and those labels because at the end of the day that's just another queer person trying to get by. We aren't enemies, we aren't hurting each other just by existing so just let people exist with whatever labels they want. Thier definition of a label may not be exactly what you expect of that but it fits them so just let them use it and bring out a little more queer joy into the world.

Now at the end of this I do want to ask anyone who uses the terms or groups of terms I've talked about to correct me if I get anything wrong. I do have a lot of niche terms and fit into a more gender focused subset but I'm just a gay male leaning trans person so I can't get all the complexities of this topic. I just wanted to speak about something that's been bothering me so if you can help me make this better I would really appreciate it. That being said I hope everyone has a wonderful day except for exclusionists, homophobes and transphobes and I'll probably make another rant post like this some other day.

[remusthedroid]

Reminder that ALL multispec ppl are safe on this blog (this includes but is not limited to bi gays, bi lesbians, pan gays, pan lesbians, omni gays, omni lesbians, lesboys, gaygirls, etc etc etc) i support y'all.

[twdgs]

hi gaygirl you are. so fucking awesome. you are genuinely one of the bestest friends ive ever had and i couldn't be more grateful for you. you mean a lot to me and your stories, ocs and worldbuilding are a very good inspiration for me. you're so authentic, so genuine, so warm... you make me feel so safe. thanks, james

hi gayboy… shatters into a million pieces thats literally so sweet …(:ARGHARGHARGH:)

[nightfallsystem]

Reminder I support every good faith identity. This includes:

M-spec gays, m-spec lesbians, endogenic systems, quiogenic systems, paragenic systems, omni/bi/pan/polysexuals, he/him women, he/him lesbians, lesboys, gaygirls, the list goes on

I just mind my own business and respect people's identities, I'm not in their head, I don't understand exactly who they are, only they know their identity.

If you don't support all good faith identities, or if you gatekeep communities, get off of my blog and block me

Anyone who supports good faith identities have a good day ✨

[kateaustinn]

when you lived the first 20 years of your life in fear of being gay but now you celebrate it every day 🏳️‍🌈⁣ #mood ⁣ i never thought i would come out to anyone but my friends. i was outed to my parents and it started a snowball effect of forcing myself to face my biggest fear. ⁣it was horrible at the time but looking back, i’m grateful i didn’t spend another second in the closet. ⁣🚪 ⁣ it took some time and a lot of soul searching but now i have my soul mate, a life where my sexuality is celebrated and i live in a place where there are rainbow crosswalks. ⁣🌈 ⁣ it really does get better. it may not be the better you always imagined for yourself but i’m telling you, it’s even better than that. ⁣♥️ ⁣ choosing to live my life for me and my happiness was the best decision i’ve ever made. i am here, i’m queer and i’m not going anywhere. i cant wait to spend as much time as i can being a safe place for you all to come and let your walls down and be YOU ✨ ⁣ i love you all and i’m so proud of you. keep pushing through every single day and working towards a better tomorrow. ♥️⁣ ⁣ tag some people that inspire you to be the best & most authentic you that you can be. i’m gonna⁣ tag mine in the comments! ⁣ ⁣ photo: @daytodaychase⁣⁣ hair: @hairbyalyssagallen⁣⁣ makeup: @__liyyahhxx ⁣ dresses:⁣ @bhldn ⁣ location: @pommeradnor⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ #lgbt #lgbttravel #loveislove #travelblogger #femmetribe #girlswhokissgirls #theinvisiblefemme #philly #philadelphia #nyc #lifestyleblogger #lgbtblogger #gaygirls #couplegoals #globalgaygirlgang #gaygirlgang #goodvibesonly #pride #nycpride #fashionblogger #nycblogger #phillybride #bhldn #twobrides #lgbtwedding #phillyphotographer #mrsandmrs (at Gayborhood, Philadelphia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BwWue6MAGNK/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=13sbhl01g324h

[lesbianscreamqueen]

Happy Lesbian day of visibility! Big love for ALL my lesbian sisters today! We are all so wonderful! All lesbians deserve all the love today especially our sisters of color and our trans/nb sisters! We gotta be mindful of our disabled sisters and our mentally Ill/neurodivergent sisters! Lesbians deserve to be seen, safe, and respected! 💖💖💖🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 ... .. . #selfie #lesbian #lesbiandayofvisibility #lesbianofinstagram #lesmakeup #girlswhokissgirls #girlswholikegirls #lgbt🌈 #lgbtpride #lgbtq🌈 #lgbt #lgbtq #lesbianpride #gaygirls #gaygirl #gaypride #makeuplooks #makeup #pink #pinkeyeshadow #redhead (at Philadelphia, Pennsylvania) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bwu5tVAD0kC/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1nqrhe0gr630w

[cromartieyt]

My #journey to #GirlsInWonderland begins. 😁 I'm actually wearing a crop top but Grandma made me put the #flannel on before dropping me off and while I was annoyed at first, I quickly realized she has a point about keeping myself safe from male attention while traveling #Greyhound alone (not that women should make themselves uncomfortable cause some men can't keep control but hey, safety first) 👌 SEE ALL MY FELLOW #GAYGIRLS AT #ORLANDO SOON YA'LL. 😃 . . . . . #vacation #lgbt #pride #june #onmyway #earnedit #red #pridemonth #trendywigs #unicornhair #bluehairdontcare #giw2018 #gaycation #youtuberlife #gaygirls #wlw #singlelife #summer #selfie #selfies #blacklesbians #blackgirlsrock #glasses #femmelesbian (at Greyhound Bus)

[hooktin]

Stay safe with pride. 🌈🌈😍😍

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[ballar02]

My safe place.. . . . #glg #lesbian #lez #lesbianhonest #lesbianlove #lesbiancouple #gaygirl #gay #love #romance #girlswhokissgirls #girlskissgirls #girlswholikesgirls #girlslikegirls #girlslikegirlstoo #girls #lgbt #crazyforher #girlfriend #girlfriendgoals

[lindasnaillounge-pvr]

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[lesbianmistakes]

Always remember to get tested to keep you and your partners safe 👍 . . #lesbianmistakes #gaygirlsofinstagram #lesbians #lesbianlove #lesbianlife #gay #gaygirls #galpals #lgbt #lgbtq🌈 #pride #loveislove #girlswholikegirls #gaygirlgang #lesbiancouples #miamilesbians #lesbian🏳️‍🌈 #lesbianteen #lesbianuk #lesbianaf #lesbiansoninstagram #gaygirlsdoitbetter #tomboy #girlslikeus #equalitymatters #bitmoji (at Brooklyn, New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/B4X_rImhU_T/?igshid=w7dttpcirwwu

[powernu]

This is my baby! _ When I founded @jhsafehaven I had no idea what I was doing all I knew is that these kids needs help and I want to play a part in that. _ Looking for an office space in the Inland Empire. _ If you have an extra room or private space you’d like to donate to Joshua Home it would be greatly appreciated. _ We need a place the kids can come to and check in with us, pick up needed toiletries, nonperishable food/water, personal hygiene items, backpacks and resources lists. _ Joshua Home an LGBTQ Safe Haven is a CA 501c3 nonprofit organization committed to ending youth homelessness in the Inland Empire. _ DM thx😊❤️ _ 💞When you are thinking of giving consider Joshua Home. _ #teamjoshuahome #sharegivecare #lgbtq🌈 #lgbtyouth #gaygirls #gaymodel #lesbianlife #bisexuality #transgirl #transexual #transboy #queerpride #queerartist #queeryouth #queerlife #homelessness #homelessyouth #couchsurfing #chosenfamily #queereye #philanthropy #philanthropist #taxdeduction #pride🌈 #queerpride #lgbtlove #lgbtequality #lgbtpride #lgbtqa #lgbtsupport (at Rancho Cucamonga, California) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvO93vwHM7b/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1bqagyhuhw7s3

[eviereed]

Hold on

So someone told me that this is my blog and i can put whatever i want on this. Sooo..

All little bit about myself:

My name is Yvonne, i'm from the Netherlands, and i like girls. Yes, that makes me a lesbian. I would like to share my story with you. Who know maybe it will help somebody.

I realised i liked girls when i was 13. I was always a bit of a tomboy. Played with plastic little soldiers, climbed trees, played soccer and yes burned the barbies someone got me for my birthday. I didn't want to wear dresses and i always kind of felt like i was "one of the guys". My family has always been really open about everything so i knew i could tell them, but there is always that little voice in your head telling you that there is something wrong with you. But there is nothing wrong with me. That is what my mother told me when i told her i liked girls. She knew, she always knew. Also my dad and brother always knew😅. So telling my family wasn't the big thing. Telling my friends was the big thing.. after finding all the courage to tell them, they told me that they still liked me and everything was okay and that they wanted me to be happy. The next day at school, everybody knew.. and it went fast! The same day i heard rumors about me that i touched a girl. That girl would be one of my closest friends. One of the friends i just told the day before. Then more rumors came, and came and came. The girls in my class wouldn't let me in the locker room before gym class. They wouldn't sit next to me. I was bullied, i was treathen, i was called names. I lost all of my so called friends.But i still went to school, terrified.. But i went. I just would not let them get the best of me for something i can't help. I can't help liking girls. I am what i am. So i did my schoolwork, getting used to the whispers and the looks of people. Stood up to the bullying and found new friends who accepted me for who i am. That was years ago and i knew this sooner but i made it. Life is good now, people are good now. I'm free and i'm safe.

So if i can do this so can anybody else! Just remember that eventually everything will be okay. How hard it may seem now, it's just time. And time will pass. It really does get better!

Love.

P.S forgive me for any typo's. I'm Dutch 😅

#girlswholikegirls #lgbtq #Gaygirl #lesbian #support #help #Dutch #girlslookingforgirls #girlswhokissgirls

[thatsapphicfeelwhen]

hey! I'm a sapphic teen who isn't quite sure what her sexuality is. this is a blog for all your gaygirl needs, a safe space to talk about your feelings & living in a heteronormative society. if you're a trans/nb safe wlw blog, please signal boost this so I know you're safe to reblog from!

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[l0ser-l0ve-blog]

Trying to find somebody is hard But once I find the one ❤️ I won't let them go and I won't do stupid things like bringing shitty people or people who lie and don't take me seriously 😒 into her life because i know that what they do to me, these people are bound to do the same to her. And if that happened I'd be fucking mad 😡 I won't bring my friends into her life for that reason, because I don't know which one of my friends is going to do something to her. I won't go out and stay out till after dark, ignoring her texts till the point she's crying her eyes out because she's just worried and wants to know that I'm safe. People like that, I tend to push away, it's only because I've been pushed away by so many people in my past that, as a result, I'm beginning to do the same and it just gets worse year after year Because I find out year after year that i have almost nobody to be there for me, to make sure I'm safe, to make sure I'm happy. But I will try as hard as I can (and I have been) not to push people away. I'll start thanking everyone who is there for me and be there for them in return. I love you guys, I love all my followers too and hope you guys have a great week starting tomorrow. ☺️💕 #important #repost #doubletap #lesbian #polysexual #lgbt #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #ganjagirls #grunge #greeneyes #goodvibes #gaygirl #goalsreached #newedits #newapp #bfmvofficial #bfmv #bfmvfamily #bfmvshirt (at City of Vernon)