they should create a new word for yearning specifically about aros and/or aces yearning because there is nothing that exists that comes close to expressing what we feel.
telling a man that you're not interested in a situationship because its a waste of time and they say you're going a bit "too crazy." me "going crazy about it" was me calmly explaining that it wouldn't work and i wasn't interested. also starting the conversation with wanting to provide for me "as my husband" and how you're planning our honeymoon already before your brain is fully developed, and before you even truly know me, smells like divorce papers and resentment simmering on the back of the stove.. "im just asking because i'd clear my roster for you if you wanted to have a situationship again" you're joking..... you're joking.
It’s so funny when reading fics to see people use I Love Lucy as a typical 50s tv show (which is fair bc it was very popular) but then make some comment about it containing “husband hates his wife” jokes or some other gender role nonsense bc it immediately becomes very obvious that they haven’t watched the show. Ricky Ricardo is the original Wife Guy and I will not hear otherwise. neither male character has an actual job and the women are the ones doing outlandish schemes and the parenting duties are pretty evenly split between the couple, etc. theres several episodes dedicated to showing how gender stereotypes are ridiculous. Like yeah Fred and Ethel constantly bitch about each other but it’s mutual and lighthearted and it’s usually Ethel badmouthing Fred so if anything it’s the “secondary character hates her husband” show lol (but their on screen weirdness was probably a byproduct of Vivian Vance and William Frawley hating each other. Actually everyone hated that guy bc he’d show up drunk and was generally rude). But anyway. Enough unwarranted slander against my favorite old tv show please 🥺
"And Lundy, talk about all the different Finns on this team: one of them a good friend of yours, Eetu Luostarinen got married pretty quickly right after the Cup got done. How did that party compare to the Cup parties? You guys just kept the action going it feels like!"
"Yeah, I mean, it was awesome to see one of my best friends get married and be a part of it! But it got a little tight with the time since the season went so far—he actually missed his bachelor party but I think he's pretty happy with the parade and the parties we had in Florida so I don't think he minded that too much... but it was awesome to be a part of his wedding and see all his friends and family celebrating; that was a special moment as well."
feeling despair i don’t know how to put into words. im trying to figure out why im like this and how i got to be this way but i can’t even do it bc of the way i am and what im like. if that makes sense. like the problem prevents me from fixing the problem bc i can’t get to the root of it. despair despair despair
My husband and I had our marriage blessed yesterday, then we celebrated with afternoon tea with my family, and it was absolutely wonderful and perfect.
I spent the last month planning it all and it turned out even more lovely than I imagined. The service was beautiful and the food perfectly homemade, and the hotel we stayed in the night before was just incredible too. We even got to look at flowers in bloom and a model village right before the food too, which I didn't anticipate being there. I couldn't be happier. Even the cake I designed over two years ago turned out well too!
I'm glad we got to celebrate our love that way with everyone. A good way to begin our proper married life together 🥰