#i am smiling

[veryluckyclovers]

the finished guy! he is freed and ready for fall, seen here posin with some hot apple cider >:3

AHH I can finally see the images now and I'm screaming! this is so cute 😭💗💗💗 you're so talented. thank you for using my design, I am smiling so much. such a fall baby!!!!! <3333

[tinamybeloved]

Kissinger is dead 🍾🍾🦀🦀

[sassykinzonline]

no im not asleep but yes there is a mr roary blog

[debb987]

Okay so i have just finished reading TEB (i think in four days..?) and OH MY GOD ITS SO GOOD, like i was wanting to read a Raph fic for some time and I ADORE YOUR RAPH (both of them) and the writiring its really good like?? Like i was reading every day before sleep and i even got a dream (that i saddly forgot) yesterday with your Raph and the p12!Brothers because its make me so happy its not even a joke a this point, like the dynamics are wonderful, the angst is good and on point, its not there random, Pizza Puffs are MARAVILHOSO, i think its better i cut myself from here otherwise its gonna be more and more long, now that i have finished the chapters im gonna keep my comments there, thanks for this amazing fanfic its really good and it gives me genuine joy, and sorry if its was difficult to read cause my english its no the best, and sorry for the big comment i just got really excited

AKSJSHHAAA I squealed so much, I almost don't wanna let the ask go so I can keep it accessible instead of losing it to Tumblr ephemerality 🥹🥹 but I wanted to thank you for taking the time to write this to let me know, you're so kind!! If it's not too much a hassle, I'd love it if you could copy paste it to AO3 at some time, even as anon, it's ok, I just love to sit down and answer to the comments on the week right when I'll post a new chapter 🥰🥰🥰

Ch 21 is coming up this Friday! I hope TEB continues to be an entertaining story 🫶🫶🤗

[garnetea]

are you smiling yet?

i forgot you sent me this bitch

[yvehattan]

working on a digital self portrait and i never want to look in a mirror again.

[mozzaya]

Selfie

Denver, 2022

~Mozzaya

[maverickcalf]

I really like the dialouge i wrote in chapter 14 of htskies with charlie and like not a soul commented on it lol

[satoruzlove]

screaming crying dying rolling PLEASSEEWW

[noxtivagus]

IT'S YUNA

[tsotc]

fucking obsessed with the uni town i live in

[hantu-burung]

every image of a tawny frogmouth is perfection. i've never seen a single picture of a tawny that dissapoints.

[tadfools]

You guys are commenting on the fics you read right? You’re at least leaving kudos on the Astarion smut and the pairs that have less than 20 fics for them too? You’re bookmarking stories you really like that are still being updated and ones that haven’t been touched in over a year right?

You know that even the smallest interactions are like cocaine to fic writers right? You understand how important a string of emoji hearts left behind on chapter at three am is right?? Right????

You’re treating AO3 like a community and not a content factory….right?

[glitchyghostboy]

Autistic crimes:

Having arms folded when cold. (everyone knows the only reason you can cross your arms is because you're upset)

Answering honestly when someone asks your opinion. (you're supposed to know what the correct response is. It's always that you love it unless it's when you're supposed to hate it)

Not constantly smiling (how else will anyone know you're having a good time. The only possible way to communicate that is by having the corners of your mouth upward.)

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.