My statement is that you're a very good bean, and I enjoy seeing you on my dash ouob
That is so sweet of you to say Lynn!!!
You're such a peach!
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hi! ahh i love your fic and art!! citrus and lavender is one of my favourite fics and im loving bell the cat!!! and your art is so cute and all your au's are to die for 😌
Thank you so much, anon! ❤️ That's really sweet of you to say! I'm so glad you enjoy my writing and art 🥹💕
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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
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To every trans person realizing their gender makes them straight:
You are good. Not despite your sexuality but because of it. Please don’t let yourself be ashamed about it.
There are queer people who say male heterosexuality is disgusting. There are queer people who say female heterosexuality is stupidity. There are queer people who will laugh about how silly and nasty it would be to be straight only to halfheartedly say “oh I guess trans straight people are the exception!” There are transphobes who pretend they’d care more about you if you just admit to your internalized homophobia/lesbophobia and stop being trans.
They’re all so fucking wrong. You are good for who you love. You are not ‘one of the good ones’, you are just simply good. Anyone who says otherwise is a fucking idiot.
You have a place in the queer community. You belong there as much as anyone else
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Sending the love right back at you!
The way you write Alan and Sam is SOOOO wholesome! All your characters are very distinct from one another, and it never fails to amaze me. I love grumpy old man tron (even though I've never had a thread with him, and... wow, that needs to be remedied...), I love funky gremlin man Dyson, clueless, stressed Sam is precious (and such a mood, tbh), and Alan... Alan is wholesome beyond words and I want to wrap him in a large fuzzy blanket.... I could go on about all your other characters... Even the way you portrayed Sark was fantastic.
I love reading all your threads, I get excited every time I see them on my dash. You're so talented, man. I can't even be jealous, I'm just in awe.
Augh thank you so much you've no idea what this means to me. I don't know why but I am constantly afraid that my characters are muddied or ooc. I'm gonna screenshot this ask for a rainy day
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do you ever realize after masking intentionally and unintentionally so much in your life, you completely forget who you are.. and how it feels like every time you mimic someone you lose a part of yourself and personality. and fear you’ll never figure out who you are or who you were once.
yeah.
anyway pictures of moth !!!
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i kind of sort of really hate cringe culture.i hate this idea that you should feel ashamed that you should self flagellate the seconf you experience any sort of self indulgent joy about anything ever that is one of the worst feelings in the whole world. screw cringe culture do whatever yuou want forever i know its been said a dozen times but its true. write that fanfic draw that self insert x canon ship art make those amvs do what makes you happy if it brings you joy then its good and its worth being made and no onehas the right to take that away from you.
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It’s Teddy Thursday because I watched this episode last night and this poster and Teddy’s voice keeps playing on loop in my mind.
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