#im a bad gay actually

[somer-writes]

I was just thinking recently about how to be an ally to my queer friends on tumblr. Do you have any suggestions? What kinds of things would be supportive and gender affirming to you? How can mutuals support you?

oh man i am not the person to ask this XD

im queer but not really involved in the larger community/academia aspect of it

i would just say educating yourself is important. podcasts, articles, seminars, w/e floats your boat. pull from multiple places, be wary of echo chambers.

[inkskinned]

love when men cry about body hair bc "it's hygiene" and yet 15% of cis men leave the bathroom without washing their hands at all and an additional 35% only just wet their hands without using soap. that is nearly half of all men. that means statistically you have probably shaken hands with or been in direct contact with one of these people.

love when men say that women "only want money" when it turns out that even in equal-earning homes, women are actually adding caregiver burdens and housework from previous years, whereas men have been expanding leisure time and hobbies. in equal-earning households, men spend an average of 3.5 hours extra in leisure time per week, which is 182 hours per year - a little over a week of paid vacation time that the other partner does not receive. kinda sounds like he wants her money.

love that men have decided women are frail and weak and annoying when we scream in surprise but it turns out it's actually women who are more reliable in an emergency because men need to be convinced to actually take action and respond to the threat. like, actually, for-real: men experience such a strong sense of pride about their pre-supposed abilities that it gets them and their families killed. they are so used to dismissing women that it literally kills them.

love it. told my father this and he said there's lies, damned lies, and statistics. a year ago i tried to get him to evacuate the house during a flash flood. he ignored me and got injured. he has told me, laughing, that he never washes his hands. he has said in the last week that women are just happier when we're cooking or cleaning.

maybe i'm overly nostalgic. but it didn't used to feel so fucking bleak. it used to feel like at least a little shameful to consider women to be sheep. it just feels like the earth is round and we are still having conversations about it being flat - except these conversations are about the most obvious forms of patriarchy. like, we know about this stuff. we've known since well before the 50's.

recently andrew tate tried to justify cheating on his partner as being the "male prerogative." i don't know what the prerogative for the rest of us would be. just sitting at home, watching the slow erosion of our humanity.

[jade-len]

you know it's bad when i read svsss and tgcf, stories about just two guys falling in love and getting together, and think, "god i wish i were in between them."

gay little domestic cottage core life with binghe and qingqiu? please and thank you. being sandwiched by hua cheng and xie lian, two pretty men who are hundreds of years old? i am blushing, kicking my feet and giggling

and again, it's not even that i would want only one of them. like in both of the relationships, the two love each other too much to the point it'd feel wrong if they were separated! it wouldn't feel complete, so you gotta be with both of them!

but that's the thing; i just?? i feel so incredibly guilty whenever i think about being loved by these mxtx couples??? like it's so stupid but i feel like i'm intruding in on something and it's like, everyone else seems to just want them together only, not wanna be with them. like it's fuckin taboo or whatever

i feel like with any other character from any other media it'd be fine to simp for and write/read x readers of them, but when it comes to these books, it's off limits! no way, what are you, crazy? yes, yes i'm unhinged and desperately want their love and affection simultaneously. i want to be in a happy little poly relationship with these overpowered beautiful men with long hair.

i can't be the only guy or whoever to feel this way?? to wanna be kissed by these characters? sandwiched?? i have two hands for christ sake and they all look so happy together and im just like "lord i wanna be with them so much". someone tell me i'm not alone cmon <\3

[demonir]

does he know that i love him, does he fucking know that i love him so much

[linktothefags]

Fuckkkkk I need to kiss some gorgeous boy so bad right now

Someone come here and crash their lips against mine please

[yet-another-autism-blog]

It's a wild experience, having someone insult you to your face while expecting you to take it as a compliment.

I was a trans group meeting and made some comment off hand about having been a "weird autistic kid". And a guy interrupted that he was surprised I'm autistic because it's "so rare" for girls to have autism.

So I started to explain the whole 'its not really uncommon, girls are just as likely as boys to be autistic, just more likely to be misdiagnosed/ diagnosed late, etc. etc.'

And a woman who was there added on that actually the reason girls are diagnosed as much is because autism is only a "problem" for boys and for girls its a "superpower". And she knows because she's autistic and used to be an aba therapist, and she can transcribe music perfectly, even from a song she heard once, 30 years ago, she can transcribe the lyrics and every note for every instrument perfectly.

She went on to say that since I'm "like that" and don't have "anything special" about me it's prove that I'm "really trans" and was "meant to be a man".

Not even 5 minutes later she was saying that trans men aren't really men (but that's a compliment too, because trans men are actually good while "real men" are bad, and she's lucky she like women but it's "very unfortunate" that I like men and she feels bad for me)

[cowboy-robooty]

watched brokeback mountain yesterday.... mid as fuck. i think it wouldve played out a lot better if the main characters were yuri and jimmy from yarichin bitch club. do u see my vision?

[frankiebirds]

genuinely struggling to read emily's expression here as anything other than jealousy

[liquidstar]

honestly does anyone else think that the what:if routes are perhaps telling us that some sort of collision between subaru and reinhard is just inevitable in nearly every route

[napping-sapphic]

Let’s eat watermelon and then kiss until we can’t taste it on each other’s lips anymore

[starjunkyard]

"Im not even sure anymore if we get to choose who our friends are" There is a part of me that resents you for making me a worse person than i want to be but i am inexplicably uncontrollably drawn to you. You make me a worse person which is the last thing i want yet i want you in every way. If i could leave i would. Maybe i can but i dont want to. I have fun with you. You challenge me and you captivate me and you push me and pull and run circles around me and it makes me feel like a younger man. For the price of being a worse person i get to feel truly, wholly alive. You are the blood that runs through my veins; vital, inseparable. I was reborn when i met you and you are the womb that haunts me. You are the one person on planet earth who knows me. I wish i could leave, move on and be the man im supposed to be but my heart is tied to yours in a gordian knot. There is a part of my soul that rests in yours, magnetic. For as long as i love you i cannot be better than i am. But maybe thats something i can learn to live with. Gregory House-- I think you're worth it.

[concretesweetner]

bro found you

[honeylemony]

Heterosexual lesbian. Straight lesbian. Are you people fucking stupid.

[bicon-crange]

ppl on twitter are finally finding out that the creators of smiling friends are racist assholes who believe the great white replacement theory and were roommates and great friends with JONTRON

and im like yeah. he's a fucking newgrounds animator. are you all stupid and braindead?

but noooo keep drawing your fucking yaoi of those ugly fucking characters and keep making a literal fucking nazi a millionaire by getting his show renewed a million times i guess !!!

[vonlipvig]

happy pride month suzerain gang

[itsdefinitely]

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